I’m taking a course on self-esteem, and one of the things that was said is that ‘It is really hard to respect someone who doesn’t respect themselves.’ Obviously this applies to friendships, coworkers, family, and even strangers…but it REALLY applies to romantic relationships.
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” ― Lao Tzu,
If you don’t have respect for yourself, you can’t expect a woman to either. It’s just not realistic.
It’s like asking you to respect a boss who constantly disrespects themselves.
When you are not capable of speaking up, acting properly, taking care of yourself, treating people well, or anything else that demands you respect yourself, you are sending a woman a message that you don’t really care about yourself and how you are viewed, which signifies you have very low confidence and self-esteem.
You want to respect yourself. When you do, women will respect you for who you are and what you are doing.
Moreover, you become more confident, comfortable to be around, and authentic – and other people, including women, will automatically treat you with more respect.
So, how can you respect yourself? Following is a video that talks about it beautifully. He’s a little eccentric, but if you pay attention to him, he has a pretty decent point.
I love how he says that self-respect is not being dissociated from your feelings. I just want to elaborate and say that if you are aware of your feelings, you will learn how you really feel about yourself.
For instance, if you constantly feel bad, down, sad, upset, angry, or whatever, you can’t respect yourself very much. It means you are doing something – making choices – that don’t get you the results you want in life, and so you blame or beat up yourself for where you are.
That’s not respect.
I have a lot of men complain about women on here. A LOT!!!! They are angry and sad, and they attack themselves for not being able to pick up women because of their habits, beliefs, personality, or whatever. How much respect do they have for themselves? Not much! And their beliefs about themselves is leading them to make choices that don’t give them the outcomes they want.
For instance, complaining about how all women sleep around shows that you have dealt with a lot of women who have hurt you in some way. When you focus on that, you start to believe that you are not capable of finding a woman who doesn’t sleep around. You don’t respect your power or ability enough to find that perfect woman, and so you fall victim to the ‘life sucks’ mentality. That type of mentality causes you to close your eyes to things that are outside of its scope. In other words, you see all the women who sleep around, but you don’t see the women are decent and good for you.
That’s just one example. The bottom line is that if you don’t respect yourself, you are not going to make good choices for yourself. And that’s what causes other people to see you as someone not worthy of respect.