It’s easy to fall for a man that seems to attract women magnetically. He knows, and you know, he can have any girl he wants, and he seems to have this magical power to have women throwing themselves at him wherever he frequents.
The challenge, of course, is to capture his undivided attention, so he doesn’t notice any of the other pretty girls ogling for his attention.
Here are a few concrete tips to help you sink your claws into a player’s heart and make him fall head over heels in love with you.
How To Make A Player Fall In Love With You
Tip #1 – Create That Friendship He’s Going to Fall in Love With
If you are serious about landing this player for keeps, you will have to give him a solid friendship first. This teaches him to respect you on a higher level and not just as a womanizer looking to catch his next prey.
Take a genuine interest in his life. Ask him about his family, hopes and dreams and, of course, about his interests and hobbies.
Make sure you don’t get carried away and listen more than you talk. Focus on gathering information outside the dating world, you know, the real stuff. Your goal is to make him see that you aren’t just interested in being lovers, and that you actually want to be there for him as a genuine friend.
At this point, whether that’s true or not really doesn’t matter. You need to convince him that friendship comes first.
Tip #2 – Seduction Is A Super Power
We all know guys are only human, and they are totally in love with a woman who looks good and doesn’t mind going beyond the call of duty to dress up sexy. When you smell good and look good, you are going to drive him batty!
Make sure whenever you are near a player that you are looking totally scrumptious. Do your makeup and hair and wear something super sexy. Don’t get slutty, but a nice low-cut dress with class and a pair of heels will go a long way in making him fall head over heels for you and then some.
Focus on accentuating your best assets. This will make it impossible for him to take his eyes off you, and it will leave you planted in his brain, even when you aren’t around.
You don’t have to be a model with the perfect body to pull this off. Attitude is everything, and when you show him your confidence and your body, you’re going to give him the message loud and clear that you are one super-hot catch.
Practice making eye contact but don’t be afraid to break the gaze and scan your eyes around the room. This will let him know he’s not the only guy on your radar. This is a simple move that will push him to make his move sooner than later.
Newsflash…You don’t have to take off your clothes to seduce a man. Actually, the ball is in your court when you leave him wondering what’s under that super-hot sexy red dress.
The imagination is a wondrous thing!
Tip #3 – Boys Want What They Don’t Have
Men want what they can’t have. For the cream of the crop, that’s true. When you are dealing with a player, however, you need to understand that you are not the only woman on the planet.
If you sleep with him right off the hop, you are giving him what he wants and devaluing yourself. Make him chase you a little and leave lots to his imagination.
When you are serious about reserving a special place in his heart, you need to cross your legs and don’t take him to bed, not just yet anyway.
Hold back as long as you can because this will make him try harder and harder to get you. Never invite him over late at night, and no matter what, don’t pick up his drunk calls at 3 am.
Turn down his first few offers for a date but make sure you have valid reasons and make sure he knows you are still interested.
Show him you are independent and you can take care of yourself; you don’t need a man to be happy. You might want a man, but you do not need one.
Make sure he sees you have a life outside of him and are totally happy in it. Independent women are hugely attractive in the dating game. Don’t sell yourself short and you’re going to make him want you badly.
Tip #4 – Vamoose
It’s no secret that players have numerous women on their quick call list. They are happy to answer the call, no matter the time of day. If you want to grab his attention, you need to make sure you aren’t always available for him. Don’t be the girl that will answer all his messages the second he sends them.
When you make this player wonder what you are up to, you are slowly sinking your teeth into him. Boys automatically think girls are with another man, and that’s not a bad thing in this circumstance.
When you aren’t available, it will naturally make him try harder to locate you and get your attention. Make excuses when he wants to hook up and let him know you’ve got lots of things to occupy your time.
He needs to know you are perfectly fine on your own and that you have a full life that keeps you busy. Again, it doesn’t matter whether this is true. He just needs to be convinced of this.
Social media works great with this tip. Show him that you are happily busy in your life by posting pictures of yourself with your friends out at the bar or having fun at a beach party. If you are in your sexy bikini and hanging out with a few cute guys that’s even better.
The less you are available for him, the more he’s going to want to hang out with you. Just be careful you don’t make yourself totally unavailable or he will lose interest. Play this pointer right and you will make him fall head over heels in love with you!
Tip #5 – Show Him Your Confidence
When you are looking to make a player fall in love with you, it’s vital you step up to the plate and show him how confident you are.
A woman who loves herself is a woman who will naturally draw the attention of men. When you show a player you have worth and you know how to keep your head up, no matter what, you are luring him to you on a much higher level than any other girl.
With your confidence, you can melt a player. Stand up for yourself when a player tries to chip away at your self-worth. It will happen, so be ready for it.
Most players haven’t had a woman put them in their place, and that’s the perfect thing for you to do when the opportunity arises.
He needs to learn early that he’s got to respect you if he’s going to be with you. There’s no negotiation on that point.
When he is forced to respect you, he will let down his walls, and slowly, but surely, he will start falling in love with you.
Tip #6 – Never Ever Tell Him How You Really Feel
This is the card for blowing it. You obviously have feelings for this guy, but trust me, don’t ever tell him about the butterflies in your tummy when you are near. Don’t confess your deep feelings for him unless you want to play into his hand.
You need to force his hand and make him fess up to how he feels about you first. You’ll scare him off if you get deep into your gut feelings about him. Plus, it’s early, and he might not feel the same way about you.
Don’t be afraid to talk with a trusted friend about how you are feeling or let it out by writing in a journal.
Give it some time and pay close attention to all the signals he is giving you. It won’t take you long to figure out when you need to tell him the thoughts deep in your brain.
Tip #7 – Please Don’t Pressure Him to Fall Head Over Heels in Love with You
This is a mistake too many women seem to make. When they are looking to make a player love them, they will try to pressure him to fall in love. That’s a big no-no in the wild and whacky world of dating.
There’s no doubt you will become impatient waiting for him to ask you to be his other half. Just don’t show this to him, and you are on the right track.
All that will do is push the player away, and of course, that’s not your intention. You want to draw him closer.
Slow and steady wins the race. Take the lead but don’t be aggressive. Let him know you are enjoying the way things are and really don’t need anything else. Focus on staying positive and never pressure him to take things to the next level. If you do this, he will be gone lightning fast.
Tip #8 – Make Sure You Rock His World
We’ve saved the best for last. When you are trying to convince a player to fall in love with you, it’s viral you step it up a notch or two when it comes to the bedroom. Make a point of dressing super sexy and give him a night he won’t ever forget.
Look for ways to please and pleasure him and go beyond the call of duty to make sure you rock his world.
When you give him an amazing time, he will no longer be a player. From now on, he will be a stayer.
Just to be certain, here are a few practical pointers to prove you are with a player.
There are guys who are trustworthy, and there are guys who aren’t. It’s incredible how many woman who are crazy intelligent but get screwed over by these men.
A player knows exactly what to say, and they are skilled at hooking women quickly.
It’s critical that you learn to recognize which guys are players and which ones are going to stay around for the long run:
Pointer One – These Gentlemen Say One Thing And Do Another
There’s no doubt that actions speak louder than words. If a man is seriously interested in getting to know you, he will put effort into doing this. This means they will keep their word and follow through with any plans you’ve made together.
If you are with a guy that keeps canceling and filling you full of false promises, it’s time to pick yourself up and move on.
Pointer Two – It’s All About the Sex
It’s not tough to figure out what a person is all about by the way they talk with you. If you are with a guy that is only complimenting you sexually, you are with the wrong person. When a guy tells you that you are “hot,” that’s a little slinky. On the flip side, if he tells you that you look beautiful, that’s much more classy and believable.
Pay attention to their language and figure out whether they are into you for the sex or if there could be a heck of a lot more.
Pointer Three – You Are Last on The List
If a man wants to be with you, he will do everything in his power to make that happen. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out. The guy who is worth his weight in gold will give you his schedule and make sure you know he wants to be with you.
Under no circumstances should you have to fight for a man to be in your life. If they are truly serious about you, they will make sure you know you are their priority. End of story.
Pointer Four – He’s Not Telling You Where He Stands
A solid strategy for players is to make sure you are left wondering what they are up to and who they are with. So nasty but so true. These men like to leave you trying to figure out when they are going to text or hook up with you next. They are skilled professionals with this stuff.
Players love chasing but have no interest in committing to a plan, never mind a real future with a girl.
Please make sure you understand you deserve to know what’s going on, and you deserve accountability. Do not settle for anything less.
Pointer Five – You Don’t Know Anything About His Friends and Family
This is a gigantic red flag. If you’ve been together for a few months, and you don’t know any of his friends or family, it’s a pretty clear sign you are dating a player. If a guy is seriously considering a future with you, he will want to show you off to his family. He will want you involved in his life.
If he isn’t doing this, I can guarantee he’s a full-fledged player.
Pointer Six – Zero Commitment
If a man is serious about a girl, he will try to book whatever time he can with her. He’s not going to want to leave her wondering why. A player makes sure you only hook up with him when it’s convenient for him, and that’s never a good thing.
If he’s got no long-term goals with you involved, you should consider the fact he’s likely a player.
Pointer Seven – Bed Is Always on His Mind
When the guy you are with is always trying to slip you into bed, he is likely a player. If you were with a guy that was worth keeping, he would communicate with you fully and openly before the bed stuff starts.
Next Up…A Few Dangers Signals on A First Date
The last thing you deserve is to be played. Here are a few pointers that signal the guy you are with, perhaps the player, is going to break your heart.
Danger Signal 1 – He Mentions the Future, but You aren’t in There Specifically
This is a tough pill to swallow, particularly when you really want a guy to like you. If a man isn’t including you in his immediate and near future plans, you need to take this as a solid sign he is not into you the way you are into him. It’s time for you to walk away and let in what you deserve.
Danger Signal 2 – He’s Too Attentive
This one might throw you for a loop. If a man is paying too much attention to you, it’s a clear-cut signal he is feeling guilty for not being true to his feelings.
Make sure you are cautiously aware of this one because, if you misread it and let it slide, you’re likely going to wind up with a broken heart, which is exactly what you don’t deserve.
Danger Signal 3 – Disagreements Aren’t Happening
I don’t care what sort of relationship you are in. When you are with a man and he does everything in his power to avoid any sort of disagreement, he’s just not being normal. Any healthy union will have disagreements. That’s just how the relationship cookie crumbles.
If this man is making sure you don’t ever disagree, you need to consider the cold hard fact that he’s likely playing you.
Danger Signal 4 – Indirect Replies
If a guy is scooting around the direct questions you are asking, it’s safe to say he’s likely a player with his own agenda. He’s likely going to tell you that he deeply cares for you, but he will quickly follow this with something about not wanting to commit or that he’s just not ready for anything else. Do yourself a favor and kick this man to the curb fast.
Danger Signal 5 – Stalled Relationship
There are ups and downs in any relationship. If your union has plateaued, and it isn’t growing anymore, you need to consider the fact you might be in the wrong relationship. This man is likely trying to play you, and you deserve more than that.
Danger Signal 6 – Treats You Poorly
When a man treats a woman poorly that’s a red-hot signal that he really doesn’t give a crap about her. If you are with a man who doesn’t give you the time of day and makes you essentially feel like you have no value, chances are pretty good you are with a certified player. That’s unacceptable and never a good thing.
You deserve a man who treats you right, no matter how much you “think” you love him. You deserve a man that lifts you up and takes care of you when you are down. If that isn’t the man in front of you, then you need to do the right thing and move on, far, far, away from him.
When you are looking to figure out how to make a player fall in love with you, there are oodles of things you need to consider. The first thing you need to do is use these danger signals to figure out whether you are trying to land a player. From there, you should open your mind to figure out the best strategic moves to make a player fall head over heels in love with you and only you.
Show him your confidence and that you understand what you deserve. Never settle and make sure you know your worth.