Tired of one night stands and looking for something more substantial in your life? It can be hard to switch from ‘player’ mode to ‘relationship material’ mode, but it is essential to do if you want to get a girlfriend.
Women have great radars and can tell when you are just trying to pick them up for sex or when you have something more on your mind (even if they don’t always acknowledge it).
If a good woman who knows what she wants senses that you are just trying to get in her pants, then you can forget about the whole girlfriend thing with her. She will constantly be wondering what your real intention is and that will make you less attractive in her eyes.
How To Get A Girlfriend Instead Of A One Night Stand
So, here are some tips to help you change up the way you appear to women.
1. Look In The Right Places
A potential girlfriend could be a crowded bar among all the drunk girls, but it is doubtful. It is much more likely that a potential girlfriend will be in a place that interests you in a non-party level. For instance, if you love dogs, then a potential girlfriend may be at the dog park.
When you approach women in a grown up setting, they feel better about your intentions than when you approach them at a setting where inhibitions are often thrown out the window.
2. Take The Right Kind Of Selfies
It is amazing that selfies can have a huge influence over what kind of women are attracted to you, but they can. If you are going to take selfies, and post them to the Internet or show other people the pictures, then you have to be aware of what your selfies are saying about you.
For instance, studies have shown that taking too many selfies can make you appear narcissistic and alienate you from the people who have to view them on a regular basis. Therefore, if a girl you like ‘friends’ you on Facebook, and she sees a ton of selfies in very weird places (think in front of the mirror!) then she may just unfriend you and disappear from your life.
Selfies can also be a good thing though. You can choose the background, the pose, and the things you want to include in your picture, which can make the perfect picture for attracting women. Think on top of a mountain with a beautiful sunset and your happy face, or surrounded by loving family…or something like that.
Just make sure you are not doing the selfie for ‘social acceptance’ reasons or to try to make yourself look too good to be true and you should be fine.
3. Talk Differently
If you want to get a girlfriend, you are going to have to appear to be good boyfriend material. That means you should be:
- supportive
- fun
- intelligent
- goal orientated
- kind
- caring
And to portray those things, you have to talk differently. Trust me, the way a man talks while looking for a one night stand is completely different than the way a man talks while looking for a girlfriend.
The power of your words should not be underestimated. They send messages about who you are and what kind of man you will be, and choosing your words and the way you speak carefully will make the difference between getting a girlfriend and getting no girlfriend.
There Is A Difference Between A Man Who Is One Night Stand Material And Boyfriend Material
If you have a system in place to get women for a one night stand, and you plan to use it to get women into your life for a long term relationship, stop right now and re-read the above tips. It won’t work.
Women interested in more than a few nights will read the messages you are sending off (where you pick them up, the way you portray yourself (selfies), and the way you talk to them and about yourself) to determine what kind of guy you are and whether or not you are right for them.
Bottom line: If you want to land the woman, be a man who they can see themselves with for a long time to come.
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