When it comes to relationships, nothing is certain. If you’re hoping that getting pregnant to keep a man, you’re in for a disappointment. In most cases, getting pregnant won’t change a thing – and it may even push him away.
Getting Pregnant to Keep a Man Won’t Work
There are a few reasons why this strategy usually doesn’t work. First of all, it can be very difficult to maintain a relationship when there is an infant involved. It’s challenging enough when both parents are dedicated to the relationship and are able to put in the effort; adding a baby into the mix often proves too much for couples who are already struggling.
In addition, pregnancy can sometimes awaken dormant feelings of resentment anger in a partner. When faced with the possibility of becoming a parent, some guys realize they don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. They feel trapped and resentful at having to take responsibility for your mistakes.
Finally, there’s the fact that having a baby changes everything. Once you’re a mom, your priorities change and your relationship with your boyfriend may no longer be the most important thing in your life. If he can’t handle that shift, he may decide to end the relationship altogether.
So if you’re thinking about getting pregnant in order to hold on to your boyfriend, think again. It’s likely to backfire and end up costing you both more than you bargained for. There are much better ways to deal with relationship troubles – don’t let pregnancy become your solution.
What you should do instead is to have a conversation with your boyfriend about how to improve your relationship. This can include talking about what each of you needs from the other person, and what you want out of life in general.
It’s also important to talk about any unresolved problems or issues that may be undermining your efforts at reconciliation. Use this time to air all the dirty laundry so you both know where things stand. Then, hopefully, you can find common ground and a way forward that works for both of you.
If your boyfriend isn’t interested in compromising or working things out, then it might be time to move on. But remember that there are plenty of other guys out there who will be happy to be a part of your life – and your child’s life – as a committed and loving father.
Think about why you are so desperate to hold on to your boyfriend that you’re willing to bring a child into the world not knowing if he’ll stick around. Consider whether your relationship is really worth the risk to you and your future baby’s happiness.
Once you’ve thought through the consequences, only then should you make a decision about whether to proceed with this pregnancy or not. If you’re still thinking of having a baby simply to hold on to your boyfriend, then it might be time for some serious soul-searching first.
So instead of using getting pregnant as a solution, think about what it could mean if he leaves after learning that you are expecting his child? Single motherhood may sound romantic in Hollywood movies, but there are very few genuine happy endings in real life. Having a child without being married can also affect your job prospects and financial stability. All of these are important factors to consider before making a life-changing decision.
There are better ways to deal with relationship troubles than by getting pregnant – so think very carefully before you take this step. If you’re not sure that your relationship is worth saving, then it may be time to end things and move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, and you deserve to find someone who will love and cherish you – and your child – for the long haul.
If you need help making this decision, please consider talking to a professional counselor or therapist. They can provide impartial advice and support as you work through this difficult time.
Also forcing someone to marry you because you secretly stopped using contraceptives to get pregnant is a pretty sketchy idea, so please don’t do that.
And for any dads-to-be reading this article, when your partner tells you she is pregnant remember your life won’t be over if you leave her either. You can still be in your baby’s life, and you have the potential to be a great dad. So don’t feel like you have to stay in a relationship that’s not good for you – there are plenty of other women out there who would love to be with you, and who would make amazing mothers for your child.
Now if you accidentally got pregnant and you’re not ready to have a child or your relationship is on the rocks, don’t panic. There are still options for you, and you can get through this. Just take some time to think things through carefully, and make the best decision for you and your baby.
Signs a woman wants to trap a man with a baby:
1. She suddenly stops taking birth control pills without telling him.
2. She starts wearing baggy clothes to hide her pregnancy bump.
3. She becomes overly attached to the man and starts talking about marriage and children prematurely.
4. She constantly asks him for money or starts borrowing from him without any intention of returning the money.
5. She doesn’t want him to go out with his friends or meet other women.
6. She accuses him of being unfaithful or criticizes him for not being more involved in the pregnancy or child-rearing process.
7. She tries to isolate him from his family and friends.
8. She pressures him to move in with her before he’s ready.
9. She tries to get him to marry her by threatening to have an abortion.
10. She deliberately gets pregnant even though she knows the man doesn’t want children.
11. She has lame excuses for going off birth control.
12. She has been seducing you.
13. She constantly says “She can’t get pregnant today because of her cycle”
14. She pretends to be pregnant.
15. She has a conveniently timed miscarriage.
If you’re seeing any of these warning signs, it’s important to be aware that the woman might be trying to trap you into a relationship or fatherhood. If you have any suspicions, talk to your friends or family members about what’s going on – they may be able to offer some helpful advice and support. And if you’re feeling really stuck, you can always seek professional help from a counselor or therapist. They can help you navigate this difficult situation and make the best decision for yourself and your child.
