How to tell if a guy likes you? Of course the easiest route is to just ask him! But that would be too easy! If you aren’t willing to put yourself out there and just ask him, you enter the game. Where you’re piecing together all sorts of different clues to try and figure out whether or not this guy you are crushing on has the hots for you too or not.
Experts from Psychology Today, say dating is extremely stressful and it’s very important to take control of your emotions and increase your awareness if you want to succeed in dating.
It’s an emotional roller coaster to say the least but well worth the ride if you happen to score that perfect guy.
Is it going to happen right off the hop? Not likely.
If you stick with it will you succeed? Yup.
The only way you won’t figure it out is if you start getting all negative and throw in the towel.
You need to commit to becoming a masterful investigator of reading “guy signals.” And the more you test the waters here the better you’ll get. Which just means you won’t ride the highest waves on that emotional roller coaster that goes hand in hand with dating in general.
You’ll learn how to pay attention to those red flag danger signals. And when you need to tune in and open up a little; perhaps put yourself out there a little so you can gain the trust you need to get that special guy.
This all sounds like a balancing act and it really is. And the better you get at being aware and taking action accordingly, the more successful you will become with dating in general.
Let’s start by having a gander at a few ways to see if that special someone has that mutual desire.
Simple Steps To Figure Out How To Tell If A Guy Likes You
Step One – Listen To Him
If you get so lucky that he actually tells you he likes you, make sure you are listening. Be aware that sometimes emotion takes hold and interferes with the reality of the moment. You may not actually believe this guy could really like you so you don’t even hear when he says it.
Newsflash – Chances are it’s not going to be this easy but open your mind to the chance it just might.
Action – Whatever you do make sure you return the favor by telling him you like him back!
Step Two – Questions Galore
If the boy you are interested in keeps on finding questions to keep the conversation going, to spend more time with you, then it’s highly likely he’s interested in getting to know you more. Why else would he be asking you questions at all?
Keep your mind positive and pick up on this signal that he wants to focus more on you!
Action – Return fire here and engage back with him, even if the questions are a little weird or don’t make sense. Remember, he’s probably nervous and just praying you aren’t going to notice; sweaty armpits and all.
Step Three – He Creates Similarities
If you start talking about how you love to travel and tells you about his favorite summer trip, this guy is looking for that connection between the two of you, which is a fabulous sign. If he really didn’t give a crap he probably wouldn’t volunteer any information.
Action – You don’t need Healthy Living experts to tell you information is knowledge and knowledge is power. Pick up on this signal and make sure you look for similarities too. That way you can both sink your hooks into each other!
Step Four – Body Language
Relationship experts say that up to 90% of communication stems from body language; which is an art in itself. Is he leaning into you when he’s talking? Does he brush your hand or touch you when he’s making a point? Are his eyes focused on you and not the cute waitress?
These are all signals you should be aware of that will help you figure out whether or not this guy is interested in getting to know you better too.
Action – Whatever you do make sure you don’t resist this. If you negatively reflect his open body language you are signaling to him loud and clear you aren’t interested. So don’t lean back away from him when he moves in closer and don’t pull your hand back if he touches it. Pay attention to him and “accept” his positive body language and you’re headed in the right direction.
Step Five – He Approaches You
This is another obvious one but if a guy seems to come up to you wherever you are, then he’s probably interested in getting to know you better. That or he’s looking to hit on your girlfriend! The point is you need to recognize this and act upon it by opening yourself to it.
Action – Make sure you smile and engage back. If he didn’t want to hit on you, he would have went up to some other girl right? If this happens more than once you can take this as a “pretty’ sure sign he likes you back.
Step Six – Look For Differences When You Are With Him
Pay attention to how he interacts with his friends and how he behaves when you’re around. Do you notice anything different? Perhaps he might seem a little more reserved or shy? Maybe he gets more talkative?
If he isn’t acting totally normal when you’re around this may be an indication he’s interested in you, reports the relationship experts at e-Harmony.
Action – If you notice this just appreciate it. And most importantly engage back with him. If he seems to be nervous take control of the conversation to ease the nerves. If he gets all shy make sure you ask the questions to get the conversation going. Pick up on the signal and go with it!
Step Seven – The Ignoring Card May Be A Good Thing!
Usually when you ignore someone, it’s not a good thing. You just don’t want to engage with them so you give them the stiff shoulder. When it comes to dating and relationships, this may not be the case. Experts from YouQueen say you’ve got to think about what’s going on in this poor guy’s head. If he likes you then he’s probably thinking every single guy’s trying to hit on you, and he might not have the courage to come up to you or even acknowledge you.
You may be surrounded by a bunch of girlfriend bodyguards and that’s intimidating to say the least.
Here’s how you handle it…
Action – Give him a clear-cut sign you are interested. So shoot him “that look,” so he knows you are open to talking with him. If he ignores this then you either move on or plain old ask him if he likes you. So much easier said than done, but you do have a choice.
Step Eight – Watch His Positioning
Of course a guy doesn’t want to make it obvious he likes you, so he’ll shoot out subtle signals instead. Pay attention to how he positions his body. He might look around and lick his lips, or he may just have his chest open towards you.
Unfortunately many guys don’t want to risk being humiliated if you aren’t into them too. That’s the main reason they don’t step up to the plate and tell you!
Action – Make a point of looking at his body actions and connecting the dots. Can you catch his eye? Does he look a little nervous? Is his body pointing toward you? If so, that’s a pretty good sign and perhaps it’s time for you to step up to the plate and take action!
Step Nine – Here Comes The Drink
Be careful because this can mean quite a few different things. He may be drunk and hitting on anything breathing; so make a good judgment call on that. This guy could just want to get you into the sack. So if that’s not on your agenda, you will have to deflect that. Or he could really like you and think buying a drink for you is the best way to break the ice.
Is he buying his friend a drink too? If he is, it may be because he just considers you part of the gang.
However, if he is buying you a drink and that makes you feel special, perhaps a fancy drink at Starbucks or a genuine drink at the bar, he just might like you.
Action – You are going to have to make a judgment call here. If you feel special when he buys you a drink, make sure you let him know. Start with a thank-you and use this as an opportunity to open the door to a conversation. Get to know each other a little and feel him out. You just never know until you try!
Step Ten – Asks For Your Number
This is a pretty obvious sign that a guy likes you; when he asks for your number. According to Huffington Post, the only other reason a guy wants your number is for some obvious communication issues; like for work or he needs your help with something. Just use your brain here and you should be able to figure it out.
And you may have to actually plant this opportunity for him. Think of a really good excuse to give him your number and he should get the hint you want him to use it.
Action – If he comes straight out and asks for your number there’s a pretty hot chance he’s interested in hooking up. Even if you sort of “plant” it there and he takes it, things are looking good. Make sure you go with it and leave him with the feeling you’d really like him to call. Sometimes even when the guy musters up the courage to ask for your number, he still needs a little encouragement to actually use it.
Step Eleven – You Get Added To His Social Media Platforms
Fact: Boys do not send friend requests to gals they don’t dig. The complete opposite of girls I might add. Further still, if he pokes or private messages you, these are signals this guy really does like you.
Action – First off make sure you accept his friend request and then look for a way to engage yourself with him. Dig a little deeper and see where it goes. You really don’t know unless you try!
Step Twelve – The Kiss
If he goes straight for the win and gives you a kiss, chances are pretty good he likes you. Now if he had his beer goggles on and kissed you when he was totally loaded, you may want to second guess his intentions. Bottom line is, the kiss is definitely a good indicator.
Action – This is where you’ve got to go with it. If you like him and he kisses you then you’re headed in the right direction. Keep it open and light to start. Go with the flow and perhaps the embers will keep glowing.
Step Thirteen – Lots Of Eye Contact
This is something you need to really look for. When he’s around you, is he making lots of eye contact? When he’s with his friends, do you catch him looking at you? Eye contact is a huge body language indicator. A pretty clear signal a guy is interested in you.
Action – Make sure you return the favor. If he’s looking at you be sure to smile back with your eyes and use this as a means of inviting him in. Lots of smiles and eye contact can only lead to good things.
Use these thirteen steps to figure out if the guy you have a crush on has the same thoughts about you.
Now let’s have a look at what you need to be looking for if you think a guy might be lethal. A red flag heads up that it’s time to run!
Signals A Boy Is Psycho
Signal One – Pouring On The Flattery
Beware, according to Psychology.com psychopath guys are extremely quick to take action. They will swoop in and try and overwhelm you with flattering things to say. You’re so beautiful. You are the most intelligent and interesting woman I have met. How could I get so lucky?
Sure, that’s going to make you smile and feel amazing, but it’s overload and not genuine. Something you need to be aware of. This guy is smooth talking and knows how to turn your insecurities into nothing. If you think you are overweight, he’ll tell you that you’re perfect. If you think your laugh is annoying, he will convince you that he loves it and you should laugh more often.
Just remember, nobody is perfect and that includes you.
If it seems too good to be true, it’s not true!
Action – It’s incredibly important that you’re aware of this. Look for the signals going in and take action. There is no room to “try and figure this guy out.” Make a quick exit and never look back.
Signal Two – He’s Your Twin
Not quite but a psychopath will make you believe he’s just like you. He will talk about soulmates and that he’s finally found the girl of his dreams. He will naturally hang off every word you say and find a way to relate; which may seem genuine at the time but it’s not.
Action – It’s nice to think someone just “fits.” But if he fits too perfectly you’ve got to question it. Make sure you pay attention to the fine print and if this sort of scenario pops up for you, just stop, drop, and beat it!
Signal Three – Plays The Pity Card
It’s key to pay attention to what a psycho says on your first few encounters about his family, friends, and ex’s. Does he yap about his ex-girlfriend stalking him? How about his brother being a sleaze and his mother never loving him? These are all bright red flags this is a guy you don’t want in your life. Listen carefully and if everything he says seems to blame the world and leave him as the great guy that keeps getting beaten up, then you better think long and hard about what your gut is saying.
Action – It’s great a guy can let you in on some of his hard times and vulnerabilities. However, if it seems like this is all he’s got, you are smart to make a swift exit. This will save you a heck of a lot of emotional abuse down the road.
Signal Four – What’s His Health Record Like?
If you’re dating a guy that seems to always be sick, have broken bones, or “something” wrong with him, then you might want to check some of his stories out. Men’s Health even recommends ringing the hospital to check out his stories. Just don’t be surprised if somehow the records “disappeared.”
Action – Even if the unbelievable stories of all his traumatic bad luck are true, do you really want to hook up with a guy with that sort of track record? If you want you can question him a little. Chances are you’re either going to get a defensive answer or more excuses. It’s best for you to walk away from this one.
Signal Five – The Sex Is Off The Charts!
Psychos are experts in manipulation; and this includes sex. They will claim this is the best sex they ever had and will do whatever it takes to pleasure you. They make it all about you so they can sink their claws into you.
After you are hooked, he’ll flip the coin, pull out, and make you beg for it.
Action – Don’t get into bed with a master manipulator! Keep your mind open to the truth that when something is too good to be true, it is. No matter how good the sex is, or was, it’s time for you to bolt.
Signal Six – You’ll See Slivers Of The Truth
When a lunatic is on their best behavior they are masking the truth and nobody can be a great actor 24/7. If you happen to see flashes of his messed up behavior; like suddenly turning cold with his voice for a line or speaking harshly about someone and then trying to laugh it off, you’d better take a minute and really think about this.
Remember, these kind of guys are totally off balance and you’ll sense this. If you pay attention to your senses you can avoid a disastrous relationship.
Action – If you see this type of behavior don’t fall for the “laugh it off” trick. Take it very seriously and get out while you can.
Signal Seven – Here Comes The Triangle
After this type of guy lures you in and secures you with flattery, great sex, and all the other crap they feed you, they’ll pull away and start bringing third parties into the picture to make you jealous. Maybe an ex or even a sexy celebrity. These guys believe in their head that everyone loves them and they want to remind you of this or they will just move on.
Action – Catch them before they get to this stage of the game; that’s exactly what it is to them. Pay attention and take this signal as your cue to exit and never look back. It’s for your own good.
Signal Eight – Devalue And Flip
This is where the expert manipulator will make you feel like a piece of crap and throw you away. But this isn’t the end because they will come right back into your life and try and get you back. Promising you the world. Don’t fall for it unless you want to go through it all again.
Action – Learn from your mistakes and DO NOT let this guy back in. Lock all your doors literally and figuratively speaking; call the police to get a restraining order if you must, just promise yourself never again.
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Conclusion
Dating is supposed to be fun and exciting and when you know how to decode the brain of a man, it makes it easier to figure out how to tell if a guy likes you. Additionally, being consciously aware of the traits of a crazy and unstable person, will save you a ton of heartache.
Time for you to go get your perfect man!
