When a girl is attracted to a boy, it’s often way too subtle. Don’t worry, because there are a few female body language signs she likes you.
But…You have to pay attention to notice them because many of them aren’t very clear.
It’s often tough to figure out whether a girl really feels attracted to you or not. Sometimes she’s just trying to be polite and doesn’t want to break your heart.
Better to know the truth straight up, don’t you think?
Most guys prefer to find out straight up whether or not a woman likes them and these proven tips will certainly help.
44 Female Body Language Signs She Likes You
1. She’s going to play with her hair or touch her neck
According to experts, when a girl intentionally does these things when conversing with you, she’s just trying to show you she is into you chemically speaking. If she consistently does this stuff, you are good to go in the “like” department.
2. She has no issues looking at you sexually
You know the gaze. When a woman raises her eyebrows with a smile, she’s showing you pleasure. Translation…she likes you.
Often when a woman likes a man, she will unconsciously raise her eyebrows and might even lower her eyelids sort of shyly.
She could lick her lips, catch your gaze or perhaps blink her eyes. Just be wary of them all.
Also, keep in mind if the girl is shy, she might be very subtle with any of these body language signs, so you’ll have to pay close attention.
3. She’s going to twirl her hair
When a girl is playing with her hair, experts say that’s showing off her feminine side. It’s sweet and she’s only trying to capture the attention of anyone looking her way. Beware, this move can also signify she’s board and wants to move things along a little faster.
4. The back arch
When a woman arches her back, this makes her legs and breasts the center of attention. She’s unconsciously trying to emphasize her body in order to get your attention. Often girls will do this to capture undivided attention from far off. Just be sure you don’t mix this up with her just trying to stretch.
5. Pay attention to the giggle
When a girl giggles, she’s simply bringing out her fun-loving youth. She wants you to know that she is fun and alive and easygoing. If she makes eye contact with you when she’s giggling, that’s a fantastic signal she is into you.
The eyes are the secret to the soul, right?
6. She’s a blusher
When a girl blushes, this is a simple biological reaction to a simplistic excited emotional state. She could just be embarrassed but more often than not, this is a body signal she likes you.
When a girl is deep with pleasure, she will change her shade to red, so keep your eye out for that.
7. She’ll let her foot slide
If a girl becomes turned on when she is sitting down, she might let her foot fall off and onto the floor. Or she may just let it dangle from her toe in a playful manner. This is a sexy sweet and inviting way to let you know the door is open.
8. Does she look back at you over her shoulder with a smile?
Women have a very specific look they are going to give when they are interested in a man. She will likely raise her shoulder and half look back at you, so you get a side profile. Apparently, this is the seductive look, the one you will see women use when posing in a magazine.
Keep your eyes open for this one.
9. She makes sure she’s using her lips
Experts agree there are oodles of ways a girl can use her lips to peak the interest of a guy. One of the popular ones is applying lipstick slowly and sexily. Some girls choose to eat their food in a slow and sensuous manner. One that is meant to arouse a guy.
If she’s sucking seductively on her straw or pausing with the strawberry in her mouth, she’s definitely trying to tell you she likes you with body language.
10. She’s invading your personal space on purpose
If you are both seated near each other and she’s leaning in toward you, chances are she likes you. Body language experts report if a girl doesn’t like a guy, she will use negative body language. She will sit with her arms and legs crossed and lean away.
When a girl reaches out to touch you while she’s moving closer, that’s a pretty good indicator the ball is in your court.
11. Her breathing gets faster
When a girl is really attracted to a guy, her breathing will in fact increase noticeably. Not for her, but you will certainly recognize this.
On the other hand, if she’s having some sort of anxiety attack, that doesn’t necessarily mean she likes you. That should be pretty easy to spot.
12. The mirror effect
If a girl is paying attention to a man, she is going to naturally mimic his body language. This is her body trying to make a connection with you without actually touching. Test this out by picking up your drink to see if she follows. It won’t take you long to figure this one out.
13. Her nostrils are flaring nicely
This one is completely uncontrollable. I can pinky swear promise you, she isn’t doing this on purpose. Experts report if a girl is naturally drawn to a man, one body signal might be to flare her nostrils.
14. Signals she’d be happy if you touched her
This one is closely related to moving in closer to you. If a girl is trying to get close to you in a physical sense, she might show you this by rubbing her arms or shrugging. You’ll have to pay close attention to pick this one up but if you do, you’re on the right track.
15. Her hips are center stage
If a girl makes sure you see her hips, she just might be interested in getting to know you better. So if she stands with her hands on her hips and a smile on her face, you’re definitely in her good books.
16. Her face is in the headlights
If a girl is trying to frame her face for you, like putting her two hands on her face, she’s signalling to your via body language that she likes you.
17. This girl is rubbing an object with a sexy feel
According to relationship experts, one of the clearest signals a girl is into a guy is when she strokes or plays with an object seductively. I think you know what I’m saying.
18. Her walk to you is sexy
There’s no doubt my friend, when a girl walks toward you with the model-sexy walk, she definitely likes what she sees. Intrinsically, she’s trying to get you to pay attention to her body and appreciate what you see.
19. Multiple leg crosses
When a woman is constantly crossing her legs, she’s either nervous as hell or she wants to let you know you’ve got her undivided attention. You need to pay attention to where her knee is. If it’s pointed toward you, then she really does like you.
20. She strokes her legs
When a girl is rubbing or stroking her thighs and legs, this is a clea-rcut sign she likes you. This is her way of subconsciously telling you she would love for you to touch her in a similar manner, lucky you.
21. She reaches out to touch you
If a girl is willing to actively reach over and touch you anywhere, this is a solid signal she really does like you. Otherwise she would keep her hands to herself.
Newsflash – Women only touch men they are comfortable with.
Makes you a one lucky man, don’t you think?
22. It’s the hair
If a girl is playing attention to her hair, she is likely into you. This could mean she’s playing with it or it could just mean she got it done or styled it differently.
Think about it for a minute…If a girl is making sure her hair is perfect, there is a reason and if you’re lucky, the reason might be you!
23. She’s happy touching herself
I don’t mean this in a “porno-flick” manner. What I mean is if a girl is touching any part of herself, she is likely interested in getting to know you better.
Now this might be because she is trying to straighten her clothes or maybe she’s itchy, but you should be able to tell through her mannerism what it means.
I’ll leave this one for you to figure out.
24. This girl is looking seductively at your drink
When a woman is gazing at your drink lovingly and she doesn’t have one in front of her, that’s your cue to go buy her one.
This is your opportunity to make that initial connection you’ve been waiting for. Ask her if she’d like a drink and go get it!
25. She starts stripping down
I don’t really mean it like that but if a girl is taking off items of clothing, this means she is comfortable with you and opening the door of opportunity.
Sure, she might just be hot but chances are if she didn’t like you, she would suck it up and keep the clothes on, just saying.
26. She’s showing you her duck lips
If a women is sticking out her lips like a duck would, she’s likely unconsciously telling you she likes you.
On a better note, she might even be asking you for a smooch. Read her body cues and take action if you really want her to like you.
27. This girl laughs at most of what you say
Now she can go overboard here but if a girl is laughing at your lame jokes, she just might be interested in getting to know you better. This is her way of showing you she sees you as easy going and relaxed and that’s totally attractive.
28. She pays attention to what you are saying
When a girl is into a man, she will basically hang of his every word. She wants to know what you are saying and appreciates you for you. When you see this, you’ve just struck gold.
29. Her glass sneaks closer to yours
This one you need to pay close attention to. This is a crazy subtle sign that she really does like you. When she pushes her glass closer to yours, even when she doesn’t know you that well, that means she likes you. End of story.
30. This girl pushes her sleeves way up
When a woman pushes her sleeves up, this is a signal to the man that she wants him to touch her wrists.
Why?
This is one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body. Who would have known?
31. This girl will fiddle with her jewelry
If the girl in front of you is fooling around with her jewelry, that’s a pretty rock solid indicator she likes you. On what level, time will tell.
So if she is fidgeting with her ring or necklace or twisting her earrings, you can take that as a solid signal she in the least wants to get to know you better.
32. Ever heard of the flirting triangle?
Truth be told, this is the flirting technique where a woman will look at you with her right eye, left eye, and then your mouth. If she repeats the look, you are in the green.
33. A direct look just doesn’t happen
The “come hither” look is when a girl won’t look directly at you but she will turn to the side and sneak a peak. Some call this the shy way ,but more often than not if she’s smiling and not actually looking directly at you, she likes you.
34. This girl has no issues showing off her confidence stance
No doubt, guys like a confident woman and girls know this. A confident girl will stand with each foot spread a tad further apart than normal. This is a clear-cut signal she is totally into you. Take it as you will, but I hope you are smiling.
35. If she’s a smoker, she will show you her wrist
This one is a little weird, I’ll admit. If the girl you have your eyes on is a smoker and she holds her smoking stick in one hand with her other wrist exposed, that’s a body language signal she wants to know you better.
36. She isn’t afraid to send your stare back repeatedly
Girls understand these days a man might not actually get their eye flirting. What women know is that if they continuously send the stare back a a few times, the guy might actually get the message they like him.
This one is a work in progress. Sometimes it takes a little bit of time for the message to sink in.
37. This girl will stand up and face you directly
This is a crazy bold move to show you that she likes you and if you can’t see this one, you really don’t deserve the gal in front of you.
If a girl isn’t sure whether or not she likes you, she will stand to the side of you at best. She will never ever face you.
However, when a girl likes you, she may be willing to face you directly and show you that she is confident in herself and wants you to see that.
Again, what you do with that is totally up to you.
38. She’s a lip biter
If a girl is biting her lip while she is facing you, there’s no doubt she has an interest in you.
Fact…If she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t face you and she certainly would not be biting her lip. She might be kicking your butt though!
Lip biting is sexy seductive. Let’s leave it at that.
39. Big smiles all around
There’s a difference between a forced smile and a genuine one. You’ll be able to spot the difference in a minute. When a girl is into a man, she is going to show him her smile and more than anything else, her eyes will be smiling most.
The eyes just don’t lie.
If you are yammering away and she is smiling and listening to you attentively, well, I can tell you straight up that you have caught her attention.
How you handle that is of course up to you.
40 – Her cleavage is seriously in your face
If you’ve noticed that she’s dropped her top level a touch and opted for the nice bodacious push-up bra, chances are pretty good she’s trying to show you she really does like you through her cleavage.
This is actually a conscious body language sign used to show a man she likes him.
Truth – If you don’t like her efforts, then she is not the girl for you.
41. Ever heard of the three head nod?
When you are talking with her, does she nod three times or show you three different facial expressions continuously?
Perhaps a nod, tilt and a frown?
If she does this, it’s another clear indication that she really does like you, that’s according to the experts of course.
42. Preening
When a gal is preening, she is essentially fixing herself up in front of you. What she’s trying to do is look attractive and she’s super nervous you might not like what you see.
This means she might be taking out her makeup mirror or brushing her hair. Whatever it takes to look better for you.
Take this as a clear signal she likes you.
43. – This girl is starting the conversation by asking you all the questions
If a girl walks up to you and starts the conversation, you are super nuts to not take this to the next level. Talk about guts my friend!
When a girl is asking you questions, it means she genuinely wants to know more about you. If you aren’t interested, just tell her.
Otherwise, take this as a golden opportunity to walk right in.
If you pass this one by, you really don’t want the girl.
44. Her tone will change around just for you
You really can tell how interested a girl is with you by how excited she is around you. Her pitch will get a tad higher and she won’t even notice.
Did you know that if a girl doesn’t like a man, her voice will actually get deeper? Eek!
Bottom line…Pay attention to her tone and you will figure out whether or not she likes you.
Final Words
It’s tough to figure out whether a girl likes you or not by her female body language signs. But you do have to start somewhere.
Reading body language has never ever been an easy thing. Partially, because women aren’t usually the first ones to approach a man.
Women are good at flirting and that’s crazy hard for most men to interpret.
However, the body language does not lie because it’s not conscious. In other words, it’s really not controllable.
Use these expert tips and tricks to make it easier for you.
Follow her body cues and add that to the expert information you have gathered and you will be ten steps ahead of the competition.
Best of luck!
Paul says
I don’t bother to look for signals – the fact is, they’re never there. I’m completely sexually invisible to all women and there is nothing I can do about it. Since rejection is guaranteed from every woman 100% of the time, there is no point. I have no problem talking to women, and have many female friends – there’s just not a chance any of them, or any woman – could ever see me other than as a friend.
E.Humperdinkt says
Hold on…let me get my violin. Dude, you’re hanging out at the wrong places-find out who you are and hang with similar folk, dadaah!
David C. says
He’s right, it’s pointless to me also, They want a white horse and a Love Story Movie for a relationship and lets not forget money, good looks, sense of humor, out going, and a thousand other things, I’m to damn busy working 6 days a week for most of that stuff just to survive and having all that stuff to deal with would be like having TWO more jobs, NO THANKS, not worth it.
I’m 53 and had enough of the meat grinder..
Liz says
You guys are going after the wrong type of girls. Try women your own age and stop hitting on the ones who still watch Disney Princess movies.
Nonyonder says
Main common differencing between thinking of male and female, female=cause and effect, male=the actual things. Male that has figured this out=attempt at both and success at both. Don’t worry everyone is stupid. Of course a 14 year old figured this out.
Nancy says
I am a woman and was divorced, and raised my children into adulthood.
A friend of mine told me to stop going out and instead, start going to church. It will be there that I find a man who is kind, compassionate, loves God, and is looking for a woman with principles and values.
Well, I did find that man, married 6 years later, and it’s our 10th anniversary this year.
Dionysus says
I promise you, if you change your body language to show a little more pride, you will notice a difference in the way girls respond to you. I absolutely promise. Pride is key.
Erndawg says
If your desperate and needy females can sense that. If you cock you head up a little it shows confidence. Talk to women like your not expecting anything. Look, smile, say hi and thats it. Sooner or later you’ll attract a females attention. Don’t get mad if they reject you, just walk away and laugh that will make them think ” why is he laughing? I just rejected him!” And usually they might be different with you next. Just don’t be a dick as revenge or too needy. Just laugh, smile, and play it off like you don’t care to be with them but you really do. Don’t show insecurity either, no bueno.
Smooth operator says
This is true if you’re broke.
Lmaosame says
Lmao same
Foad Nagi says
Theirs this woman who works at my hostal. She’s always looking for me for attention. She always trys to find an excuse to interact with me or to get my attention. She’s very attractive. I am 42 yrs old but she’s 27.
I am a weightlifter. I think she’s attracted to me physically. This has been going on now for attracylmost 10 months.
She doesn’t flirt with other residents like she does with me cause she’s so very classy and elegant woman. Most of the other lads are either drunk stoned or suffer from depression.
I think their is some kind of physical chemistry between us both.
I think she eats e to fancy her.
But what puzzles me more than anything is does she like me or she just wants me to inflate her ego.
She has a degree in psychology too. So shes got a lot of respect for herself. She’s a nice person aswell. She doesn’t come across as a player. She’s more of a shy person.
Can you please help me out year cause I don’t know if she likes me or she just want attention.
Kate says
If she is attractive, I’m sure she already knows that too and doesn’t really need to inflate her ego. She is already pretty, she doesn’t need a guy to make her look prettier. If you think she has a lot of respect for herself then I doubt she plays any games. She may genuinely like you.
Girls do like attention but if she’s trying to get your attention for the past 10 months already, she might hope for something more than your friendship.
mad ness says
her degree doesn’t equate to being a good person. She may have false credit and false praise especially as a millennial
Narcissist want attention for the wrong reasons,
if she is, that’s a bad sighn
LeahE says
It’s possible that she is interested in you. But if she is a woman of some elegance and quality, it’s very possible that she looks up to you as an older, safe man, and values your friendship and yout advice/guidance, and genuinely underestimating any possible romantic signals.she may be giving.. She could be assuming (somewhat naively,.if.she was well.raised).that you understand that she is too young, and so she feels confortable and safe, valuing your knowledge and building of her confidence (as sbe is still young.) If the latter is the case, many men will misinterpret her intentions, projecting theit own intentions or desires on to ber,, and/or bc the same behaviors still could mean she’ss attracted to you romantically. Tread carefully!
Jo jo says
Try touching her shoulder. If she starts touching back your in. If she backs away from the touch she just wants to be friends. Ask her out to lunch or dinner. If shes into you then she will most likely want to be alone with you. After dinner go for a walk and then try to hold her hand. If she accepts your hand in hers your in. If she rejects you ttouching her then shes not into that way.
loverboy says
how you know a boy like you…well he do everything for you rather giving signals ..men will be men
dank_boi_420 says
So I’m 12 and I really like this girl, and we were both playing with my brother and his two friends on the trampoline and every time i got up and sat down she stood up and sat right next to me again. And she kept laughing at the most random stuff, she laughed at something and she leaned her head on my shoulder. I hope she likes me, she 14 btw.
Kate says
Yes, seems like she likes you.
cutsy says
hiii… in my case every morning i go for running… and a married woman age 25 super hot look at me… and never break eye contact… after 5 or 6 sec i get shy….so what can i do
Kate says
If she’s married, just leave her be and look away. Find someone who is not married.
Skinner says
My sisters friend comes over sometimes. However the last few times we will stare into each others eyes. She started every now and then touching my face. I’ve commented on her walk before. I know though that she has other guys trying to talk to her she blows them off but still. Do I text her?
Kate says
If she’s touching your face, then she definitely likes you. Yeah, you can text her and see how that goes.
willywonka says
I like a gal in the hospital.. I stare at her.. she does d same wen m not staring.. means she turns back wen I look at her.
she waits for me to move.. if we r accidently walking together or waiting for a bus! watch does ds indicate
Kate says
It indicates she likes you.
Kingsley says
I came from a very poor background (don’t even have money to finance my education)..but I am a nice guy..with a very humble & pleasing disposition. Sincerely, I have seen so many signs from girls who were born with silver spoon but I have been always ashamed to make the first move because of my condition. Consequently, I am still single & highly reserved till date (age 25)! Please what should I do? & are these genuine signs?
Kate says
Hi, if the girls are giving you these signs, they obviously like something about you, and it means they are interested and want to know more about you. You should make the first move and see where it goes.
Boyy says
There’s a girl in my class I never can tell if she likes me we are friends should I ask her out
D. Edwards says
There’s this girl I work with. She has we talk constantly, I make her laugh, and smile. Only issue, she has a boyfriend.
What do I do?
Kate says
I wouldn’t pursue her if she already has a boyfriend. However, if things change, you can make your move.
Richie says
After I said some things which hurt my friend I saw her a week later to tell her something and we stared at each other eyes for about 5 mins without looking away. Then 2 months later I asked her if we could talk and she said no in a high pitch voice then good night. Does she like me of is she trying to spare my feelings? What should I do?
Kate says
Maybe you should apologize first for the things you said to her. It’s hard to know if she likes you, perhaps she is still hurt or she genuinely is not interested.
Hamza yaseen says
I am a boy before sometime i was touching my girlfriend legs backside she knew that i am touching her but she did no response on my touching but i countinously touching her hard but she did no response me
Please tell me that she want to with me or not????
Kate says
Probably not. If you don’t get any reaction, then perhaps she’s not ready to make love to you.
ShadowClad says
In my school. There’s this chair with a desk attached on it. Not a desk chair of course. And this is going to be hard to explain.
She always sleeps on my desk, like literally.
She likes getting on contact with my skin, oftenly our shoes meeting or my biceps. I don’t know if this is on purpose.
There is barely a time when if i make a joke she wouldn’t laugh. Most of the time i make lame ones. Ex: That virus looks like a robot. And she laughs.
If i make sarcastic jokes on her while having a conversation with her, she would laugh and punch me, but it doesn’t hurt. Almost like getting hit by a paper airplane.
She always has a question for me. Almost as if she can’t resist asking me some.
And there’s this one time i kind of caught her taking a picture of me with her iPad. Im not sure though, i only saw it in 2 seconds.
Also, we had this one conversation. There’s a bunch of higher years on our classroom on the day. She says she has a crush on someone there. My other seat mate which is a man. Asked: Who? And he and i started stating their names. And after we said everything, she says noone there. And i was like whaaat? This kind of got me thinking. Im a pretty tall man for my age (5ft10inches).
That being said. I respect her, she’s a smart woman. But i would gladly take some tips.
Kate says
What tips do you need? From what you have told me, she definitely likes you.
Jaz says
There’s this girl I like, she has given most of the signals you have wrote down. But I have no idea how to keep her interested for a few years (I can’t date till I’m like 16, I’m 13… Please help me!
Kate says
A lot can change in 3 years. Just enjoy your friendship with her right now. If she’s your age too then she shouldn’t be dating either.
Mark Rush says
I just have one question for you Kate. Are you single?
Kate says
I’m not single
katie lover says
what about now?
not Kate says
yeah, what about now, Kate?
random 13 year old says
I think its fine and if you like her just ask her out.
John Thompson says
So there is a girl who I have found attractive for about year now… She works at a local store that I visit often… Every time Im there I make sure to ask her for help that I dont need. I mean she has got to know that I can handle finding these objects myself.. Her helping me each time turns into laughing talking about life long dreams and so forth.. I have never asked her out or even given her my number.. Im good looking and so is seh However I dont want to make the situation odd if I ask her out… She shows many signals however I dont know if she just like flirting ???
Kate says
You should ask her out if you like her. If she says no, at least you’ll know.
15 year old says
So I’ve bin talking to this girl we flirt send hearts emojis and when we meet we hug kiss and make out n stuff. Like that just How regular cuples are but then we aren’t going out we aren’t boyfriend girlfriend she said she isn’t ready to be officially boyfriend and girlfriend what does that mean ?
Kate says
There could be many reasons, and only she knows why. Ask her what would take her to be ready to be officially boyfriend and girlfriend.
Jim says
I have a neighbor she’s really attractive I think she’s bored and lonely. She’s stuck taking care of her mom and kids. Last night we were talking and she reached out for my hand and had me feel her abs. Is this a sign of liking me or just wanting someone to talk to.
Kate says
Yes, most likely she likes you.
Brandon Williams says
I’m on a vacation with my brother, When I was in this clothing shop. There’s a hot female assistance staring at me from across the store while doing her work. When we do eye contact, She look away quickly so do I. We will be here for a week, Should I date her or not?
Kate says
It’s up to you. You are there only for a week so make sure she knows that too.
hellhound says
Okay, here we go…
In my school, there’s this girl. She and I are friends (at the moment, at least) whichand I’ve developed a crush on her since around the middle of the first semester. She and I talk a lot. Sometimes when I make jokes, she jokes around too, and she extends it to make it funnier. In my 3rd Period, when she needs help with work, she asks me. We also both make consistent eye contact when we talk to each other. At times, I catch her looking at me and her eyes move away. Once, we even joined hands together. Her whole body faces me in my last period and sometimes I see her feet pointed to me (which is, from some sources I read, a way to tell if a girl likes you). Oh yeah, and her back is arched sometimes too.
Now here’s something else. Whenever there’s mention of me and her together, she always states, “I just consider him as a friend.” I overheard saying she liked a boy, and that boy was not me. I’m considering the fact that, if she likes me, she’s probably hiding that fact. I need your advice, please!! I’m very confused…
Kate says
She definitely likes you but seems like she is afraid to admit it publicly.
hellhound says
Ok, now there’s this other girl. We do not know much about each other, but in a way I guess we are friends. We rarely talk. Once, me and my friends at my table at lunch were horsing around with an eraser (throwing it at others, etc.) and it was launched at this girl and she was sitting next to me. I asked her for it and she smiled and said no. “I’m going to keep this,” she said. I just gave up at that point because she is an assertive girl. As I was facing the other way, she quickly places the eraser on my elbow seconds later and I turned around. I grabbed the eraser and said thank you, and out of nowhere she giggles. This isn’t the only time she teases me like that, taking things out of my reach. The most recent thing I’ve noticed is that one day, when I was walking in the hallway to the library, she was walking the opposite direction. In the position that we were both in, it seems like we would’ve at least brushed arms or something. Each moment she got closer she wouldn’t move out of the way, so I think maybe she wanted to be touched. We did brush arms, by the way. I’m confused with this girl too because I think she liked me last year and I think she might be losing interest this year. However, after the hallway thing, I got a newfound sense of confidence. Help?
Kate says
She might like you. See if you can identify any more signals to know for sure.
Tambari David says
I was talking to a girl, but while talking to her, she was busy scrating her head and face througout the discussion. Does She mean she is bored or interested
Kate says
I’m not sure about the scratching. Did you see any other signs?
20yold says
i know a woman friend in church , she has a bf , and when her bf wasn’t around , me and the girl were interacting ( she was serving food to me and when i was reaching out to take the food , she gently stroked my forearm like 5 sec… ) .. she’s 10 years older than me (i’m 20 ), and i can tell im more attractive than her bf . But they are some kind into marriage course now. .
Please tell the truth btw…. i don’t mind to be hurt ..
Much appreciated ! Thank You Kate !
Kate says
Have you noticed any other signs? I can’t really tell by the forearm stroking only. She might like you or wants to flirt with you. I don’t know.
20yold says
no other signs …
before she left the church , she told me : goodbye …
Thanks Kate .
123qwerty says
Soo… Last year, in July 2017, I have a crush on this girl in my class. I’ve been looking at her(I know it kinda creepy), sometimes she notices I was looking at her. Moving forward, in October 2017, I tell her my feelings and she gave me a damn NO. Damn, It truly hurts ya know. So I move on. But now, March 2018, I started to notice she’s been staring at me, Sometimes with a smile.
JP says
Same here lol. In 6th I had a mini-crush on this one girl, and she could tell. She rejected me indirectly and I didn’t take it too seriously. This year, I have a girl friend (not girlfriend) who is her friend. She and I have both noticed the one that’d rejected me is getting really flirty w/ me. My friend says her and her friends stare at me all the time and talk about me. There’s been a few moments where it was so obvious she was trying to get my attention, I laughed, even though I didn’t want to. Life is weird like that lol 😂
Clueless says
We have known each other for a year a d 1/2. Both are married. She is 8 years older. When we first met she constancely gave me a very cute seductive look. I bough her little gifts here and there. She was very upset and kept asking me why. So we had a talk and she told me that her husband was jealous. I comforted her by saying that nothing was happening. I just liked her as a girl friend to girl friend. Then we started to text more( most of the time I was the one initiated the text). Then I realized that I liked her more than just a friend. I missed her so much when we were not talking. Every time she said something that I thought it was a signs, I asked her and she denied; she either did not respond or acted like she had never said such things. Recently I decided to confront her with those signs that she dropped. As I expected, she denied again. I felt hurt. So I told her that I did not have any romantic feelings for her. We did not talk for a few weeks. Now we started talking a gain but when we ran into each other on the hall she acted like she did not see me. I asked her out for a lunch she refused. I tried to understand what she was thinking but no clue. Please help me with the clues.
Kate says
She wants to stay married to her husband so that’s probably one clue, and a pretty big one. Perhaps, she wished to feel wanted and flirted with you a little, however that doesn’t mean she was going to act on it.
Clueless says
Thank you so much for bringing this up. I’ve never thought of that. I thought that she was playing with my feelings so was a little bit upset. She now agreed to go out have lunch with me next week. What does that mean? What should I do? Should I tell her my true feelings ?
Thank you!
Clueless,
Lip says
I work with this girl I have known for a while, we talk every time we work together and its not any regular stuff. Also whenever I’m working when ever she sees me she says my name real loud and get excited that im there. We stare at each other lots and I always seem to make her laugh and I always end up having a big smile on my face. I only just read about the body language and haven’t been able to test it. But we have a class together and school but she doesn’t talk to me then. I don’t know what to attempt.
Kate says
She might be shy to talk to you at school. Does she smile or stare at you at school?
adnan says
Hi @kate i notice for more then 3 days my colleague(a lady) asking me for time daily before leaving. what does it mean is she interested in me or not.
Kate says
Did you notice any signs she might be interested in you? Do you think she’s making up excuses to interact with you? I don’t have enough information so I can’t really tell you if she’s interested in you or not.
Bill says
What does it mean when a woman ( I recently have met ) lifts her shoulder and smiles at me ?
Thanks
Bill
Isaiah says
Hey @Kate, there’s this girl that I find attractive at school, and I ask of your opinion on what has happened over the last 3 months or so….,1.) at first she began to get closer and closer (and bumped into me once) to me in a social gathering among friends even though I was standing completely still …2.) secondly, our teacher assigned new groups of 4 , and guess what?, she’s in my group😎… I walk into class looking for my new group, and once I sit down and work on my math homework,she suggest helping me (I didn’t need help, but it was 👌 okay) and again gets closer, we had a moment of direct eye contact and that’s about it ….3.) on a group assignment, she fixed her hair even though her hair is quite short?(does this make any sense?) 4.) (same group assignment) I notice her knees pointing right at me …5.) she catches me doing math homework… and she does it again… 6.) in some cases during a group assignment I feel like as if she quickly glances at me or uses her peripheral vision ….
7.) her tone changes around me
8.) she has giggled at one “funny” things I’ve done(one giggle doesn’t sound like much, but hey, it’s something, right?)
-I hope you give your honest opinion/feedback @Kate; these are some of the body language signals I’ve caught so far ,what do you think the next move should be?
Kate says
Based on these signs, I’m pretty sure she likes you.
Leigh says
Hi Kate. When I am in the presents of a female I get all awquide and like I forget my lines. I can tell that my signals I send out get mixed up . The silence around just leaves me feeling failure. How can I take the pressure off and bring back the fun.
hellhound says
Hello Kate. It’s hellhound. So… This is sort of a continuation from the last reply I gave and about a week after that comment, I decided to tell that girl how I feel (the first one I talked about). Since I know I was going to get extremely uncomfortable and nervous, I gave her a note. And uhhhh….
She said no. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to feel when I got that letter back. Even the next, what, week, two weeks, she stopped talking to me. My friend (who has supported me this whole time) tells me that she even talks trash about me. I felt hurt, and I thought I did something wrong. I hoped that I would be able to restore our friendship, but it didn’t look like she was looking for reconciliation.
Then… she suddenly felt okay talking to me again. It’s like she forgot all about the letter. I think she’s still angry with me. What is she doing? What should I do? I need help.
Thank you, Kate.
Kate says
Hi, she’s definitely sending mixed signals. Since she said no, I wouldn’t pursue her anymore. You can still be friends with her but just leave it at that. However, if she keeps talking trash about you, then it’s up to you if you even want to be her friend. You didn’t do anything wrong, there’s nothing she should be angry about.
Crax says
Hi, I’m 13 and I was running on the field playing soccer, and when I ran past her, she waved at me. It was kind of weird, because we talked a little bit in 6th grade, but after that, zit. Does the wave mean that she likes me, or that she’s just waving. Btw, there was no one behind me or beside me or anywhere near me.
Crax says
BTW I’m in eighth grade now
Kate says
Hi, it’s hard to tell just by her waving. It may mean he likes you or it was just a friendly wave.
Crax says
So there is this girl that I like at school. In the 6th grade, she was constantly asking me about what I was reading or what I had done that was interesting recently. I didn’t realize exactly why she was asking these questions until I was half way through seventh grade. Now, I’m in eighth grade, and I recently developed a crush on her, but not because of what I wrote earlier. We haven’t talked since 6th grade ended, but when I was playing soccer on the field outside of my school, she waved at me, which I thought was kind of strange. I’m not sure that she likes me, even if she liked me in 6th grade. I want to ask her out to a big school dance, but I’m sort of scared. Please help!
Kate says
If she’s already waving at you, I’m sure she wouldn’t mind talking to you. If you get a chance, try to talk to her. When talking to her, pay attention to her body language. You might get an idea if she likes you.
Crax says
Thank you!
Caleb E Bacon says
a girl I like literally offered me her hand but I didn’t take it, I was in front of friends and I wasn’t sure it was a flirt but now i’m sure it was. I need help I have already been used once and rejected 8 times
anonymous says
So there is this girl who is in a lot of my classes, and she sits next to me in one. And whenever we see each other, it seems like she straightens up a bit. Whenever I make a joke around her, she laughs and turns her whole body towards me, even if it isn’t good. She always starts up random conversations with me about weird stuff. My friends are always saying that she likes me but i’m not sure. Do you think so?
Kate says
Yeah, she might like you.
Moe says
Yeah, I’m in my 40’s and this lady is 14yrs older than me, but she always smiles when she sees me, laughs at my jokes, even though they’re not that funny, and she plays with her necklace when we’re talking. I like her a lot, but don’t know what move to do next…..can I get some advice?
Kate says
If you think she likes you too, you could ask her if she would like to go out with you.
parm says
A married woman touches her sides when she know I am there but she doesn’t look directly at me.
Zayn says
There is a girl in class and i really like her
Everytime she look at me and i look away cuz i fel shy
And one day i was touching my teeth and she was doing the same thing that i was doing
What do u think does she love me ?
Kate says
She might like you if she keeps mirroring you. Pay attention to see if there are other signs as well.
Larry says
Such an amazing, and comprehensive post. Really enjoyed reading it. It’s hard for men to decipher what women really want, but a little bit psychology always helps. Thanks for writing it up!
Abdul Hayee says
In my case a girl that I like so much I cought her glancing at me but when I look back at her she turn her face down and some times turns away and I also caught her watching me over boundry wall of her home.
Every time she goes home she turns around and take a look on me and then get inside the door. Does she loves me
Kate says
Yeah, she might like you if she keeps looking at you.
Harry says
Whenever I see or meet a girl she smiles, and she only sits next to me in the class and only talks to me in the class but she has a boyfriend what is this sings and I really like her. what I do.
Kate says
I don’t know how serious she is with her boyfriend but she might like you too. However, I wouldn’t pursue her right now since she’s dating someone else. Perhaps, make your move if she becomes available.
Dakshesh says
I met this girl , in tuition , and i immediately fell for her. I have talked to her many times by asking questions (nothing personal) and she always smiles,leaning towards me while talking to me. Even while walking down the street , if we ever meet she smiles at me( a very sweet smile) and constantly tends to hold her stare . Today, when I saw her at tuition ,her face suddenly lit up and i felt as if she was aroused by me. Do you think i should ask her to hangout or not at the moment …..i don’t want her to take me in a negative way. ( we are both 17 btw)
Kate says
Since you have already been talking and getting some signals from her, you can ask her if she’d like to hang out with you sometime.
Sunny says
Girl in my class that sits right next to me in my calc class is super cute. We talk every time in class and I think she gives me some signals, while we talk she twirls her hair for a few seconds, she’s always kinda fidgety and putting her hand on the back of her neck, arching her back and she always tries to walk with me after class to my car and talk, when we talk we hold eye contact for about 5-6 seconds. I’m kinda scared to ask her out because I’m 18 and and a freshman she’s 22 and about to graduate and go to optometry school, and also I only had 1 girlfriend for 3 years and no nothing about flirting so maybe a tip will help.
Kate says
You can casually ask if she would like to hang out with you sometimes.
Cory says
So this girl, well to be more specific, my first ex-girlfriend from 7 years ago, and I recently just started hanging out as friends again. Well she was at my house listening to music and playing with my son. She then snuck up on me and hit me with a pillow, and then proceeded to hit me, not hard, but very playfully. I’m certain she is flirting, because that is how she flirted before we first dated. My big concern is that she says that she only wants to be friends right now. What do I do?
Kate says
Perhaps, she’s not sure if it’s a good idea to start dating you again. I don’t know why you guys broke up in the first place but she might be cautious this time. You can be her friend for now and see where things go.
Paul says
Hi Kate –
I’ve had crushes on many women over the years but I’ve never spoken to any of them because it’s patently obvious I’m invisible and completely unattractive to women. No woman has ever been interested in me at all – not in high school, college, university, or in my working life. I’m 34 and have certainly never gotten any signals of interest from anyone. I’ve never been on a date and have never even kissed a woman. The signs you describe above must be wonderful to get, but only other guys get them – never me.
Bobo says
i noticed a work colleague doing most of these signs on a number of occassions. i recently gave it more attention to see how she would react, i would also go see her just to check if she is genuine. she seemed genuine on all occassions and it wasnt me just misreading things. i did consult this article a number of times to make sure she isnt just being friendly. the only point is number 29 which i did not notice her doing. so i decided to ask her out for a drink after work, she said she would like to go out for a drink but she told me she is seeing someone and didnt want to get into trouble. confusing does not even describe how i felt.
Daniel says
So I’m a roofer and I work on roofs and a very attractive girl came outside and I couldn’t do anything but stare and she noticed me staring and it’s like everytime I look we make like 3 seconds of eye contact and then look away I catch her looking at me and it just goes back and forth you think that means anything?
Kate says
You need more signs to see if she’s interested or not. However, if she keeps staring at you, then that’s a positive sign.
james Rod says
Hey Kate! I was talking to a girl I know waiting on food and she sits down in one of those taller chairs and I stay standing and talking to her. Her knees are pointed toward me and uncrossed. We make strong eye contact and she smiles a lot when I talk to her. Another time I’m interested in was when we were sitting in a group I sighed and she immediately asked what’s wrong. When she got in the car, I was in the passenger seat and she hugs me from behind at about neck and chest level saying my name and “Hi” in a happy voice. Another time when I was getting my belt after swimming, she tied it around my neck loosely while smiling. I hope this is enough information. Thanks!
Bobo says
So since asking my colleague out and her saying she is seeing someone she has toned down the flirting she did before askig her out. She does the chit chat to ask how i am, how was weekend etc but that’s it. Still does the pretty smile with the sparklin eyes though. She doesnt go for the sweet treats as she did before as well. So Katie would you think she just likes to flirt? Did not pay attention how she is with other male colleagues though.
Kate says
She might want attention or she just likes to flirt. Since she told you that she’s seeing someone else, you should probably move on.
Eric says
Hi! I am a student and i live with one friend and three girls, we rent a house, and one of these girls gives me signs (thats what i think), one Time i knocked Her door and said its me, then she opened the door wearing a big t-shirt and Her pants down, and smiling, in another ocassion accidentally i opened the bathroom door and she Was sat pying, i said sorry and then she come todo muy room AND opened the door fast AND asked me with a smile, what did You want?, Etc. Besides she always ask yo the other girls yo take Her pics with me, fiesta she likes me?? Or..
Eric says
Kate, i need to know if she likes me or.. (We live in a rent students house) 1.i knocked Her door and she opened just with a shirt and Her pants down, and smiling. 2.she ask Her friend to take Her pics with me, walking, sat together, etc. 3.she showed me the new mini pantys she just bought. 4.she Stands in front of me (i watching TV) with a small transparent short so i could she all. Thanks!!
Kate says
Yeah, seems like she likes you.
loufred says
i have a girl i like in my class shes is pretty and interesting i don’t know if this apply if she like me or not, i keep looking at her but she wouldn’t give any sign she likes me or maybe i don’t notice., but i notice she and i have same similar move shes preening but i don’t know if she is fixing her self cause maybe she know im looking at her and she feel uncomfortable, or she just fixing her self i don’t know what she was trying to say
Kate says
These signs don’t really show if she likes you or not. You need better signs to figure out if she likes you.
Gp says
Hi Kate, I Need your advice, there is this girl my class, that is cute, one day I caught her starring at me, later that same day, we both stared at each other for about 4,5 second, and anytime am talking with my friends, she will always met me an tell me to shut up or sometimes tells my friends that is a lie, and she touches me . Does she like me or not.
Kate says
Yeah, she might like you. Keep looking for more clues to be sure.
Ken says
So theres this girl who came to our college.shes been coming over to my hostel since she came. I decided to teach her skate boarding,after she had atleast learnt to move,she kept on riding into my direction evry time i was standing,watching her. Then she is always talkative around me and not others. Plus she blushes every time i look into her eyes.are all these signs? Please help
Kate says
Yes, these are signs. However, try to have more conversations with her to get a better idea.
anonymous says
im 18 and theres this girl at school and she asked me to help her and her friends with math during holidays problems and aranged a class at some club in town where she said we’d meet.Every time we meet she tells me her friends didnt make it so we’d be stuck together.she does show me most of the signs above.but when i ask her personal questions she change the topic. And i’ve caught feeling during our frequent discussion.she atempted to touch my hand twice but i unconciously withdrew my hand of which i now regret.She has a boy friend in class but they are not active .What should i do because telling her feels like id be taking advantage.does she like me for a boyfriend or just friends
Kate says
She might like you. Keep looking if she shows you more signs.
joseph says
am a boy and i sit with a girl at the same locker . Every time she closed his leg and sometimes we abuse each other and we got back with the friends,sometimes we make stories and laugh.he ask me question in time of need,does it mean she is in love with me
Sovat Bwambale says
Hello Kate!
There’s a girl, whenever we’re seated in church in the same row, though different columns, when I turn I find her looking at me, en she turns away. And sometimes I look at her, she smiles a bit. And sometimes I wave at her, en she waves back while smiling.
We’re not close chat mates at church, however I sometimes greet her, en she replies. But she seems to be fearing me or kind of being young(She’s between 18 and 20), b’se after church service she always walks with her mum, going back home. And she really looks hot en wow.
Does she love me ?
How should I approach her Kate?
Kate says
She might like you. Is there any way you could start a conversation with her?
Brian Anderson says
Hi I’m 45 years old , and had same relationships , with the wrong woman.. now not been with a woman for over 3 and half years now. And now strongly believe I’ll never will be. With a woman again. As I’m to shy to ask a woman out. And women don’t talk to me. It’s a sure sign I must be that ugly to every woman
Brian Anderson says
Hi Katie, I’ve been on my own. For over 3 years now. I’m 45 years old, now, and come to the understanding I’m never truly been. What women want. As the relationships I’ve had, in the past. Have always been unhappy ones. I’m strongly thinking, as I’m to shy to ask. A woman out, it will better if I just, start to come to terms with the fact. I’m not what women want. And just go it alone, for the rest of my life. Because the relationship I had in the past, I did really fancy the woman. I was with, so there wasn’t any real love there. As I’ve always believe I’m not what women I fancy want.
Michael says
Hi Kate!
There’s this girl I been meeting at my college. I’m starting to get interested in her. She almost always greets me at school with a warm smile and lightly touches my arm or shoulder. I was thinking maybe she was just being friendly and all that. We always keep good eye contact with each other and I almost always succeed in making her laugh at a funny joke. I’ve recently been greeting her in kind with a light shoulder touch and a smile for the past few days. Today I met up with her after class and I put my hand on her shoulder like I have been doing to say hello, but this time she actually put her hand on my hand and squeezed it gently. She held my hand there for a few seconds and smiled. I was really surprised! Does this mean she likes me? I really don’t want assume anything before I try to ask her out. Thanks again!
Kate says
Yes, that should be a sign she likes you.
Jalal says
Hey Kate! There this girl I been seeing at high school! That I like. But since I am a shy person I have never talk to her. she’s not in any of my classes. But I often see her when we go to the next period in hallway. I got to know, that she does not have boyfriend.
But I saw her most of the time with black kids(boys) and his black friend(girl) . I am not racist or anything . But I never seen her with white folks. Though she’s white.
Can you please tell me how do i get her attention?
Ricky Ward says
There is this girl in my class there were rumors that she liked me I did not know what to do so I ignored it some months later she started acting cold towards me then suddenly she started acting normally now I have feelings for her , she has become more confident I was blind I guess “people don’t really know what they have until they have lost it”.
Ricky Ward says
I am tall , handsome , strong and I play sports why don’t most girls come to talk to me.
Kimberly says
Girls dont typically come talk to tall handsome guys. We only hope they will come talk to us so that we can show them how great we are then they’ll hopefully ask us out.
Robert Wayne says
Great piece of writing friend. I have met the girl of my dreams. she is fun, lively and most importantly has a superb dressing sense. when we talk, she touches her hair a lot but she does not seem confused or anything when we talk. she goes out with me but it is not any sort date or something due to outdoor work, we go together two 2 to 3 times in a month. I have a question; can she really be into me? I am afraid to make a move what if I have been assuming it this whole time? Could you help me by sharing some advice? I do need it at this point.
Mr. Annoyed says
Hey Kate,
I would like to ask you about something. There is a lady who used to do some of the body language above but I didn’t pay attention to them since I am married.
However, recently she started to do new body move which is “touching top buttons and close shirt’ when she comes to my office even for like 1 minutes.
I would like to mention that:
– I don’t look/stare at her chest or body. But this move has been annoying me because it makes me feel like I am a pervert.
– I have known her for many years, but this starts to happen recently.
What do you think?
Martin says
Ok, i have met a woman, actualy she and her mother are patients of me( i am a physical therapist)
And we have been flirting for 8 month’s now. I am in the middle of settling my divorce. Well i have told this woman ( she’s50 years old) that i am very much into her, and she told me that she likes me also. Well the last weeks we have had dinner several times, i have spend hours talking to her ( and het handicapt mother) at there fireplace, i have counted 13 signals from your listvof 44 signals mentioned above. I know she wants to take things slow, i even said to her i wanted to kiss her about 2 weeks ago , she responded that she wasn’t ready yet.
So i am confused, she is sending me all those contradicting signals. What to do? Should i wait for her to make a move, or do i make a move but i don’t want to risk anything.
Will says
I submitted this one earlier but not sure it took so please forgive me if it did.
I recently started taking my daughter to therapy and she has this female therapist. I noticed some potential signs she may be into me or interested like I noticed she has messed with her neck and collar and has played with her slightly, or that she pulled her hair way back to the side to reveal her neck completely.I noticed that she gives me direct eye contact and will sometimes look in my direction and I feel like I have noticed some of the smile and facial expressions. Also my daughter made a comment of how I want to go to Japan one day and the therapist was like oh I want to go don’t forget me when you go…and I was like oh yeah you are more than welcome to come and when we got out my daughter was laughing and I’m like what? She was like I saw how she rated at you or made eye contact with you and she seemed interested in you and she giggled more and was like I got to pee so we went back inside and she was like you just wanted to see her again lol and I said what on earth have you that idea child lol? She was like uh huh Dad…but there was truth I was hoping to see her again…she even made a point to say where her favorite place on the beach is and shared a personal story bc we were talking about a Ferris wheel. So I don’t know I feel like there were signs but I didn’t want to make a fool of myself and assume anything.
Crax says
Hi it’s Crax again. So I like this girl, but don’t know what I should do. Long story short, this is one of the friends of the girl I asked out last year, and it didn’t work out. But last day of school, she walked up to me during the dance and asked me if I wanted to dance. I was an idiot and said no, because I saw her friend watching the exchange and got a little nervous. I didn’t know if this was just a joke, or if she really liked me. I wish that I was a little more open to her, and that we were friends so that I could talk to her more. Please help!
Momentum says
Hi. I have a crush on my bestfriend for nearly 3 months. Then there’s this thing that our adviser/teacher put her to my side, in other words my seatmate. So, we have been talking each other personally but not on our electronic devices. She laughs a lot when I share my experiences to her. But there came a time when I told her/talked about her “ex-crush”. She was very happy and smiling. That was last year. Now, in 2019, for the past two days, we were laughing each other and I saw a box full of crayons and I put my signature there. She told our teacher that I stole that box full of crayons and she laughs continually, so is my story about a short brownout that led me to almost call the 911 about my situation years ago. Lol. Her feet was on the left side of my chair yesterday, where the upper left corner of the chair would bump into her.
She wants to borrow my cap and I allowed her, but she returned it seconds later; yesterday too, she had to touch her stomach up to her hips when we were talking about injuries; there was a time we were talking, she was looking at me like she there was no people in our surrondings, like there was only the two of us. Last year, we had eye contacts and we open up to each other everytime I or she opens up a topic, until today we had the same thing.
My question is, is she into me? Or is she just showing her friendly atittude towards me? If she is into me, should I let my guard down?
Steve says
Hi I tried to place this message up earlier but it doesn’t seem to be appearing so sorry if it already has and I am message duplicating.
I have a crush on a woman I have known for about 6 months now we talk almost every day and she has displayed 17 of the signs especially mirroring, the back arch, playing with her hair and on occasion touching (brushing mainly). To try and confirm if the feelings are mutual, I tried pretending to ignore her for a little while and in response she moved herself into my line of sight and starting to play with her hair quite a bit. However this is only half the story at the same time she is often more concerned with her friends on her phone than me reason being is she doesn’t see them in person anymore and this is regular talking every 5-10 minutes average unless we are in a deep conversation. I do have a worry that she may just be manipulating me as I am her only friend in person where we are right now and that I may just be a second choice if no one else is available. One more thing to note is she is quite reserved to most people especially if she doesn’t know them. I would appreciate any thoughts as my current position does not allow me to see things very objectively, thank you.
Pat says
Item #s 8, 27, 39, and (I think) sometimes 44 are the general order of business whenever I bump into a girl at work (same building, different offices and departments) that I think I’m really starting to like. She does seem to laugh at all of my lame jokes and more than once she has given me that cute, over-the-shoulder glance-and-smile as she’s been walking away. Thing is, I’m terrible at reading signals and the girl in question sometimes can come off as a bit introverted and shy. But I think we enjoy each other’s company and some of the behaviors described her match her to a tee. I think it’s time I ask her to join me for a lunch break, and see what happens.
Pat says
There’s a girl at work with whom I think I have a somewhat flirty dynamic going on. We work in different departments, but whenever we cross paths, we always seem happy to see each other and talk to each other. She always laughs at my lame jokes, and there has been a number of times as we’ve parted ways that she’s given me an adorable, flirty-looking smile-and-glance over her shoulder. Other times, though, we may be in the same area and she doesn’t even seem to see me. I’m horrible at reading these things and even worse at trying to actually get to the bottom of them. To make matters worse, I just got divorced last year and have been out of the dating game for about 14 years. I can’t shake this feeling that we have a mutual attraction, but she could just be being friendly. Maybe I should just ask her if she’d like to do lunch someday, and take it from there…?
jake says
Hi Kate
thanks for your time reading this
there’s two girls lets call them amber and rose, who are friends and I believe are interested in me. the first one is amber.she gets out of her way to talk to me consistently even when I’m not around her.
I can be walking by her and she leaves her conversation with her friends to make a comment,talk to me or about me to her other friend(rose) out loud.
as if she want me to interact with her.
she find ways to get close to me even for couple seconds for example(Im holding my baby brother and there’s plenty other babies around me and she comes to me.)
If there’s a question that she not comfortable or shy asking she would ask her friends to ask me
(ex. one of her friends would say”This years BBQ party is going to be great and im going to buy this dress that looks amazing ;Everybody from school is going to be there will you, Jake? while she’s next to her)
at times when I’m cleaning she would always make remarks on
on how well I clean and make statements like “wow,you’re actually good at something and useful…wait I think you missed a spot, when I come back I expect you to be finished”.
When I sit close to her unintentionally I can see her looking my direction and when I look directly at her she quickly turn around)
there’s this time that I helped her dad with a chore and her dad was going to give me some snacks and she would get playfully upset that he’s giving it to me and not her(“I didn’t know you had crackers,why didn’t you give me one,dad”.)
at times when her dad would drops me off home and we would be alone in the car for few minute because her dads is either getting something at his house or getting some gas or talking to a friend; she would talk to me,makE fun of me again, or just asking rhetorical questions and when her dads gets back in the car she mute herself.
forgot to mention whenever she do those things she’s smiles a lot.
one incident was when we was grouped to do a discussion on a lesson one of our peers playfully said “that’s why you like Jake” while they were talking .right after he said that she would say (no I don’t like him, I don’t like that boy,that’s not even funny(everyone thought she was being too dramatic over a joke) but yet she still continue to act like I mentioned.
im almost CERTAIN she like me but need a girls point of view
the other one (rose) is very attractive, curves, smile , hair on point. She would do some of those things that amber would do like get out of her conservation to say hi very loud, or hi friend how are you , a lot. she would say it so loud and full with excitement that everyone would turn around and look at me which I HATE because Im introverted. she acts hyper around me and I observe that she doesn’t around her friends. If her friends are talking about something uncomfortable she would say (stop you making him uncomfortable, or I’m sorry about my friends etc) she would laugh when I laugh and smile a lot to this one is tricky because she likes to smile, and always happy around everyone , but I feel like shes kind of forcing a little extra unintentionally when around me. she at times want to play fight me. she would try to give me high fives before she leaves. every-time she come to class (If I’m near ) the first person she would say hi to is me, joyfully. her friends are rumoring that she has a bf which I know him and by observing when they’re together no one would guess that they’re a couple.they don’t act like it at ALL.
by the way I ignore both of them not on purpose just because im introverted but they still act the same. I think they must like me, because Personally if i was talking to someone who ignores me a lot , I would def stop and promptly.
any Advice or tips would would help.
C L says
I would have to say as a girl from my perspective, they both like you. They just have different ways of showing it. I am more like Rose. And actually for me and all the other girls that I talk too, when a guy ignores them something in them goes off and they know that he likes them. It’s just the way girls are wired, that they know a guy like them when he ignores. They think it’s hot or sexy and that the guy is trying to make them chase him to win his heart.
For me, when I talk guys listen. I would say that as a girl, for me what would help me the most would be for the guy that I like to sit down and talk to me about his feelings. Tell me the truth in gentleness and get to know me over time as a friend. I want him to know about me, the real me, not the me when we are with friends. So my advice to you is to sit down with both of them SEPERATELY AND AT DIFFERENT TIMES and talk to them about it. Ask them how they really feel. Then tell them how you feel. I know for me what really helps is when a guy says “I really do love or like you, but right now I am not ready for that kind of relationship with you or anyone for that matter. I need to focus on some (fill in the blank) areas of my life that are really important for us down the round. Like getting an education so I can get a job and buy a house to be able to provide for you and support you in the best way I can. That said, I do want to get to know you and would like to enter into an emotional/spiritual intimacy with you, if this is okay with you.” And I wouldn’t have any intimate physical relationships with them at that point. IF things don’t work it only makes the girl feel insecure. Most of the time if you say what I just wrote, girls tend to agree and realize that they have the same if not similar things that they need to d as well.
Sorry, this is so long and I hope all my rambling has helped you somehow!
Moses says
I met a girl in church on the very first day I went to the church. My eyes and hers met. I stared at her for like 2 seconds and removed my eyes. I go to collect communion and I was in a queue, she entered my front. The next Sunday, this continued again. Another Sunday came, it also continued and I had interest in the girl.
The next Sunday I was in church, she sat down beside me. I tried talking to her but couldn’t. Why… I don’t know. She did some body signs, like touching me or hitting me by mistake. I didn’t even talk to her. The next Sunday, she passed where I was sitting, she decided to go to the front which is not her normal place when she comes because she always sits at the back, not at the very last end. I know I really messed up. How do I go about it
Summer says
Oh oh I’ve got somethin! I met this guy from my church. Super cute. And tall. About 5 years older than me. Super funny. I hope to catch his interest with some of these tips to show I like him. Any advice?
C L says
Okay, I am a female; but thought I should read this article to make sure I know what to do. But I need help. I went to a friend’s party yesterday and her brother was there. He really liked me and I really liked him last year. Then this stuff with my liking other guys happened and I feel really bad. I sat at the table yesterday and I really did feel love for him; but then I felt really guilty. The whole entire time that he was talking to other people, he keep looking at me every chance he got and he commented on something that I said at one point. Then when I was sitting at the table with him and a few friends and his younger brother he couldn’t keep his eyes off me. I really wanted to talk to him, but with other people there it was hard. He would lean in close when I was talking and would make eye contact and stay off his phone. It was as if we both wanted to talk to each other, but were uncomfortable to do so with all the mixed company. Any ways, I came home and when I went to bed, I couldn’t stop thinking about him. All day I have been thinking about him.Recently, I wrote him a letter and I told him that I love him. I want to know for a fact that he likes me and not me thinking that he likes me. Please let me know.
Jason says
He probably likes you
jr says
so theres a girl at my school i have a crush on her she stares at my all the time when am talking to her she faces me an after school she looks down to where she always know i will be some times she cross her arms an legs she compliments me but she use it in a sentence.please i need help
R says
I have a office collegue, who sits beside me. We talk often but just casually. When talking she pays attention and extends on the topic we speak. The Gud mornings mostly are accompanied by good lengthy eye contact. Her body slight tilted towards me as i speak over the cubicle while she is sitting at hers. What confuses me is when we happen to walk through the narrow tight spaces where only one person can pass through while the other gives way, she WOULD NEVER EVER give way to me even if it meant to almost collide head on. Sometimes fedup i too become adamant and dont budge, just stay put in the middle, only then she slides herself through the little space she gets. While confronted other times of the day she will either drop her eyes or give a formal smile but mostly will drop eye contact. She once moved head on towards me too close and suddenly deflected to a cubicle on my left side as we were heading towards each other. What could all this mean
Bagz says
I Love This Girl And I’ve Told Her Already. She Likes Spending Time With Me, But She Says She Doesn’t Love Me. She Wants Us To Be Just Friends. What Should I Do?
Jason says
she knows that she likes you she just don’t want to tell you
Igo says
okay, i feel sorry for whatever sucker actually believes that leg crossing thing. I grew up being taught that crossing your legs was ladylike and you should never open your legs because… you know. Plus, if a woman is itchy, it’s probably the clothes she’s wearing!! The material we’re forced to wear these days is so uncomfortable.
Arjun says
Once a girl was attracted towards me.. at that time I didn’t care.. now I want that girl to attract to me.. is there any chance or scope that she will attract to me….?
Jay Sur, India says
Thanks for the 44 visible signs that you have put up in your article. Psychologically, I feel, each of your point is absolutely correct. We humans are very curious and different in nature,, differing from each other. The permutations and combinations do factor in when we weigh-in each individual.
None of the individual can possess all the 44 points yet, if you find even 5 – 10 points matching the criteria, I will say, it works. And it works magically.
Well depicted and lovely compilation.
Jassi says
Hi there
I’m boy I’m 22 years old there is one woman work with me. She is 34 years olds and there are so many things which are matched with this article. She notice me all the time and me too but whenever I tried to talk with her she feel shy. But she notice my every single moment. Sometime she watch me so seductively. I just feel nervous to tell her about my feelings. Can you suggest me what I need to do. I really love her
Jason says
ask her out dude
Hi says
There is this girl in my class. I like her but I don’t know if she likes me.
One day, we had gym and she just yelled across the room to encourage me. This has happened to me a few times. She also looks behind her shoulder and talks to me.
Does she like me?
Dave Hedgehog says
“If a girl becomes turned on when she is sitting down, she might let her foot fall off and onto the floor.”
Her foot falling off ????
I will look out for that one for sure, that’s and obvious one for beginners.
Jason says
there’s this girl keeps on looking at me in the same place and when i look at her she turns away
Jason says
There’s this girl who stair’s at me and when I look at her she looks away what should do
Morgan says
Why does my boss love to touch me? Besides, she is very curious about my love life. Whenever I ask to leave early, she always insinuates that I went to spend the afternoon with some woman, is this behavior normal? Last friday she hugged me around the waist and she stood there with her head on my shoulder. The same day I went to her office and I touched her neck and she said “oh it’s so good”, then I touched her ear and she was enjoying it and after a few seconds she jumped in her chair. Later I went to say goodbye to her and gave her a kiss on the neck and she smiled and said to stop and that I was a fool. What did she mean by that? Is she making herself difficult? Did I get it all wrong? Or just playin me? I’m confused. Today she already came to gently caress my neck. From what I see she doesn’t have this behavior with anyone else
She drives me crazy
Nishi says
Hi, Kate, There’s this girl who stair’s at me and when I look at her she looks away what should do? And sometimes I give a casual smile so she does and plays with her hair. I like her, please help