Sometimes it’s pretty tough to figure out whether or not a shy guy likes you. But here are signals you can watch out for that will tell you once and for all if that someone special shy guy really does like you.
Yes, it’s tough to know if you should push for a romantic relationship with a shy guy simply because you aren’t sure if he’s really interested in you or not.
Nobody wants to waste their time right?
Here are a few telltale signals that are going to help you figure out whether or not this man is really worth your time.
How To Tell If A Shy Guy Likes You
Signal 1 – You’ll catch him looking at you when you aren’t looking
A shy man just doesn’t want to get caught looking at you so he will try and be neat and sneaky discreet about it. He’s only going to take a peep when he thinks you aren’t watching.
Think of it is you will as a form of conditioning. Shy men are trying to figure out whether or not they really like you and if they do, it won’t take them long to get more bold with you. But for now, he’s going to try and check you out while staying behind the scenes.
Sweetly endearing…Get used to it.
Signal 2 – He’s just looking very uncomfortable in general
No doubt this is a tough signal to figure out because it just might seem like he’s not paying any attention to you at all. What you need to consider is that he just might be so anxious and nervous around you that he’s ready to seriously throw up.
It might take him a little bit of time to get comfy and willing to warm up to you. Confidence comes when he feels he can trust you.
Give him the time he needs because a shy guy just might be the perfect match for you if you give it a chance.
Signal 3 – This guy is being totally clumsy awkward
Is this man always dropping his pen or glasses when he’s around you? He might try to “accidentally” drop something in front of you to get your attention? Is he having issues with his cup or glass around you?
What you need to do is look at this positively and with an open mind. Don’t make him feel bad. Let him do his thing and try and add a little humor to it to take the edge off.
Signal 4 – He’s just treating you much differently
One thing for certain is if a shy man really does like you, he’s going to treat you differently than any other girl. Perhaps he’ll run to grab you a drink instead of paying attention to another girl.
This certainly might make the other girls a tad jealous but who cares, he’s got eyes for you and that’s magical.
Signal 5 – This man is willing to share his deep dark secrets with you
It’s tough for anyone to trust off the hop. Even a regular man might not want to open himself up to you to share the secrets he holds with you, which of course is totally normal.
Just give this shy guy the opportunity to get to know you a little so he can open up and let you in. It’s going to take some time but if you don’t pressure him and let him know you are happy to hear anything he wants to share with you, then you’re on the right track.
If he is asking you for advice or sharing teeny-tiny secrets with you, then you’re on the right track.
Maybe he’s just so shy he doesn’t want to share any sort of secret with anyone but you.
Signal 6 – This guy really gets annoyed when you talk about any other man
If a shy guy is cringing with the fact you’re talking about any other man, well you’ve just hit the jackpot!
Shy guys aren’t as confident as you might be used to and he will feel seriously hurt if you are talking about any other man but him. This signals to him that you really aren’t into him. You better clear this up fast or the shy guy won’t be your prize.
Signal 7 – He simply loves whatever you are doing
I know this one is a little bit vague but it couldn’t be more true.
A shy man that’s totally interested in you is going to ask what you did during the day or over the weekend. He might even try and get hooked up with the things you love to do just because.
Maybe he will join a group you are in or just show up at your next main event?
When he shows an interest in you for you, what you love and like, this shy guy is telling you he wants your attention and that only means good things.
Balls in your court with this move.
Signal 8 – This special shy guy will ask if he can be your friend on social media
How sweet is that?
What’s really neat about social media is that you don’t have to be face to face with someone to converse. However, if this man is following you on Facebook or Twitter, or better yet commenting on your posts, then you know this shy man is into you.
Need I say more?
Signal 9 – His friends are in the “tease” mode
If his friends are whispering when you walk by or playfully teasing you, that’s a good thing. If a man is discussing you with his friends, that means something. He likes you and shy or not, just might not be quite ready to tell you.
No worries, he will in time. Just be patient and understanding and it just might happen for you.
Signal 10 – He just can’t seem to muster up the balls to ask you out
Shy guys are often afraid to make the move. He just might be scared that you’re going to reject him if he asks you out. Don’t take this the wrong way please.
Maybe he’s just waiting for you to make the first move?
If you like him, you should take the risk, don’t you think?
If you don’t, then you will never know what might have been, just saying.
Signal 11 – He’ll step up to the plate to defend you
Maybe your friends are making fun of you. But if a shy guy stands up for you, that certainly means something. Perhaps he just doesn’t know what they are saying but if he comes to your defense regardless, that means he might be interested in you.
Signal 12 – This guy pays attention to the itty bitty details
There is zero doubt here. A shy man will pay attention to the smallest details just because. He will remember your first teacher and your favorite pet. He will also likely have your work schedule memorized.
When a guy “really” likes you, shy or otherwise, he’s going to remember all the little details that might not matter to anybody else.
Perhaps egg whites are your favorite breakfast?
Maybe you can’t stand the smell of olives in the grocery store?
How do you take your coffee?
A shy guy that remembers the little things that really do matter to you, is telling you straight up he’s got the hots for you.
That’s got to count for something right?
Signal 13 – This man is going to put himself out on the line for you
Maybe your shy man likes to stay behind the scenes but if someone is making fun of you, he just might take this personal and take offence. Not for the wrong reasons but for all the right ones.
Bottom line is, this special shy man has your back and that’s magical.
Signal 14 – This man has no issues putting himself out on the line for you
Maybe your shy man doesn’t like to socialize all that much, but is will to get uncomfortable to get comfortable in order to make you smile.
Newsflash! This is NOT for him. It’s all about you.
When you are with his friends, he is always looking to get you involved in the group conversation. The last thing he wants is for you to feel left out.
Even if he’s not normally chatty, he will try for you.
Signal 15 – Mixed signals just might be the norm
This is a push and pull thing. One day your shy guy might be right into talking with you and the next he won’t pay you any attention. This is a tough one but you need to see it in a positive light.
Maybe he’s just nervous around you or seriously has panic attacks. Give him the benefit of the doubt please.
Sure, he might confuse you but that doesn’t mean he’s not a keeper!
Signal 16 – A direct face to face will be his way
If a man likes you, shy or not, he’s going to face you directly, instead of standing off to the side.
This is just a neat and discreet route to let you know he really does like you.
Signal 17 – Holding the door open is the norm
This just gets back to the ancient idea of chivalry, where a man puts a woman first and makes sure she knows it with the little things.
If he’s going out of his way to hold the door for you, its’ critical you see this as a sign of his efforts to connect with you…he just wants you to appreciate his efforts, that’s all.
Signal 18 – He takes action to connect the best he can with your best friend
What this means is that he is paying attention and understands who’s important to you and he’s trying to make a good impression with them too.
Newsflash – He knows the important people in your life will have a say in swaying you toward him or not. That’s incredibly powerful, don’t you think?
Signal 19 – There’s no question he’s listening to our every word
If a man sets his phone down for two seconds in our wild and whacky technology driven world today, then you sure as heck better take him seriously.
A shy guy that’s really interested in getting to know you better, is going to set all of his electronic devices to the side when you are in his presence.
What does this mean?
That he’s head over heels for you.
What you do with this is of course up to you.
Signal 20 – He’s all ears ahead
When a guy actually listens to what you have to say, that truly is golden. Sure, he might be addicted to his phone and computer, but if he turns them off to actually listen to what you have to say, that’s just magical.
Make sure you don’t let the simple but effective signal pass you by or you just might lose big time.
Signal 21 – This man is always willing to help you no matter what
This doesn’t just mean he’s going to help you when he feels the need. It also means he’s going to reach out to you when bad things hit the fan and you really need him.
Maybe your computer has crashed or you need help with a test coming up. It really doesn’t matter, because a shy guy that likes you is going to step up to the plate and help you. He’s not going to question or judge you, he’ll just extend his hand to help make it better with your direction.
I’m telling you right now, if you have a man like that in your corner and you want to pass him off, pretty please send him my way!
Signal 22- This guy is always smiling ear to ear
Shy guys often have trouble smiling and that’s often just because they are so nervous. But if a man is smiling around you whenever he gets the chance, that means a lot.
Shy guys are often too afraid to smile so please be aware of this.
However, if you catch him out of the corner of your eye smiling at you, then you seriously are in the best of positions. This guy likes you and just might not know how to show you yet.
Encourage him, stay open, inviting and positive and he’ll find the guts to ask you out and more.
When a man is smiling at you, that’s just all good, don’t forget please.
Here are a few telltale signals the shy guy you have your eyes on, really isn’t into you
Better sooner than later right?
Here are 9 straight in your face signals a guy just isn’t into you and you need to move on, according to relationship experts at The Talko!
No doubt, the big bad world we live in contains a whole whack of confident gals that, for whatever reason, realize they are losing all common sense when it comes to guys.
Love truly is blind.
When it comes to figuring out the shy guy just isn’t interested, here are a few straight up signals that you better pay attention to.
Signal One – He’s only ringing you at night
When a man is only calling you at night, it’s got to be for one thing right?
He’s lonely and wants to talk or he’s a horny bugger.
Either way, you need to take off your “love blinders” and pay attention to this one please.
Signal Two – The drunk calling move
If a man only calls you after he’s wearing his beer goggles, this is a clear sign he just doesn’t like you, at least for the right reasons.
When a guy is slobbering drunk, he’s anything but attractive and totally incapable of making a logical decision.
Need I say more?
Signal Three – Boyfriend duty is not on the agenda
A man that wants to be with you, should jump for joy at the opportunity to actually be your boyfriend, don’t you think?
Selfish men are all about themselves and if their agenda doesn’t put you priority one, you need to simply kick his butt to the curb and move on with a smile. That’s an order with a smile.
Signal Four – Still, he’s expecting you to be there for him
If you’ve agreed to a “no-strings-attached” relationship, that’s one thing. But if you are trying to get to know this man and he thinks he can stray around while you stick to him like glue, you sure as hell better tell him he’s got another thing coming.
When a man is happy to see others girls but expects you to remain loyal, he just doesn’t care about you to the level you deserve. Sorry but it’s true.
Move on please if this is your circumstance.
Signal Five – It’s just you that’s always making the plans
This one is a little tougher to figure out because sometimes the man just doesn’t know how to make plans for the both of you.
FACT – More often than not though, if a man isn’t right on the ball with making plans for the both of you, just because he wants to see you smile, he’s just not the guy you want or need in your life – Period.
Signal Six – You don’t get any special privileges, then your man just isn’t into you like you deserve
If a guy isn’t treating you special compared to his friends and family, if he isn’t obviously trying to impress you beyond the shadow of a doubt, then his is not the man for you.
You deserve to be the one he gets nervous around or at least gets a little bit of special treatment outside of the things he might do for his friends.
Keep your eyes and ears open on this one please.
Signal Seven – This guy never wants to jump into your bed
If you love and care about someone of course you’re going to want to be with them and if you aren’t willing to sleep in their bed, well, you’ve got an issue.
It’s always going to be give and take and if the guy you think you like isn’t interested in sleeping in YOUR bed ever, then you better question his motives.
Signal Eight – Can’t get his phone off his ear
If a man isn’t willing to put his phone down and give you his undivided attention, then he doesn’t deserve you and he’s just not into you.
When a guy likes a girl, shy or not, he’s going to want his total focus to be on you and nothing else, simply because he’s trying to impress you and show he’s interested.
There’s not much more to say on that one.
Signal Nine – His friends really don’t want to engage with you whatsoever
If you are interested in a man who’s friends won’t give you the time of day, you need to question seriously whether or not he really doles like you.
If a man likes a girl, usually his friends are the first to know about it so they can help him land you. So if they are ignoring you it’s important you see that as a signal he just doesn’t like you and it’s time to move on with a smile.
It really is tough sometimes to figure out whether the shy guy really likes your or if he’s just looking to pass the time.
Pay attention to the expert signals telling you he likes you and the ones that don’t, and you’re on track to getting the shy guy of your dreams.