A while back I answered a reader’s question about beliefs in soulmates, based on studies of “implicit theories of relationships.” With this post I want to follow-up by describing the measure that’s used to assess implicit theories and give readers a chance to score themselves on those items. These items were developed by Dr. C. Raymond Knee of the University of Houston. The actual scale that is used by researchers is comprised of 22 items (11 each for destiny and growth); the eight items above were suggested by Dr. Knee as the most representative for a short version of the scale.
Using the 1 to 7 scale, rate your agreement with the statements below. Try to be honest; you’ll only get a valid score if you answer as truthfully as you can.
____ 1. Potential relationship partners are either compatible or they are not.
____ 2. A successful relationship is mostly a matter of finding a compatible partner right from the start.
____ 3. Potential relationship partners are either destined to get along or they are not.
____ 4. Relationships that do not start off well inevitably fail.
____ 5. The ideal relationship develops gradually over time.
____ 6. A successful relationship evolves through hard work and resolution of incompatibilities.
____ 7. A successful relationship is mostly a matter of learning to resolve conflicts with a partner.
____ 8. Challenges and obstacles in a relationship can make love even stronger.
For destiny beliefs, add up your ratings for the first four items (1-4). This will be a number between 1 and 28.
For growth beliefs, add up your ratings for the last four items (5-8). This will also be a number between 1 and 28.
So, now you have numerical scores for destiny and growth, but what do they mean? How do you compare with others?*
- A score between 1 and 15 = the lowest third of people (in other words, you are pretty skeptical about the existance of soulmates)
- 16 to 19 = pretty average (middle third)
- 20 and above = the highest third (you’re a hopeless romantic).
- A score between 1 and 21 = the lowest third (you don’t think relationships can change much)
- 22 to 25 = pretty average (middle third)
- 26 and above = the highest third (you think that relationships can work through just about anything).
In our previous post we gave more information about the relationships of people who are high/low in growth and destiny. Do those findings match up with your scores?
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Click here for a Psychology Today article on the “Soulmate Fallacy” written by SofR‘s Dr. Bjarne Holmes.
Knee, C. R., Patrick, H., & Lonsbary, C. (2003). Implicit theories of relationships: Orientations toward evaluation and cultivation. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 7, 41-55.
*These groupings are based on data from over 260 people in romantic relationships collected by Prof. Benjamin Le in 2002 as part of his dissertation.
Dr. Benjamin Le – Science of Relationships articles | Website/CV
Dr. Le’s research focuses on commitment, including the factors associated with commitment and its role in promoting maintenance. He has published on the topics of breakup, geographic separation, infidelity, social networks, cognition, and need fulfillment and emotions in relationships.