It’s quite the challenge to make your best friend your girlfriend. This is a life transition that very well could destroy a good thing if it’s not done right.
However, with the following expert pointers you will learn the exact moves to take your friendship to the next level!
No doubt one of the worst experiences in the world is being banished to the friend zone by a girl – Eek!
Often men get stuck deep in the friend zone because they don’t understand how women think and work. And when you learn a little about communicating with a woman, you will figure out crystal clear what you need to see if there is a chance to be more than friends with your now friend.
Everyone seems to be the expert when it comes to taking your friendship to the next level. Some tactics might work for you and others won’t. And when we dig a tad deeper into the psychology of it all, you get that much closer to the answers that will work for you.
Learn the basics to start and build from there because the more knowledge you have about natural attraction and how women think, the better.
What Is The Friend Zone?
The friend zone is a scenario where one person wants to be more than friends and the other person may or may not be aware of this. It becomes very difficult when nobody knows how to show their true feelings to each other.
In other words, if the guy really wants his friend to be his girlfriend and he doesn’t have the know-how to show her, that’s just trouble for everyone.
Make note that when two people are close together there are bound to be feelings developed. Some just like the physical closeness and others are looking for more romance. And when you get to know someone on a friend level, this just increases the odds of wanting more.
So How Come The “Friend Zone” Just Happens?
When you first understand why people wind up in this zone, it’s much easier to figure out how to get out for good.
Some people wind up in the friend zone because they are just too nice. When this happens, the girl might skip right past any of your hints for more because she is so secure in your friend relationship. Her mind probably isn’t open to anything more.
Any relationship involves negotiation and what you need to do in order to get out of the friend zone is to re-negotiate your relationship.
Much easier said than done I know.
You have to figure out how to ask for more from the other person than they are already giving you.
Here are a few tactics you can implement to help balance the scales in your relationship…
How To Make Your Best Friend Your Girlfriend
Technique #1 – Show Her Your Manly Confidence!
The number one quality a girl looks for in a man is confidence. Girls go crazy gaga when they see a man knows what he wants and is willing to communicate this. Having the ability to make a decision fast is a bright quality that will make or break you in the women department.
So if your “girl” friend asks you what movie you’d like to see, make sure you tell her specifically what you want to see. Don’t be wishy-washy and whatever you do make sure you don’t tell her “whatever you like is fine.”
When you are strong and decisive, this lets a girl know you have what it takes to stand the test of time if that is where the cards dictate. I’m going to leave it at that for now.
Technique #2 – Steer Clear Of The Clingy
If you are seriously looking to capture the undivided attention of your friend, to move it to the next level, you most certainly can’t be all over her.
It shows you are needy and suffocating, and have no other options. Harsh but true.
Girls like a strong man that has confidence in himself and doesn’t need a sweet thing beside him to validate him. That’s the truth stone cold.
If you really want your friend to be more than that, you will need to show her you are fine on your own but would love to have her by your side. It’s a fine line I know but whatever you do, please don’t be Mr. Clingy.
Give her some special attention and leave it at that, and you will get exactly what you want.
Technique #3 – Tell Her How You Feel
At some point you need to jump in with both feet, and let this girl you like know you are ready to make her your girl. You need to tell her that you want to be more than friends and more importantly you need to show her.
Either she is on board or she’s not.
Psychology Today experts say if you stay too close to someone as a “friend” without uncovering your romantic interest, you are risking them believing you will only ever be friends.
If you are really going to make her your girlfriend, you’ve got to have to take action to show her. Reach out and hold her hand, hug her extra long, or maybe just kiss her one night.
Don’t hold back or you just might be sorry.
Enough is never enough when it comes to proven tactics to sway your best friend to be your girl. Here are a few more techniques to take action with.
According toexperts, there are oodles of different sensible tactics you can exercise in order to let your present friend know you want so much more.
You may be suffering from a major headache right now if you are trying to swing your girl…friend, out of the friend zone and into girlfriend status.
Beware that falling head over heels for a friend is really quite normal and you need to understand that if it’s what you want then you really need to go for it.
So stop feeling sad or “cursed” about this and look for the bright side. Turn your tune optimistic please and good things will happen.
Technique #4 – Make Her Feel Special
When you want to shift from friend to more than friends, you are going to have to start changing your behavior towards her. Make her feel and see that you want to clearly be more than friends. That’s a good place to start.
Start acting a touch more flirty with her, possessive and protective. Remind her how special she is by telling her that she is pretty, smart and strong, you know what I’m getting at.
When you treat her differently and make her see you are acting differently around her, then you’ll open her mind to the romantic side of things, and that’s just plain magical.
Technique #5 – Try Not To Run To Her 24/7
When a guy is available 24/7 that’s a turn-off. It just means he has nothing better to do or he just plain lacks the confidence to know what he wants and how to get it.
Just think cheesy and you’re on the right track.
It’s VIP you make your friend miss you if you want them to open up to being romantic with you at some point. When she is consciously and unconsciously thinking of you, she is naturally going to miss you when you are nowhere to be found.
All you need to do is sneak away from time to time. This means you aren’t answering her calls or text messages either. Do whatever you need to in order make her curious what you are up to.
Technique #6 – Shoot The Compliments Unexpectedly
When a girl is flattered out of the blue, it catches her off guard and that works wonders for her confidence and curiosity. Women like surprises from time to time so don’t be afraid to hug her close, hold her hand, or tell what you love about her just because.
Practice being spontaneous and impulsive. You never know unless you try!
Technique #7 – Make It Habit To Send Her Nice Things
This is where you need to do a little creative thinking if you are going to successfully woo your friend to girlfriend status. Girls like gifts and they don’t have to be large and expensive. On the flip side, you might want to steer clear of the standard flowers and chocolates.
Take a vested interest in knowing what she likes and take advantage of having this wealth of insider information to wow her. This reminds her that you are paying attention and you want to make her smile from the inside out.
That’s just plain magical any way you look at it.
Technique #8 – Take A Stab At Grabbing Her Hand
If you are trying to show her you want more and she just doesn’t seem to be getting it, you might need to step it up a notch or three.
How about grabbing her hand?
This one will take a little guts and determination but it will give her the clear message that you don’t just want a friendship, that you want more.
Make sure you hold it for at least 3 seconds so she knows it’s not a “friendly” hand holding session. It’s worth a try, don’t you think?
Technique #9 – Decrease Your Interest In Her
When you show less interest in the things she is doing and saying , you will trigger the “want” from her. She’s going to want more because you are suddenly giving her less.
If you are being too needy, that means you are giving her too much and you’ll have a tough time convincing her you have value and that she should give you more.
Technique #10 – Manifest Competition – Even If It’s Fake
It’s important you let her know there is competition out there, other women that want you. Try going out with other friends that you are attracted to and expand your social network.
Then when you are ready, report back to her because in her mind you are just “friends,” right?
This one is a little sneaky but it does work wonders.
Technique #11 – Ensure They Have A Vested Interest In You
In order to do this, you need to convince her to do special things for you. Girls like doing favors for boys because it gives them special value.
Truth be told…The more they are investing in your relationship, the more they are going to want from you and that’s magical when you are trying to shift your relationship to the next level and beyond.
Technique #12 – Don’t Forget To Reward Her
Everyone wants to feel special, loved, and appreciated. So when your friend does things for you, make sure they know you appreciate it.
When you do this, you are once again creating the need for validation and attention, and that’s awesome when you want to be more than friends.
Encourage them to continue on with these behaviors and they’re going to get used to it fast. And when they do, you are opening the door of opportunity to become more than just buds with this special friend.
When you are looking to make your friend your special other, there’s no easy or direct route. It’s going to be a bit of a trial and error process. However, when you use these proven tips, tricks and strategies you will be able to create your master plan to seal the deal.
Time for you to step up to the plate and take action to get what you want and deserve.