When you have a good girlfriend, it inspires you to step up your game. You want to become a better man. She makes you want to give her the world. When you find a woman you love, you start to wonder how to be a better boyfriend. We can help.
Being a good boyfriend isn’t hard. But it does require you to be able to put someone else first. You may have to change habits that you’ve been doing since you started dating. But these changes will be for the better.
You will be able to achieve more in your life than you ever could have imagined possible. A good woman will help you reach your goals and support you as you work to make your dreams come true. Believe me when I say that the love of a good woman can affect every aspect of your life.
But to keep a good woman, you have to be a great boyfriend. Follow our helpful tips to improve how well you act like a boyfriend. It could be the difference between having a girlfriend that adores you or a girlfriend who doesn’t stick around.
Know Your Woman
The number one complaint that women have about their relationships is that their partner doesn’t know anything about them. Guys, trust me on this. If you want to be the best boyfriend in the world, you must know your girlfriend inside and out.
It’s easy to know her favorite color or her favorite coffee. You can find this kind of information on social media. I’m talking about the real stuff. How did she get that scar on her nose? What are her goals in life? Her biggest fear?
If you want to be a great boyfriend, you’ll know your female better than anybody. And you’ll love every part of her, good and bad. You accept that she’s not perfect. You like that she doesn’t even try to be. When your girlfriend can be her weird, real self in front of you, that’s when you know she thinks you’re the best boyfriend ever.
Love Her in a Million Ways
Every day, you’re finding new things to love about your special lady. You never get tired of being with her because it’s something different every time. Life is never boring with her, even when you’re doing something as routine as watching your favorite weekly television show.
A great boyfriend will always find ways to show his girl how much she means to him. Whether you’re in the habit of sending sweet text messages explaining what new thing you love about her or serving her breakfast in bed, doing things to make her smile makes you happy.
If you want to knock her socks off, change it up. Never say or do the same things, unless it’s a particular tradition as saying “always and forever” after “I love you” or “Good night. Sleep tight. I love you. Sweet dreams,” before bed every night. She’s special, so she deserves a unique effort.
Be Sweet to Her
If you want to be a good boyfriend, you have to know how to make your girlfriend smile. You have to understand how to be sweet. Maybe you’re already a romantic that has experience wooing a woman. Or perhaps you haven’t met a girl who inspires you to be a Casa Nova until now. It doesn’t matter.
All that matters is that you’re willing to put in the effort. Women aren’t as difficult as men make them out to be – most of the time. It doesn’t take diamonds and roses to make a girl smile. Send her a sweet text telling her how beautiful she is. But make it specific like you love the way her smile lights up the room. Define what you think is so attractive about her.
Girls love knowing they’re on your mind when you’re not together. If you want to be a great boyfriend, send her random messages to let her know you’re thinking of her. When you tell your girlfriend that you miss her without her having to pester you for attention, it’ll make her feel like a queen.
A Few Sweet Things to Try
I couldn’t tell you to do sweet things and then expect you to come up with ideas all on your own. If you’re reading a guide on how to be a better boyfriend, you’re looking for detailed instructions. Here are a few things you can do to be sweet to your girlfriend. Personalize these to suit your tastes and your girlfriend’s personalities.
- Give her a back massage.
- Run her a hot bubble bath.
- Pour her a glass of wine when she gets off work.
- Cook her dinner.
- Send her good morning messages every day.
- Tell her she’s beautiful.
- Remind her how lucky you know you are for having her.
Be a Great Listener
Fellas, I can’t express this enough. Women love it when a man listens to them. If you ask a woman what’s her partner’s biggest flaw, a majority of them will answer that their man doesn’t listen. Learn from the mistakes of your gender. If you want to be considered a great boyfriend, you have to learn how to be attentive.
It’s not a secret that women like to talk – a lot. Sometimes we never know when to shut up. But a good boyfriend won’t care how long his woman rambles. He’ll let her get everything off her chest and offer constructive comments when it seems appropriate.
It might make you feel better to know that most of the time, we’re not expecting you to have the answers to our problems. We want to express our frustrations without being judged. It’s like talking to a therapist, except it’s free and we usually feel comfortable enough to admit things that we wouldn’t to a stranger.
If you want to wow your girlfriend, show interest in her life. Ask her how her day went instead of waiting for her to bring the topic up. Pour her a glass of wine or rub her feet or shoulders while she’s talking. Stay engaged in the conversation.
If she’s dealing with a complicated situation, offer constructive advice on how to approach the problem. Even if she doesn’t agree with the opinion, it might help her come up with an alternate solution she hadn’t considered before.
Support her in whatever decision she makes. Far too often, we care more about doing what society deems as appropriate rather than what makes us happy. If she decides to chase her dream of being a writer, a good boyfriend will be her number one fan.
Keep the Excitement Alive
One big problem that a lot of men make once they get the woman of their dreams is that they quit trying to impress her. Sorry fellas, but relationships don’t work like that. If you want to be a great boyfriend, you have to put the same effort into keeping her that you put into winning her.
A good boyfriend is continuously finding ways to surprise his girlfriend. I’m not saying you have to go out and buy her an expensive gift every few weeks. Keep it simple. Surprise her with a new restaurant she hasn’t tried or a movie she’s been wanting to see.
Bring her flowers you picked off the side of the road – wildflowers are more significant than store-bought. They show more effort. Dish up breakfast in bed or even just a cup of coffee on a chilly morning. Or you could whisk her away for a weekend trip – it could just be somewhere an hour away.
Cook for Her
A man that can cook instantly has a higher sex appeal than a man who’s a total klutz in the kitchen. It is in our DNA as females to pick a man that gives us the best odds of survival. We want a man that shows he can take care of us better than anyone else; even if we prefer taking care of ourselves.
Women love it when they don’t have to be the only one who does things. She’ll appreciate getting to sit back and relax while you prepare dinner. It’ll even make her feel pretty special that you’re willing to make an effort.
If you want to win a boyfriend of the year award, surprise her with her favorite meal. A good boyfriend knows all the small details about his lady love, including her top three foods. If you haven’t learned these things yet, try to find out through her friends or a random inquiry before you just come out and ask. She’d appreciate the effort more if it’s a surprise.
Take Care of Her
When you value something, you do everything you can to take good care of it so you’ll have it for a long time. For example, you keep your car washed and waxed. You park in the garage, so it’s protected from the elements. You do regular maintenance to keep it running correctly.
You should treat your girlfriend in the same way. Take care of her. Make sure that she’s taking the time to eat every day. Remind her to drink water instead of just coffee while she’s working. Rub her feet or convince her to soak in a hot bath after she gets home.
Straighten up the house so she can relax after work. If she’s stuck at the office late, bring her dinner and talk her into taking a short walk to stretch her legs and get some fresh air. The break can rejuvenate her enough to get through the rest of her shift. A good boyfriend makes sure that his girlfriend is feeling alright at all times.
I might disappoint some of you, but most women like affection. They enjoy cuddling and spooning and holding hands. A good boyfriend does his best to give his girl all the love and attention she desires.
Always kiss her hello and goodbye. Surprise her with random hugs from behind. Kiss her neck, her cheek, her forehead, her eyelids. The more non-sexual the kiss, the sweeter she’ll think it is. Find ways always to be touching her.
PDA – public displays of affection – isn’t something that everyone is into so you’ll have to test the waters to see what works. But most people are open to holding hands in public. When she’s walking in front of you, put your hand at her waist to guide her. It also keeps her nearby in case you need to protect her.
Be Her Warrior
Women are stronger than men give them credit to be. We’re Amazon queens that can overcome any obstacle that comes along. But that doesn’t mean we don’t like to have a knight in shining armor waiting nearby should we need backup.
A good boyfriend protects his woman. If you’re on the sidewalk, she should be on the inside, so you’re closer to traffic. You never let her go anywhere on her own at night. If you’re leaving the house, you make sure the door is locked before you go.
Your girl should always know that you have her back. A good boyfriend stands up for his chick against his friends, his family, and against society. If you’re worthy of being called good boyfriend material, your loyalty should never come into question.
Be Her Happy Place
You should be your girlfriend’s haven from all the turmoil in her life. She should feel safe with you. Not just physically, but she should be able to come to you for anything. If she’s having drama at work, she knows you’ll let her moan and complain until she feels better.
If your girl is feeling sad, you know how to cheer her up. If she’s stressed, you know what she needs to make her relax. A good boyfriend is a problem solver. He can see what’s going on behind the scenes (i.e. what your girl’s going through that she may not be saying), and you’ll know what she needs to make things right again.
In a healthy relationship, there won’t be any fighting or any secrets. Rather than add to her problems, a good man will know how to help her come up with ways to fix them. If they can’t be fixed, you’ll at least know how to distract her for a while so she can pretend it doesn’t exist. Sometimes a short break can make you see things in a new light.
Embrace Your Weirdness
If you’re serious about becoming a better boyfriend than you are now, it has to start with self-acceptance. You may try and hide it, but you’re a weirdo. And that’s okay. If you find the right girlfriend, she’ll be weird too.
When you truly love someone, you don’t feel self-conscious. You can show the oddball sides of your personality that you’ve always kept hidden from sight. Your partner won’t run in fear. Your strange quirks will probably make your girlfriend love you even more.
A girl wants a man that is comfortable being himself. She doesn’t want the calm, collected persona that you present to the world. She wants to know that you trust her enough to show your true self. You might be surprised to learn she’s weird in some of the same ways. Let your freak flags fly together.
If you’ve got a good girl, you want to make sure she knows that you consider yourself one lucky SOB. Find ways to show appreciation for the small things she does that she doesn’t have to. Maybe she makes your lunch for you before you go to work. Or she cooks your dinner every night, even though she works as late as you.
You could be one of the lucky guys who have a girlfriend who is generous enough to suffer through three hours of anime so that you can check out the new recommended series on Netflix. Or she recommends your favorite restaurant for date night.
A good woman will make a lot of effort to do stuff for you. If you want to be a great boyfriend, you should always acknowledge her efforts and show your appreciation. Even something as simple as a thank you can go a long way. But if she’s thoughtful, a great way to impress her is to match her efforts.
A relationship should be about giving and taking. Neither of you should be getting your way more than the other. It shouldn’t always be about her, and it shouldn’t always be about you. The perfect relationship is when you have two people who are willing to do selfless things for their partner rather than want to get their way.
But it doesn’t mean you should change who you are to make someone happy. Don’t become a vegan just because your girl suddenly decided she doesn’t want to eat yummy meat anymore. Look for ways to compromise.
If your girlfriend is a fan of the opera, buy tickets to a show, even if you’ll be miserable. Get a fru-fru teacup pup instead of a giant pitbull, just because she wants a small dog. Take her small compact to the movies because she doesn’t want to mess her hair up riding on the back of your bike. A good boyfriend finds ways to make both of you happy.
Combine Your Lives
When you get into a relationship with someone, your lives become entangled together. You may still do things alone, but most of the time, you’re together. If your girl has a family event she has to attend, a good boyfriend accompanies her – even if you don’t necessarily like her parents.
How your girlfriend’s friends feel about you is crucial. You want them to like you. It never hurts to have an inside man feeding you the scoop when you need it about what would be a good gift idea or the perfect surprise getaway. A good boyfriend makes allies, not enemies.
You should also make sure that your girlfriend has met your parents and your friends too. A serious relationship means that you have interwoven your lives together. Maybe the two of you can host Thanksgiving jointly and invite both your families and friends for one big get together. Holidays are always more fun with a big group of people.
Talk About the Future
When you find the girl of your dreams, you’ll probably start envisioning your future. Don’t keep these thoughts to yourself. Talk about what you’ll think life will be like later on. See if you’re on the same page. It’s good to know if you both want the same things in life.
It wouldn’t do any good for you to start thinking of settling down and having a family if she’s got it in her mind to move abroad and never have kids. A good boyfriend thinks of the future. When you talk about future possibilities, you’re telling your girlfriend that you’re serious about your relationship.
If your girlfriend has doubts about your willingness to commit, discussing your life five years from now can reassure her that you plan to stick around. It’s vital that your future queen knows you plan to be by her side years from now. If she doesn’t believe you’re sticking around, she may never get as committed as you hope she will.
Be A Good Man
Each of these tips can help you become a better boyfriend, but before you can do that, you have to make sure you’re a good man. Women want a man who knows how to take care of themselves and be mature. We’re not looking for a guy who needs a momma.
Pick up after yourself instead of letting your girlfriend be your maid. Have good hygiene and actually care about what you’re wearing rather than just throwing on the first thing you can find. Have dreams and morals. Stand up for your beliefs. Show compassion and love.
To be the best boyfriend, you first have to be the best you possible. Never stop working on self-growth. Never give up on your dreams. And never forget to remind your girlfriend how much she means to you. Life is too short to go through it alone.