If you want to attract women, they have to know how great you are, right? But so many guys are scared to tell and show women that they are a great catch for fear of being judged as a jerk. If you are one of them, you need to stop that. You have to show a woman how great you are, and self-promotion will help you do that.
Bragging Will Ruin Your Image With Women
Brag: Say in a boastful manner. Being excessively egotistic about yourself.
Technically it is not the self-promotion that you should be scared of – it is bragging. When you brag about yourself to women, you say things like:
- I’m so sexy
- I come from a long line of hot and healthy men
- I make x-amount of money
- My exes have all told me how great I am in bed
- There is no one who knows how to please a woman like I do
The problem is that these statements (even if they are true) sound obnoxious and snobbish. They make you look egotistic, and women don’t want a man who is egotistic and vain.
Worse, if you brag enough, you start to believe that you are better than other people; in other words, you start to act the part and you start to look down on others. That affects your social skills with everyone around you.
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I knew a guy who thought he was god’s gift to women. In fact, I think he thought he was god’s gift to the world. He would constantly stroke his ego by talking about how great he was. It turned his friends off, but more importantly it turned women off. The only women he could get were women with very low self-esteem – which is not the type of woman you want! He is still single to this day (he’s pushing forty-something now).
Strong and awesome women don’t like obnoxious men.
Women also don’t like men who obviously put themselves on a pedestal above other people. It is an unattractive quality to have. When you tell a woman that you are ‘the best at’ something, then you are automatically saying, “I’m better than that guy and that guy and probably even you.”
Plus, many people brag because they are insecure, and whether you are insecure or not, some women will see you that way. For instance, bragging about how great you are in bed can be viewed as a cover up for how bad you are. After all, a man with a huge penis doesn’t need to brag about it as it will be very apparent somewhere along the way.
My point is that instead of bragging, you should show women how great you are. Believe me, if you are a great guy who is a great catch and has a lot of great qualities about you, women will intuitively be able to see that in your actions. And, the more you interact with them, the more they will be amazed at the amazing guy you are.
Self-Promotion Will Work Wonders To Attract Women
Self-promotion: The action of promoting or publicizing oneself. In other words, showing other’s that you are a great guy.
Sounds like the same thing as bragging, right? But there is one difference.
Self-promotion should showcase what you can (or could) do for others – or women in this case.
For instance, instead of saying, “I have pleased every woman I have met!” show a woman how understanding and compassionate you are. She will instantly know that you are a guy who understands how to please women.
Sometimes self-promotion can be done without words; however, sometimes you need to talk about your strengths and endearing qualities in order to showcase them. In this case, talk about yourself in a way that shows a woman you have great qualities, but are realistic about them.
For instance, instead of saying, “I make ten thousand dollars a month,” say “I have worked really hard on my business and now enjoy a ten thousand dollar a month paycheck.” This shows that you are aware that the prize came from the effort. And, while it shows a woman you have money and are happy about it, bragging is not part of the equation.
Stop Bragging And Start Attracting Women
Not sure if you are bragging? If you feel like you should start a sentence with, “I don’t mean to brag, but…” then you are bragging. It is unbecoming and will turn off most women who are worthy of your time.
Really, self promotion is simply wording things differently.
It is about painting yourself in an attractive light without making it sound like you think you are god’s gift to her.
It’s about highlighting your strengths that got you to where you are today, and showcasing those strengths when you can.
It is one of those things that will help a woman know exactly what type of guy and what you have to offer her.
