Developing a crush on someone isn’t always easy. You experience romantic feelings for a person, even though you don’t know them well. Having a crush is very exciting, and you will probably find yourself imagining gaining the affection of the object of your crush.
However, having a crush on someone means that you idealize them and only see their good qualities. Seeing your crush as an ideal boyfriend or girlfriend can make them hard to approach. Here are some cute things to say to your crush to help you get to know them better and see if there is a genuine connection.
Why Is It So Hard to Talk to Your Crush?
Let’s take a closer look at what happens in your brain when you fall in love. Being around the person you love causes your brain to release dopamine and endorphins.
Those chemicals make you feel happy. They make it difficult to see any of the less desirable qualities of the person you love, and you will find yourself seeking the company of your crush to experience a rush of positive chemicals.
Your brain needs to produce adrenaline in order to release other chemicals and hormones. Your adrenaline levels will increase when you are around your crush.
The mix of dopamine, endorphins, adrenaline, and hormones is what makes being in love so exciting and exhilarating. However, high levels of adrenaline are similar to what happens when you feel stress or anxiety.
Adrenaline is the reason why your heart beats faster, or your palms get sweaty when you see your crush. Experiencing an adrenaline rush can prevent you from thinking clearly and coming up with things to say to your crush.
What Is the Best Way to Start Talking to Your Crush?
Remember that it’s normal to feel stressed and awkward when approaching your crush. Remind yourself that being interested in someone or feeling attracted are normal feelings and that everyone experiences those feelings.
It’s also important to remind yourself that we often idealize crushes. You might not know a lot about the person or might only see their good qualities. It’s easy to feel intimidated when you think someone is perfect.
As you get to know your crush, you will realize that they have flaws and will get to form a more genuine connection. Talking to your crush will become less intimidating as you learn more about them and maybe develop a friendship.
It’s normal to feel vulnerable when talking to your crush. Don’t try to hide it. Your crush will probably think that it’s cute, and feeling vulnerable is the proof that you have genuine feelings for them.
Finding the Right Moment to Talk to Your Crush
There is never going to be a perfect moment to talk to your crush, but you can pick the right moment. If your crush is busy with something, it might not be the right time to approach them unless you can offer some help.
If your crush is with a large group of friends, it might be best to wait. Approaching your crush in front of their friends can feel intimidating, and it might not be easy to stripe up a conversation if they are busy talking with their friends.
Start by making eye contact. Is your crush making eye contact too and smiling? If yes, those are signs that you should approach your crush and say hello.
Pay attention to your crush’s body language. Someone who wants to avoid an interaction might turn their back to you, keep their head down, or close their arms and legs. If your crush wants to interact with you, they will probably face you and open their shoulders toward you.
Start by Finding Some Common Ground
A cute way to approach your crush is to find something you have in common. It’s a great way to start a conversation if you don’t know someone well or if you haven’t talked in a while.
Here are some examples of things you can say when you first approach your crush:
- Make a comment or observation about something going on around you.
- Make a general statement about the weather or school.
- Bring up a class you have in common.
- Bring up a work-related topic if you work together.
- Make a comment about how you like the food they’re eating.
Don’t worry about being witty or funny when you start the conversation. It’s usually easier to make a broad statement about something your crush can relate to so you can get a conversation going.
Ask Some Questions
One of the cutest things you can do when approaching your crush is to show that you want to learn more about them. Asking questions is a great way to make your crush feel special.
Ask some casual questions to get to know your crush better. Remember that your first conversation shouldn’t feel like you are interrogating your crush.
You can start with these simple questions:
- What are you up to?
- Ask a question about work or school if it’s something you have in common.
- Have you seen any good movies lately?
- What is the latest show you binge-watched?
- What is your favorite food?
- What is a skill you would like to learn?
- Do you have a pet?
- What is your dream job?
- What do you usually do for fun?
- Do you play any sports?
If your crush looks like they are having a good time, ask more questions. You can ask more personal questions as the conversation progress. Now would be a good time to ask your crush for their name if you don’t know it already. If you don’t know much about your crush, ask where they work or go to school.
How to Come Up With Cute Compliments
Cute things to say to your crush include compliments. Complimenting each other is a very important part of flirting, and it’s a great way to show that you like someone while remaining casual.
Your crush will figure out that you like them if you keep complimenting them. Don’t compliment your crush too frequently at first. It’s best to balance compliments, jokes, questions, and general statements to chat casually until you start getting some signals from your crush.
It’s important to be genuine when you compliment your crush. Studies have found that compliments can improve mood and have other benefits, but they can have a negative impact if they aren’t genuine.
You might be tempted to compliment your crush on their appearance since you find them attractive. However, it’s best to compliment people on things they have control over.
Here are some examples of things you can compliment your crush on:
- Their sense of humor
- The outfit they put together
- An interesting answer to one of your questions
- Their career choice
- A grade on a test
- Their manners
Make Your Crush Laugh With Some Cute Jokes
Telling some corny jokes to your crush can be very cute. It’s a great way to keep the conversation going, and even a bad joke can be cute if you can deliver it right. Stay away from any jokes that could be offensive.
Making your crush laugh is important. Laughter releases endorphins and is an important aspect of forming social bonds. Making your crush laugh will help you get closer and develop a friendship. Besides, a lot of people look for a sense of humor in a boyfriend or girlfriend.
You can make your crush laugh by coming up with a funny observation about what is going on around you as long as it’s not mean. Joking about your crush isn’t ideal because the person doesn’t know you well and might not get your sense of humor yet.
Joking about yourself can be an original way to make your crush laugh, but you are taking the risk of coming across as someone with low self-esteem. If you decide to use self-deprecating humor, make sure it’s harmless.
You can use some cute and silly jokes to keep the conversation lighthearted and show that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Here are some examples:
- I broke my finger last week. On the other hand, everything’s fine.
- If you know a good fish pun, let minnow.
- Why do birds fly to warmer places in the winter? It’s easier than walking.
- I was wondering why the football was getting bigger, and then it hit me.
- What do you call an old snowman? Water.
Letting Your Crush Know You’re Interested
If you see your crush regularly at work or school, look for opportunities to interact with them. Carrying out short conversations on a daily basis is a great way to let them know you are interested, even if you just tell them a few jokes or ask a few casual questions. Even taking a few seconds to say hello and wish them a good day should be sufficient for your crush to figure out that you like them.
If you have a crush on someone you don’t see regularly, invite them to have a cup of coffee with you or ask if you can text them or connect on social media.
You can use these cute sentences to let your crush know how you feel even if you don’t know them well:
- I think it would be awesome to get to know you better.
- I really enjoyed talking to you and hope we can chat again.
- I wish I got to see you more often because you seem like a great person.
- You seem really interesting, and I would love to have a more in-depth conversation.
Remember the Little Things
One of the cutest things you can do is show that you care by paying attention to the little things. Be a good listener and make mental notes of things you can bring up again during your conversations.
You can comment about how your crush looked sad or happy the last time you saw them, say something about the foods they usually eat, or bring up a hobby your crush mentioned.
Here are some examples of cute things you can say to your crush:
- I remember that you said you like that band, did you get a chance to listen to their latest album?
- I know that your favorite sports team played this weekend, did you watch the game?
- I’ve noticed that you always eat this food. Is it your favorite cuisine?
- I know you’ve mentioned that show in the past. Do you think I would like it?
Be Thoughtful
There are plenty of things you can do to show your crush that you care about them. Being thoughtful will send a strong signal and will make your crush feel special.
You can start by asking how their day was. It’s something that you can do even if you don’t know the person well. If you do it regularly, your crush will figure out that you like them.
If you know any details about things they had planned or obligations at work or school, ask how those things went. You can ask your crush how they did on a test you know they were studying for, or find out how their weekend was if you asked about their plans.
Taking a few minutes of your time to check up on your crush, keep up with what is going on in their lives, and wish them a good day is enough to be thoughtful. Do it consistently and look for signs that your crush is taking an interest in your life to figure out if they like you or not.
Cute Things to Say to Your Crush
Once you have had a few casual conversations with your crush and maybe dropped a few hints, you can start flirting more openly. Saying cute things is a great way to open up to your crush, make them feel special, and let them know about your feelings.
Don’t overdo it at first. You can end a conversation with one of these cute sentences, or text your crush a few hours after a brief interaction:
- I always look forward to chatting with you.
- I find myself looking for excuses to say hi to you or to text you.
- I saw a specific thing that reminded me of you.
- When I hear or see something funny, the first thing I do is think about how I have to tell you about it.
- I find myself thinking back on our conversations at the end of the day.
If you want to be more forward, there are cute ways to be honest about your feelings and confess that you have a crush. Wait until you get a few signals from your crush to figure out if you should come forward and talk about your feelings openly.
Here are some cute things you can say if you are ready to open up about your feelings:
- I really like you and have been thinking about asking you out.
- I have a crush on you.
- I think about you all the time.
- The more I get to know you, the more I realize how much I like you.
- I think you have all the qualities that matter in a boyfriend or girlfriend.
- I feel like we have a lot in common.
- Have you ever thought about us dating?
- I would love to be more than just friends.
Cute Things to Text Your Crush
Texting your crush or messaging on social media are convenient ways to stay in touch if you don’t get to see your crush in person regularly. Try asking your crush for coffee or dinner after a few days of texting or messaging. The conversation will probably dry up after a few days if you don’t meet up in person.
You can text your crush to ask about how their day was. It’s cute, and it shows that you are thinking about them. Asking about their day can be a great way to start a longer conversation since you can ask what they did.
If you know about anything specific they were planning or about something big happening in their lives, ask them about those things. You can also keep things casual by texting your crush some jokes and memes.
If you want to get to know your crush better, ask them for a movie, show, book, or music recommendation. Check out their recommendation and use it to start a conversation the next time you see them.
You can also use open-ended questions to get to know your crush better and have a fun conversation via text messages:
- If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
- What is the one thing you would take on a desert island with you?
- What is the accomplishment that matters the most to you?
- What do you like to do in your free time?
- What would you do if you won the lottery?
- What does the perfect day look like for you?
- How would your friends describe you?
Those open-ended questions might put someone on the spot if you asked them in person, but a text gives the other person a few minutes to think and come up with an interesting answer.
Flirting With Your Crush
You can start flirting with your crush if you think they might like you back. Start slowly and see how your crush responds before continuing.
Keep things casual and funny, and don’t hesitate to switch between flirting, jokes, questions, and other topics during a conversation.
Compliments are a great way to start flirting. You can pay your crush some compliments and slowly turn it into flirting by complimenting them more regularly.
Here are some cute things to say if you want to flirt with your crush:
- What do you look for in a relationship?
- Do you like it when guys or girls make the first move?
- I’m thinking about you right now.
- I wish we were hanging out.
- I’m so excited about hanging out with you later.
- You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
- I feel so lucky that you’re talking to me.
Asking Your Crush Out
Asking your crush out is a big step. It’s best to have a few casual conversations with them, text for a few days, and maybe send a few signs that you’re into them to see how they react.
If your crush seems to enjoy talking to you and sends you some signals that they like you back, it’s time to ask them out.
You can keep things casual and work on becoming friends first. You can invite your crush to hang out with some friends you have in common, or even introduce them to your friends. It’s a great way to get to know each other better and to spend some time together without any of the pressure of a date. A simple activity like going to the movie or getting drinks can be a lot of fun and provide you with plenty of opportunities to talk to your crush.
You can make things more personal and plan an activity with your crush. Start with something simple, like going for a walk, getting a cup of coffee, or grabbing some lunch together.
If you have been talking to your crush for a while and are getting some strong signals, you can plan something that looks more like a date. You could look for a local art show, live music show, or find a festival.
Here are some cute ways to ask your crush out without putting any pressure on them:
- I was thinking about doing this or that later, would you like to come?
- I’m hungry, but everyone is busy. Do you want to grab some food?
- I would love to chat again in person. Are you free to get a cup of coffee?
- I have to shop for this or that item and would love some company.
- Do you have any plans for the weekend? I would love to get out of the house and do something fun.
These suggestions should help you approach your crush, strike up a conversation, and show that you like them. Remember to take things slow, look for signs from your crush, and be yourself!
