How to tell a girl you like her? What’s VIP is how much she likes YOU, not how much you fancy her.
I know I’m guilty of this mistake, thinking the more I like this girl the more she should like me back and not bust my heart into a zillion pieces.
But stop and think about it for a second. It doesn’t matter one teensy bit how much you like her because liking her more isn’t going to magically make her like you back.
That’s just not how it works – Period.
A girl can’t force herself to like you, at least not long-term and no matter what that scenario is going to end in disaster; trust me please.
First things first because it’s time for you to take action to get your girl. You need to learn how to give her clearcut signals that you’re into her. And while we’re at it we will also get to what not to do/say to get a girl.
There are always two sides to every coin right?
Here are a few tried, tested and true tips, tricks and premium strategies to help you communicate to that special girl that you want her undivided attention.
Understand that you’re going to have to get uncomfortable to get comfortable here. There’s no way around that one.
Chin up! Let’s get started!
How To Tell A Girl You Like Her
Pointer One – Be Direct And Straight Forward
I’m giving you this option first but it really should be your last resort. Depending on the personality of the gal you like, this one might scare her off prematurely. And we don’t want anything premature, right boys!
This tactic gives her the option to boot you to the curb just because she’s caught off guard. Not necessarily because she isn’t into you.
Proceed with caution. Try and stay straight to the point and don’t get all gushy mushy either.
Pointer Two – Make Time For Her
It’s pretty obvious if you are making the time to hang out with her, she’s going to realize you really like her. If you didn’t like her, you wouldn’t hang out with her right?
The more time you spend with her, the stronger the message that you really do like her. No need to even open your mouth with this pointer. Actions speak louder than words.
Pointer Three – Make Sure You’re Playful Fun!
When you want to tell a girl you like her, you need to make sure you DO NOT kiss her butt and put her up on a princess pedestal. All that does is tell her you aren’t good enough for her and you’re begging for a chance to be with her.
That’s crap!
You want to peak her curiosity and draw her to you and one of the best routes to do that is to be playful, funny and fun. Most girls have a sweet spot of that sincerely “quirky” guy that likes to smile and have fun, according to the experts at Men’s Magazine anyway.
Pointer Four – Make Sure You Make The Time To Tease Her
If you tease her you’re telling her straight up you want to be with her; that you are into her. She certainly doesn’t want you to be afraid of her or intimidated by her. Playfully teasing her tells her you’re easy going and you want to get to know her better.
That’s magical in my books…powerful.
Pointer Five – Tell Her You Like Her With Pure Virgin Kindness
According to the relationship specialists at WikiHow, you don’t need to jump into romantic mode but you should compliment her. Keep in mind these need to be sincere compliments.
Think of it as “I like you” behavior.
If she gets a little embarrassed, you’re on the right track. Listen to what she says and make sure you help make her feel open and comfortable – Period.
Pointer Six – When You’re Ready To Let Her Know How You Really Feel – Jump Right In
Make sure when you are ready to really tell her you like her that you don’t do it in front of a bunch of people; that’s cheesy. That will just make her feel trapped. Take her aside for a minute when the time is right and tell her straight up you’re into her.
Pointer Seven – Remind Her You Appreciate Her Friendship
This one might seem a little silly on the surface but it’s totally not. When you remind her that you are thankful you are friends, this just keeps the door open for something more.
Pointer Eight – Make Sure She Understands Cut Throat Clear There’s Zippo Pressure
The easiest way to ruin a great thing is to insert pressure. It really doesn’t matter whether or not it’s going to work between the two of you. What matters is that you’ve told her you want to be more than friends and if she feels the same you move forward.
If she doesn’t feel the same you need to reassure her, no matter how much it might hurt, that you understand and accept if she doesn’t feel the same.
Trust me…The worst thing you can do is try and force a one-sided relationship…just don’t!
Pointer Nine – Ask Her Out
Make sure you are specific and give her a time and a date, don’t be wishy washy, according to experts at Woman’s Day.
If she wants more make sure you make it official with a special date out together. It really is easy peasy to win her heart; don’t make it complicated.
Pointer Ten – Stay Clear Of “Romantic” Gestures
All the lines you’ve seen in romantic movies just don’t work in real life. Be yourself and keep it simple. Please don’t tell her you love her and pretty please don’t use any cheesy lines on her. If you do you’re on you’re own. No girl wants to hear that crap – Period…and not the messy kind.
These expert tips and logical tricks are going to help you naturally attract the attention of the girl you want to get to know better. One step at a time is how it works.
If you rush it or pressure her I can guarantee you’re going to screw up royally. Be you. Be sincere. Be open and honest and you’ve got a great shot!
What NOT To Say When You Are Pondering How To Tell A Girl You Like Her
No-No One – Never EVER Blindside Her With It!
If this girl you like has no idea you exist, don’t blindside her with it! She’s just going to assume you’re a creep. Newsflash – Not knowing is really desperate.
No-No Two – Don’t EVER Give Her Money
If you are dishing out money you’re communicating to her that you are desperate for her attention and love and she can use you however she’d like to – Eek! This isn’t the best route to win her over, trust me.
Don’t try to be the hero…just be you please.
No-No Three – Don’t Put Her Up In The Princess Castle Just Yet
If she knows she has you wrapped around her finger, you are in serious trouble dude. Make sure you let her know you like and appreciate her, but never ever make her think she is the last woman on earth. Holy crap!
No-No Four – Don’t Get Her Family Or Friend To Tell Her
That’s just “loserish!” If you try and get someone else to tell her you like her, you’re just going to freak her out and scare her away. Calling all cowards…
Don’t be sneaky-weird. Man up and tell her yourself you like her.
No-No Five – Don’t Use The Beer Goggles Method
Yes, having a few drinks in you will loosen you up and sometimes trigger verbal diarrhea. But it’s not the best route to tell a gal you’ve got your eye on her.
It’s okay to drink and have some fun but don’t spoil the moment by getting all serious on her.
Note: You can’t trust your judgement when you’re drinking so don’t make the mistake of wrecking what could be a magical thing…just don’t.
No-No Six – No Letters Please!
Writing a letter before computers and cell phones etc used to be ultra romantic but now it’s pretty lame. This is a risky route because if it doesn’t work you’ll blow your chances.
You’re best to steer clear of this route for trying to snatch up the attention of a girl.
No-No Six – Emotional Overload
This might just work in the movies but I can pretty much guarantee you it’s NOT going to work in real life. Sure you might think putting it all out there on the table is a wise-owl move but it’s not.
This route is going to backfire big-time on you and you’ll be left feeling like a dork and you won’t get the girl.
The only time you should get all serious emotionally is if you’re already in a relationship where trust has been established. That means you are on board with your communication and it’s time to open up a little more.
How To Turn A Woman Off!
Ask Men relationship experts agree it’s tough to tell a hottie you want to be more than friends, agreed? That said, it’s VIP you are aware of some major deal breakers in general. At least this will increase your chances to success with the ladies!
Turnoff One – Cheapo!
This doesn’t mean you’ve got to take her shopping, cover her bills and make it Christmas morning every day. However, you should pay attention to the little things and splurge a little.
Don’t tell her she needs to order water at a restaurant or complain about salad costing a few more dollars than you’re oily fries. When you worry about every dollar you look cheap and this may come across as mean – eek!
Turnoff Two – Mama’s Boy
If you consult your mom on every single decision you make, you better learn Vito to stop! Being close to your mom is great but she shouldn’t be buying your undies or telling you what life move to make next. You’ve gotta be a big boy if any girl’s going to let you in.
Turnoff Three – Negative Social
If you want a gal to like you then you’ve gotta check the negatives at the door. This means use your please and thank-you, tip when you’re out, don’t complain. You get brownie points for opening doors and helping little old ladies across the street with their groceries.
Turnoff Four – Brag-Head
If you are trying to impress a girl, you need to ask the questions and zip it about yourself. Not quite but you should make a habit of listening more than talking. It can’t all be about you. Find the balance.
Turnoff Five – Phone Interference
Cosmo experts say it’s a bad move if you pull out the cell phone instead of paying attention to the girl in front of you. It’s just plain rude. That message says I don’t really care about her and would rather be tinkering with my phone.
Turnoff Six – Playing With The Privates In Public
Don’t even go there. Are you just making sure they are still there? Jeesh!
Turnoff Seven – Acting Like A Big Baby When Sick
This one drives me completely nuts! Everyone gets sick and life goes on. There’s still stuff that needs to get done and there’s always someone sicker than you. Stop whining…that sucks!
Turnoff Eight – Wearing Briefs
That’s like attaching your junk to your body. Boxer briefs are SO much sexier. Translation…ditch the briefs please.
Turnoff Nine – Skipping Foreplay
I know this one is a little more involved than just figuring out how to tell a girl you like her but it’s VIP nonetheless. When you skip the intimate part of sex you risk the chance of making her feel used. Need I say more?
Turnoff Ten – Not Bothering With Hygiene
A girl wants a guy that brushes his hair, showers, brushes teeth, shaves, puts an effort into dressing nice and wears sexy cologne. That’s a start anyway. Bottom line is you need to take care of yourself if you are going to get the girl.
Body Language And What It Means
The experts say that up to 90% of communication becomes from body language. Is she leaning into you or turning away? Does she laugh and touch your shoulder? Are her arms crossed and she’s looking nervous?
It’s not just about what you say when you are trying to capture the undivided attention of a girl. Your body language and hers speaks wonders in the big picture.
Redbook says it’s ultra important for you to learn to interpret body language. You need to become an expert with the silent signals so you can tell that special girl you want more; without saying a word.
Positive Sign One
Soft lips that hold on that extra second are primo. What that says is you are happy to see her and you want more. Don’t go overboard, just make sure when you kiss it’s not just a peck; that’s a whole different message.
Warning Sign One
A hard kiss with closed lips. This shouts out to the world you are nervous and not comfortable kissing. If you aren’t ready to kiss just yet, you are best to stick with the nice big bear hugs.
Positive Sign Two
Sitting right beside one another at a booth in a restaurant is a fantastic signal, you like this girl! Happy couples want to be near one another.
Warning Sign Two
If he is zipping through his dinner and you are taking the first bite of your salad you might want to stop and think a minute. Eating with each other at the same pace means you’re comfy and respectful of each other.
Slow it down and make sure you’re at least on the same page.
Positive Sign Three
Eye contact is important if you’re going to show a girl you want to be with her. This shouts out confidence and that’s amazingly attractive to a girl. For me, it’s also super sexy.
Warning Sign Three
Eyes shut and obvious stiffness will pretty much kill the deal. Relax, look at her and enjoy and you’ll be sending all the right signals.
Positive Sign Four
Walking in sync may seem a little weird but it’s perfect when you are trying to woo a particular girl. This just shows her you respect her and don’t think above her in any shape or form. That’s simply magical.
Warning Sign Four
If you are always walking in front of her that’s NOT a good thing. Tells her you think you’re better than her. A clearcut signal she should be running the other way far and fast.
Positive Sign Five
Reaching out and touching her is a great way to send her the sign you like her. This doesn’t mean groping her, it just means touching her shoulder and maybe putting your arm around her once in awhile.
Warning Sign Five
If you don’t make any attempt to make physical contact at all, this is screaming to her that you really aren’t interested. If you have to, you can ask her if you can hold her hand or put your arm around her.
Be patient and understanding. It may take her a little time to warm up to you and this is perfectly normal.
Elite Daily specialists have a few pointers for you if you really like a girl. A simple few small steps to show her you care:
Step One – Ask Her Out On A Date
If you ask her out on a date and make it a real date, you can’t lose! Maybe you’ll take her to dinner and a movie or you’ll go for a hike and picnic? Trust me when I say a girl appreciates when you take her out. Doesn’t really matter where, just make sure you make it official.
Step Two – Play The US Card
When you talk about you and this girl on social media, Instagram and so forth, you are shouting out to the world you dig this girl and want more. From a girls perspective, that’s totally cool. It makes her feel valued and cherished, wanted if you will and that’s invaluable in the big game of relationship life.
Step Three – Work On Momentum
Of course we are all busy and it’s really hard to plan sometimes. But you need to make sure you set things out in front of the two of you to look forward to. Even if you are working 6 days straight make sure you book her for dinner on your day off.
What this does is makes her feel important and it gives the both of you something to look forward to.
Step Four – Show Her You Care
Send flowers if you want but make sure you find a way to show her you care and you are thinking about her. Do it via text if you must but make sure you keep tap into her brain from time to time. That’s bottom line in my books
Final Words
When you are looking to find an effective route about telling her you like her, it’s not as easy as it seems. The more information you have in your noggin, the good and the bad, the better.
Use these tips, tricks and expert strategies to help you with your quest. Be yourself, be real and you will get that girl you’ve got your eyes on.
All that’s left is for you to take action. You’ve got to get uncomfortable to get comfortable right? Go for it! You’ll do great!
