Every once in a while, it’s nice to shake things up and spice up your relationship — and a little harmless teasing never hurt! It’s tough to keep up the passion and excitement in a relationship, which means you have to get creative and clever to make sure your boyfriend has one thing on his mind, and that’s you.
When you playfully tease a man, he opens up. You’re showing him you care enough about him to pay attention to his character, wants, needs, and habits. By making him feel special in a loving and silly way, he will want to give you the attention you desire, and he will feel the need to work to connect with you on a deeper level.
Isn’t that the goal of any healthy and meaningful relationship?
By using these expert tips, tricks, pointers, and tactics, you will show your boyfriend that he’s the guy you don’t want to be without, which means you’re going to connect the dots and figure out how to make him crave you more.
How To Tease Your Boyfriend
1 – Try To Build The Tension
This one isn’t just for the guy to figure out. Learning how to build romantic tension between the two of you is immeasurably important when you are looking to make things more rewarding in your relationship. Even if you are very closely connected sexually, there are new secrets that will help you tap deeper into your romantic closeness.
When it comes to teasing him the right way, you’re going to need to look at these factors.
You’ve got to know what sexual tension is.
It’s that always present ingredient that leads to future satisfaction. When you learn how to stall some of this tension and tease him, you’re giving his imagination the chance to heighten everything he’s feeling. Talk about getting him super-excited.
Immediate gratification is okay too, but adding this slow-moving sexual tension will help him desire you even more. Make sure he’s watching you and let him create the pictures in his brain before he gets rewarded.
Make sure your timing is bang on.
If you are serious about creating more sexual tension between the two of you, it’s important that you don’t try to frame it chronologically. Try setting up a couple days or even a week with lots of anticipation when all is said and done.
A great tactic is to change the scenery and perhaps leave the city for a few days. This gives you the opportunity to be apart and text or call and talk sexy to him, while you are making certain you can’t touch one another and follow through just yet.
2 – Tap Into His Imagination
This is where you need to get into actress mode. Never show him too much but make sure he sees enough to get his motor running. If you can, make sure your strap ‘accidentally’ slips off your shoulder. Try eating a banana seductively, and when you are finished with your shower and toweling off, make sure the door is open just enough for him to catch a glimpse.
There are never-ending ways to tap into his imagination. Don’t be afraid to try something different, so you are always keeping him guessing.
3 – Let Him See Your Independence
This one can get a little tricky. Even if you’ve just had an amazing night together, try not to show him too much gratitude. Leave it alone and make him wonder how he can please you more. Better yet, act like nothing special happened, and you will draw him in to make it his mission to please you beyond your wildest imagination.
4 – Take A Stab A Cross-Dressing
Let’s rewind to the infamous 80s erotica Nine 1/2 Weeks, where we learned about the ultimate tease. You don’t have to get all crazy for this to be effective. All you’ve got to do is slip on his work shirt with no bra underneath; that’s taking the teasing to a whole new level.
5- Sexy Lingerie
This one is most certainly a no-brainer. You know what he likes, and you know what you feel sexy in. All you’ve got to do is slip into your sexy lingerie, and that will send his imagination into a whole new world.
If you want to take it up a notch, go out and buy some new sassy stuff. Maybe he’d like to see you in a nice, tight bustier and some sexy fishnet stockings? Give it a try because, when it comes to the sexy stuff, you can’t go wrong.
6 – Put Your Scent On Slowly, While He’s Watching Of Course
When you are touching yourself gently, that’s bound to heat up your boyfriend. Spray the perfume on your hand and gently touch your neck and then your cleavage. I can pretty much guarantee he will be mesmerized.
7 – Shoot Him A Naughty Text When He’s Not Expecting It
Perhaps you need to get a little cheeky and send him a naughty text at work when you know he’s in a meeting. Be straight to the point and make sure he knows exactly where your mind is, in the gutter, of course!
Instantly, he’s going to want to release his tension, and by doing this, you are guaranteed to take his mind off whatever it was on and shift it 100 percent to you.
8 – Step Out Of The Darkness And Into The Light In Public
This is a really effective route to let him know, along with the whole world, that you really don’t care what other people think when it comes to wanting your man.
The good news here, the buffer is that you are in public, so he really can’t go too far. Talk about creating the ultimate tease!
He’s going to have to wait and see, and that’s what it’s all about.
9 – Don’t Be Afraid To Mention Your Exes
This can get a little dangerous; however, talking about your ex-lovers might spark a little jealousy — which is excellent for firing him up! Guys always want to prove they are the best. Let him go for it!
10 – Make Sure You Send Him Pics
Be careful here, but the naughty picture is as effective as always. Give him a few playful images that aren’t too over the top. He will be happy to see you trust him and even more happy to see that you don’t mind getting him all wound up!
11 – Give Him The Long Glances
No matter what, you’ve got to learn the art of provocative glances. Often, actions speak louder than words. Be confident and strong and make sure you lock eyes. Talk about a total tease to the max.
12 – How About A Dance?
This might seem a little childish to you, but it definitely works! Turn up the radio to your favorite tune and let it loose. Show him how your hips and body move to the music, and he’s never going to want you to stop. If you are okay with stripping, you’re taking teasing to a whole new level!
13 – Give Him A Passionate Kiss And Then Stop
You can definitely seal all your teasing efforts with a super-hot passionate kiss. Stop it short to keep him wondering more. This will have a short-term effect on him, so beware. This move is going to tease him and make him want to move things forward quickly. The ball is in your court at this point.
14 – Try Working On His Ego
One of the first steps you should take to tease your boyfriend successfully is to work on his ego. Make sure he is interested in you on all levels, not just the way you look, but also the way you make him feel. Make sure you are really listening to what he has to say. Master his character and start working on strategies to lift him up. When you can do this, know him on a deeper level, the teasing tactics become second nature.
15 – Pump Him Up With Manly Compliments
Women who have mastered the fine art of making men feel macho have an easier time teasing their man. Every guy likes a girl to make him feel manly. When you do this, you are drawing his attention to you, and he’s going to want to hear more. Telling him things, like he’s so strong and sexy, goes a heck of a long way in teasing your boyfriend.
Let him know how safe and protected you feel around him. Afterward, make certain he can see that you really don’t need him to protect you at all. A brilliant tease technique.
16 – Admit Something To Him About You
It’s super easy to tease your boyfriend by telling him something you are embarrassed about. Tell him something personal that happened to you or open yourself up and let your imagination get a little crazy.
Tell him you drank too much wine and went skinny dipping in the neighbor’s pool or you went on a boat cruise and wound up in a pole dancing contest.
That’s going to rev up his engines fast.
17 – Show Him Something Visual
This doesn’t have to anything super dirty. Try crossing and uncrossing your legs a few times or wearing a top with a neckline that’s inches lower than what you normally put on. The key here is that you act like you don’t have any clue that you are teasing him. Keeping it innocent makes it really, really sexy.
18 – Reach Out And Touch Him Above Board
If you really want to tease your boyfriend, you have to use a little physical touch. This is the playful type, not the take action kind. Touch his leg or put your hand gently on his chest when he least expects it.
Electrify him with your touch, and the teasing will heat up very quickly.
19 – Reach Out And Play With Anything You Can
This is another innocent and highly effective teasing trick. Use your hands to let him know what’s on your mind by running your fingers seductively around your glass, twirl your hair obliviously around your finger, or smooth your top down nice and slowly.
The result is you will get his mind racing, and that’s the ultimate tease.
20 – Innocently Encourage Him To Touch You
When you want to tease your boyfriend under the radar, give him a reason to touch you. Ask him to rub your shoulders because they are tense or ask him to scratch your back.
Figure out a reason to ask him to put his hands on you. Talk about a smart move for the tease.
21 – Drop Something On Purpose
This is another flirty way to tease your boyfriend. Drop something on purpose and make sure you position yourself, so you can bend down right in front of him, so he gets a good long look at your butt.
It can be a pencil, brush, your lipstick, whatever; just make sure all eyes are on you.
22 – Snap A Sexy Selfie
You can send this one via social media or directly to his cell. When he sees you looking super-hot in the sexy black dress, he’s going to have you on his mind instantly. The fantasies will start, and he won’t be able to wait much longer to get his hands on you.
23 – Take A Shower In Front Of Him
With this one, you can either nonchalantly tell him you are heading upstairs to take a shower, or you can just hop in when he’s getting dressed for work. Make eye contact with him while you wash yourself, and he will get weak in the knees.
Just be sure that next time, you invite him to join you.
24 – Strip Down For Him
Newsflash! There isn’t a man on the planet that doesn’t like a good striptease. Keep in mind, it’s even better when he doesn’t have to ask for it. When you take your clothes off for him, you are showing him that you’re confident in yourself, and you’re making him feel desired.
25 – Don’t Be Afraid To Do A Little Dirty Dancing
Turn on your sexy songs, get dressed up all sexy, and let your body move to the rhythm seductively. Rub yourself up and down on him and make sure he can’t take his eyes off you. Talk about heating things up quickly.
26 – Flip Your Hair
Studies show guys think it’s seductive when a woman flips her hair. Just make sure it looks natural, not like you are purposely doing it. This is one time during the tease where you don’t make eye contact with him. That just makes it super sexy.
27 – Wear That Sexy Perfume
Most men like a woman that smells good. Choose a sexy perfume that will draw him to you. Stay clear of the flowery ones that older ladies seem to wear in the elevator; that’s just a little too much.
Stick with the musky perfumes, vanilla, or red velvet, and you’ll have him under your spell.
28 – Body Lace Works
When you wear lace, you show just enough to leave lots to his imagination. Keep it classy and don’t be afraid to layer. A little see-through and a little coverage is the ultimate tease.
29 – Send Him A Direct Text
Make sure you flag him a note beforehand that the next text is only for his eyes. If he’s at work and your message pops up, that might not be the smartest move. Send him a sinful text that explains exactly what you want to do to him. The more details the better. It can even be a voice note if that works better.
The idea is to set his imagination on fire with you as the main event.
30 – Nail Him With The Kiss
This is a great tease but only when he least expects it. Lock lips with him suddenly when you’re walking down the street. In the middle of dinner, lean over and give him a nice seductive kiss, then turn back to eating.
This is going to put the focus on you instantly, even if his brain was in full force work mode.
Do’s And Don’ts Of Teasing Your Boyfriend
#1 – Do use inside jokes
#2 – Do keep it playful and light
#3 – Do make sure it works both ways
#4 – Do tease but make sure you’ve got a solution
You can playful tease him that you’ve found the keys he’s always losing; just make sure you give him a place to put them to help form a good habit. Teasing on any level is good to a point, then it gets old fast.
#5 – Don’t make fun of any flaws in his character or hit the soft spots
Nobody likes to be teased about things they are really sensitive about. Even if you are trying to be light with the tease, make sure you steer clear of the stuff that can really hurt your boyfriend.
#6 – Don’t go overboard
This is a lot easier said than done. Always remember that teasing is playful and fun to a point. Make sure you know when to let it go and move on. If you don’t, you will turn what might have been a magical time into another fight.
#7 – Don’t hit repeat
Teasing is an excellent way to get the undivided attention of your boyfriend, but you don’t want to do it all the time. Too much teasing will take away the magic, and with that, your relationship spark will die.
Pace yourself with the teasing, and it will keep working to your advantage.
#8 – Try not to take it too seriously…that goes for both of you
When you tease your boyfriend, you are showing him you know him inside out and backwards. Teasing is how you can show him how much you love his special qualities and what you admire about him. Just make sure you don’t take it too seriously because, sometimes, it just hurts.
Learning how to tease your boyfriend is a trial and error process. You need to remind yourself that you’re not always going to hit the nail on the head for various reasons.
Teasing is an innocent and fun way to let your boyfriend know you appreciate and love him and have the confidence to dig a little deeper with the connection. There’s nothing sexier than a confident woman.
Use these tips and pointers to make the most of your teasing skills. Follow your boyfriend’s cues and make sure he’s into this just as much as you are.
Practice doesn’t make perfect, but it will make it better. Have fun and don’t be afraid to test the waters with new teasing techniques you come across.