Many men and women feel as though they can’t be happy without someone else in their lives. I used to be like this. In fact, one time I was so miserable that I actually called up an ex (who was a huge douche bag) just so I would ‘be happy’.
I now know that happiness doesn’t come because someone else is in your life. If that were the case, then every guy you know who is dating someone or married would be happy.
Is every guy you know in a relationship happy?
Not likely.
Happiness doesn’t come from a woman. Happiness comes from yourself. A woman can complement your happiness, but she can’t make you happy.
How To Be Happy Without A Woman
1. Stop Focusing On Not Having A Woman!
The more you focus on the fact that you do not have a woman in your life, the more sad you will be about it. Most men will not jump for joy knowing that they do not have someone to cuddle with, share life with, and have sex with. (Some men may, but most men won’t.)
If you put your focus on the fact that you are lacking something, you will, without a doubt, feel as though you are lacking something. And when you feel as though you are lacking something, you will NOT be happy.
Start talking to yourself differently and put your focus on what you do have and how it adds value to your life. For instance:
- I have a home that keeps me warm at night
- I have a car that gets me where I want to go
- I have a bus pass that helps me save the environment and get to where I want to go
- I have friends to laugh with and support me
- I have family who loves me unconditionally
It’s okay to desire a dream woman in your life, just don’t make the lack of a woman in your life become your focus.
2. Work On Growth In Yourself
I am a HUGE advocate for continuous personal growth. Why? Because it makes you happier.
The more you learn about yourself, the more confident and comfortable you will be in your own skin.
The more you learn about yourself, the more you will give off a sense of confidence that attracts women.
In short, growing every single day makes you happier and makes you a catch, and it will take your attention away from the thought ‘I can’t be happy without a woman!’ Instead, you will naturally feel happy every day.
Here’s my simple, simple suggestion:
- Write down some areas of your life that you would like to grow in. For instance, if you want to learn more about women, then write that down.
- Start working on those areas that you want to grow in. Answer those questions. Fill in the blanks. Expand your mind. Discover what you enjoy and what you hate. Become the YOU that makes you happy, fulfilled, and excited to get out of bed in the morning.
If you do that, you will not have time to focus on not having a woman in your life.
3. Remember You Are Not Going To Be Permanently Without A Woman
Just because you are without a woman now (or up until now) it doesn’t mean that you will permanently not have a woman in your life. It just means you haven’t found the right one or developed the right skills to attract women and keep them.
There is a woman out there for you, I guarantee it. Once you remove your focus off your lack of women, and start focusing on your life and your happiness, your desire for a woman will naturally help you attract one into your life and you will know it when the time comes.
