Long conversations and dramatic pronouncements are wonderful in the movies, but in real life, subtlety works best. Guys share a lot of the same traits – pride, a certain amount of stubbornness, and hesitation, but they all have their quirks, too.
It will take some time to refine methods for how to make your boyfriend happy. Once you know more about his habits, personality, and background, you can do special things to make him happy based on his particular likes.
Here’s some information on how to make your boyfriend happy, and it applies to any guy. All you have to do is refine our suggestions to fit his personality.
Ways to Keep Your Boyfriend Happy
Check out the following ways to keep your boyfriend (or husband) happy. Following these suggestions will let your guy know you care, even during busy times. It’s important to make these habits part of your daily life in a natural way.
You shouldn’t have to remind yourself to be nice to your boyfriend or make him happy. (If it’s hard to focus on your boyfriend or husband at least a few times a day, you need to rethink the relationship or cut back on your work and other non-relationship activities.)
Look Good and Take Care of Your Appearance
Both men and women tend to stop dressing up and being as meticulous with their appearance after they’ve established a dating relationship than during the opening stages.
Keep your wardrobe, hair, and make-up up-to-date even after you’ve been in a relationship for a while. You don’t need to dress to the nines but be well-groomed and wear clothes that accentuate your figure and make you look attractive.
Remember that looking the best you can is important for your self-esteem and mental health as well as your relationship.
Even if you’re spending a night at home together, wear a bit of make-up, a cute pair of jeans and a crop top, or something casual but cute. Wear sexy lingerie at night. He’ll appreciate your effort, and you’ll both reap the benefits!
Remember, however, that being sexy is more about an attitude and a sense of fun than what you wear. The sexiest outfit won’t make you look appealing if you feel glum, tired, or bored and are just going through the motions.
Be There for Him
If you know he has to give an important presentation at work, help him practice it or give him advice on how to make it better. Make him chicken soup if he has a cold, or run errands for him if an old sports injury flares up and he has a hard time walking. If her normally
Support him and stay by his side when he’s having a tough time. Listen to him talk about his problems, and offer him comfort. We all have moments of self-doubt and confusion (some people more than others), and support from a Significant Other is one of the best ways to improve someone’s mood.
Talk to him and determine his needs. Does he need to relax or just vent and have you listen to his concerns, or does he want to hear your advice? The longer you’re in a relationship, the easier it will be to figure out what he needs at a given time.
Show Him How Much You Love Him
Saying “I love you” means a lot, but showing your man you care for him does even more. Bake him cookies, buy him small gifts you have beer and snacks ready before he sits down to watch the big game.
Doing little things every day will show him how much you care. A big show of affection once in a while won’t strengthen your relationship if you go months between displays of affection or support. Daily hugs, kisses, and words of comfort let your partner know you care.
Show him you love him by:
- Supporting his friendships
- Writing him playful notes
- Plan him a surprise party or vacation
- Let him choose what to watch on TV
They say actions speak louder than words in any relationship, and in life in general. While words of love and appreciation let your man know you care, it’s what you do that makes him feel truly loved.
Don’t hide things or fudge on the facts – always be truthful. Many couples get in trouble because they aren’t truthful, and when the truth finally does come out, it causes a big argument or even ends the relationship. Honesty goes hand in hand with trust to make a relationship stronger.
Studies show that people rank honesty as one of the top qualities they look for in a partner.
It’s better to tell your boyfriend that you spent extra money on the credit card, instead of waiting for him to look at the bill and question you about it. He’ll appreciate you being forward with him, and he should be honest with you, too.
Be Fun and Surprise Him
Make your boyfriend laugh and think of fun things to do together, like going to the zoo or playing darts at the local pub.
You want to make him feel happy and loved, and doing spontaneous things like visiting a new restaurant or going hiking will keep your relationship lively.
Even if your guy is somewhat serious, he’ll appreciate going out and doing something fun or downright silly once in a while. You don’t need to be a comedian and always be “on” – just be open to fun, adventure, or doing something different to break the monotony of day-to-day life.
Find out what your guy likes to do. Ask his friends and family if you’re not sure about some of his interests. Plan a soccer-themed party for the World Cup if he likes soccer, or invite some of his high school teammates to your Christmas dinner for a holiday surprise.
Accept His Flaws
Nobody’s perfect – and that includes you and your Significant Other. Accept your guy’s flaws, and focus on what’s great about him instead. Some women even say they like guys with physical flaws over perfect Adonis looking guys.
Drop hints if you feel your boyfriend needs to improve his habits, but never be pushy about it. People only change if they want to, so accept his flaws and his quirky habits.
Comfort Him When He’s Down
Give him a hug, kiss, or encourage him if he’s had a bad day at work or encountered another setback. Remind him how great he is, and that tomorrow will be better. Ask him if there’s anything you can do to help him feel better or make things easier for him.
Comfort your guy by making him his favorite meal, treating him to a movie and popcorn, or taking a bike ride on a scenic trail near your house. Some guys want to be left alone when they’re upset, and you should give your guy some space if he’s like this.
Releasing stress through physical activity is a great way to get his mind off his problems. Take a walk or go biking with him, or do some yoga asanas. You can also suggest he call his family or some of his friends for additional support and comfort.
After you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you’ll become familiar with your guy’s moods and know what triggers his emotions. You’ll be able to “read” him, so you’ll know how to treat him and how to comfort him when he’s stressed, angry, or depressed
Stay True to Yourself- Don’t Be Phony
Be yourself – the only way to attract and keep a guy is to stay true to who you really are. Don’t pretend you’re someone you’re not just to get a boyfriend. Even if you’re a great actress, your guy will eventually find out that you’re not who you were pretending to be.
Why would you want to get into a relationship with someone if you feel you can’t be yourself? Always be true to yourself in the first stages of a relationship, and you’ll know if the guy you’re dating is right for you. Never try to be what you think a guy wants; chances are the relationship will end abruptly or never get off the ground.
The right guy will accept you for who you are, and you’ll accept him “as is.” Never change or compromise your values or beliefs to get into or stay in a relationship. Your guy will love you and trust you more if he knows you’re for real.
Dress the way you want, maintain the friends, and the interests you want. He’ll love you more because you’re true to yourself. Of course, you can still occasionally do things just for him to make him happy.
If he likes it when you wear your hair a certain way or when you play pool with him and his friends, go ahead and indulge him even if it’s not your thing.
Give Him Compliments
Your guy wants you to compliment him about his looks, clothes, car, athletic ability and job. He may not seem like he cares whether or not you like his new shirt or mention how much you admire his guitar playing, but deep down inside, he wants to hear you compliment him.
Tell him his cologne smells great, or that you liked the movie you both watched on Netflix. Is your guy a great public speaker or conversationalist? Compliment him on his charisma and knowledge and let him know that you, along with friends and family, love listening to him talk.
There’s a lot of discussion about who’s a lousy driver, but if your guy’s driving skills are on a par with pro racers, let him know. Compliment him on his speaking voice, whether it’s in the boardroom or bedroom. There are dozens of things your guy does well – give him a sincere compliment when you notice these skills.
Show Appreciation for What He Does for You
Let your guy know you appreciate everything you do for him (and your children if you have any). Ask him about his day at work and comfort him if he’s had problems. Let him know you are grateful for his hard work and sacrifice.
Show gratitude for your guy if he’s a stay-at-home Dad. Praise him for his help raising the kids while you work. Taking care of the kids during the day is often harder than working in an office, and let him know that you understand what he goes through when things are tough at home.
Reserve Time for Bedroom Fun
No matter how busy you are, make time for fun in the bedroom and keep it interesting. Sex should be an extension of your love for each other, not a chore. Be creative when planning fun ways to spice up your sex life.
Rent a hotel room, have an impromptu lovemaking session while camping in the woods, or imitate a fantasy you’ve seen in a film. Taking sexy photos or videos is another way to make your sex life more interesting. (Be extra careful if you record your escapades, and keep them private).
You can also send him PG-rated sexy pictures of yourself in a bikini or crop top and short-shorts. Sometimes mystery and imagination are sexier than being obvious.
Respect His Privacy
Spending a certain amount of time alone is healthy for a relationship. In the beginning stages of a relationship, you’re together all the time. You’re learning as much as you can about each other. As time goes on, being around each other constantly can wear on your nerves.
Every guy needs alone time to read, think, and pursue interests independent of his girlfriend or wife. You need your private time to hang out with your girlfriends or pursue your hobbies.
As long as you spend more time (or as much time) together as apart, you don’t need to worry about the relationship turning cold. It’s healthy to spend time apart and have hobbies and interests that you can’t share with your boyfriend.
For example, your boyfriend may like horror movies while you can’t stand them. You may like going to art galleries while your boyfriend would rather go to a ball game. Couples who keep certain hobbies separate have happier, healthier lives than those who feel they have to do absolutely everything together.
Encourage him to do the things he likes by himself or with his friends. He should encourage you to pursue your interests alone or with your friends, too.
Unplug- Cut Down on Your Phone and Computer Time
Checking your texts, emails, and social media detracts from your time working, but it also takes valuable time away from your relationship. All those one minute “quick checks” on your phone add up and may cause friction between you and your man.
Practice using your phone and tablet for work-related issues, emergencies, and necessary correspondence only. If you find it hard to limit your online time, use an app to keep you away from your phone. Stay in the moment with your guy, and don’t let your phone, the TV, or a noisy friend divert your attention.
Let your guy know when you need to answer an urgent text or email and why. Family and work emergencies are the only reasons you should answer your phone during an outing or a cozy night at home with your man.
Let Him Know You Trust Him
Show trust in your guy. Avoid being suspicious about little things, and let him make plans for outings together. Don’t always take the reins when it comes to planning vacations, camping trips, or nights on the town. Trust his judgment.
You should also leave your phone unlocked when he’s around. Locking your phone is a sign that you don’t trust him to respect your privacy.
Don’t snoop on his texts or phone conversations. Avoid looking at his phone while he’s away – if you do feel you need to check up on him, ask yourself why? If you mistrust your guy, you need to reassess the relationship.
Let Him Know You Miss Him When One of You Goes Away
When one of you goes away on business or to visit friends or family, be sure to let him know you miss him, even if you’re gone just for the weekend.
Send him a text letting him know you’re thinking of him, but it can be a cute variation on “I miss you” like “Everyone’s great here except you’re not with me” or incorporate a line of dialogue from a movie or TV show you both like.
Spending time away from your partner will make you realize how much you love and how much he loves you. The separation will inspire a warm, heartfelt reunion when you get home
Buy Him Something When You Go Shopping
Even if you go clothes shopping with your girlfriends or your Mom, be sure to buy something for your man. You don’t have to get him anything expensive – just something to let him know you’re thinking about him.
Does he like comic books? Buy him the latest print edition of his favorite title, a keychain with the logo of his favorite sports team, or another small gift to let him know you care. Buy his favorite snack when you go to the grocery store or convenience store, or bring home a burger for him when you stop at a restaurant to buy yourself a meal after work.
Make Eye Contact
Make eye contact with him when you’re talking, eating dinner, or sitting in front of the TV. Give him a glance or smile and hold it for three seconds. The three-second gaze is a flirting technique, but you should still use it if you’re in a relationship or married.
Sometimes, long-term couples get into a routine and read, eat, write, watch TV, or browse the internet without looking at each other. Take time to give your guy an admiring glance (or even a sexy glance). He’ll appreciate it and reciprocate.
Share His Interests
Your guy may be a big football fan while the sport bores you. Ask him questions about the rules of the game or the players, even if you’re not that interested. Guys love talking about things that interest them or things they like to do. Let him know you want to learn more about his work, hobbies, and interests.
If you like the same TV show, movies or music, invite him to go to concerts or have a movie night and binge on all your favorite films.
Get to Know His Family and Friends
Meet his friends and family and get to know them. There are lots of jokes and memes about people not getting along with their Significant Other’s family, but that’s not a given in real life. Have your boyfriend’s parents over for dinner and get to know about them. Go shopping with his Mom and sister. Get to know his family the same way you’d get to know friends.
Hang out with your guy and his friends for a bit when they’re watching TV. Show them, you, too, can be “one of the guys” for a few minutes. While it’s not necessary to become best buddies with your man’s family and friends, strike up conversations with them and socialize with them when you can.
Knowing how to make your boyfriend happy will make you happy, too. When your relationship is going well, it helps cushion the blow of a stressful job or other concerns. A person who has a trustworthy, kind, and upbeat partner feels supported and protected.
A happy person is more productive in all areas of his or her life, including work, hobbies, and friendships.
Make happy moments a part of your daily life with your partner. Don’t save your gratitude, joy, and kindness for his birthday, Valentine’s Day, and the holiday season. Show him appreciation every day in small ways, from buying him a cup of coffee when you go to Starbucks to massaging his shoulders after a long, hard day at work.