No matter how old you are, everyone gets a little nervous thinking about getting a kiss from the person that they are interested in. If you are reading this, then you are hoping you can get a girl to kiss you. You should have a specific girl in mind, someone who you are attracted to and feel like you might have a connection with. This can be anyone from a girl you just met to a girl whom you have known for a little while.
While the goal of getting a kiss from a girl is universal, the approach will vary depending on the situation. How you approach this girl will depend on how well you know her, where you know her from, and what the culture is where you live.
Below are tips and strategies on how to get a girl to kiss you. Some of these tips are extremely easy to follow, while others will take some work. Above all, remember to keep your eyes on the goal and be patient.
How To Get A Girl To Kiss You
Take Care of Yourself
Be honest, think about how you look right now. Do you look your best? You don’t need a fancy haircut and an expensive suit to wear, but you should also know that a girl will be more likely to kiss you if you maintain your appearance.
Do not mistake this as advice for you to become self-centered and obsessed with your looks. Just do the bare minimum and then a little more. Take some pride in your appearance and you will be more attractive to others as a result.
Even the guy who has been married for 50 years might not get a kiss from his wife if his breath stinks and if he has not showered for days. So no matter who you are, remember to take care of yourself and your body. Take regular showers, use deodorant, and brush your teeth and floss regularly.
When taking care of yourself, consider the girl you like. What is her style? Is she very casual or does she always dress up? If she really is into making herself look nice, then you might be inclined to fix up your hair beyond just washing and brushing it, or you might actually make the effort to match your clothes well.
While you should still be yourself, knowing this girl’s style will help inform what kinds of clothes you wear, especially when you hang out around her. It is only natural for you to want to impress her and to make her feel really comfortable around you. But again, do not completely change yourself for this girl either as that will come off as not genuine.
Also remember that people like to kiss soft lips. Dry and chapped lips are not ideal at all when it comes to kissing. So if your lips tend to get dry, have plain chap stick on you so you can make sure that your lips are nice and smooth for kissing.
Be a Gentleman
Remember that manners go a long way. This applies to everyone and girls are no exception. This is especially true when you want a girl to like you and kiss you. Think about the girl that you like. Be kind, thoughtful, and considerate with her. Ask her questions about herself and be a good listener.
Even consider doing the stereotypical acts of kindness like opening door for her and letting her go ahead of you. Remember that just because you are nice to her, it does not mean that you are entitled to anything from her. At the same time, the behavior of a gentleman can make a girl like you more.
Additionally, if this girl is more modern, then do not fight it either. If she wants to split a bill for dinner or pay for it herself, then do not make an argument over it.
Form a Connection
While it is true that some people just hook up due to a physical attraction, it can be nice to really get to know a girl that you are interested in. In this case, forming a meaningful bond with her is important.
If this girl does not know you yet, then what are you waiting for? If she does not even know you exist, then you will have a zero chance of kissing her unless you get to actually talk to her. It can be terrifying and might make you nervous, but you will never know what might happen until you try.
Getting to know the girl you like can start anywhere from just saying hi to asking how her weekend was. People who develop a good rapport will sometimes have inside jokes or things that they regularly talk about. The more you talk, you might realize you have some things in common.
After a certain point, look for signs that she is interested in you. Flirting can be a sign, but also keep in mind that some people are just really friendly to everyone.
This is why it is important to be very observant of her behaviors, gestures, and the things that she says to you. At the end of the day though, the only way to really know how she feels about you is to directly ask her whether he like you or not.
While it might make you nervous, make it clear that you want to know if she is romantically interested in you. You will want to get the timing right. You don’t want it to be too soon or way too late. At the same time, you are better off bringing up the subject later as opposed to never.
Chemistry is a crucial part of any relationship between two people. For some people, the chemistry between two people can be instant, but that is the exception to the rule. Usually, people have to get to know each other at least a little bit before some chemistry will develop between them.
If you and the girl you like do not have chemistry right away, do not worry. Chemistry is something that you can both work on. Just make sure that she is interested too. If she is not interested, then you will both be wasting your time.
When building chemistry, you have to have the right mix of patience and assertiveness. You have to be fearless but respectful of the other person at the same time. And sometimes, even if you are both trying, the chemistry might not be there.
If you and this girl have gone on a few dates, then ideally the chemistry will be getting stronger. If it isn’t, you can try to move things forward.
Try to move towards a little bit of physical intimacy even if you are just holding hands or embracing each other. The more physically comfortable you are with each other, the more likely it is that you will kiss sooner than later.
Flirt
While flirting can sometimes be seen as a superficial and meaningless to certain people, it can mean a lot with the right person. In the beginning stages, a flirtatious rapport can be the thing that helps you form a connection with the girl that you are interested in.
Needless to say, flirting can help you get a kiss from the girl you are in, since it will show her that you are interested in experiencing some romantic and/or physical intimacy with her.
There are many ways to flirt and people flirt in their own unique ways. At the same time, flirting is pretty universal in its own way. Things like smiling at someone and looking into their eyes or touching them are all common ways people will flirt with each other. The way people flirt can vary a little bit based on their personalities.
What kind of a flirt are you? Are you more playful, shy, or physical when it comes to flirting? If you are not sure about what kind of flirt you are, your friends might now if they have observed you flirting with girls in the past.
Think about the particular girl you hope to get a kiss from. Think about her flirting style. Knowing this will help you know how to respond to her advances.
If the girl you want to kiss is a shy and polite flirt, then you might need to bring her out of her shell a little more. Otherwise, she might never summon up the courage to kiss you. Try to be a little patient and don’t rush her too quickly into physical affection either.
A more physical flirt on the other hand, will likely send you obvious signals such as holding your hand, touching your shoulder, or resting her hand on your knee.
She will feel comfortable sharing a space with you and if sparks fly between you two, then you will be more likely to get a kiss from her sooner than later. Just keep in mind the possibility that this type of flirt is more likely to be a player than the romantic type.
Some people are not very physical. Instead, they flirt with their words. This type of girl might be sarcastic while still wanting to talk to you. Or she might use puns or make jokes with you. So if you meet a girl you like who is like that, then you will have to learn how to keep up with her if you want her to stick around.
To a person who is a traditional flirt, the guy always makes the first move. Anything outside of the norm could be a turnoff and the girl might often look to you to take the lead when it comes to flirtatious and romantic gestures.
This is why it is good to know what type of flirt you are and what type of flirt your crush is. That way, you will know how to deal with each other and what kind of behavior you can expect.
Send Signals
This does fall under the category of flirting. You can send signs that you want to kiss this girl through words and through physical actions.
One way to physically signal that you would like a kiss is if you look at the girl’s lips for a brief moment while you are talking to her. Stare at her lips only for a moment and then resume eye contact with her.
Smile at her in a coy way that will make her feel like you are the only two people in the room. Do what you can to make her feel special in subtle ways. Don’t overdo it. Overly grand gestures might be deemed as inappropriate especially if you do not know each other that well yet.
However, small, thoughtful gestures might be appreciated and will further engage her in interaction with you. Little things such as offering her some of your snack or seeing if she wants to hang out after school or work are some good ideas for you to try out.
Hanging out with her and spending time together will help you form a special connection with this girl and will give you opportunities to build from being acquaintances to being romantic interests.
Ask her about herself and show her that you are invested in her. Remember that it might be hard to put herself out there for you, so the more interest you show in her, the more she will be willing to take the jump for you.
Get the Adrenaline Going
One great way to get a girl to kiss you is by getting the adrenaline pumping. This means that you should both do something fun and exciting together. Go to a carnival or amusement park where you can ride on a fast ride like a roller coaster.
If you go to the movies, see something like an action movie or a scary movie to get your hearts pumping. Both of you will be full of excitement and she might feel inclined to kiss you or to let you kiss her.
You can also engage in physical activity that is exciting like skiing, hike, or zip lining. These are just a few athletic ideas for dates that could possibly get her in the mood to kiss you.
Another great adrenaline activity is a concert where the music is loud and fast-paced. Think your favorite rock band or whatever the both of you really like.
Here is another good source of adrenaline: dancing. Take your date dancing and don’t worry about your dancing skills too much. Allow yourself to let loose and make some physical contact such as holding her hand or putting your hand on her shoulder or waist as you dance the night away.
If you want to get your adrenaline pumping, skip the slow dancing and go straight to something fast yet sensual like salsa. Salsa is the perfect type of dance that might make a girl want to kiss you.
Set the Mood
When it comes to getting a kiss, timing and location are extremely important. The nighttime is definitely the most romantic time of day for kissing. With the moon out and the stars shining brightly, you cannot go wrong.
Remember that privacy is important for most people when it comes to kissing. Your date will want to feel safe and she will probably not want to be alone in a place that is completely remote and secluded unless she really is comfortable enough with you.
If you want someone to kiss you, think about the setting. Ideally, you will be somewhere where it is not too busy.
Read Her Body Language
When reading her body language, react accordingly. If she is sending you all of the right signals, then act on them. If she leans forward towards you, then mimic her body language and lean in to her as well. If your date leans into you and you take an abrupt step back, then she will probably assume that you are not interested in kissing her.
You have to know how to read the moment. Know how to decipher negative signs and positive signs from the girl you have an interest in.
If this girl is crossing her arms or legs, then she is likely not feeling positive at that moment. Is she is gazing into your eyes? This could be a good sign. So is leaning into you. If you find that she often comes into your personal physical space, then that means that she is very comfortable with you.
Eye contact is definitely a good sign whether it is just the two of you together or if you find yourself in a group of people but her gaze seems to be fixated on yours. Some people will even suggest that running her hand through her hair is an indication that a girl could be interested in you.
The same goes for biting her lips. If you catch her biting or licking her lips, then there is a chance that she is thinking about putting her lips on yours.
Is this girl imitating your body language? If she is, then that is a good sign that she might be into you. But beware of certain actions like avoiding your personal space. A clenched jaw is a bad sign as well and it could very well mean that she is just not that into you or that it is bad timing.
Remember, while body language can sometimes be easy to read, there are many other times when it will be quite subtle. This is why it is good to pay attention when you are around the girl that you like.
Do Not Overthink It
When it comes to getting anything you want, kissing included, it is always a good idea to have a strategy in mind. Whenever you have a goal, you will want to figure out an approach that will help you to reach this goal.
In this case, your goal is a kiss from the girl you like. Using the right methods can help you get that kiss that you want.
It is important that you do not overthink this. You should also remember how to be yourself while simultaneously covering your bases.
For example, remember to check your breath and read her body language, but do not overthink it or you might get too nervous. Do not let the goal cloud everything, including your interest in this girl.
Conclusion
Here is the last piece of advice if you want to get a girl to kiss you. Put yourself in her shoes. What kind of body language would make you want to kiss someone? What kind of words and behaviors would send you these kinds of signals? Do your best and do not be afraid of embarrassing yourself.
Do not leave it all up to the girl, even if you do want her to be the one to kiss you. But it is important that you do not let her do all of the heavy lifting. She should not be the only one after you, you should be trying to chase her too especially if she shows an interest in you.
If you wait too long to make the right moves, she might get bored or unsure about the situation and could very well move on. So be brave and try to get that kiss from the girl that you like. After all, what exactly do you have to lose in doing so?
Getting a girl to kiss you can be a huge challenge, no matter who you are. But there are some basic pieces of common sense advice for you to follow. No matter what you do, do not forget to be yourself and remember to be confident in who you are.
