No relationship in this world is perfect, no matter how compatible you are or how much you love each other. You can love each other to the end of the world and back and still have times where one person is upset at the other one.
There is not a single relationship in the world that is immune to fighting. With any relationship, it is bound to happen whether you want it to or not.
So no matter how great you and your boyfriend are together, there will come a time when you will find that you need to apologize to him over something that he feels hurt about.
After all, you are only human. From losing your temper and being selfish to lying or cheating, there will be some instances when your boyfriend will be on the receiving end of your mistakes.
Below are some examples of apology letters for your boyfriend, as well as tips on how to write a sincere, personal letter to him. These apology letters cover a wide range of scenarios in which you might find yourself needing to apologize for something that has happened in your relationship.
Even though you can use these apology letters for your boyfriend, you should also include some details that are specific to your relationship. Examples of this include his name and what exactly you are apologizing for.
How to Write an Apology Letter to Boyfriend
Validate his feelings
Even if you did not mean to hurt or upset him, your boyfriend has his own feelings that are completely valid and these feelings should be acknowledged by you. Just because you do not see it from his perspective, it does not mean that his feelings are not real.
If you always tell your boyfriend that he has no right to be upset or that it is his fault that he is so sensitive, then that will have a negative impact on your relationship.
Your boyfriend should be able to feel like he can trust you and he should also feel safe with you. But how can he feel that way if you do not acknowledge how he feels?
You do not have to completely understand where he is coming from, but if you want to improve your relationship with him, then you should at least try to be understanding.
Tell him how you will make things right
An apology can be empty and useless if you do not show that you plan on changing things for the better. You can say “I’m sorry,” but if you do not have any intentions of avoiding this type of situation again, then your apology is useless.
In your apology letter, tell your boyfriend how you will make things better. What kinds of things caused him to feel hurt, angry, or upset? Identify those things and tell him that you will work on them.
For example, if he is upset because you do not communicate with him well, then tell him that you will work on your communication. Come up with some sort of plan so he feels like you are taking this seriously.
If you lost your temper with him, then you can say that you will try to calm down before you talk to him about things, that way he does not feel attacked by you.
These are examples of how you can express to him that you are trying to improve your relationship. On top of an apology, you are also trying to find solutions to avoid running into these problems again.
Remind him that you care
In times like these, a person can sometimes doubt their relationship. If you want to stay together, then you need to remind him that you are committed to working things out.
Remind him that you love him and that you want to make him happy. This is important as he might be feeling lost and insecure right now.
What do you love about him? What do you love about their relationship? How does he make you feel? These are some details that you might want to include in your apology letter, as they can also remind your boyfriend about the great things that exist in the relationship that you have together.
Be sincere
Avoid peppering your letter with unrealistic promises that will not be met. You do not want to be deceitful in your apology letter to your boyfriend.
Do not fill up your apology letter with things that you do not mean. There is nothing worse than offering up empty promises that you have no intention of keeping.
You have to really want to resolve this issue between you and your boyfriend. And in order to do that, you have to be honest with him. Be sincere in your letter.
Part of being sincere includes you telling the truth, not just what you think he wants to hear so he will forgive you right away and move on. When you say that you are sorry, you should really mean it.
Ask him what will help
When it comes to mending things with your boyfriend, apologizing is only a part of the solution. You will also want to demonstrate that you intend to make things better. Otherwise, what is to stop him from thinking that you will do the same things to hurt him again?
This can sometimes include asking your boyfriend how you can be better in the relationship or you can ask what would make him feel better. This will make him heard and he will feel like his feelings matter.
It can also make him feel better about your future together if you both work on how to improve the relationship. Remember that you are a team and that working together and listening to each other is important.
Examples of Apology Letters for Your Boyfriend
Apology letter #1:
Dear __________,
Together as a couple, we have made some truly special memories. We have an amazing connection that I have never had with anyone else and I cherish how special you make me feel.
I wish that every day with us could be happy, but as you know, no relationship is always perfect. Sometimes, mistakes are made and this time I have made a mistake by hurting you.
I am so sorry for the hurtful things that I said to you. I wish that I could take back every hurtful thing that I said. You of all people do not deserve this kind of treatment.
As my boyfriend, you deserve to feel loved and I hate that my words hurt you. It kills me that I was so thoughtless when I said those things.
Losing control over my temper was unacceptable. I wish that it had not happened, especially to you. I do not want our relationship to be like this and I know that it is up to me to take responsibility for what happened.
I know that just saying that I am sorry is not enough to change things. I need to think about what I say and how it affects other people, especially you of all people.
You are the most important person in the world to me, and there are not enough words to express that. I regret that I used some of my words to hurt you and I hope that you can forgive me. Just know that I am sorry that I hurt you.
Apology letter #2:
Dear _________,
We have something so good together and I am afraid that I might have ruined that forever. I hope that this is not the case, even though I know that I am the person who is at fault here.
I am eternally sorry that I completely betrayed your trust. A good, healthy relationship should be built on honesty and I was not completely honest with you about what has been going on lately. You cannot imagine how remorseful I feel over this.
You deserve to have a girlfriend who is honest with you and I have fallen short of that standard. I promise to do better from now on. No more secrets and no more lies. I do not want to risk losing you.
I need to learn to be comfortable in my own skin and to share everything about myself with you. Please give me a chance to gain your trust back. How can I make things better with us? I love you.
Apology letter #3:
Dear __________,
Because you are my boyfriend, I know that I should share all of my thoughts with you, but instead, I kept it all to myself.
I am sorry for keeping you in the dark like this. We should be partners, not strangers, and it is my fault that I feel like a stranger to you right now.
You do not deserve to have secrets kept from you and I will communicate my feelings to you better from now on. You deserve a woman who will share her whole life with you and that is exactly what I want to do.
Can you please forgive me for not being open with you? I am sorry for not expressing myself but I will work on it. I promise to let you in more. This is a relationship that I am fully committed to and I want to prove that to you.
Apology letter #4:
Dear _________,
I know that you have been feeling like you are not a priority in my life at all and I am very sorry that my thoughtless actions have caused you to feel this way.
The very last thing that I ever wanted to do was hurt you and make you feel like you were not an important part of my life. You mean so much to me, even if I have not been showing it lately.
Even though I have not been showing it enough, you are the most important thing to me. You matter the most and I regret that I did not show this to you through my actions.
Making you feel like you were being ignored was ignorant on my part. The last thing I wanted to do was make you feel like you were invisible.
I deeply regret taking you for granted. Do you know how much I appreciate having you in my life? If not, then I promise to show it a lot more.
You mean the world to me and I am so sorry if my insensitive and neglectful actions and words have caused you to doubt how much I love you. My love for you is still as strong as it ever was and I am sorry for putting you second when you should be first.
It was selfish of me to not consider your feelings and I promise to be more in tune to them. Your feelings deserve to be acknowledged and you deserve to be heard. I want to be a better girlfriend to you.
I hope you know that I love you and that you mean the world to me. I am sorry for the times that I did not put you first. Your feeling and opinions matter to me and I have been insensitive to them.
You deserve to feel appreciated and special and I want to give that to you. I am sorry that I have made you question if I love you. My love for you is still strong.
I want to do my part to help make our relationship flourish and grow stronger. I know that I can do this and I know that you are the only guy for me.
What do I need to do to make you feel more secure about us? I want to do everything I can to make our relationship a strong one.
Please forgive me for everything and I will do my best to make it all up to you. I realize that I have a lot to prove to you and I hope that you will give me the chance to do it.
Apology letter #5:
Dear ________,
You are such an amazing boyfriend, a better than I could have ever asked or hoped for. You are incredibly thoughtful, sweet, considerate, and so much more. But in spite of this, I let myself doubt your intentions.
Instead of trusting you and appreciating our relationship, I became jealous and paranoid of you even though deep down, I know that you committed you are to our relationship.
I am sorry that I let my insecurities get the best of me. Of course, I trust you and you deserve to have friends. You do not need to be asked a million questions and you deserve to have your own space when you need it.
Unfortunately, I got a little too jealous but I know that you have other people in your life and I know that you have always put me first. I have to give you credit for that.
You are the most important person to me and you should feel like you can talk to your friends and hang out with them even when I am not around. I did not mean to act so paranoidly. I am just so in love with you and was blinded by that.
I can promise you that I will work hard to trust you a lot more and I hope this is an issue that we can both move on from together. Can you please find it in your heart to forgive me?
Apology letter #6:
Dear __________,
You are a truly amazing guy who deserves to be with a woman who is just as patient and selfless as you are. Unfortunately, I did not meet all of these standards and did not give you what you deserve in a relationship. This is something that I am determined to change.
I know that it is time for me to swallow my pride and I will admit that I have messed up a few things in our relationship. I completely accept the blame for the things that I did to hurt our relationship, even if it was not on purpose.
For some reason, it is so hard for me to say that I am sorry even when I know that I am the one who is in the wrong. But I love you enough to say that I am sorry. I do not want to risk losing you.
I now realize that my stupid, selfish pride is worth nothing compared to the special bond that you and I have. What we have is something that is truly special and to me, it is something that cannot be replaced.
I am so sorry that it took this long for me to finally realize my role in the issues that are going on between us right now. You mean so much to me and I would do anything to make you happy.
Our relationship really is the very best thing that I have in my life and I want to work on making it better. Please forgive me for being so stubborn and unwilling to change things. I want to work things out between us and I hope you do too.
Apology letter #7:
Dear __________,
While I know that just saying sorry is not enough, I know that I need to say it to you anyway. I am so sorry for hurting you. I know that saying the words to you is not enough to make things better.
I want to be a better girlfriend for you. And I am determined to change so I can be a better girlfriend. I promise I will make things better for us.
You are the guy that I want to be with and I am going to prove it to you. I hope you can forgive me for messing things up so badly. Again, I am really sorry for what happened.
Apology letter #8:
Dear __________,
There is a saying that love means having to say that you are sorry. I love you so much, more than I ever thought I could love anyone.
It is an amazing feeling being able to love you. And that is why I need to try to fix this.
So here I am, telling you how very sorry I am for hurting you. You deserve an apology from me even if you did not ask me for one.
You are the sweetest guy I know and I am truly, incredibly lucky to have you in my life. Sometimes I still cannot believe that this is real, that we were able to find each other and that you love me as much as you do.
I know that when I do or say something hurtful towards you, you have a tendency to just brush it off and act like it is nothing.
When you are hurting, you do not like to talk about it or admit that you are feeling hurt. This is something that I have observed in our relationship.
But this is something I feel really badly about. I should not have done what I did and said what I said. I feel terrible for hurting you.
I promise to consider your feelings more in the future. I love you and do not want you to feel put down, disrespected, or unappreciated.
Conclusion
These are just a few ways in which you can apologize to your boyfriend through a letter. Whether you decide to apologize through a letter or in person, some of the words from these letters can help you make the perfect apology for him.
Just remember to be honest and to swallow your pride in your apology to your boyfriend. And if he does not accept your apology, wait patiently to see if he can forgive you. If he does not, then you know that you apologized and that you tried your best to attempt to mend the relationship.
If your boyfriend does accept your apology, then remember what caused him to feel hurt so you can avoid repeating history again. You want to improve your relationship and not make the same mistakes again.
