Here are a few steps and some expert tips to help you shift past your shyness that is interfering with landing your crush. What you do with it is up to you!
How To Not Be Shy Around Your Crush
Number One – Make sure you understand the difference between low self-esteem and shyness
When you are insecure in yourself, this is going to interfere for sure in the relationship department. And yes, there is a ginormous difference between being shy and insecure.
Shyness is something that you can usually overcome with a little bit of time.
The sooner you jump in, the better!
However, with low self-esteem, you are giving off the message to your crush that you don’t have confidence or belief in yourself and that’s just not a good thing any way you look at it.
Take action to find confidence in yourself and you will overcome the shyness factor pretty quickly.
Number Two – Take action to feel good about yourself
According to experts, a shy person often doesn’t think they look good and this just might be the reason they aren’t feeling good about themselves.
Bottom Line…If you want a seriously strong and stable relationship, you are going to have to believe in you and this means you’re going to have to kick your shyness to the curb for the most part, mind over matter.
There really is somebody for you out there and it’s best that you practice being yourself and don’t try to be someone you are not. Yes, this can be tempting but just don’t go there please.
To step it up a few notches because when you are honest on top of everything else, you’ll naturally increase your attractiveness tenfold.
Dress yourself up nice in what makes you feel comfortable to start. Style your hair the way you like it and keep your look natural if that’s how you like it. Show your date you feel good about yourself and the shyness will dissipate fast.
Number Three – Prepare ahead of time and have something to talk about
This one helps a whole lot, particularly if you are naturally shy and nervous. Take an interest in the person sitting across from you and make sure you do your homework and know what they like beforehand.
A little preparation goes a long way in getting rid of that weird “get-to-know-you” awkwardness.
And when you’ve got something ready to talk about, that shows you have a keen interest in their interest, true or not, that’s only going to help them want to know you better and perhaps even ignore your shyness.
Keep it simple, give them a compliment and use your manners and you’ll conquer shyness once and for all!
Number Four – Brag a tad about a few of your talents
When it comes to shyness or introverted people, most don’t like to talk about their talents or accomplishments for fear of ridicule. You’ve got to step up to the plate and smack this one right out of the park!
When you talk about your talents or skills, you’re showing you have passion and pride in yourself. This is very important if you are looking to capture the attention of that special someone, VIP in fact.
Number Five – Take action toward natural acts
What this means is you need to step back and take an investigative moment to figure out what scenarios make you physically uncomfortable. Figure out how you react and take preventative action.
For instance, if spiders make you freak out, you will naturally try and avoid spiders.
The same sort of thing applies with your shyness.
When someone is nervous, they might sweat profusely, bite their nails, fidget or perhaps stammer.
To each his or her own.
When you recognize your shyness, you can jump full force into acting. Paste a smile on your face and focus on not being shy and showing your habitual nervous actions.
Talk about what you like and share your thoughts. This pointer will help you skip past your shyness and open the door to relationships.
Number Six – Slow it up a little and take your time
Any relationship takes time to build and strengthen. You will lose and gain friends for different reasons. Keep your mind open and don’t push things.
Consciously promise yourself you won’t try and hide or disappear.
Don’t leave your love interest confused or left out.
You CAN do it.
Number Seven – Step outside your comfort zone and be proud of it
No doubt it’s crazy tough for anyone to step outside their comfort zone and into a new light. Expect that you might get nervous from time to time and don’t let this stop you from moving forward.
The more experience you have, the better in conquering your shyness. Make yourself talk to your crush more and more and soon your shyness will be a laughable factor in the past.
Number Eight – Texting takes away some of the scariness
When you’re texting you are hiding behind false confidence. Many people would never actually say the words they write in texts.
Texting gives you a false sense of security that helps with shyness because it gives you a venue to express yourself in an intimate or open way that might never happen face to face.
You can flirt with texting and break the ice a little so when you are together, you will see there is really no reason to be shy with this person. They want to be with you because of you.
Number Nine – Kiss your nerves good-bye
What’s important here is that you tell yourself that your crush is likely just as nervous as you. It’s totally normal to feel nervous upfront when you don’t know somebody very well and you really like them.
Keep in mind there are oodles of people that are nervous as hell but skilled in hiding it with their fantastic acting.
So, just because the person in front of you is acting cucumber cool does not mean their heart isn’t racing. Keep this in mind please.
Number Ten – Perhaps your crush finds your shyness endearing?
There is no one set attraction for everyone. Some people are attracted to confidence, others may like a good body and others love intelligence. Keep your mind open to the fact your crush just might find your shyness attractive.
It doesn’t hurt to think this, does it?
It’s okay to tell them you feel nervous beaus this opens the door for them to confess the same thing. Talk about an awkward silence breaker.
Nerves are good because this means you care and shyness is just about the same thing.
Just something helpful to think about.
Number Eleven – If it gets awkward flip it light
No doubt when two people are just getting to know each other, there’s going to be a few moments of weirdness, for lack of a better word. Take advantage of this and make it light and funny.
If you happen to spill a drink, make a joke about it, saying you need to be cutoff.
Now if your crush does something embarrassing, make sure they know you are not laughing at them, just with them.
This is important if you are looking to dodge the shyness bullet and win.
Number Twelve – Don’t put your crush up on a pedestal
The more you can treat your crush like a normal person, the better. It’s natural to want to treat this special person super special but you need to tell yourself they are just a regular person and act accordingly.
Make sure you are kind and polite and pretty please make sure you don’t worship the ground they are walking on. I know it’s tempting, but just don’t do it.
Number Thirteen – Play your sweetly natural card
Of course this one is so much easier said than done. If you try and force yourself to act to please, they are going to smell it a mile away and that’s not good news for you.
Breathe deeply and be you.
Trust me, your crush is fretting over the exact same things you are. Chill and kick your shyness in the butt for all the right reasons.
*If you’re serious about overcoming your shyness around your crush, you need to learn now to act like yourself, weird but true!
Number Fourteen – Show them the real you
One of the worst mistakes people make in a new relationship is trying to be someone they are not for all the wrong reasons.
When you open yourself up to show your true passions, wants and needs, this shows your crush that you are comfortable in you and that’s totally attractive. An excellent route to get rid of your shyness.
And pretty please, don’t ever apologize for the person you are. You are you for a reason and there is only one of you. If your crush doesn’t love and appreciate this, then your shyness should get in the way of connecting.
Be smart and true to you please.
Number Fifteen – Take action to build a strong friend relationship with your crush
If you are looking to nip your shyness in the butt and feel more relaxed around your crush, you should be friends first. Take the time to get to know them and from there, you can focus on something more if the signals are right.
Act like you would around your friends when you are with your crush and see how that goes. When you do this, you are showing them the real you and that really is magical.
Number Sixteen – Be totally confident in how you look
This is a like it or lump it moment, seriously. If your crush doesn’t love and appreciate you as you are, then they don’t deserve to be your crush.
Wear the clothes you feel your best in around your crush, and that’s going to bring the best out of you. It will give you the confidence you need to feel good about yourself.
Never forget that showering and shaving is also a good thing. When you have good hygiene habits that will help a lot.
Number Seventeen – Deep but accept you as you
So many studies show the most endearing quality in a person is their ability to love and be confident about who they are. Understand your flaws and accept them. This is going to show straight up to your crush that you are human, you are real.
Be sure to treat yourself kindly and forgive yourself when you screw up. Your crush will think this is super cute.
Number Eighteen – Make time for your crush
This one might sound a little weird, but it’s important that you make more time to be with your crush. Time kills shyness big-time. Why not invite this special someone to hang out with you one on one?
The more time you give them, the better and when you do this, your shyness will disappear.
Number Nineteen – Open ended questions are magical
When you ask the questions that won’t work with a “yes” or “no” answer, you’re opening the door to more. This shows your crush you want to get to know them better, on a deeper level, and that’s magical.
*What music do they love?
*Where’s the favorite place they have traveled to?
*What is their favorite animal?
*Do they like adventure or sitting home to watch movies?
*What hobbies do they have?
When you are trying to figure out how to not be shy around your crush, there’s a lot to consider. There is no one right or wrong answer.
What you need to do is ask the right questions of yourself and your crush, and don’t be afraid to take action.
Believe in yourself and who you are and the rest will fall into place.
Kick your shyness in the butt and you will get what you want!