There is the old saying that “age is just a number.” But when you find that you are into older men, how do you navigate the situation?
Are you an old soul? Do you sometimes feel like you are bored around your peers or that you do not have much in common with them?
You might be the type of person who is just drawn to an older man. Maybe it is that you find guys your age to be a little childish or inexperienced and you prefer an older guy who is more confident with himself and more mature than people your own age.
Older guys have a lot to offer. They can offer up a lot of life experience and wisdom that many younger men will not have. Because he has some more years under his belt, an older man might be less judgmental and he might be more patient than a guy who is younger.
Maybe you like older guys because they might have more stability in their lives whether that means having a decent career or they own their own home and do not live with their parents or in an apartment with a roommate.
Older men can also be known to be very patient. They are not young anymore and not always in a rush. That can be quite refreshing to others.
Another thing that older men are known for is being gentlemen. Whether he opens the door for you or pulls out a seat for you, he can be very chivalrous and old-fashioned in a good way.
After many years of practice, older men can also have a lot to offer, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Over time, they have collected a good amount of experience and wisdom that they might be able to share with you.
You might even like older men for their interests. Maybe you feel more drawn to men who are older and are more into staying home for the night instead of going out drinking and dancing all night long.
Or perhaps you are physically attracted to older men. Maybe you like silver foxes and find them to be a lot more appealing then the young men that you have dated in the past.
Whatever your reason is for wanting to find someone older, you might want to adjust your approach when it comes to seducing an older man, especially if you have not been having any luck in finding one to date.
In some ways, older men can be very different from men who are younger than them. You will not always find them in the same places that you can pick up a younger guy, and they are not always into the same things that younger guys are into.
You might also find that even though you are attracted to an older man, you might not have a lot of things in common. You might have different interests, but do not let that dissuade you from trying to pursue him.
Before you go and try to seduce an older man, you will have to go find one first. Unless you already have a specific man in mind, you might want to try to go to certain places where you are more likely to spot an older man.
Here are some places where you can potentially find an older man to connect with. There is also the option of looking online on dating websites.
If you want to go out and look for an older man, try a wine shop or a wine festival. If you spot an older man there and he is alone, you can ask him if he has been there before and what his favorite wine there is. It is not a bad way to get his attention and start a conversation.
You can also try to find older men in bars that are not too loud. Avoid the bars where all the young people go to. It is much easier to have a conversation in a bar that is not drowning in noise anyway and you will have more of a chance to try to talk to him.
When it comes to seducing an older guy, there are some things you will want to keep in mind. Try to use some of the tips below to help you land an older guy.
How to Seduce an Older Man
It might sound silly and a little simple, but men like it when a pretty woman smiles at them. An even older man will feel special than a younger woman is paying attention to him and flashing a smile his way.
A smile is warm and inviting and he will feel like you are approachable and that you are interested in talking to him.
2. Be confident
Guys find confidence in a woman to be attractive. This is especially true for men who are older. It is good to know your worth. You might have some insecurities here and there but you are still a strong, beautiful woman with a lot to offer.
When it comes to an older man, he has already been around the block for a while. He does not have time for you to figure out who you are. Ideally, you already know who you are and are confident in your own skin.
Do you sometimes worry about the way you look, especially when you are trying to be intimate? The more you love your body, the more he will appreciate you and your strong sense of confidence.
Do not be afraid to be comfortable in your own skin. Do not even worry about your wrinkles or the extra pounds that you might be carrying. Be proud of the body that you have. Embrace the unique beauty that you and you alone possess.
Identify your great qualities and do not be afraid to be proud of them. You rock and you deserve to be seen and heard.
If you want to exude confidence, then make sure that you have good posture. Stand and sit up straight and do not forget to make eye contact when you are interacting with him. Do not forget to smile as well.
Even though you should act confident, be careful to not be too boastful or full of yourself. If you become way too confident then he will think that you have a huge ego, which can be unattractive.
3. Be mature
This does not mean that you should hunch your back and act like an old lady. But it does mean that you should not act like a little girl or an immature teenager.
If you want an older man to like you, then act like a woman. While you should not act like a completely different person, you should try to act like a levelheaded adult.
If you are used to getting your way or are impulsive then try to rein it in. Do not be overly emotional or too demanding.
4. Find common interests
Even though a guy is older than you, it does not mean that you have nothing in common. Find out what he likes and see what you have in common with him. If you share your interests with him you might find that he likes some of the things that you are interested in as well.
That being said, there are some things that older men stereotypically are into.
5. Ask for his opinion
Guys like to help out, especially if it is an attractive woman. You can ask him for his help on something. If you are at the store you can ask him which color looks better between choices or if you are at the hardware store you can ask for his advice as well.
You might even be sitting at the bar and you can ask if he goes there often. Then you can ask him to recommend a drink or an appetizer to try. Older men love it when you value their opinion and seek out their guidance.
6. Make him feel young instead of old
An older man wants to feel young again and he might even be young at heart. Do not try to make him feel old by calling him dad or grandpa as a joke. And do not point out his gray hairs.
You can make him feel young by trying to dance with him or even just by flirting a little bit with him. Getting some romantic attention from you will make him feel a little bit younger.
7. Act like his equal
Women can often instinctively try to mother their partners because they tend to have the habit of trying to nurture and care for others. Sometimes this is done to the point of acting like a mother. At his age, he will not like being told what to do or how to do things, especially when he has not asked for your help or advice.
Avoid doing this with the guy that you like. If he is older then you might also risk acting a bit like the child in your relationship. You will want to avoid that as well. As an older man, he does not have time for any immaturity that you might have. If you can be independent and mature, then you will be more appealing to him.
Instead of acting like his mother or his child, act like his equal. He wants a lover, not a mother or a child. He has been around long enough to know how to take care of himself. And he is also old enough to not want to deal with any childish antics.
If you can act mature enough to be his equal, then he will be even more attracted to you.
8. Be able to take care of yourself
A lot of women might want an older man who has a stable career so that he can take care of them financially. While it can be nice for him to provide for you, he should not feel as if he has to give you everything.
There is something seductive and appealing about a woman who can take care of herself. It will be more attractive to an older man if you have your own place to live and you have a job.
On top of him not feeling pressured to provide for you, he will also be able to see that you are mature enough to live independently.
9. Be prepared for some baggage
Depending on how much older this guy is than you, he will probably have some baggage just because he has been around longer than you. The older you get, the more stories you have. Life happens and it can get complicated for better or for worse.
It could be that he is divorced, has kids, or a number of other things that you would not normally encounter if you were trying to date a younger guy.
Maybe he had a long-term marriage that ended in a messy divorce. Maybe his ex-wife got the house and custody of the kids and it really affected him. Try to be a good listener if he does open up about things like this.
He could have kids that are young, or they could be teenagers or even adults. Maybe he even has grandchildren. These are people that will sometimes need his attention.
It is not a bad thing if he has kids. They might be wonderful, but it will complicate things a little bit as far as things go with you. Even so, it does not make things impossible so do not be easily discouraged.
If the older man that you want to seduce does have some baggage, do not react negatively to it. Be mature and understanding about it.
Everyone has their own baggage, even you. Remember to keep an open mind and if you really are into him, think about how you can fit into his life.
Even though you should be very important in his life, you cannot expect him to give up everything for a life with you. Remember that he had a life before you and if kids are in the picture, then you are better off being friendly towards them.
Do not act jealous of his ex or his kids. It is not attractive to act possessive in this situation. If anything, you should be supportive and understanding of the situation. Act cool about everything and he will respect your maturity in the situation.
10. Get some alone time with him
Try to get to know him on a one on one level. Your friends might want to meet him right away, but if they are your age then they might just scare him off and they might act too immature for him.
Your family might want to meet this guy that you are interested in as well. Do not introduce him right away as that might turn him off as well.
Even though it makes sense that you want your loved ones to know him, you should give your relationship some privacy at first.
Give yourselves some room to breathe together before you start bringing in your friends and family into the equation. Otherwise, the pressure might be too much for both of you.
11. Have something to talk about
Older men can be known for their ability to have interesting conversations, whereas younger men are not always known to be great listeners. Whether it is what is going on in politics or things that are happening around the world, try to start a conversation with him and he will gladly pick up the conversation.
There are many things you can try to talk about. Ask him about work or how his family is doing. What tv show has he been watching lately? What is his favorite restaurant?
You can also ask him about his favorite movie, a book that he would recommend, or countless other topics. You can even ask him about his childhood or his first job.
12. Be a little bit old-fashioned
There is something nice about doing some things the old-fashioned way. Maybe it can be a little romantic to be old-fashioned from time to time.
While you do not need to be so focused on the way everything was done in the past, an older man might appreciate a younger woman who is can appreciate some old-fashioned ways of living.
These include things like allowing him to pay for dinner or letting him hold the door open for you. While you do not have to follow everything that people would have done ages ago, you should still allow him to be a gentleman.
13. Dress well
If you want to seduce your older man, then dress for the part. You should dress to impress him and if you make the effort, then you will really stand out to him.
This ties in a little bit to being old-fashioned in that people back in the old days used to dress up more than they do now. Men often wore suits and ties and women often wore dresses and had their hair done.
These days, many of us end up wearing jeans and t-shirts or even sweatpants if we are not at work or at a special event. While you do not need to pull out all the stops when it comes to dressing yourself, it can definitely help if you spend some time on dressing yourself well.
When you want to seduce an older man, then you should dress the part. That does not necessarily mean that you have to dress up in an over-the-top sexy outfit either. But you should dress in a way that makes you feel confident and attractive.
If you have a dress that you like or a new hairdo that you want to try out, just go for it. Having a new look or dressing up a little can help boost your confidence.
When you feel good about yourself and the way you look, then he will be even more attracted to you. Put on that lipstick if it makes you feel good or wear those cute earrings. He will be sure to notice you even more.
This does not mean that you have to wear things that you would not even want to wear. What you should do is wear what makes you feel attractive. Then he will be attracted to you.
14. Ask him how he is doing
We all like to talk about ourselves a little bit. Ask him questions about himself. Ask him how his day is going, how work is, if he has any plans for the weekend, and so on.
He will like having someone who wants to listen to him. Even if nothing special is going on in his life, he will really appreciate that you took the time to ask him about himself.
Your older man might even ask how you are doing. The more things that you tell him about yourself, the more likely he is to think about you on a regular basis. He will wonder what you are up to or he will see things that just remind him of you.
15. Familiarize yourself with his history
If this man is older, than this means that he grew up in a different time than you did. It could be useful to have even a basic knowledge of the things that were going on when he was younger.
Some examples include knowing who the president was when he was growing up, who the famous actors and actresses were, and what the popular TV shows and movies were. If you seem even a little bit knowledgeable about these things, he will be impressed.
At the same time, you do not have to be an expert on these things. Just know enough that you can show that you are a well-rounded individual who is always eager to learn and know more.
Knowing some of these things can give you a chance to talk to him more.