Update November 2016: This article has been up for over two years, and over the two years I’ve come to understand more about what guys who are thinking about killing themselves feel like. Obviously, this has made me more compassionate and understanding towards people who are depressed or on the verge of giving up for any reason. There are a lot of great comments below the article where guys are expressing themselves and their opinions and helping other guys feel better about themselves. (I want to thank everyone who has commented over the years and helped me understand more about how you are feeling.) So make sure you scroll down to the comments and connect with like-minded people.
I was scrolling around Yahoo Answers the other day and I saw a ‘question’ that went something like this:
I am 19 years old and I have been rejected by every girl I have ever asked out. I have never had a girlfriend or sex, and when the girls reject me, they humiliate me in front of their friends in order to look better. Should I kill myself?
Obviously this guy was contemplating suicide because he felt so shitty about himself.
Younger And Older Women Can Be Mean
Young and older women can be really, really mean. I think girls are often meaner than boys when it comes to attraction.
I remember girls in my school making a really big deal out of a boy that liked them that they thought was gross or uncool or whatever goes through their stupid heads. Females know what to say to cut deep, and just because they are young and stupid, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have that built in ability to be cruel.
It is important to understand that what they say, how they act, and everything about them has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them and their ego – that’s it. If you were to kill yourself, it would be simply because you have only met girls stuck in their ego, not because you are incapable of being loved in this world.
The good news is that there are plenty of girls who are not stuck in their ego. And they are waiting for you in your future.
Kill yourself now and you will never meet them.
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Also Read: Lonely And Depressed? Don’t Focus On Self-Help
Story From A Man Who Tried To Kill Himself
Remember That Physical Traits Can Be Hidden By Other Characteristics
I know there are a lot of men who are tired of hearing that it is not all about physical characteristics – BUT IT’S NOT! If it was, then no man who is less than attractive would ever get a date or get laid.
Men like Ron Jeremy, Steve Buscemi, and Quentin Tarantino are not sexy in conventional terms, but they are also sought after by many women.
It is much more than just looks, and if you are stuck in the ‘I don’t have the physical looks to get a girl’ then you are holding yourself back from getting a girl.
Moving past that ‘I can’t’ mentality will allow you to be more confident, funny, and witty – and that’s what girls are looking for.
Hell, I know a guy who weighs over 300 pounds, is not physically attractive, and still got a beautiful woman because he is funny, confident, and smart. If you think about, you will probably know someone too.
Most women (not all) but most are looking for more than a good looking man.
Feeling Depressed Or Suicidal?
Our Unconscious Beliefs Affect Our Perception
You may have beliefs that you don’t even know you have that are affecting your perception of yourself, women, dating, and relationships. It is very important to understand this because if you don’t, then you are being ruled by your unconscious beliefs and can’t make changes in perception to feel better about yourself and your situation.
What To Do Instead Of Suicide?
Stop focusing on your lack of a girl.
Focusing on rejection is going to drive you crazy, make you depressed, and dull everything else in your life. You have to get your focus off rejection and onto something else.
The best way to do that is to throw yourself into a bunch of goals and activities that benefit your life and make you happy.
- Hang out with friends.
- Make new friends.
- Break free from the blocks holding you back from abundance
- Join clubs of interest.
- Take up a new hobby.
- Work on personal growth.
- Learn how to be happy this year.
Ironically, when you start to focus on other things in your life, but still hold the intent that you would like a girl in your life, you will probably attract a girl that is perfect for you.
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Bottom Line: Keep learning and adding new tactics into your life so that you can attract really good women into your life. When you do, you will be thankful that you didn’t kill yourself.
