Texting is a part of life for young and old now, and in the dating scene it is a great way to think about what you are going to say before you say anything. This site has talked about how texting can ruin your chances with a woman, but it hasn’t talked about the worst text you can send a woman you are interested in.
The Dead-End Text
Texting is a conversation, just like talking.
When you talk with a woman, the goal is to keep the conversation going. And when you text with a woman, you should have that same goal.
The dead-end text is a text that limits the conversation by narrowing the responses that a woman can give.
An example of a dead-end text at night would be ‘Good night.’ The only response a woman can really give to that is – ‘Good night.’ There are 3 things wrong with this.
- You leave the woman hanging as to whether or not she should text you back
- It doesn’t show interest
- It doesn’t promote further conversation
A text that leaves the conversation open would be, ‘Good night. Let me know if you have a better sleep than last night.’ After that text, she can respond the next day and tell you about her sleep, which will lead into more conversation.
Another example is this – ‘Hope your day is going well.’ This narrows down the responses she can give to “It is, thanks”. If her day is not going well, you haven’t really given her a way to let you know that without sounding bitchy or rude.
A text that leaves the conversation open would be, ‘How is your day going?’ Asking a question allows her to answer with a detailed response, which will lead to more conversation.
As you can see, it doesn’t take a lot of thought to move past a dead-end text into a text that keeps the conversation going.
If you are stuck, two things you can do are:
1. Reword what you are thinking into a question: For instance, instead of saying, ‘I love macaroni!’ say ‘The best food in the world is macaroni, don’t you think?’
2. Bring up something that struck up a good conversation before: For instance, if you had a long conversation about how ugly pugs are before, you could text something like, ‘I was thinking about the ‘pug’ situation. The more I look at them, the cuter they become.’ If it started a conversation before, chances are good it will start a conversation again. Just don’t use this more than once on a subject. There is only so much conversation that one subject, like pugs, can promote.
Do You Always Have To Send An Open-Ended Text?
No. Sometimes you may just want to say good night. And that’s okay.
The problem is when you send texts that don’t require a response for the majority of your texting conversation.
An even worse problem is when you send dead-end texts and then don’t respond back to a woman’s text if she tries to engage you in conversation. When that happens, you are sending the message that you are just staying in touch with her for the sake of staying in touch, not for getting to know her better.
Dead-End Text Guys Are Not Interesting
If you are a consistent dead-end text guy, you will probably ruin your chances with women. Women want an engaging and interesting man. In the beginning, communication is the stage for that engagement and interest. A dead-end text guy is not very engaging or interesting.
Another thing to think about is that women feel connected through communication. Therefore, the more you text back-and-forth, the more connected she will feel.
The bottom line: Always aim to make yourself as appealing as possible through text by getting her interest and making her feel a connection.
