Confidence will help you attract women – bottom line. Confidence will also help you be a better boyfriend, lover, or husband to a woman.
When you know how great you are, dating and interacting with women becomes much easier.
The good news is that every man has the ability to be more confident in himself and around women.
The bad news is that it takes some effort to change certain habits and attitudes, and become more confident.
Following are 8 things you can do, starting today, to really gain more confidence in yourself and, in turn, your ability with women.
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8 Ways To Be More Confident Starting Right Now
1. Fake It Till You Make It
This is something you have probably heard over and over again. I know I’ve talked about it before. But, many of you are probably wondering whether or not it really works. Listen to the following video about why faking it until you make it works when it comes to confidence.
Your mind changes simply because of your body. When you fake it with your body, your mind follows along, and soon your mind and body will be in tune.
2. Don’t Worry About What Others Think
On some level, you will always worry a little what others think. It is human nature.
But if you let other people’s opinion about you dictate how you feel, what you do, and where your life goes, that’s when it becomes a problem to your confidence.
No confident person in life let’s what other people think influence their decisions. I’m not just talking about actors, business people, or other big names out there.
For example, I had a cousin in high school who was a total nerd according to standard high school laws, but he had more confidence in himself than anyone I knew. He easily made friends, found dates, and even married a beautiful woman that makes him really happy. He never let other people’s opinion of what he did, how he dressed, or how he acted influence what he thought of himself.
When you stop worrying about what others think, you stop letting their opinion dictate how confident you are about yourself.
3. Use Power Poses
To embellish on the ‘fake it till you make it point’, power poses can really make you feel good.
In addition to causing the desired hormonal shift, the power poses led to increased feelings of power and a greater tolerance for risk. – Harvard Business School
Not sure what a power pose is? Social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains it in the following video.
4. Be More Grateful
Is there anything that gratitude can’t do? I don’t think so. If you are going to do one thing in your life to be more confident, then start being grateful.
How can gratitude boost confidence? When you are focused on being grateful for things in life, you stop being so negative in life. You start seeing the good things that you are doing, getting, and becoming, and you start to be more confident not only in yourself – but in life as well.
One of the most successful people in the world recommends gratitude. It’s hard to ignore her message.
5. Have More Self-Compassion
Think your mom or dad has the most potential to make you feel like a loser in life? Wrong! You do.
You have total power to affect your confidence in a huge way – good or bad.
Self–compassion is extending compassion to one’s self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering.
Someone who can really help you with self compassion is Dr. Kristin Neff
6. Make Great Friends
There is nothing like the power of a good friend to boost your confidence levels. You don’t need a ton of friends in your life to be more confident, you just need one really good, honest, and real friend.
What does this kind of friend look like?
Don’t have a friend like this? Get out there and get involved in activities that connect you to like-minded people. You will make a friend like this along the way.
7. Get Rid Of Shitty Friends
One of the biggest blows to my confidence in life was my shitty best friend. She didn’t lift me up. In fact, she did the exact opposite. She made me feel bad about myself, scared of going after what I wanted, and not deserving of men.
Interestingly, she tried to make me feel not worthy of a guy who is now my husband. Thank god I didn’t listen to her!
Once I got her out of my life, my confidence increased by at least 4 times. It was amazing the power she had over me.
If you have a friend in life who makes you feel bad, break up with that friend! Not every friendship is healthy and meant to last a lifetime. Don’t waste any more time in an unhealthy friendship that brings you down.
Want some examples of shitty friends…
Seriously – why would you want to have friends in your life that make you feel bad? They are the biggest blow to your confidence, and if you want to be more confident with women, they need to go.
8. Learn About Women – What They React Well To, What They Want, Etc.
The more you learn about women, the more confident you will be as you approach them, talk to them, and interact with them. The biggest reason is because when you know what women want, you don’t have to be anxious if you are doing or saying the right or wrong things.
Of course, you can learn to be more confident with women through blogs like this, reading books about women, and listening to videos that talk about what women want. But, the only thing that will really boost your confidence in the long run is going out and using what you learn.
- The more you approach women, the more confident you will be during an approach
- The more you talk to women, the more confident you will be while talking
- The more you date women, the more confident you will be on dates
In other words, move past the fear and put yourself out there. It’s worth it!
Can’t get up the courage to approach a woman even once? Try following this guy’s advice.
Once you get the courage to approach a woman once, the next time will be easier, and the time after that will be easier, and so on.