Let’s assume you’ve slept with a guy that you really like and perhaps might like to get serious with. He’s already got the good stuff, and you’ve given him the prize. Now, you’re stuck and wondering how the heck you are going to keep this man interested because he’s already had sex with you.
No worries! Here are a few tactics to help you make him want to go after you for the long run.
How To Keep A Guy Interested After Sleeping With Him
Tactic One – Elongate The Afterglow
Since you want to be with this guy, it’s important to stay together as long as you can after you’ve had sex. It really doesn’t matter what you do; just avoid getting dressed quickly and hightailing it out of there.
If you’ve got chemistry with this man, that’s even better! You can snuggle, make out some more, sleep, make breakfast, get something to eat, have a shower together, or just watch television. It doesn’t matter; just make sure you stick together as long as you can and enjoy the beautiful afterglow.
Tactic Two – Never Play Your Demand Card
This one will get women into a lot of trouble. Particularly, if you agreed on casual sex with no strings, never push for something more right away. That will make him feel like a cornered cat. And you know what cornered cats do. They’ll scratch your eyeballs out!
You should have a casual conversation, without demanding him to commit to something more. When you open this door, you should be able to tell whether his mind is functioning on the same wavelength as yours.
Tactic Three – Don’t Force Him Into The Pressure Cooker
Most men don’t like to receive pressure; they just like dishing it out. Guys also have the power to see pressure when it’s really not there. Just don’t make him think or feel like he’s pressured.
By acting casually and making sure there isn’t any pressure, that’s often enough to make the guy want to see you again. He will come running into your arms if you let him, and if he doesn’t, who cares, right?
Tactic Four – Mutual Respect
If you really want this guy to stick with you, then you’re going to have to be on your best behavior and make sure you show him respect.
Respect him, and he will respect you. Disrespect him and expect to be disrespected. Fair is fair in love and lust.
If you don’t treat him nicely or try and make yourself to be better than him, that’s going to send him the other way fast.
Why would a guy want to see you again if you don’t have the common courtesy to respect him for who he is?
Tactic Five – Force Him To Reach Out
This one might sound a little weird, but if you want a man to be interested in you after you’ve slept with him, you’ve got to back up and make sure he’s the one reaching out to connect with you.
Stick to the plan of matching him text for text. Don’t start texting like crazy just because you hear that familiar ding. Also, never give him more information than he asks for. Read his words and answer appropriately and leave it at that.
It’s not that you are being cold, but being a little distant goes a long, long way.
Tactic Six – Chill With Trying To Get Emotionally Involved
This is where it gets a little sticky. No matter what, you’ve got to be honest with yourself. It’s important that you are honest about what you want. If you only want something casual with this man, then you’re in a great position.
However, if you are looking for something more serious, you owe it to yourself and this guy to be straight up about it. Friends with benefits can work, but often, it gets complicated fast because one person suddenly starts having more feelings than the other.
You are best to say nothing for now if you can help it, but if you REALLY want more it’s got to be now or never.
Tactic Seven – Just Be You Please!
Ask any man; there’s nothing sexier than showing him how confident you are. If you try and be the girl you “think” he wants or someone else altogether, I can guarantee it’s going to backfire big time.
Besides, how long do you think you can pull off a convincing acting job? That gets tiring fast.
Just be yourself and let him tell you just how wonderful and beautiful you really are.
Now, let’s have a look at things you should never do after you’ve slept with a man:
When you have sex with a guy, it’s tricky. There are lots of unwritten rules that you are expected to follow, many of which most women and guys don’t know.
Never…Sleep Apart After Sex
Many men like to sleep after exerting themselves having sex. On the flip side, women are ripe and ready to go again after just 10-15 minutes. You want to try to synchronize your sleep schedules. Why? Well, if either you or your guy isn’t happy with the whole episode of getting busy start to finish, it could be a negative for your relationship.
Never…Vamoose After Making Love
This one is just plain nasty. Think about it, getting up and leaving right after you’ve slept with your partner. This looks cold, no matter your reasons. Make sure you don’t ever leave instantly afterwards unless you want to shout loud and clear that you just don’t give a crap.
Never…Do The “Selfie” Move During the Act
Not sure why you would even think of doing this, but some girls do, and it is wrong. There is no doubt that taking selfies has been all the rage the past few years. Heck, there’s even a selfie stick to get the job done. However, you are going to run into trouble at some point if you take them when you are getting hot and dirty with a man.
Make sure you aren’t one of these people, please. It’s all about respect and making sure you don’t push your partner into something they aren’t good with. Why would you even take the chance?
Never…Pay Any Attention To Your Electronic Devices When You Are Together
This one just screams disrespect. You should never engage with your phone or any other electronic device when you are with anyone, let alone when you’ve just had sex. That’s just rude, I’m afraid.
The phone is most definitely a solo activity and should only be done when you are with nobody but yourself. If you can’t get that, you are creating trouble for yourself unnecessarily.
Never…Pull Out The Laptop To Work After Sleeping with Him
There are some things that need to stay out of the bedroom. This isn’t just about making sure you aren’t heading to work or working on your laptop after having sex. Studying is the same thing, and it’s a big no-no.
The best thing for you to do is to cuddle or fool around after sex then you can go to work. Trust me, this one is a relationship saver.
Never…Zonk Out After Sleeping with Him
This point is so much different than making sure your sleep schedules are on par. If you are one of those people who fall asleep right after sex, you are headed for trouble. For guys, sometimes, this just happens because of their genetic makeup. When a guy orgasms, he releases it all, and the serotonin kicks in immediately for a long winter’s nap.
If you’re a guy, you’ve got to try to stay awake, and if you’re a girl, you better make sure you do.
Never…Slip Into The Kitchen
After you’ve had your fun, that doesn’t give you the green light to replenish your fuel reserves. Holy crap! Don’t use your ravaging hunger as an excuse to raid the kitchen. If you are really starving, invite your partner to come with you. If they decline, that’s okay. If they want something to eat, that’s even better.
The point is make sure you do it together and not separately.
Never…Flip On The Television Or Pick Up A Book
Yes, reading is good for your brain, and research shows it does make you smarter; however, don’t use this as an excuse not to pay full attention to your partner after sex. Try hanging out with each other for at least a half hour after sex before you engage in any solo activities.
Please just follow this unwritten rule!
Never…Get Loaded
There’s no doubt, if you drink too much before you take someone to bed, sex will be much less satisfying. In a recent study, over 10 percent of drinkers reported issues having an organism on the nights they had a little too much to drink.
You know your levels and your tolerance, so just beware.
Never…Lift Your Hips Up On A Pillow
Unless you are looking to have a baby and totally scare off a man forever, never lift your hips up on a pillow after you’ve made love. This act will increase the risk of conceiving.
Of course, if that’s your intention and your other half is on board…go for it!
Never…Have A Large Dinner Before You Sleep With Him
When you have a large heavy meal before sex, it’s been proven to take away from your performance and enjoyment of intercourse. Keep the meals light and healthy and you’re doing yourself a huge favor.
Never…Make The Mistake Of Asking Him How It Was For Him
You should never give him too many compliments or ask him how it was right after sleeping with him. This makes you look insecure. Words shouldn’t be needed after you sleep with a guy.
It’s not wrong to figure out what he likes and doesn’t like, but don’t put him on the spot when it comes to performance.
Never…Play The Comparison Card
This one is a no-brainer. You should never compare the guy you just slept with to any other lover you’ve had. That’s a major no-no any way you look at it. Just don’t, please.
Never…Get Distant
It’s important you focus on the man you just slept with for a certain period of time after you’ve slept together. You’ll have to figure out how much time is long enough, but if you get distant thinking about other things too quickly, you’re making a wrong move.
When you sleep with a man you are taking steps to make that emotional connection, which is much deeper than talking or any sort of physical contact on the surface, like hand-holding or kissing.
By making sure you are staying in the moment as long as you can comfortably, you are showing him that you enjoyed the experience and are comfortable in it. This goes a long way to keeping the door open for another rendezvous.
Never…Jump Straight Into The Shower
Unless of course he’s coming with you! Don’t ever bolt out of bed after doing the dirty and hop into a steamy hot shower. This gives him the impression you don’t want any evidence of him on you or in you, and that’s in bad taste.
Never…Make Him Think You’re Gross
This one really doesn’t need to be explained, but you should never do things that gross him out shortly after sleeping with him. Things like picking your nose, biting your nails, scratching your butt, and burping are no-no’s for any girl trying to act like a lady.
Never…Say The “L” Word
Just because you slept with a guy doesn’t mean you’ve got the right to tell him you love him, no matter how great your fun was. This is the perfect route to set off alarm bells and send your guy running far and fast away from you.
The best place to say the “l” word is far, far away from the bedroom.
Never…Ask Him To Commit His Undying Love For You
Whatever you do, never ask a guy for any sort of commitment after you’ve slept with him. Don’t ever corner him and ask him to be your boyfriend or anything along that line. This conversation should be dually spontaneous and far away from the bedroom.
Never…Get Too Eager
This is where there’s an enormous difference between men and women. Guys need some time to recharge, whereas women can be ready to go again after a few minutes.
Keep in mind, the older the guy is, the longer it’s going to take him to get ready for round two.
If you did not reach the big O, there’s nothing wrong with asking him to get you off.
Never…Get Teary Eyed
If you want to scare the crap out of a guy, all you’ve got to do is start crying. Most guys aren’t good with that. Men don’t like emotional stuff for the most part.
Never…Hang Out Too Long
It’s best that you don’t hang out too long after sleeping with a guy. After you wake up, make sure you grab a cab or walk home before the guy you just slept with starts thinking you will never leave.
If you want him, make sure you leave him your number. Put the ball in his court.
Never…Get Funny
Don’t ever start laughing right after sleeping with him. This will freak him out and make him think you are a nut-job. He’s going to feel insecure and wonder if you are laughing at him or the size of his package.
Just don’t laugh, and it’ll all work out.
Here are a few red-hot signals you shouldn’t sleep with him…ever!
Red Hot Signal One – The Feeling Isn’t Mutual
When you really don’t want to sleep with a guy, you shouldn’t! Your gut is right more often than not, and sometimes, you need to leave emotions on the side and follow logic.
When you sleep with a guy just to sleep with him, it’s sort of like having another piece of pie when you’re already stuffed.
Red Hot Signal Two – Your Mind Says He’d Like You More If You Took Him To Bed
If a guy isn’t totally head over heels into you, sleeping with him isn’t going to change a thing. He’s going to sleep with you just to get off, and that will be the end of it. He’s just using you for his own needs, and you’re nuts to let that happen.
Red Hot Signal Three – He’s Just Feeling Distant
When a guy suddenly starts feeling distant, there’s usually a good reason. If he’s canceling plans and being evasive, you shouldn’t give yourself to him just because.
There is certainly a reason behind this madness.
Red Hot Signal Four – He’s Told You Nothing Serious Is Going To Happen With You
If a man tells you he doesn’t want anything serious with you and he just wants to be with you secretly, you need to kick him to the curb fast.
This is a clearcut indicator he isn’t into you and is probably just using you. I know you’ve got more self-respect than that. Time for you to go find what you deserve!
Red Hot Signal Five – He’s Totally Into You But Can’t Commit
This is a tough one. When a man is totally head over heels into you and doesn’t want anything serious, your only conclusion is that he really doesn’t want you. If he was worth your while, he would want something more than sex.
Red Hot Signal Six – Mr. Clinger
There’s no doubt that a little clinging is good, but only if you are into a man. Sweet messages back and forth are special, and they make you feel special and wanted. However, if he can’t leave you alone, you need to take that as a red-hot signal you need to get away from him fast.
Red Hot Signal Seven – He’s Some Sort Of Ex
No matter what, you don’t want to get into a situation where you are sleeping with a man who’s an ex of anyone you know. Don’t go there, unless you are looking for oodles of trouble.
So many solid friendships are ruined because people believe they can get intimate with a friend’s ex and nothing will change. Rarely is this ever the case. Emotions and logic don’t mix so if you value your friendships, just don’t open the door to getting involved with an ex of any kind. That’s a safe rule to live by that’s going to save you a lot of heartaches.
Final Words
If you want to keep a guy interested after sleeping with him, you’ve got to use proven tactical strategies. It’s important to understand what you should and shouldn’t do after sex and to make sure you seriously want this man in the near and perhaps distant future.
