Ever wonder how to get a girlfriend in college?
Wonder no more because here’s how!
Whether you are just a player or looking to seriously get a girl forever in college, there are proven strategies that will help you get there pronto.
Let’s start with a few struggles men seen to encounter getting the girl in college.
University Prime experts uncover a few obstacles guys face when it comes to getting that special girl.
How To Get A Girlfriend In College
Show Confidence
Often guys naturally get nervous around the opposite sex. With some men it’s just a few butterflies and others get nailed with the sweats, stuttering, and the inability to stop shaking.
Poor boys!
Nerves are a good sign in general. Just means you care about what’s going on in front of you. However, if you let your imagination go crazy and get the better of you, then you’re not going to do so well with the ladies.
Mind over matter gents!
FOCUS on what you want, what you think will happen. Keep it positive and realistic and you’ll do just fine.
Confidence is super sexy – Just saying.
Don’t Be Afraid To Approach Girls
The fear of failure will paralyze you. If you let your brain tell you that you’re going to screw up then you’re in big trouble.
Rejection is a part of life. It’s a factor everyone faces or everyone would be with everyone!
The minute you accept the fact that failure is a part of life, one step close to winning the lottery, that’s when your’e going to get the girl you want.
You have it in you to overcome this. Tell yourself that and just do it!
Don’t Just Want That “One” Girl – Period
Truth is, if you are focused solely on one gal just because, chances are pretty good you’re not going to get her.
Think of all the fish in the sea here.
The second you open your mind to other women, that’s when it all happens.
Understand, there are always going to be “hotter,” “better” girls out there. Go out with a few of them and eventually you’ll figure out what you’re looking for then you can get a little more selective.
This isn’t like it was a hundred years ago, where you put a crazy amount of effort into courting Sally from the next farm over.
The only reason you see one girl as special is because that’s what you believe. Just sucks when you can’t get that one girl you want for a whole whack of reasons.
Let it go…
Open the door to more and you’ll do just fine.
Don’t Get Stuck On What’s The Best Route To Snag Women?
Think about it for a second?
This is a totally pointless question because it does not have an answer. The best route for you to get women is to be that guy that everyone likes. Open up the door to being social, genuine and sincere and the girls will come.
Want Your Ex Back?
If you want the take action route to truly get your ex back you need to start making changes and keep in just enough contact to make her see how fabulously you are changing.
Change IS good.
Take a second to ponder the fact she broke up with you because she wasn’t happy with something. So that’s not ever going to change unless you change your ways. Makes sense right?
Keep in mind, you ultimately shouldn’t have to change who you are for anyone. A little WANTED fine-tuning is fine. But you’ve got to draw the line at that.
How To Get Her Number
Of course there are zillions of routes to get a gals number but they really aren’t your concern.
It’s not about getting the number, it’s about getting a rock solid number. If you really want a gal, you’ve got to put some time and effort into it.
You need to charm and impress her and create an attraction, then dive in for the kiss.
After you get that off the block, you need to simply ask her for her number. If you are genuine and sincere you WILL get it – Pinky swear promise.
Best Opening Line
Ask Men experts say the opening line determines whether you win or lose in the girl department.
The best opening line you can give a girl is to be yourself and make sure you are NOT using cheesy one-liners.
Simply introduce yourself and ask her how she is doing.
It really doesn’t get any easier than that.
Less is always better when you are looking to grab a girl hook, line and sinker.
How To Get To The Next Step
Okay, if you aren’t willing to make your sexual interests known, you’re going to wind up in the friend zone. Totally sucky but true.
Beware that women don’t always pay attention to the fine details. In other words, they aren’t looking for more than friends unless you show them, clearly.
Do you understand what I’m trying to say?
Bottom line, if you don’t show them clearly what you want, they’re going to assume friendship.
Boys, this is where you need to step up to the plate and go for it or don’t. Tell her you like her and would like to be more than friends.
Straight up is always the best route.
It’s way better to find out sooner than later right?
What’s The Perfect Moment To Slip In For The Killer Kiss?
Newsflash – There IS no perfect time for that, “till death do you part” kiss. What I’ve learned is sometimes you can go in straight away and win. Other times, you’ve got to play it a little more conservative and warm a girl up for few dates.
My thinking…If you totally like this girl, why not try and sneak one in with the first encounter? Catch her a little off guard for all the right reasons?
Stop her naturally during a conversation and plant one on her.
She’s either into you are she’s not and it’s best to find out sooner than later. You will be able to tell fast from her reaction whether you’re gong to have a “next” encounter or not.
Where To Go For The First Date
Again there is no perfect place but if you want to get to know her better, drinks are a good start. You just don’t want to commit to making the first date too long, just in case it totally sucks. So dinner and a movie is a dumb move on a first date.
Either got for a coffee or drinks and keep it short and sweet.
If you both want more, that’s great! If you don’t, that’s okay too. At least you haven’t wasted a whole evening figuring that out.
Makes sense right?
How To Handle Calls And Text Messages She Ignores
First step is to relax and take a deep breath. Don’t automatically think negatively. Perhaps she’s sleeping or working or spending quality time with a friend?
We live in a world where instant commutation is just too convenient and it often gets us into trouble.
Facts…
She will get back to you IF she wants to.
She will get back to you WHEN she can.
She will get back to you when it works for her.
If you haven’t heard from her in a few days, it’s safe to assume she doesn’t want to hear from you. Don’t weight in too much on this. People that want to communicate with someone, will make sure it happens.
No more than a day should pass between replies before you should start questioning her tardiness.
Are You Kicked To The Curb All The Time?
Elite Daily serves up a few top quality reasons why you’re getting rejected – Pay attention please!
She’s Got Someone Already!
If a girl has a boyfriend, crush, or anyone else she has a thing for, she’s not going to give you her undivided attention. When a girl knocks you down fast, it’s usually because she has her heart with another.
Whether that is realistic or not, is a completely different story.
When the doors to hooking up are closed, there’s good reason.
This type of rejection totally sucks but it’s worse if you don’t recognize it. Be wary, when a girl is hooked, she’s hooked and you can’t do anything about it. Move on fast for your own good please.
You Are Looking A Little Grungy
Not quite but most women have an image in their brain of how they want their man to look. If you don’t fit the bill, for whatever reason, you’re never ever in a zillion years going to get her. Let it go!
It’s not that you have to dress or act like a certain guy, that’s just too hard.
Be you and if you don’t fit, you don’t fit.
Accept that and move on. The faster, the better.
Direct Approach Could Scare Her Off
Some girls need to be eased into the dating scene. If you are too direct and to the point you might just scare her off. Many girls that are feeling out of their comfort zone, will just run the other way.
It’s really nothing to do with you.
They just don’t know how to respond so they run.
You are best to start off with a little harmless flirting and go from there. Warm her up and you’ll do much better. Trust me on this one please.
She Thinks You Are Just Jumping In For A Quick Pleasure
This is a fair thought. If you make a girl think like she’s another score on your wall, you need to have your butt kicked to the curb.
She’s never ever going to accept your moves unless she feels you are sincere, that she’s more than an object to you.
So when you are meeting up with a girl, make sure you pay attention to her and make her feel like you are interested in her, that she has value.
If you are slider by trade that approaches multiple women at a time, you’re on your own. Lie in your bed and be happy.
You’re Having Issues Making Her Feel Like The Only One
Women love to feel special, no doubt. So if you are talking with a girl and you can sense, see and feel she is losing interest in you, then you are about to be rejected.
Your job is to do your best to make certain she feels like your total attention is on her, nobody else.
When you learn the fine art of making a gal feel uniquely special, you WILL win. End of story my friend.
Bad Raps Never Help
When you have a bad reputation in general, you’ve automatically got a heck of a lot of obstacles to overcome.
The best route for you to deal with this situation is to completely change your social circle pronto.
Change the people you hang out and associate with. Go to different places and make sure you are seen with other people.
It does’t take long to smash this negative assumption when you take action.
Show that you have morals, values and principles and you’re good to go!
Always Pushing For The Quickie – The One Night Stand
If you make it loud and clear you just want to get laid, you’re going to get rejected every single time!
These are a couple of tactics to make it a little more doable…
*Be sure you make her feel special because your focus is on her.
*Find a way to make sure she’s curious about you.
*Open your mind and figure out whether she wants a night with your or not.
*Don’t drop the bomb about sleeping with her until after you have at least kissed her.
Bottom line is you need to develop the skills to flip a negative to a positive. Don’t ever focus on failure because you are better than that.
You can be successful. Focus and make it happen and you WILL do it.
What NOT To Do If You Want A Girl In College!
Here are a few experts proven tips and tricks to steer clear if you want to land that special gal in college.
Here are the top mistakes a guy makes when set on getting the girl.
This is the perfect opportunity of you to learn how to attract the cream of the crop women. Do you want to know the one move all guy mistakes can be traced to? Simply put, it’s not understanding the emotional steps a woman MUST go for before she is okay hopping into your bed!
Bad Move #1 – Creepy Move – Showing Way Too. Much Sexual Interest
If you show too much “in the sack” interest before you meet a girl, you will fail miserably. Girls want to feel appreciated and valued and if they think they are a short term sex object, you will never score.
Best Move – Create a want in the girl first. When you do this you will be able to advance to at least second base.
Bad Move #2 – Too Nice
Guys don’t get this one. If you’re too nice, you are going nowhere fast. If you automatically give her your credit card and bend to her every wish, you are screwing up wildly.
Everyone has limits and you should have yours too.
Be dominate but also show her you are playful. Let her know with actions you are boss but also playful. That’s exactly what a girl wants. She wants a man that knows what he wants but is willing to open the door to adventure and understanding to get it.
Bad Move #3 – Mr. Player
Are you kidding me?
Do you boys not learn?
If you think you can be a player and get the girl, you’re dumb!
The truth – If you skip the “get to know you phase” and go straight to the sex, you’re a player and you WILL lose.
Chances are you WILL experience…
*Buyer’s remorse
*Ultimate manipulation
*Guard engaged
Need I say more?
Bad Move #4 – No physical Contact
If you choose to stick in the “friend zone,” well you’re on your own. Point is if you are seriously interested in moving out of the friendship zone, you’ve got to show it.
Grab her hand.
Say it.
Show her that you want to be more than friends if she feels the same for crying out loud.
Maybe you want to brush your and across her leg or shoulder?
Brush the hair off her face or maybe tell her she smells great. It really doesn’t matter but it is up to you to show her you want out of the friend zone.
Bad Move #5 – Sexual Tension Non-Existent
So many guys run down the misguided path that “being you” is going to make the women drop in front of you. That’s crap!
You need to understand the art of creating sexual tension.
How do you do this? Good question.
*Lean in to kiss her and don’t
*Sniff but don’t touch
*Set yourself to enter but don’t
Use your imagination here. Just make sure you understand the importance of sexual tension – Magical.
Bad Move #6 – Too Much Effort
If you are trying too hard, you will lose.
Here are a couple examples of a guy trying way too hard…
*Too many questions
*Too much money spent
*Brag-head
*Too many compliments
*The “love” word way too early
*Too much energy on one focus
Holy crap, that’s just way too tiring.
Be open to letting her chase you. Often when you let a girl know she’s really not all that, she will come running.
Bad Move #7 – Didn’t Do Your Homework
If you aren’t prepared to talk to a girl, you are likely going to be in trouble. Women like guys that are ready, up for the challenge.
Have a cheat sheet if you need to. Make sure you’re comfy with general conversion before you meet her.
Make sure your funny lines are memories! Be sure to know how to handle general one-liners.
In other words, you’ve got to do your research homework if your’e going to be set to deal with the girls straight on.
Newsflash – Do this and you will impress.
Bad Move #8 – Too Factual
Seriously, a girl does NOT want a man that’s to straight up factual. Gone are the days, I’m afraid.
Unfortunately, many guys think smarter is better. It’s totally not.
Try hard not to be a know-it-all, that turns a girl off fast. Be intelligent but don’t be afraid to throw the ball in her court.
Bad Move #9 – Talking Yourself Down
Why do guys talk themselves down? It makes no sense to me!
FACT-When a guy openly admits he doesn’t deserve you off the hop, he’s in big trouble. That’s a ginormous sign of insecurity in my books.
Be positive and don’t gloat, but be fair and openly honest.
Holy crap. How can you expect to land any girl, let alone the girl of your dreams, if you don’t believe in yourself. Just doesn’t make any sense to me!
Final Words
Getting a girlfriend in college might not be as easy as it seems.
Use these tips, tricks and professional proven tactics to help you reach your goal. No two situations are the same and the more information you have, the better.
Time for you to use what you’ve learned and make it happen.
Best of luck! You will do great!
