During the initial dating stages, communication can be a tricky hill to cross. It often starts as a delicate scale of ego with both people trying not to tip their ends too drastically to protect themselves emotionally. While both people want to share their feelings and goals for romance, nobody wants to risk appearing eager. The problem is that when we share our innermost thoughts, we do become vulnerable, especially if the other person is not on the same page.
The fear of rejection is the reason why many people find it much easier to cling to their safety nets, hoping that the other person will do most of the initiating. Alas, welcome to the dreaded standstill where progress becomes virtually impossible.
Following are some easy ways you can open up the lines of communication without cutting your safety net short.
The follow-up text
The follow-up text is essential for measuring your date’s level of interest after the first meeting. This approach is mainly a guy’s responsibility as most women expect to be pursued at the beginning. The text must be sent the day after the date if you’re genuinely interested in seeing her again– so forget about the three-day waiting period. This text can as simple as “Hey. how’s your day going?”. This shows your interested without being too aggressive.
If she doesn’t respond, don’t worry about it. If you focus on every tiny setback, you’ll distract yourself from what’s really important: getting a new date. With this carefree attitude, you can enjoy the dating process instead of getting too emotional or sensitive.
Exploring the three-day rule myth
Somehow, over the years of modern dating, people have developed the idea that waiting periods are a good idea for new dates. How did this dating rule begin, exactly? Did a bunch of guys get together and decide that a three-day waiting period is the way to a woman’s heart?
Let’s first explore the logic behind the three-day waiting period. It has often been said that when a man waits three days before contacting his date, he has established an aura of mystery and intrigue. At this point, the woman is supposed to become interested because the man appears more unpredictable and thus desirable. While this may work on some women, for most self-assured ladies, you’ll only come across as offensive and careless rather than exciting. To avoid missing out on a good thing, you’re better off not following the three-