No doubt it’s tough to move on from any relationship, particularly if you are the one that still longs for your partner. Accept the fact it’s going to be hard but also understand you will be just fine when all is said and done.
It takes time to work through your feelings in a broken relationship and you need to give yourself permission to go through the stages of hurt and heartache before you are healed and ready to move forward with a smile.
Note – The worst thing you can do is sit at home and wonder what’s going on with your ex and the new girl; that’s enough to drive you crazy. Keep yourself busy, take up a new hobby, whatever to get yourself out of the house and engaged socially.
This doesn’t mean you are ready to run out and grab a guy, but you don’t deserve to wallow in misery either.
How To Cope When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend
Pointer One – Don’t be afraid to express exactly what you are feeling.
This doesn’t mean you need to have a screaming session from the highest building you can find. What it mean is you shouldn’t be afraid to let your grief out in a reasonable manner.
If you need to cry you should.
If you want to vent on a friend go for it.
Maybe you want to hook up with your best friend for a girls night out?
Just take action to keep on moving and get out there into the world so you have the chance to move on.
If you try and hide your feelings, you are just hurting yourself and your loved ones.
You deserve, and the only way to find that love you deserve is to get out there and just do it, no matter how much it hurts right now. Guaranteed it will get easier with time.
Pointer Two – It’s okay if your ex is faster out of the starting gates when it comes to moving on.
This is NOT a competition and you need to take care of your best interests right now. It may take you 2-3 months or more to move on when your ex seems to think he’s ready after a week.
It really doesn’t matter because he isn’t your concern, so it’s high time you got him out of your brain.
Newsflash – When two people break up, they have the right to date other people. You are going to have to stick that in your pipe and smoke it whether you like it or not.
Pointer Three – This just isn’t a race so don’t treat it like one.
It’s natural to want to be the first one to prove you’ve moved on after a breakup. You want to be the one that’s “happy” first.
Truth be told, you can’t make yourself heal faster or slower. Your pace will be your pace and essentially you’re stuck with it.
Take your focus off being the first one to move on and you will open the door to getting over the breakup and actually moving on for real.
Find out what makes you happy and take action to get yourself there.
Pointer Four – Make sure the flaws your ex possesses are center stage.
It’s important to keep the door shut and to help with this, you should be thinking of the flaws your ex has.
Don’t forget, there are reasons you and your ex broke up.
So when your mind wanders to who your ex is with now, think about the things that didn’t sit well with you and that might help. Mind over matter. Do what you need to in order to completely let go of him and move on with a smile.
Maybe take light of the fact those issues you didn’t like are now someone else’s problem.
Pointer Five – Never ever compare yourself to the new girl if you know anything about her.
Fact is, this new girl is none of your concern. Which means she shouldn’t even be in your brain at all.
Even if you try and step ahead of the crowd and prove to your ex that you are “better” than her, chances are he’s not going to get back with you anyway.
Save yourself the trouble no matter how much it hurts. You deserve to be first, because second place just sucks.
Pointer Six – Stay clear of the places he frequents.
This one is just asking for trouble. You will gain nothing if you head to the places you used to hang out with your ex and find him with his new love there.
All that’s going to do is get you upset and put a visual in your brain. Just don’t go there. Time for you to take action to move on for real.
Pointer Seven – Halt with the stalker status online please.
For sure the Internet has made it much harder to get over someone because it’s just too easy to follow your ex.
All of a sudden if you are following their social media accounts, you might see a happy pic of your ex with his new girl and that’s not productive, it’s only going to hurt you.
Stop the online following and you heal to move on much faster.
Pointer Eight – Pay attention and make sure you concentrate on your life.
When you and your ex were officially done,, you gave up the right to care about him. That’s the truth straight up.
Your bond is done, which means you need to find a way to put your time into a hobby or anything other than thinking about your ex and his life right now.
That’s not productive and it’s only going to hurt you.
When you focus on what you need to do in order to better yourself, you are ten steps ahead already.
Time to believe in yourself.
Pointers Your Ex Is Seriously Over You And You Need To Move On
Sure, it’s totally scary when you end a relationship. And even scarier when you think your man is totally ready to move on.
You need to face reality and move forward when you know for sure your ex is done with you. This can get a little tricky and you will have to do some investigative work but you can use these signs to figure out once and for all it’s time for you to move on, without your ex.
Biggest Signal One – He’s Got Another Girl Fast
This is one of the biggest signs you will get. When a guy is over his ex, he’s going to have another girl fairly quickly. His reasons really don’t matter and it’s not for you to read between the lines.
This strong signal tells you straight up the hurtful way that the two of you are finished. Leave it at that please.
Biggest Signal Two – He Turns Ultra Rude When You Talk
In the best case scenario, it’s tough to be civil with your ex when you talk because emotions are on red alert and you are both hurting. Doesn’t matter who did the official breaking up because people don’t go into a relationship hoping it doesn’t work out.
If your ex happens to be rude, angry or just plain mean whenever you talk, it means that he has healed enough to know what he wants and that is not you.
As much as that hurts, you need to take it for what it’s worth and find your new path to move forward positively.
Walk away and don’t look back please if you know what’s best for your heart.
Biggest Signal Three – He’s Insistent On Getting All His Stuff Back
When a man asks for his stuff back, he’s trying to make it clear he is done with the relationship and ready to move on. When he has his stuff back, he removes the thoughts of you out of his mind.
He wants you out of his brain and life for good. A ginormous signal he’s over you and onto the next he goes.
Biggest Signal Four – The Whole World Knows Via Social Media That You Are Done
When a guy blocks you or unfriends you from social media, it means he just doesn’t want to think about you in any capacity. Obviously that makes him feel bad or sad or he wouldn’t mind it.
It really is harder to get over someone when you can see what they are up to every single day. A social media disconnect is a solid step forward in making sure you know it’s time to go your separate ways.
Biggest Signal Five – All Contact Ends
Whether it’s texting, emailing or online chatting, if a guy completely stops contacting you, it means he is done and ready to move on without you.
The longer you have no contact, the less likely you are ever going to get back together in the future.
If he doesn’t want to see or talk to you on any level, then you need to take that as a strong hint he’s over you and moving on. Just let him go please.
Biggest Signal Six – He Has Voiced That He Has No Feelings For You
This one really depends on the time you spend together in your relationship and the length of time that’s passed since you called it quits.
FACT – When a guy tells you to your face that he is finished and has no feelings for you, well, you better take that as a clear-cut signal it is seriously time for you to get him out of your head and life and move on.
Why would he tell you he doesn’t have any feelings at all for you if he still does?
Just doesn’t make logical sense that he would.
Listen to his words please. If he tells you he doesn’t love you or have feelings for you then you better believe it. If not, you’re setting yourself up for a heck of a lot of grief that’s totally avoidable.
Biggest Signal Seven – He’s Packed Up And Literally Moved Away
When your ex picks up and moves away, he is showing you with a physical solid line that he is finished with the life he had with you and ready to move forward.
Take this as a sign he’s trying to move on physically and mentally and the most concrete way he can do this is to physically get up and move.
If you don’t get this message loud and clear, you’re going to have to give your head a shake, seriously.
Biggest Signal Seven – Says It’s Him, Not You
Are you kidding me?
When a guy tells you that it’s got nothing to do with you and it’s “him” that isn’t worthy of you, then you’ve just been given a sign he wants out for his reasons.
He doesn’t want you to challenge him or try and talk your way back into his heart.
Sadly, he just wants you to go away and never come back.
Maybe he doesn’t want to hurt you but that doesn’t really matter because bottom line is he does not want you in his life no matter which way you slice it.
Biggest Signal Eight – Suddenly He’s Loaded Up With New Interests And Hobbies
*Perhaps he’s taking up marital arts?
*Maybe he has decided to take painting classes or start travelling the world?
It doesn’t really matter because if your ex has decided to pursue new hobbies after you have called it quits, this means he is done for good.
There are zillions of ways he could show you that he is still trying to hang on and this is not one of them.
So think about it for a second before you try and talk yourself around this one.
Relationship psychologists report when you discover new hobbies after a breakup, you are figuring out how to heal and come to grips with the facts. This is how you build a new and improved you that is stronger and ready to find that special guy or gal in their life.
What you need to understand for your own good is that if your ex is taking on new hobbies, you need to see and accept the fact he is ready to move on. Let him just do it please.
Biggest Signal Nine – When You Do Talk, There Is No Spark
Often when couples just break up there is still some of that flirty spark present. It may be a little weird and not as intense as it once was, but often it’s still there.
When there is no flirting when you talk with your ex, that’s a pretty sure sign he is focused on moving on and you should follow suit.
It’s normal to be hurt when your ex is showing you that it’s time to move on. But you are best just to bite the bullet and accept it all sooner rather than later.
What If Your Ex Still Loves You?
Signs Your Ex Still Might Be Interested In You
Here are a few that will help you dig deep for the truth so you can either mend things or take action to move on as much as it might hurt.
You deserve to be happy.
When someone breaks up with you, it doesn’t mean they have the almighty power to turn their feelings off for you like they would a light switch. That’s just not how it works.
If you think your ex might still have the hots for you in a meaningful way, here are a few clues that might help you figure the puzzle of love out for good.
A strong sign your ex still loves you is that he continues to text you even when you have broken up. When they are still texting you, it means they are reaching out for ways to communicate or connect with you and that’s a positive sign in the “reunite” books.
Still Liking Your Social Media Posts
If your ex-boyfriends is still liking all your social media posts, that’s a pretty sure sign he is still into you. If he didn’t still care, he certainly wouldn’t be liking your posts and making sure you know he still has his eye on you.
Make A Point Of Trying To Make You Jealous And Insecure
This is a baby move but some men will try and make you jealous in order to prove their worth to you. If by chance your ex is trying to get you crazy by making sure you see him with a pretty new girl, you can bet your bottom dollar he is still head over heels for you.
Seriously thought, that’s just not the right way to do it.
Nasty With Your Newness
If your ex is just plain nasty with anything new in your life, including boys, he probably still loves you. If he didn’t care then he wouldn’t react at all, right?
Halts In The Dating Department
If your ex isn’t showing any open interest in dating anyone else, they likely aren’t over you or perhaps don’t want to be.
When a girl is still in your heart that makes it super hard to see yourself moving forward with anyone else.
Their Social Media Profile Is Depressing
If your ex seems to be wallowing in sadness online, chances are pretty good he’s definitely not over you and likely doesn’t want to move on with anyone else.
It’s not hard for someone to show the world on social media that they aren’t happy in the now. If your ex is posting sad breakup quotes or talking all sad and negative online, he is still in love with you.
What you do what that is totally up to you of course. Just be careful.
On Big Life Days They Still Come To You
Does your ex still contact you on the big days? Does he text you on your b-day or give you a call on your anniversary?
If he is still reaching out to you on the big days you once shared, that’s a clear sign he’s still in love with you and still wants to be connected.
Coincidentally You Seem To Be Running Into One Another
This is a sneaky move. If you seem to always be “bumping” unexpectedly into your ex, chances are it’s not coincidence, it’s meticulously planned.
Think about it for a minute.
They know you and your habits and where you like to hang out, particularly if you were together for an extended period of time.
If your ex seems to find you here, there and everywhere, there’s a good chance they still love you.
They Simply Say It Straight Up
No doubt there is nothing more clear than your ex telling you straight to your face that he still has deep feelings for you. This is their way to reach out to you and let you know they wished you were still together.
Please don’t jump right back in. Think about it for a little while openly before you take any action. The last thing you need is to jump back into a relationship for the wrong reasons with the wrong person for you.
When you are trying to cope with the fact your heart is broken and your ex has moved on, there’s no easy way to do it.
Try and keep your mind open and look positively at the big picture.
You deserve to smile and it may take a little hurt and time for you to find it.
Don’t quit, be true to yourself and you will find it.