It’s tricky to learn how to flirt with a guy. This is especially true if you’re a little nervous and feel awkward about flirting with anyone. Moreover if you’re too shy, it’s easier said than done.
Flirting has plenty of benefits and is fun as well. After a hard day at work, you may need to unwind. Go out with your friends and have a happy hour with them. You will feel a lot better after having some good drinks and getting to know other men outside your circle.
Did you know that flirting can boost self-esteem? If you start flirting with other men and they’ve become responsive, your self-confidence will get an immediate boost. That’s because it feels so good to feel you’re wanted. It’s worth knowing that you’re interesting in the eyes of those men.
Learning the tricks below will also help you to be better. Flirting will encourage you to be better with anything. It also helps you improve your physical appearance. You would want to wear the sexiest clothes you have. Wanting to be pampered or noticed will help you look better. Even your long-time crush might notice you now.
If the guy you want to flirt with is into healthy eating, then you also might consider changing your bad eating habits. You would want to eat healthier foods because you would want to look good. Additionally if you find your crush hot, it would encourage you to work out more.
In other words, flirting is good, as long as you do it right. But how are you going to do it?
How to Flirt with a Guy
1. Staring Into His Eyes
When you spot the person you like, lock eyes with him. Then, slowly look away. When he starts speaking to you, keep a good eye with him. Nod when it’s necessary but don’t overdo it.
You may also want to repeat some of the phrases he’s saying. This will give him an idea that you’re interested in him and you actually listen what he has to say.
One of the secrets of flirting is to show how happy and excited you are to be with him. When he’s talking to you, always look deep into his eyes, and don’t forget to smile while he’s talking to you.
Maintaining a deep eye contact may make him feel awkward. However, if you pair it with a happy smile, you’re definitely leaving him weak in his knees.
2. Smiling and Laughing a Lot
A smile is considered as the most powerful expression. It’s enough to produce an emotion high in others. It makes other people see things that are around them in a more positive light. What’s more is that a smile is contagious.
So when you smile a lot, the guy thinks that you’re comfortable and fun to be with. And if you show your genuine smile, it also shows how happy you are as a person. When he’s smiling too, make sure that you glance down at his beautiful lips. This will give him a clue that you wouldn’t mind being kissed by him one day.
Men love a woman who’s happy. By smiling a lot, you’re giving him an idea that you’re full of positivity. They also love women who smile and laugh when having a conversation with them.
While you’re smiling and blushing, avoid being arrogant. Don’t make cocky comments. Guys don’t like women who behave this way. No matter how attractive you are, guys hate this type of women.
It’s always a good idea to be warm and approachable when you’re surrounded by guys. Smile a lot and thank him if he compliments you.
3. Complimenting the Guy
Guys love to be complimented. So, if you like how he dresses, tell him so. Then, start a conversation with him. He will be flattered knowing that someone appreciates his fashion sense.
Compliments are great stepping stones of having a flirty conversation with the guy you like. He’d love it as it means you have noticed something nice about him. As a result, he’d swallow his pride just to have a flirty conversation with you.
If he’s being courteous and chivalrous, thank him for showing you that. However, don’t just thank him. Make sure that you’ll show your warm smile. Men love to show their chivalrous side to women they like. When you acknowledge that, he’d try harder to please you more.
He’d be warmer to you in order to win your attention.
4. Being expressive
Show your feminine and flirty expressions. You don’t have to be slutty. It takes a little practice every day to work on your expressions, so you have to spend a few minutes looking at yourself in front of the mirror.
Learn how to use your eyes to your advantage. Flutter your eyelids while working your smile. Sometimes, your expressions are enough to impress a guy. In return, he will flirt with you too. Practicing happy expressions will make you a flirty goddess that no guy can ignore.
Expressions can make a huge difference. Angelina Jolie has perfected that. She wasn’t born with her flirty expressions. Rather, she learned to use her expressions to her advantage. The result? Brad Pitt couldn’t resist her.
5. Touching Him
In addition to flirty expressions, touching him will also make a difference. It’s actually one of the best ways to make someone want to flirt with you. Men are always weak in their knees when a woman they’re flirting with touches them. It’s an involuntary thing. Each time a girl touches the guy’s arm or shoulder, the guy will definitely open up more. He will feel more comfortable to talk to her and even flirt with her.
But you must also learn the art of flirting by touching. This doesn’t mean manhandling the other person. It’s just an art of making him move closer to you with a simple, lingering touch.
6. Being Girly
There’s no need for you to act like you’re a school girl. Being girly means that you’re making him feel he can protect you, despite your being independent. Throughout evolution, men are considered the hunters. They always protect the people they love, especially women.
That said, if you want to make him drawn to you, you should let him take the lead for a few minutes. He’d love that. Play it easy at first. Wait for him to be the first one to flirt with you.
7. Teasing him
One of the many ways to do that is to treat him like he’s your little brother. But this doesn’t mean that you’d rub his knees when he hurt them. It also doesn’t mean that you’d help him get ready for school.
What does teasing mean in the art of flirting? It simply means that you’d take the role of an older sister. But not just an older sister. You’d act like the mean sister to him. That is you’d be teasing him of his interests, sports team or hobbies.
If he likes Family Guy, tell him that you used to love it, when you were 12. Yes, it sounds like it’s an insult, but it’s actually not. However, it’s how you deliver it will make a difference. If you say it in a playful tone and accompanied it with a playful smile, he’d get it as a flirting move.
When you do tease him, you should not be too specific about it. If you’re going to mock him of where he’s from, state the general and not the kind of house where he lives.
Teasing him a little is great but overdoing it is a disaster. This is because teasing too much will make you look annoying or immature. You should treat it like a spice but not the main course.
But how do you know that you’re overdoing it? It’s simple. You should watch his reactions. If he likes it, tease him a little more. Now, if he gets turned off, it’s time to tone it back.
8. Wearing red clothes
If you’re out with your friends and planning to flirt with some guys, make sure that you wear red clothing. The red or pink color demonstrates how approachable you are. This kind of color is very flattering to almost all skin tones. It simply gives women a healthy glow.
Wearing a deep red or burgundy color is sensual. However, red is also regarded as the color of power and sex. It adds excitement to two types of men. These are men who are only interested in sex and men who are only attracted to strong women.
Perhaps, by wearing red clothing, you’re fending off those freaks. But doing so would help you end up flirting and attracting a guy who’s not threatened by your bigger salary or the fact that you’re the boss in your department.
When you wear a red dress, you don’t need to work hard on your flirting moves. That’s because wearing red is already a sign that you’re interested in flirting with them. Women who are wearing red clothing are, most of the time, interested in meeting men.
In other words, wearing red makes you hotter instantly.
9. Using a specific perfume
Not all perfumes are great for flirting. Some are intoxicating that guys can’t take. However, there are fragrances that would subconsciously associate with exciting memories. When you choose a perfume for flirting, make sure that you opt for a fragrance with notes of pumpkin pie and lavender. They usually trigger exciting, happy memories.
But don’t just use it anywhere. Save if for a time when you’re looking for an action or planning to flirt with someone. If you do use it every day, you would end up attracting a guy with bad breath leaning closer to smell you.
When a guy you like would ask for your scent, just tell him it’s a perfume that your sister gave to you last Christmas and you can tell him the name later. You don’t have to tell him that it’s a blend that can stimulate male’s arousal. But, you can do so if you’re aiming for a good laugh or if you want your flirting efforts to be clear to him.
10. Playing with the hair
For most girls, playing with the hair comes naturally when they are into a guy. It is as natural as laughing at his jokes or making a sour face when eating a lemon slice. Generally, men love it when the girl plays with her hair, they think it is cute.
So, next time when you meet up with the guy you are interested in, play with your hair but don’t overdo it. You can naturally comb it with your fingers, twirl it, or brush it lightly to the side.
11. Using positive body language
Positive body language shows that you feel comfortable, welcomed and warm. It leaves you more approachable. Don’t cross your arms, this will show a guy that you are not interested.
It’s best to lean towards the guy when talking to him, respond to his questions and comments, smile a lot, and make an eye contact.
12. Being a little suggestive
This doesn’t mean that you have to jump into a bed with the guy right away. It means that you can make a naughty comment or joke here and there. For example, when your crush texts you and asks what you’re doing. You can simply answer that you are lying in bed bored and thinking about him and wishing he would be next to you.
13. “Accidentally” running into him
I am sure you have had times when you were out with your girlfriend and you “accidentally” ran into a hot guy while talking to your girlfriend. Sure, it was accident, right?
It’s a great way to feel the guy’s strong arms when he catches you and at the same time he could feel your small little body next to his. You will apologize for being clumsy and the conversation would most definitely start. This “accidental” fall would almost always work. If you don’t believe me, try it!
14. Starting a good conversation
This may seem like a common knowledge but a meaningless small talk may leave the guy bored. If you don’t know any good topics to talk about, memorize some conversation starters which will help you to break the ice and make you sound interesting. Don’t be the boring girl that has nothing compelling to say.
15. Putting away or turning off the phone
When talking to a guy you just met, don’t answer to your texts from your girlfriends or browse your Facebook page. These things can wait. It can show that you are not be interested in him and you’d rather text or connect with your friends.
16. Being mysterious
It’s not surprise that men love a little mystery and I don’t mean playing games with him. Don’t make yourself available for him all the time. Always keep him wanting more. If he texts you, don’t answer back right away. Keep him waiting and wondering what you are doing. If he asks you out on Saturday, tell him you have plans already but you are available on Sunday.
17. Texting him
Everyone is texting nowadays so use this to your advantage. Text him a little flirty message instead of the same old “How are you?” or “How’s your day going?”. You can text him something like “Hey handsome, you’ve been on my mind today…”
18. Calling him
If you decide to call him, try to be fun, positive and bubbly. Think about the things you want to say to him beforehand and don’t just be boring or have a meaningless small talk. You can also be a little flirty and tell him that you like how his voice sounds on the phone – deep and manly.
19. Asking questions
Asking questions shows the guy that you are interested in him and you want to know more about him. It’s a great way to keep the conversation going. You can ask things like “Do you like sports?”, “Which sports season do you look forward to?”, “What foods do you like?”, “What music genre do you like?”, “How long was your last relationship?” etc. You can also be a little flirty and ask “How did you make your hair to look so nice?”.
20. Asking help
Men love to feel that they are needed and that they can save the day. They love helping women. Even if you really don’t need any help, you can always think of something. How about rearranging your room’s furniture? After his help, you could flirt a little and tell him how strong and manly he is. Let him know that you could have not done that without his help. Make him feel like he is the hero of the day.
21. Sending him a picture
If you have been texting/calling with the guy for some time already and if he compliments how good you look. Send him a little picture of you wearing a sexy dress. You can tell him that you just bought a new dress and wanted to know what he thinks about it. He will most surely love that picture and his imagination goes wild.
22. Finding common interests
The more common interests you have with someone, the easier is to start a relationship or even flirt. If you are at the bar and there’s a TV on with a sports game, ask him if he is that particular sports fan and what team is he rooting for? It surely will start a conversation and who knows, maybe you will end up exchanging numbers.
23. Using social media
If you have friended each other on Facebook or other social media sites already, then it’s easy to leave a status update for saying flirty things like “I had a best date last night” etc.
24. Letting him “accidentally” overhear the conversation
This may sound silly but if you want to make sure that he knows how interested you are in him, you could ask your friend to call you when you are hanging out with him. When your friend calls you, you could say “accidentally” a little louder how awesome he is. Try to make it sound as subtle as you can and not obvious. I am sure he would be flattered to hear that and get the message.
25. Showing off
This is a trick you have probably seen on different movies. A woman drops something on the floor and slowly bends over to pick it up in front of a guy. This scene lets the guy to check out her body. It always works!
26. Using mirror style
Mirroring is another way to flirt with a guy. It’s actually mimicking the guy’s movements. Mirroring is sometimes called the chameleon effect as it shows that you are on the same wavelength with him. This can surely enhance your rapport. That is if he crosses his legs, you should cross yours too. If he takes a drink, sip yours too.
Then, ask him to dance. This will force you to mirror his movements. It’s one of the reasons dancing is a surefire way to set the mood.
27. Asking him out
If you have tried everything else and nothing has worked, you may simply ask the guy out. Your guy might be too nervous and shy or doesn’t have a clear idea that you are into him. For most men, it’s a turn on when a woman makes the first move. Ask him out and see how he responds, you have nothing to lose.
Check out our other article: Dirty Questions To Ask A Guy.
Flirting is fun. When you say something flirtatious to a guy, make sure that you have that grin on your face. This will let him know that you’re only flirting with him.
I don’t think a girl should ask a guy out i think the guy should ask the girl out…it seems more traditional.
Emma: Yes,I agree 😊
Belleof beauty says
that’s so not true. its 2020. screw the gender norms.
good luck with that
we are in the 21st century here Emma?
Haha. We are Little Women here Sam. Stuck in another century
god this is obscenely sexist and antiquated. i am horrified that young girls reading this would think that her job is only to make a man feel “manly.” just horrified.
I completely agree!! This is so wrong!
We need to stop objectifying women. Bending over to let a guy check you out is wrong. A guy will like you for who you are and not what you look like. Society thinks that skinny and sexy is attractive. But there is beauty in all of us.
I agree with morgan says we are all beautiful in the Same way 😆😊😅
It isn’t “wrong”. A girl reading this is free to do whatever she likes if she fancies someone. Who are you to make that call? You’re just contradicting yourself.
I would think I am the oldest one ever to make a comment in this place . I am a widower . I am 74 yrs old . I came in here to see what is what on the dating scene. I have not had a date in almost forty yrs . But I can say that all those yrs ago any lady that walked up to me & asked to dance I did , and almost always wound up going out with her
Omg you are the most amazing person ever do u have any advice for me when it comes to asking a boy out
i loved the article!
I recently met someone and believe it or not these are some of the exact things that I flirted with him with. And guess what ? It worked. I do love to flirt 😋
I feel like you don’t have to act girly. I have a loving boyfriend and I’m a tomboy! He even told me he finds my bada** attitude is attractive😅 I hope every person finds the person they are after!!!!