There are some habits that are used by many men to approach women – and used, and used, and…well, you get the point. Breaking these habits will not only increase your success with women, but it will feel better and more natural, which should increase your confidence.
Using Old Pick Up Lines
Don’t use shitty, over-used pick up lines like “Did you fall from heaven?…” It does not make you look cute. It may work once in a while, but most of the time women will find it annoying and, worse, effortless.
Pick up lines, in my books, should be directed towards the moment, such as approaching a woman after she finishes singing at a bar and saying, “You are an awesome karaoke singer!” or approaching a woman after a conflict and saying, “I loved the way you handled that situation.”
You can also do something that she has never seen before; something that takes a little effort. Check out the video below for something that would work almost every time. I’m not sure how he does it, but if you can get a hold of your target woman’s friend, and ask for her number, AND get her to be quiet about it, then this will work beautifully!
Approaching With A Plan In Mind
First, you will say something about her hair, then you will ask her how her day was, then you will smile and nod accordingly, then you will…FAIL!
Don’t approach women with a built-in plan that you got from some pick up guru. Not every woman will react the same to your approach and, furthermore, every woman has her own interests and likes – so a strict plan will not work for everyone.
It is better to have a few things in mind to talk about, so you are not left speechless, but still approach a woman with improv in mind; in other words, don’t prepare too much. When you can go with the flow, you are much more likely to impress a woman and get the number.
Improv takes confidence and an understanding of women, so this isn’t going to be easy for every guy. But the more you do it, the better you chances will be at getting the women you want.
Trying To Be Really, Really Cool
You want to look confident, right? But, if you approach a woman and pretend like you are totally relaxed and cool with the situation, when you are not, then she is going to get mixed messages between your words and your actions.
Trust me, you can’t hide how you are feeling when she can see you. Your body language will give her a lot of insight about how you really feel. Many times men overcompensate and their body language sends the message that they are jerks when they are just trying to portray a cool image. If you get labeled as a jerk, you are going to have a real hard time picking up any woman.
Therefore, if you are nervous, don’t try to act cool. Just be confident enough in yourself to approach her and see what happens, and she will respond much better to you than if you pretend to be cool.