I’ve talked about approaching a woman a little on this site, but if you don’t like any of the ideas that I talked about, you may be looking for something easier.
- Something so easy that it doesn’t require a lot of discomfort on your part.
- Something that doesn’t push you too far out of that comfort zone.
- Something that keeps you stuck where you.
Can you sense my sarcasm? If not, let me say it straight – there is no way to approach a woman that doesn’t push you out of your comfort zone if your intention is to talk to her or get her number.
When something is scary – even a little scary – it pushes you out of your comfort zone. And, approaching a woman you like will always be a little scary, even if you are a pro at it.
But, there are some things you can do that may make it easier on you if you really want to. There are good and bad sides to each of these approaches.
1. Bump Into Her And Act Surprised
Instead of approaching a woman with obvious intent, bump into her ‘by accident’ and act like you are surprised that the accident happened. This will give you an easy way to talk to her – “I’m sorry!” and possibly start up a conversation.
The downside is that you may annoy her, and she may not be very receptive to talking to you. Think about it. If she’s had a bad day, people have been mean to her, she’s dropped coffee on herself, and then she collides with a man out in public, she is not likely going to be laughing about it.
2. Get Your Friend To Do It
It worked in junior high, and it can work now. Get your friend to approach a woman that you really like and let her know that you are interested. It’s probably one of the easiest ways to approach a woman!
But, it makes you look like you lack a ton of confidence. You look wimpy, scared, and not able to take action on the things you want without your friends help.
The chances are good that if she is a good woman worth getting, she will not be attracted to you at this point.
But, if she is needy and desperate, you may have a chance!
3. Be A Jerk
It is much easier to put up your defenses and be an ass than it is to put yourself out there for rejection.
Seriously, you will have a much easier time approaching women if you do it ready to argue, put her down, or make her feel like she isn’t important.
But, when you do this, you turn off 95% of the women out there.
The other 5% are the women you don’t want in your life like victims and the neediest of the needy.
In short, you may pick up a woman, but you won’t be happy with her.
4. Use Cheesy Pick-Up Lines
Approaching a woman with lines that you read in the latest pick-up book may be easier than trying to think of something to say yourself, but you run a lot of risk when doing this.
First, you are unoriginal. Chances are she’s heard what you got to say, and she is immune to its effects.
Second, you come across as fake. Women have a sense of whether or not you are confident in what you are saying, and if you are using a cheesy line that has a lot of power behind the words, but you are not matching that power, then all she will see is a wannabe in front of her – not a man she is interested in.
No woman wants a guy who can’t be himself.
5. Approach Her And Talk To Her Friend
Lastly, it may be easy to approach a woman and then talk to her friend. After all, you are not interested in her friend so the nerves are not an issue.
Note: Some people may tell you that getting in with her friends will win her over, but that’s not usually the case.
Instead, she will feel like you are talking to her friend because you are interested in her. Even if you start to talk to her and show interest, she will feel like you and her friend have something going on, and that will put a huge dent in her trust of you and your intentions.
That’s not good. You want her thinking that she is the hottest woman there to you, not wondering if she was your second choice.
You may get the number in this case – if she can look past the fact that you seemed to be flirting with her friend. But you will have to work much harder to show her that she is the one you were interested in.