What do I mean by awkward date? I mean making a woman feel embarrassed or uncomfortable, where she can’t relax and just get to know you because she is so busy feeling weird around you. In short, don’t make things weird!
Avoiding The Awkward Date
I was watching The Singles Project the other day, which is a show where singles go on dates and then get critique from viewers on Twitter, I believe. and that is what inspired this post. There was a lot of awkward first dates on there.
So without further ado…
Don’t talk about the romantic gesture you are making
Romance is in the air, and you are letting her know. For instance, you tell her that you are going to pull out her chair, or that you are going to be right back because you want to buy her a flower.
Stop!
Don’t talk about what you are going to do to be charming and romantic, just do it!
When you tell a woman what you are doing, it makes you look like a guy with very little confidence doing what the thinks he should to be romantic, and that can be awkward for a woman.
Leave the phone at home or in your car
Are you checking your texts while you are on a date? Do you ‘secretly’ take a peek at what alerts you are getting? If you do, then you run the risk of making your date uncomfortable.
She may feel as though you are bored and would rather focus on your phone alerts and messages rather than her.
She may feel as though you are uninterested, which will cause her to feel uncomfortable with you throughout the date.
She may feel as though you are waiting for someone to call you, which you shouldn’t be doing on a date.
She will NOT feel as though your date is going great if your attention continuously leaves it and focuses on your phone.
When She Asks You About Yourself, Stay Confident
She’s trying to get to know you, so she may ask you about yourself, your dress, your hair, or something else. She is making conversation at this point and not trying to point out any faults, so don’t make her feel as though as you questions is a bad thing.
In other words, don’t get defensive, and don’t start to act unsure about yourself.
For instance, if she asks you if your hair is always styled so perfectly, don’t start obsessing about what your hair looks like and tell her that now you are worried about your hair. Instead, tell her yes, you think your hair adds a lot of character to your overall appearance, and it’s quick and easy to do anywase.
Don’t Order For Her Unless You Are Sure
If you are going to order something from the menu for her, you better know exactly what she likes. If you order something that she is allergic to or really doesn’t like, you run the risk of pissing her off and making the date awkward. I know that you may be trying to make a sweet gesture, but unless you are sure she likes something, avoid surprises.
Don’t Make Fun Of Her For Anything!
The last thing you want to do is make fun of your date, because she will feel very uncomfortable with you and the way you view her.
If you and her don’t share the same beliefs or views, don’t laugh at her. Let her know you respect the way she feels and avoid belittling her in any way.
In the end, it’s important to not make your date feel awkward if you want another. If you make her feel awkward, your chances of success with her are very small, so make sure to watch how you act and what you say.
