How to give a guy your number? There’s good and bad with everything, things you should and shouldn’t do, including when you are itching to give a guy your number.
In most situations, it’s not a wise-owl move to just hand your number over. There are key strategies that will increase your odds of scoring.
First Up…The Don’ts And Dos of Passing Along Your Number
DO NOT shoot him your email if you’re not willing to entrust him with your number. Glamour experts say it straight up. If you’re not into the guy and never want to see him again, you shouldn’t give him your email or number.
That’s just a lame way of leading the blind on and that’s not going to work for you in the long run.
DO keep in mind confidence is golden. In most cases it’s the guy that’s chicken to ask for the gals contact info. Rejection is a major thorn in his side.
Why not take the bull by the horns?
If you’re getting along nicely you should just go for it and pass your number along. You’ll know immediately by his reaction if you’re both on the same bus or not. Just write it down and give it to him.
You’ve got zippo to lose and everything to gain.
DO NOT EVER fake your number. Holy crap that’s lame and yes I’ve had girlfriends that have done it and still do. Shame on them, is all I have to say.
It’s immature, pretty and so childish. Need I say more?
If you have to let him down just be straight up with him and do it nicely.
DO pretty please tell him if you’re not interested. Bottom line here is neither one of you will gain anything if you are just going to ignore him after this exchange. You may have to use a little white lie so you don’t hurt him too much.
That’s okay in this situation.
Pump him up a little but make super sure you make it clear you are not interested in hooking up with him. Just be truthful.
How about a few borderline flirty ways to give a gentleman your number?
This is the prize every girl and gal dreams of possessing. Whether you’re nervous or confident naturally when you swoop in for the number, there are butterflies and fluttering in your tummy, doesn’t matter.
Here are a couple surefire routes to give him your number – Pay attention please!
Easy Peasy Proven Tips, Tricks And Strategies On How To Give A Guy Your Number
Let The Girls Roam Free
Not really but according to Her Campus, you’ve got to show a little leave if you want to be in contention. No doubt, this is going to work simply because guys in general think with their smaller head first. End of story.
Create Business Cards With Your Number And Name On It
From here, you’ve got to initiate further contact. Let him know you think he’s cute and you’d like to get to know him better. Just go for it pretty please.
And if you want to take it a step further, you might want to put a smiley face or heart beside your name. On second thought, don’t bother with that one. That’s a little too far I think.
Invite Them For A Casual Hangout
Don’t get antsy here because this isn’t a full-on date thing. It’s just jumping at the opportunity to casually ask them to hang out. Or better yet, if you’re both going to the same event; football game or dance, you should ask them specifically if you’ll see them there.
This opens the door up to pass along your number smooth as silk.
The Eye Thing
Guys love it when a girl is paying attention to him, catching his eye.
When you make sure he sees you catching his eye and flash him a nice big smile, you’re going to communicate that you are very interested in him.
This is classy confident and should open the door to jot down your number for him.
You never know if you don’t try right?
Start Bomb Dropping Hints
This one requires dialogue so you need to think ahead. You could tell him you think he’s really sweet or cute. Or you could skip right to the point and ask him straight up if he’d like your number.
Make sure your feelers are out and you think he’s into you too, otherwise it could backfire big-time.
Not Sure If My Phone Works
This one is sneaky clever under the right circumstances. Just pretend you’re not sure if your phone is working and ask to use his to call it.
You’ll find out soon enough if he’s into you too.
Can’t Find Your Phone
Temporarily lose your phone and borrow his to call yours. Once again, you’re going to find out quick whether he’s onto you or really feels the same.
Help With Homework
This one works wonders. Conveniently, tell him you can’t find an assignment or need help with someone and suggest just calling him about it. Even the texting works too because that’s all the lead he needs to get your number.
Whether he decides to use it or not is a whole different story.
Another VIP factor is whether or not a guy even wants your number. If you know this before you act, you’ll save yourself oodles of heartache – Nobody likes to be rejected.
Signals A Guy Is Totally Into You
There’s zero use giving a man your number if he does care diddly squat about you – Eek!
Here are a few straight up suggestive signals he’s got the hots for you and would welcome your number.
Signal One – Politely asks if you are seeing anyone
Talk about scoring straight up! If a guy asks about any other guys in your life, this communicates loud and clear he would like to get to know you better. Talk about thrilling, if the feeling’s mutual.
Relationship Advice experts know that men are totally territorial and they want to know the girl they are with, has all eyes on him. If she “belongs” to another guy, there are very few willing to venture where few men have gone before.
In other words, guys are generally possessive and want their love interest to be flying solo.
Even before a man goes after a woman, he wants to know there’s no competition.
Nobody wants to have to plow through a line of gents that have a head start to get the prize. Plus, if you’re currently sleeping with other guys, that’s a ginormous deterrent. Guys play to win, start to finish.
Makes sense to me!
Signal Two – Behind the scenes info is VIP
Guys like to know a little more about the girl they have their eye on BEFORE initiating interest. It really doesn’t make any sense to go after a girl that’s sleazy or already has a steady guy.
How he see’s you through the eye’s of others, is very important whether you agree or not. If people pump you up in general, you have nothing to worry about. If they dish you or talk trash, then this guy has a lot to ponder.
If this man knows you treat people with respect around you and your morals are intact, then you’ve got nothing to worry about.
Signal Three – Shows up coincidentally wherever you happen to be
This is a really sweet one. If a guy takes the time to figure out where you’re going to be and makes sure he accidentally on purpose bumps into you, that’s golden.
Says straight up, you are worth his time and effort.
This also gives you less excuses to turn him down when he just shows up and asks you to hang out. Very clever if you ask me.
A man that makes the time to adjust to your schedule just because he wants to get to know you better, is a gem – Period.
Signal Four – He asks for your number
When a guy asks for your number, it really doesn’t get much clearer, he likes you oodles. Think about it for a sec? He’s asking you for your number because he’s warming you up.
The majority of gentlemen like to speak on the phone at least a couple times before they pop the big question!
No, they’re not going to ask you to marry them but they will ask you out for real – Fabulous!
Signal Five – Starts talking about new release movies
This one is all about dodging the bullet. Instead of coming straight out and asking your for a date or your number, he’s feeling you out first. Smart men want to gauge by your reaction whether or not they should pursue you without losing face.
If you start talking about movies, you remove the vulnerability factor. Definitely a sweet thing, according to my books.
Ultimately, he’s likely wishing it was you that was doing the asking but as long as you’re game, he’ll be smiling big-time.
Signal Six – Interested in what type of food you prefer
We live in a world of convenience and when it comes to socializing, food is number one.
*We eat because we are sad.
*We eat because we are bored.
*We eat because we want to fit in.
*We eat because we are hungry.
We also choose to eat specific foods because we have the hots for someone special and want to impress them.
Does he like Chinese? How about Japanese or Thai? Do you like hot and spicy or curry straight up?
He’s asking you this because he wants to hit the nail on the head and impress you with a food suggestion you’re craving.
For certain, he doesn’t want to feel like he’s pressuring you and he doesn’t want to feel like a beggar.
Be gentle because the more straight up you are here, by giving him the facts, the better off you’ll be in the long run.
Trust me because acting sucks hind teat.
Signal Seven – Buying new snazzy outfits
No doubt when a man that’s worth your time asks you out, he’s going to make certain you notice him.
What better way than to wear a new shirt or outfit that shoots him to the tippy top of style!
Bottom line, any man that wants your undivided attention, isn’t afraid of putting a little money into freshening up his wardrobe. He should want to impress you and he seriously wants you to know that no matter how much he hates shopping, he put in the effort to get a new shirt!
You might also know that he’s gone a little overboard with the sexy Ax deodorant and a new cologne.
Tip – If you notice these things and compliment his efforts, you are going to shoot him to cloud nine pronto.
FACT – Everyone likes a compliment.
Signal Eight – Personality shine like no other
I believe the eyes are the windows to the soul. I don’t need a relationship expert to tell me that.
Essentially, what you see is what you get, and a man’s gaze or eye contact says it all.
*If he’s looking at you with that mischievous smile that’s super selective cute – You’re on the right track.
*If he’s avoiding your eye’s, he is either shy or really doesn’t care about you.
*If he brightens up when engaging with you, I can tell you straight up, you’ve got a winner.
You want a man with personality. Someone that cares about engaging and impressing you. If he doesn’t, you need to kick him to the curb fast.
On the other hand, the more favorable one, if he lights up when he see’s you and just wants your attention, you win big-time.
Information is knowledge and factual knowledge gets you ahead of the game in life. Let’s have a gander at a few myths about men in general you need to remember.
Cold Hard Fact – If you want to give him your number, you first need to understand men
Myth 1 – Guys never want to be asked out
studies show up to 90% of men are totally fine with a woman asking them out. So if you’re worried about coming on too strong by asking, don’t be.
Myth 2 – Writing your worries after getting dumped speeds up the grief process
Experts hate to break it to you but journaling doesn’t necessarily help you flip your switch to positive after a breakup.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with writing down your feelings and reflecting on them, just don’t expect this to dry your tears faster.
Myth 3 – Sweet guys always finish last
When it comes to one night stands, it’s the players that have the edge. However, in a serious relationship, it’s to a guys benefit to talk about volunteering or mentoring a troubled teen. Altruism is something that helps long-term relationships stick.
Myth 4 – Pause before you return a text
Nobody wants to come off as too eager in the wild and wacky dating world. But if you think it’s a wise-owl move to leave your date wondering too long about whether or not you dig him, you’re way off track.
Studies show the longer it takes for the first message and response, the more likely the news is going to be bad.
Myth 5 – Any conflict means you’re heading to Single-Ville
I don’t care who you are because there are bound to be complications at some point in any relationship. Even the most perfect matches in the world hit troubled waters from time to time.
On the flip side, it’s often times of confusion to build the bond of understanding stronger between two people. Something to ponder.
Myth 6 – Opposites will always attract
It’s true, in general, people are drawn to traits they don’t have, but only if they aren’t hooked up with someone.
Perhaps, this is why people who are already together are more interested in friendship and single people are worried about inbreeding, evolutionarily speaking.
There is always going to be misinformation out there. So it’s important to debunk myths and uncover the truth. If you don’t have the facts you can’t make the best relationship decisions for you.
Myth 7 – Guys always want to do the chasing
Are you kidding me?
Cosmo says, beyond the shadow of a doubt that the “Mr. Clooney” effect is in action. Guys these days want to direct their undivided attention on confident smart women that certainly aren’t into mind games.
In fact, according to studies the majority of men are tickled blue when women do the asking.
Myth 8 – Guys in general are looking for friends with benefit
Yikes, that’s all wrong. Please don’t play the stereotype card here. Not all guys just want sex without the emotional commitment. And many who “think” they just want sex, really want more, they are just too chicken to admit it straight up.
Nobody likes to take the risk of being rejected, right?
Yes, there are times in a guy’s life where he just wants the physical act of intimacy, perhaps after a bad breakup.
Newsflash! That’s called a rebounder and you want to run far and fast from that!
Bottom line is, even if a guy seems to be interested in just causal intercourse, it really doesn’t mean his mind isn’t open to more. This is where it gets a bit cloudy and you need to connect the dots using his actions and what he says.
Please just don’t assume.
Myth 9 – There’s no biological ticker with men
You’re a certified nut if you think that myth is true. Doesn’t matter, whether you’re a guy or gal, both have a biological ticker programmed that leads the way to sex, reproduction and settling down.
Men are just as excited to settle down and raise a family as women are before the age of 40. Some just need a little more convincing than others. You know what I’m saying…
Myth 10 – What’s your shoe size?
I love this one. I hate to break it to you but according to WebMD, there’s no consistent scientific evidence to support the fact guys with larger size feet have private parts. Seems to be just an urban legend that will often get you smiling when you think about it.
Myth 11 – Men naturally run from commitment
Straight up not true. In fact, it’s the guys that want to introduce their girlfriend to their family and friends sooner. Biologically speaking, men are programmed to fall in love faster and get the girl pregnant, so she is off the market.
Men HATE competition so this makes sense.
Just understand, there are exceptions to every rule and you should never have to convince anybody of your true value and worth…End of story.
How about we take a look at a few proven myths that are ultimately true:
Truth One – Men Do Not Tell Guys Stuff
This one all comes down to the survival theme. It’s in the best interest of any man to tell other guys, to spread the word if he’s interested in you.
This kind of gives him the rights to you and he gets feedback on what his competition is thinking.
The more information, the better, in this case don’t you think?
Truth Two – Men Are Only Visual
It’s true, men are totally turned on with the visual. They want to see first. This totally explains their love for adult content, not judging, just saying.
Front and center stage right now are a few more myths about dating in general that can interfere with your ability to give a guy your number.
It’s all about communication, being on the same page. If you are into a guy and want to give him your number, you have to invest a little time and energy to learn how to do this.
Use these tips, tricks and proven experts tactics to get confident in your skin and score when you want to.