Let me ask you something…Have you ever been crazy jealous before?
It’s when you’ve got that dark and tight feeling in your chest when you see your ex kissing another man or holding onto hands. Even sitting and chatting with another man is enough to send you into a frenzy.
Emotions and logic don’t physiologically mix so even though you try and remain calm, more often than not, you react irrationally.
An ex is an ex for good reason right?
Well, that doesn’t seem to matter when jealousy is in the picture. So let’s flip this into your favor and learn how to make your ex girlfriend jealous so she can get a taste of what you’ve suffered from before.
When someone is jealous, it really does mean that you care. Still sucks more often than not.
Time for you to dish it out to your ex girl and we’ll help you along.
How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Jealous
Some Jealousy Is Seriously Healthy
It’s important you to know there’s some jealousy that experts say is rather healthy. Something else you need to know is that women love it when a guy shows he’s jealous. There’s just something rustic magnetic about it.
Good Jealousy – If you show this from time to time calmly, it’s considered healthy. This means you don’t flip out and punch someone out or hold on to it indefinitely. Showing some jealousy means you are connected and you care.
Bad Jealousy – If you get violent or physical when you’re jealous, that’s ultra bad. If jealousy consumes you and brings out the worst in you, it’s definitely not a good thing for anyone.
When you are jealous, that interferes negatively on how you treat people and judge people. Jealous people scream the “cheat card” all the time and that’s just bad news.
Bottom Line…Guys and gals like a little bit of healthy jealousy but anything more is going to create ginormous issues.
Never Ever Rub It In Her Face
Healthy jealousy is an art and it takes time to perfect.
If you are going to try and rub your new relationship in her face, you are going to open the box to hell, just trust me.
Think about this for a minute. If you are trying to make your ex jealous, you must want her back. If this is true, creating jealousy just might push you further apart.
Think first with your big head, please.
Stupid ideas to make your ex jealous are:
*Sending “accidental” dirty texts to your ex that are meant for your new girl.
*Forwarding pics of your new fling to your ex.
*Sucking face with your new toy in front of your ex.
All of that is just lame crap. Shows you are about two years old.
N0 Contact Whatsoever
This no contact rule is essentially a set time after a breakup where you can’t have any contact at all with your ex. This is supposed to give you both time to reflect and heal.
Often when relationships break up, it’s because of external factors and not really issues between the couple. And when you stop and take a deep breath to think on your own, you just might change your tune and little and realize you really do love each other.
Not always, but sometimes it’s worth a shot.
However, you can use this “rule” to make her jealous with extreme subtlety, which of course is brilliant!
No contact forces her brain to start working and wondering what you are up to and who you are with. That’s enough to drive her crazy jealous.
Take Action To Improve Yourself
This helps you to feel good about yourself and shift in another direction. Maybe you want to get a new hairstyle or spice up your wardrobe?
Both are excellent moves if you are looking to trigger a little jealousy. Not to mention, this gives you a new focus and a chance to step outside your comfort zone a little to find something new and exciting in your life.
Why Not Hit The Gym?
It really doesn’t matter how good of shape you were in when you were with your ex. Point is you need to step it up a notch or two and raise the bar.
If you need to lose a few pounds, go do it.
If you want to build sexy muscle and get rid of the soft you, set up a training and eating program to accomplish this.
Invest in your body and you are certain to make your ex super jealous.
Go Find A New Scent
This one might seem a little minor but it really can play a major role in getting your ex a little frazzled. Chances are your ex knows your scent, what cologne you wear. If you find a new one, she’s naturally going to wonder why, if you ever happen to cross paths.
Get this one done just in case. Think of it as a card up the sleeve kind of deal.
Learn How To Control Your Emotion And Think Logically
This is a tough one but we all know that emotion and logic do not mix.
If you decide to meet your ex for a coffee or perhaps you’re going to have a chat on the phone, make sure you lower your expectations and keep your emotions contained. Do NOT let her hold all the cards if you are looking to make her jealous.
If your ex is late meeting you for coffee, don’t react. If she calls you late, it’s important that you act casual and don’t mention anything.
When you show her you have other focuses and don’t really care one way or another about her, she is bound to get a little heated under the collar.
Think about this one for a minute and use it to your full advantage.
RED ALERT! Something to consider before you try and make your ex girlfriend jealous.
Before you start taking action with these proven tips and tricks, you need to be certain you still don’t have strong feelings for your ex.
Ask yourself if you would ever consider getting back with her for all the right reasons. Does she deserve you? Do you deserve her?
The last thing you want to do is start pushing her buttons directly and indirectly to get her jealous, only to push her further and further away.
I’ve seen this happen many times in the heat of the moment where you are freshly hurt from the breakup and would like some serious payback.
So, if your ex has zero chance of becoming your “till death do you part, “ then fire away with making your ex jealous.
How To Know If Your Ex Is Jealous
FOCUS on uncovering jealousy from your ex that is positive. With this type of jealousy, you might get the results you want.
Understand the effect the proper jealousy will have on an ex. So if everything goes right, you will make your ex healthy jealous and that might just drive her back to you.
It’s really tough to spot healthy jealousy so you need to be on your toes. However, if you are face to face with them, it’s pretty easy to see and feel.
When it comes to your ex, if you are looking to make her jealous, you need to be in her head. You want to know what she’s thinking.
Here are a few thoughts that are likely swimming through her brain:
Thinking Mode 1 – No Matter What, I Can’t Let Him Know I’m Jealous
This is a tough one because when emotions talk, you just can’t hide them. She can act like she isn’t jealous but her body language, tone and mannerism will tell you otherwise. Make note that girls are a heck of a lot smart than men.
Your ex knows you will find satisfaction if you know she is jealous, so she will do everything in her power to prevent this.
Thinking Mode 2 – I’m Way Higher Than All This
Any girl that says she never gets jealous is full of crap.
Even confident women get jealous from time to time, it’s natural. Girls play mind over matter and if they feel they are getting jealous of your new girl, they will literally tell themselves they are better and you don’t deserve their attention.
This doesn’t mean she isn’t jealous of course.
Thinking Mode 3 – Pondering She Might Still Love You
If your ex is jealous, it means she still has some feelings for you. Now whether it’s for the right reason or not is beside the point. Like men, women want what they don’t have and if she doesn’t have you anymore, then jealousy might slip into the picture, so pay attention please.
Now take a look how your ex is going to react in social situations:
It’s time to look at how she is behaving in the real world. Not just whats floating around in her brain.
Jealousy Signal One – Your Ex Is A Social Media Stalker
A study from Western University says that up to 90% of people fresh from a breakup that are active on social media will use this tool to keep an eye on their ex.
That’s a tad scary, don’t you think?
Get Ready – If an ex is following you online, she is jealous.
Jealousy Signal Two – The Texting And Calling Will Continue
When your ex is jealous, she is going to want to stay connected with you and this means she might just keep on texting and calling you.
She could be trying to interfere with your new flame and wants to take a bit of the control back and let you know she is around. All while still trying to prove to you that she isn’t jealous. Which is totally not true of course.
Make Note – If she ever asks you about other girls, she is trying to figure out whether or not you are with someone and that is a signal she’s the jealous type. Otherwise she just wouldn’t ask.
Jealousy Signal Three – When Face To Face, She Likes To Naturally Reach Out And Touch You
So let’s say you’ve been working on your jealousy skills and happen to meet up with your ex on the street and decide to go for a coffee. If she is using every chance she gets to touch your arm, hand, or otherwise, this is a clearcut signal she is jealous.
If she’s smiling and engaging playfully with you, that’s her way to try and hide her jealousy.
Jealousy Signal Four – You Ex Just Might Throw You The Seduction Card
You need to be wary of this one if you are trying to make your ex girl jealous.
Particularly, if you have moved on in your life, your ex might decide one day that she isn’t good with that and wants you back. Even if you are perfectly content in your new relationship, she might take action steps to seduce you.
Talk about an obvious in-your-face jealousy card.
And if you deny her, she might well get all crazy on you, just saying.
Jealousy just isn’t a nice thing because more often than not it requires uncontrolled thinking and that’s just never a good thing.
*Jealousy can be extremely destructive
*Jealousy can be dangerous
*Jealousy can be hurtful
On the flip side, jealousy can also be bitter sweet. It can give your ex a little dose of her own medicine and in some weirdly twisted way ,this might make you feel better.
Do what you need to do for yourself and best of luck!