Often, we find ourselves doggedly pursuing a personal goal like career advancement or a fitness goal. Could these single-minded pursuits make us less interested in working to improve and maintain our relationships? Normally when we are deciding if we should pursue a goal, … [Read more...] about When What’s Good for Me, Isn’t Good for Us
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So let’s talk about the elephant in the room. You probably have noticed some widespread media coverage about OKCupid’s “experiment” wherein, to look for patterns in dating behavior, they manipulated aspects of the site without informing users (see … [Read more...] about The Ethics of OKCupid’s Dating Experiment
If I say that this post is about “unconscious feelings toward romantic partners,” you’d probably think that I’m about to serve up a big plate of Freud with a side of some repressed memories. Rest assured, I’m not going to get all “dreams and … [Read more...] about Knowing the Fate of Your Marriage: It’s Automatic
It seems intuitive, right? Getting a rejection letter from a top college, dumped by the love of our life, or excluded from lunch with friends can make us feel pretty crummy. Rejection can cause us to re-evaluate ourselves and make us think, "Why wasn’t I good enough? What … [Read more...] about Does Rejection Lower Self-Esteem?
You: “I’m sorry I was late picking you up today…” Your partner responds: “That’s okay; it happens...” Your partner thinks: “But it always seems to happen to YOU!” Wouldn’t it be great to know what your partner … [Read more...] about I Think, Therefore You’re Satisfied