Think about a time when you engaged in sex with your partner in an effort to promote a positive outcome in your relationship, such as to feel closer to your partner or enhance intimacy in your relationship. Now think about a time when you had sex to avoid a negative outcome, such … [Read more...] about Why You Have Sex Matters for Your Desire and Satisfaction
If you’re in a long-term relationship, you probably remember the early “honeymoon period”—those first few months when you couldn’t get enough of each other (and maybe couldn’t keep your hands off each other). But, if you’re like most couples, your sex life has changed between … [Read more...] about What Happens When Your Partner Wants To Do It and You’re Not in the Mood?
What do you do after sex? If you don’t already, our new research suggests that you may want to spend a little extra time cuddling up with your partner. Across two studies, spending more time being affectionate with your partner after sex -- above and beyond the time spent … [Read more...] about To Spoon or Not to Spoon? After-Sex Affection Boosts Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction
In a recent article, I discussed my research using fictional scenarios to show that perceptions of why someone is having sex with their partner influences how people rate that person’s sexual desire and satisfaction. In that study, people who were perceived as having sex for … [Read more...] about Getting It On vs. Getting It Over With: How Reasons for Having Sex Impact Relationships (Part 2)
Sex plays an important role in overall relationship happiness.1 But, is simply having sex enough to maintain a happy relationship? In a recent study, my colleagues and I looked at the reasons people say they have sex with their partners and how these reasons affect their feelings … [Read more...] about Getting It On vs. Getting It Over With: How Reasons for Having Sex Impact Relationships (Part 1)