Sometimes it’s pretty tough to figure out whether or not a shy guy likes you. But here are signals you can watch out for that will tell you once and for all if that someone special shy guy really does like you.
Yes, it’s tough to know if you should push for a romantic relationship with a shy guy simply because you aren’t sure if he’s really interested in you or not.
Nobody wants to waste their time right?
Here are a few telltale signals that are going to help you figure out whether or not this man is really worth your time.
How To Tell If A Shy Guy Likes You
Signal 1 – You’ll catch him looking at you when you aren’t looking
A shy man just doesn’t want to get caught looking at you so he will try and be neat and sneaky discreet about it. He’s only going to take a peep when he thinks you aren’t watching.
Think of it is you will as a form of conditioning. Shy men are trying to figure out whether or not they really like you and if they do, it won’t take them long to get more bold with you. But for now, he’s going to try and check you out while staying behind the scenes.
Sweetly endearing…Get used to it.
Signal 2 – He’s just looking very uncomfortable in general
No doubt this is a tough signal to figure out because it just might seem like he’s not paying any attention to you at all. What you need to consider is that he just might be so anxious and nervous around you that he’s ready to seriously throw up.
It might take him a little bit of time to get comfy and willing to warm up to you. Confidence comes when he feels he can trust you.
Give him the time he needs because a shy guy just might be the perfect match for you if you give it a chance.
Signal 3 – This guy is being totally clumsy awkward
Is this man always dropping his pen or glasses when he’s around you? He might try to “accidentally” drop something in front of you to get your attention? Is he having issues with his cup or glass around you?
What you need to do is look at this positively and with an open mind. Don’t make him feel bad. Let him do his thing and try and add a little humor to it to take the edge off.
Signal 4 – He’s just treating you much differently
One thing for certain is if a shy man really does like you, he’s going to treat you differently than any other girl. Perhaps he’ll run to grab you a drink instead of paying attention to another girl.
This certainly might make the other girls a tad jealous but who cares, he’s got eyes for you and that’s magical.
Signal 5 – This man is willing to share his deep dark secrets with you
It’s tough for anyone to trust off the hop. Even a regular man might not want to open himself up to you to share the secrets he holds with you, which of course is totally normal.
Just give this shy guy the opportunity to get to know you a little so he can open up and let you in. It’s going to take some time but if you don’t pressure him and let him know you are happy to hear anything he wants to share with you, then you’re on the right track.
If he is asking you for advice or sharing teeny-tiny secrets with you, then you’re on the right track.
Maybe he’s just so shy he doesn’t want to share any sort of secret with anyone but you.
Signal 6 – This guy really gets annoyed when you talk about any other man
If a shy guy is cringing with the fact you’re talking about any other man, well you’ve just hit the jackpot!
Shy guys aren’t as confident as you might be used to and he will feel seriously hurt if you are talking about any other man but him. This signals to him that you really aren’t into him. You better clear this up fast or the shy guy won’t be your prize.
Signal 7 – He simply loves whatever you are doing
I know this one is a little bit vague but it couldn’t be more true.
A shy man that’s totally interested in you is going to ask what you did during the day or over the weekend. He might even try and get hooked up with the things you love to do just because.
Maybe he will join a group you are in or just show up at your next main event?
When he shows an interest in you for you, what you love and like, this shy guy is telling you he wants your attention and that only means good things.
Balls in your court with this move.
Signal 8 – This special shy guy will ask if he can be your friend on social media
How sweet is that?
What’s really neat about social media is that you don’t have to be face to face with someone to converse. However, if this man is following you on Facebook or Twitter, or better yet commenting on your posts, then you know this shy man is into you.
Need I say more?
Signal 9 – His friends are in the “tease” mode
If his friends are whispering when you walk by or playfully teasing you, that’s a good thing. If a man is discussing you with his friends, that means something. He likes you and shy or not, just might not be quite ready to tell you.
No worries, he will in time. Just be patient and understanding and it just might happen for you.
Signal 10 – He just can’t seem to muster up the balls to ask you out
Shy guys are often afraid to make the move. He just might be scared that you’re going to reject him if he asks you out. Don’t take this the wrong way please.
Maybe he’s just waiting for you to make the first move?
If you like him, you should take the risk, don’t you think?
If you don’t, then you will never know what might have been, just saying.
Signal 11 – He’ll step up to the plate to defend you
Maybe your friends are making fun of you. But if a shy guy stands up for you, that certainly means something. Perhaps he just doesn’t know what they are saying but if he comes to your defense regardless, that means he might be interested in you.
Signal 12 – This guy pays attention to the itty bitty details
There is zero doubt here. A shy man will pay attention to the smallest details just because. He will remember your first teacher and your favorite pet. He will also likely have your work schedule memorized.
When a guy “really” likes you, shy or otherwise, he’s going to remember all the little details that might not matter to anybody else.
Perhaps egg whites are your favorite breakfast?
Maybe you can’t stand the smell of olives in the grocery store?
How do you take your coffee?
A shy guy that remembers the little things that really do matter to you, is telling you straight up he’s got the hots for you.
That’s got to count for something right?
Signal 13 – This man is going to put himself out on the line for you
Maybe your shy man likes to stay behind the scenes but if someone is making fun of you, he just might take this personal and take offence. Not for the wrong reasons but for all the right ones.
Bottom line is, this special shy man has your back and that’s magical.
Signal 14 – This man has no issues putting himself out on the line for you
Maybe your shy man doesn’t like to socialize all that much, but is will to get uncomfortable to get comfortable in order to make you smile.
Newsflash! This is NOT for him. It’s all about you.
When you are with his friends, he is always looking to get you involved in the group conversation. The last thing he wants is for you to feel left out.
Even if he’s not normally chatty, he will try for you.
Signal 15 – Mixed signals just might be the norm
This is a push and pull thing. One day your shy guy might be right into talking with you and the next he won’t pay you any attention. This is a tough one but you need to see it in a positive light.
Maybe he’s just nervous around you or seriously has panic attacks. Give him the benefit of the doubt please.
Sure, he might confuse you but that doesn’t mean he’s not a keeper!
Signal 16 – A direct face to face will be his way
If a man likes you, shy or not, he’s going to face you directly, instead of standing off to the side.
This is just a neat and discreet route to let you know he really does like you.
Signal 17 – Holding the door open is the norm
This just gets back to the ancient idea of chivalry, where a man puts a woman first and makes sure she knows it with the little things.
If he’s going out of his way to hold the door for you, its’ critical you see this as a sign of his efforts to connect with you…he just wants you to appreciate his efforts, that’s all.
Signal 18 – He takes action to connect the best he can with your best friend
What this means is that he is paying attention and understands who’s important to you and he’s trying to make a good impression with them too.
Newsflash – He knows the important people in your life will have a say in swaying you toward him or not. That’s incredibly powerful, don’t you think?
Signal 19 – There’s no question he’s listening to our every word
If a man sets his phone down for two seconds in our wild and whacky technology driven world today, then you sure as heck better take him seriously.
A shy guy that’s really interested in getting to know you better, is going to set all of his electronic devices to the side when you are in his presence.
What does this mean?
That he’s head over heels for you.
What you do with this is of course up to you.
Signal 20 – He’s all ears ahead
When a guy actually listens to what you have to say, that truly is golden. Sure, he might be addicted to his phone and computer, but if he turns them off to actually listen to what you have to say, that’s just magical.
Make sure you don’t let the simple but effective signal pass you by or you just might lose big time.
Signal 21 – This man is always willing to help you no matter what
This doesn’t just mean he’s going to help you when he feels the need. It also means he’s going to reach out to you when bad things hit the fan and you really need him.
Maybe your computer has crashed or you need help with a test coming up. It really doesn’t matter, because a shy guy that likes you is going to step up to the plate and help you. He’s not going to question or judge you, he’ll just extend his hand to help make it better with your direction.
I’m telling you right now, if you have a man like that in your corner and you want to pass him off, pretty please send him my way!
Signal 22- This guy is always smiling ear to ear
Shy guys often have trouble smiling and that’s often just because they are so nervous. But if a man is smiling around you whenever he gets the chance, that means a lot.
Shy guys are often too afraid to smile so please be aware of this.
However, if you catch him out of the corner of your eye smiling at you, then you seriously are in the best of positions. This guy likes you and just might not know how to show you yet.
Encourage him, stay open, inviting and positive and he’ll find the guts to ask you out and more.
When a man is smiling at you, that’s just all good, don’t forget please.
Here are a few telltale signals the shy guy you have your eyes on, really isn’t into you
Better sooner than later right?
Here are 9 straight in your face signals a guy just isn’t into you and you need to move on, according to relationship experts at The Talko!
No doubt, the big bad world we live in contains a whole whack of confident gals that, for whatever reason, realize they are losing all common sense when it comes to guys.
Love truly is blind.
When it comes to figuring out the shy guy just isn’t interested, here are a few straight up signals that you better pay attention to.
Signal One – He’s only ringing you at night
When a man is only calling you at night, it’s got to be for one thing right?
He’s lonely and wants to talk or he’s a horny bugger.
Either way, you need to take off your “love blinders” and pay attention to this one please.
Signal Two – The drunk calling move
If a man only calls you after he’s wearing his beer goggles, this is a clear sign he just doesn’t like you, at least for the right reasons.
When a guy is slobbering drunk, he’s anything but attractive and totally incapable of making a logical decision.
Need I say more?
Signal Three – Boyfriend duty is not on the agenda
A man that wants to be with you, should jump for joy at the opportunity to actually be your boyfriend, don’t you think?
Selfish men are all about themselves and if their agenda doesn’t put you priority one, you need to simply kick his butt to the curb and move on with a smile. That’s an order with a smile.
Signal Four – Still, he’s expecting you to be there for him
If you’ve agreed to a “no-strings-attached” relationship, that’s one thing. But if you are trying to get to know this man and he thinks he can stray around while you stick to him like glue, you sure as hell better tell him he’s got another thing coming.
When a man is happy to see others girls but expects you to remain loyal, he just doesn’t care about you to the level you deserve. Sorry but it’s true.
Move on please if this is your circumstance.
Signal Five – It’s just you that’s always making the plans
This one is a little tougher to figure out because sometimes the man just doesn’t know how to make plans for the both of you.
FACT – More often than not though, if a man isn’t right on the ball with making plans for the both of you, just because he wants to see you smile, he’s just not the guy you want or need in your life – Period.
Signal Six – You don’t get any special privileges, then your man just isn’t into you like you deserve
If a guy isn’t treating you special compared to his friends and family, if he isn’t obviously trying to impress you beyond the shadow of a doubt, then his is not the man for you.
You deserve to be the one he gets nervous around or at least gets a little bit of special treatment outside of the things he might do for his friends.
Keep your eyes and ears open on this one please.
Signal Seven – This guy never wants to jump into your bed
If you love and care about someone of course you’re going to want to be with them and if you aren’t willing to sleep in their bed, well, you’ve got an issue.
It’s always going to be give and take and if the guy you think you like isn’t interested in sleeping in YOUR bed ever, then you better question his motives.
Signal Eight – Can’t get his phone off his ear
If a man isn’t willing to put his phone down and give you his undivided attention, then he doesn’t deserve you and he’s just not into you.
When a guy likes a girl, shy or not, he’s going to want his total focus to be on you and nothing else, simply because he’s trying to impress you and show he’s interested.
There’s not much more to say on that one.
Signal Nine – His friends really don’t want to engage with you whatsoever
If you are interested in a man who’s friends won’t give you the time of day, you need to question seriously whether or not he really doles like you.
If a man likes a girl, usually his friends are the first to know about it so they can help him land you. So if they are ignoring you it’s important you see that as a signal he just doesn’t like you and it’s time to move on with a smile.
Final Words
It really is tough sometimes to figure out whether the shy guy really likes your or if he’s just looking to pass the time.
Pay attention to the expert signals telling you he likes you and the ones that don’t, and you’re on track to getting the shy guy of your dreams.
Stef says
I like this guy but when m around him he acts tuff .
Thoes he like me back?
Kate says
He might. Have you noticed any other signs mentioned in this article?
Kat says says
I like this guy a lot and everytime I walk pass him with my friends I can see him staring at me. Hes not on his phone but i can see him wearing his earphones on does that mean he something? And he is a guy I know nothing about, i dont know him at all and in a few months hes going to high school and am not and I want to know how to talk to him.
Kate says
If you want to talk to him, you just have to approach him and talk. Next time if you pass by him and if he’s wearing earphones, you could casually ask if he’s listening to any good music or you could compliment about his hair, clothes etc. This would hopefully get the conversation going.
Katrine says
There’s this guy I like and he’s going to go off the college soon and idk how to approach him so I can know because I remember he would do everything to stand next to me in our friend group and when I wasn’t looking my friends catch him staring at me and when I pass him the hallways he’ll look up at the ceiling or looking all around and constantly fidgety his head I think he’s avoiding me because I texted him and our convo was going well until I made a bad decision to say “yeah” and he left me on read😐😔
Abby Kay says
I don’t think so…
I used to like this guy, but he is a total d..ck to me. He acts tough, but he’s a total jerk and player.
I am fat, so he’ll never love me. He’ll NEVER love me because he’s never loved anyone in his WHOLE life. I’m sorry.
He calls me a fatass and a piggy, but I stood up to him so he wouldn’t bother me anymore…
Eden says
Abby, don’t let that jerk’s words go to your head! Obviously he’s not the one for you! (Or anybody…)
God thinks you’re priceless! You’re worth far more than rubies in his eyes! Don’t believe, even for a second, that that jerk is right.
Hey, bravo for standing up to him!
emily says
im going after a really shy guy who is scared to date and so im i but im willing to give it a chance its just both of us have been treated wrong in our past relationships by our exes and hes a really nice guy really sweet and I’ve darted bad guys!
Melissa says
I have noticed most of the signs mentioned in the guy I like. But there’s a problem. He just avoids talking with me, even online. When I try to talk to him in school I can clearly notice that he gets excited and/or nervous.
He confuses me so much by doing this, what should I do?
Kate says
He might be shy and nervous. Give him some time.
Nessa says
So for the past days a guy that I like stares at me, always play fights with his friends when I around, his bestie looks at me ALL the time, I talked to them him today asking if he wanted a candy(We never talked ever before) he said no smiling. And then told his friend and they both looked at me he also copies my movements and gestures does he like me? He’s also really shy
Kate says
If he keeps looking and staring at you, then yes he might like you.
tatia says
i seriously needs help the guy i like did almost most of the above but i did a mistake .. i have some kind of stress attacks, i had this crazy idea that he might be in a relationship and it all comes out of my mind .. so, i blocked him and he starts to give the cold shoulder .. his friend always tease me about how beatiful he is and how it make feel if he talk to some of my friends… i love him and it makes me so angry that he talks to my best friend but never talk to me after what i did .. he still smilling eveytime he see me what i should do to make over to him
Kate says
There’s still hope if he is smiling at you. Where did you block him? Social media? You can unblock him and try to add him back. Moreover, try to give him some hints that you like him. When he smiles at you, smile back and if there’s an opportunity, try to talk to him.
Chelsea says
This guy was the only one that came and saw me before I moved away. I thought he was going to try something because of the way he hugged me but he just never really led me anywhere. But every time I’m around or even sometimes when he talks to me over snapchat he will talk about a girl, how he has a great girl like every now and then. Today I saw him, just me and him and he asked me about this random article of clothing he bought for this girl and asked me if I liked it. But yet none of his friends, mine or “our” friends have never seen, heard, or talked to him about this girl he always tells me he has. Can you help? All of my friends say they think he really likes me because he always smiles and looks at me when I’m not looking. But I just don’t wanna get the wrong impression if its not what I think it is.
Kate says
Did you actually see the clothing he bought or did he show you the picture only? It’s hard to tell if he wants to make you jealous since he likes you or he actually has new girlfriends all the time. However, if no one has ever seen any of his girlfriends, perhaps he likes you and just wants your attention/reaction.
Chelsea says
Yes I saw it in person when I saw him. But it was random and just odd that he would ask me if I liked it. However, it didn’t have any tags or anything. It was just laying in his back seat. I’m just so unsure, I know all of that probably sounds so funny but it just really messed with my head. But then right after I left and had to travel home he snap chatted me literally 10 minutes later and told me how good it was to see me and it brought back so many good memories… Maybe I am just looking into everything so wrong!
Kate says
He is definitely giving you mixed signals. Just don’t read too much into it since he keeps talking about his girlfriend. Usually, when a guy likes someone, he makes sure that the girl knows he is single.
Frances says
There’s a guy in work… we had never really met before as we work in different offices in different cities, then, when I was visiting his office, we went to after work drinks a couple of weeks ago. We spoke and drank together for hours, and he told me all about his background, he asked how often I’m in his office, we laughed etc…
He came to my office last week, and didn’t say a word to me. Barely looked at me. The next day I had to ask him something about work. He replied to my initial message, but not my next one.
Today, he was in my office. We didn’t have any contact, just occassional shared looks. Then we were passing each other so said hi, and I asked him a favour, which he agreed to do for me. Then, we had snacks that I shared around my team, including to him as he was sitting near by. He said thank you.
I’m a bit confused, but I definitely am attracted to him.
Kate says
Hi, this is a bit strange. He talked to you for hours before and you guys had a good time laughing, and now he barely says anything. Could be because you both were out of the work environment before. Maybe he’s cautious at the office and keeps his distance. Or he already has a girlfriend or perhaps he wished for something more last time and it didn’t happen. It’s hard to know but I don’t think he is shy if he was able to talk to you before (assuming it wasn’t because of the alcohol).
kate says
so i have a boyfriend and I really like him and he claims he really likes me back. we tell each other we love each other every day…on text. hes never said it in person. at school he talks to every girl but me. he doesn’t talk to them in a flirtatious way but he talks to them. and idk why he doesn’t talk to me….it makes me wonder if he even likes me. he writes paragraphs on text every once in a while ab how much he loves me and his friends tell me he really likes me but I just don’t know. I mean if he really liked me wouldn’t he talk to me at school? I just really need advice ab this bc I don’t want to be wasting my time
Kate says
Yes, if he really liked you, he shouldn’t be ignoring you at school. Ask him what’s the reason? Also, tell him you would like to hear him say “I love you” in person if he really means it.
kate says
ive asked him before and hes said that he doesn’t get the chance to talk to me bc were not in the same class….his friends tell me that he really likes me but I just make him so nervous he doesn’t know what to say. and I want to believe them I just don’t know if I do…he has been shy w his past girl friends and his friends tell me hes crazy ab me, and that hes never been like this w anyone else… like for Christmas he asked my friend for advice on what to get me and he ended up making me a necklace with the charm “K” on it. it was sweet but he has nothing to say when it comes to us talking…I just don’t know what to think anymore
Abby Shively says
This guy I like doesn’t really stare at me does he like me?
Kate says
Have you noticed any other above mentioned signs? If not, he’s most likely not interested.
Piper says
So I might like this shy guy but actually excuse my language I been slight bicth to him because I’m in college I don’t want get distracted over boys. When the guy and I had classes omg he helped me he treated me right one time I fail onto ground I quickly got up but he was another room he quickly ran to check on him as soon semester was over we have not talked he one day say hey but I had acne I did not wanted him too see like this so I quickly said hey bye I know it’s me but dang I just don’t he so perfect but I don’t why I’m not acceptance I want to him and chill one but I m in school I want go with him but dang I have issues lol but every time I pass hallways I just feel that natural energy someone is startingoing at me I look back him I feel bad I don’t we always look each other but we don’t talk
Kate says
You can still date when you are in college. If he likes you and respects you, he will give you enough time to study.
grace says
So i like this guy, and he is really shy, but I am shy too. His friend asked me if my account on this website was this username, and I said yes, and then he and his friend exchanged glances and started laughing, and he looked down, smiling. That was a few days after he accepted my friend request on that website. And after, when i was in a room, and they walked in, they immediately started whispering, and his friend asked me a question, and I replied. While i was replying he was looking at me smiling. A day after my crushes bday, my friend told him that I said happy bday, and he blushed a little. But his friend remembered my bday, and said happy late bday to me, but he didn’t. And now his friend keeps on talking to me now, and keeps coming up to me. But his friend never came up to me before. When I am in the same room as them, they whisper a lot. So I cannot tell whether my crush likes me back, or if his friend does.
Becky says
So there is a guy in my school who constantly bumps into me. I know he does it on purpose as he told me that it was ‘fun’ to. I think he enjoys talking to me. To see if he did like me, I ran a test. I took his bag, then gave it back. He was like, “What are you 5?” but he didn’t sound mad. He said it in a joking way. Does he like me?
Kate says
Yes, he might. Noone really wants to keep bumping into someone they don’t like, unless it’s done in a mean way.
Jayd Chu says
So i like this guy who’s really shy . But I can only see him at lunch and walking to class. He’s always quiet at our table,and will smile when I talk to him. It took a while for me to work it up and get his number,so when I got it I texted him. After sending a flirty text,he sent one back, and whenever I greet him he smiles. Everyone at our lunch table teases him about me being his future wife and such,which makes him smile each time. But I have the strange feeling he doesn’t like me back. He doesn’t turn his body towards me too much,but he does turn his upper half and doesn’t mind me hugging him. Does he like me back?
Kate says
Yeah, seems like he likes you.
Molly McCombie says
This guy I like is all flirty and everything in person (basically all the points mentioned above) but he never texts me (he has my number, he basically gave it to me a couple of days after knowing each other) just snapchats, sometimes he sends me a Snapchat, but after I reply he just ignores. Whereas if I initiate he always responds, but after a couple of messages he just leaves me on read. Before we started “talking” he was talking to this other girl, but he did ditch her before for another girl that he liked. I’m just confused because he always stares at me and when he smiles at me and I smile at him, he always looks back at me. In person I have no doubt he may like me, but the texting? His snap scores go up all the time but he never initiates a conversation with me, and he used to a couple of weeks ago.
Deanna says
I told this guy I liked him last year. But he kinda rejected me. Not this year unnoticed he stares at me everyday during lunch break I would look backat him but he wouldn’t look away he would just stare at me. My friends also tell me he stares at me when my back is turned. I haven’t talked to him in a while and I’m not sure if he likes me or not.
Kate says
Does he smile at you when you catch him staring at you? Does he try to talk to you? I would think he likes you if he keeps staring at you. However, see if you can find any other clues he might like you.
Deanna says
He does not smile at me. But I have noticed he tries to sit near me when he gets a chance. He doesn’t talk to me he only stares.
Patricia says
This guy i met online. Every meetings were cancelled by him. 2 months went by, i decided to ask him to visit his place to see if he is real. I met him and was surprised that he existed. He kissed me and somehow we spent the night together as the sexual chemistry was unbelievable. I didn’t expect that… then he came to visit at my place and we were intimate again. He then was quiet for a week and sent a short message asking if i was ok . At the time i replied that we had to think if we wanted to be more than friends because if it’s not a loving relationship then i will get hurt. He has been very quiet as he is always very busy with work and also he is having a cold now. It has been more than 2 weeks now he only sent a few messages asking if i am ok whilst saying he is busy with work and having a cold. What should i do?
Kate says
He might genuinely be busy since he was also busy when you first met him online. You could wait and see if you guys can meet up again. However, if you get a vibe that he is avoiding you, then you should probably move on.
cynthia says
There is this boy in my class i liked him for 6 months now but i dont know if he likes me i often caught him looking at me but when i look at him he looks away immedietely .When i walk into the class he lift his eyebrows and look at me from head to toe (not in a creepy way) but the problem is he never talk to me and i am to shy to go and start a conversation.please help me dis is taking over my life.
Kate says
Perhaps try to smile at him when he’s looking at you. It will show him that you like him and maybe it will encourage him to come talk to you.
Dulce says
So I have a co worker that I never really talked to before ; thinking that I was leaving he finally decided to talk to saying hope you stop by often and come visit and gave me a hug ( he was so flustered), keeping his distance of course ! I’ve never seen him like that but I always thought he was very attractive . What do you think this meant?
Abby Kay says
This guy is SO weird. He’s in some of my classes, but he’s SO annoying. When I tell him to “Shut up!” he doesn’t listen. I don’t think I’ll ever like him
Keera says
This guy and I used to be real cool with each other back in sophomore year when we had one class together. Now, junior year, we have no classes together so we grew apart for a while… until he started showing up at my locker every morning. He didn’t know it was mine in the first place, he just waits there for his classroom door to open. Our conversations were extremely awkward for some unknown reason.. He got really shy around me and I was as well because I always had this crush on him. I bring up things to talk about and he responds but never asks me anything in return, so I’ don’t know if I’m just overthinking it. Although, I have read many articles on this type of stuff and most of the signs were there… That he is interested but he doesn’t necessarily show it. I’m so confused.. Please help!
Kate says
It’s definitely tough to figure out if a shy guy likes you. He might just be super shy to ask anything in return. Or he might not be interested. Did he give you any hints that he was interested back in sophomore year when you guys communicated more? I suggest you keep talking to him to figure out if he likes you or not. He might get more comfortable with you and may open up more. However, if he keeps being the same way, perhaps he’s not interested.
mimi says
I like this shy guy at my school. & i”m pretty sure he likes me but he never talks to me. i’ve known him for almost 2 years now & still nothing. but i think he”s shy but only around me, cuz there’s other cute girls in my classes that me & him r both in but he only acts weired & shy around me. & when i”m in the hallway & he”s in the same hallway but with his friends & i pass him he acts really shy & weired. but when he passes me in the hallway a few days later just him he makes eye contact & smiles at me for like 3 or more seconds. & he’s really not that shy around anyone else. so now i don’t know if i should try & go talk to him or just give him some time to talk to me but sometimes i wonder if he will never talk to me. & if he will how long do i have to wait, i’ve waited 2 years. i just don’t know what to do??
Kate says
Hi, if you get a chance, try to talk to him. You might get a better idea when you guys talk.
mimi says
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mimi says
this really helped, i will try it, thank you. (:
P says
Actually a good friend of mine is a shy guy with girls. We are groupmates in university and are together most of the time. But sometimes I just notice him staring at me when I am doing my work. Or sometimes when we are talking together about university stuff, I suddenly notice wow, only 5cm between our faces. Or when I say something funny I notice him staring at my lips while laughing. Do you think this guy likes me?
Kate says
Yeah, he might. Hard to be sure though, keep looking if you see any more signs.
Kait says
hi, I have a crush on a shy boy at my high school, & i know he likes me but my problem is he wouldn’t talk to me & yes he’s shy but only around me, i tried to talk to him but he won’t talk to me!? So my question is, ”how do i get him to try to talk to me” without me making him feel nervous??
Tristan says
Ask him questions that have lengthy answers so he gets more comfortable.
Elizabeth Roller says
There’s this guy that i’ve liked for a couple of months now, and i have a feeling that he likes me too because he’s constantly staring at me and when i catch him looking at me he looks away pretty fast. Also, he behaves differently when he’s around me. When he’s with friends, he acts all energetic and fun. But when he’s around me, he acts all quiet. He also has made an effort to know my friends but not me. He usually hangs out around the table that me and my friends sit at, and he starts to talk to us randomly. I then decided, that enough was enough, and i gave him a card that told him that i liked him. And when i asked him if he liked the card, and i also said that i made the card for him, he barley gave a reaction. And i was crushed. I really thought that he liked me back. Then, a couple weeks later, he starts staring at me again. And a few of my friends start to notice him constantly starting at me when im not looking, and it made me frustrated. Because i thought that he liked me but he didnt say anything after i confessed. And a few days after that, a friend of mine brought in a picture of all the kids in our clads when they were in 5th grade. A couple of us were looking at the picture to see who we recognized. And at that moment, the guy that i like, comes up behind me and puts his hand on my shoulder to try to see the picture better and after that happend, i just became even more frustrated with him. Ever since i started to develop a crush on this guy, he has always given me mixed signals.
I just really need help to see if this guy really likes me or not.
Kate says
I don’t know for sure but perhaps he’s just too nervous and shy to say anything to you.
Anna says
There’s a guy that I like whom I think likes me back, but i am not completely sure. He texts me 24/7 and we hang out at school. but he usually only talks to me if my other friend (Whom is a guy friend only) is with me. He told me through text that he is protective of me and he doesn’t know why, he also compliments me and always knocks down any of my negative thoughts about myself. What should I do? We are both shy and it’s been like this the past month and the awkwardness is only getting worse.
Kate says
I believe he likes you if he is texting you all the time and feeling protective of you. He just might be too shy to talk to you alone. Perhaps if you continue texting, he might get more comfortable with you and might open up more.
Kate says
So I really like this guy and I had my friend ask if he likes me every once and a while and it would always change like he said yes I think she’s cute but I don’t want a gf rn and then the next was him saying he hates me then we like to challenge each other on games and he treats me and my friends differently idk how to tell bc it’s so confusing he always changes his mind back and forth on everything and he will talk to me out of nowhere just to ask what I wanna talk about but then I’ll talk back and he leaves me on read
Kate🔝 says
He also is very touchy and playfully hits me all the tome when he gets mad and loses and he pulls my shoes scares me and talks to the girls around me and ignores me sometimes then the next day me and him are listening to music together thru his earphones in soooo lost rn!!😒
Jane Foster says
Girl RUN these are the early signs and if you don’t acknowledge them now you just might find your self in a abusive relationship. So take my advice and RUN
Nessa says
So there’s this guy and I just started liking him after I causeght him staring at me. Ever since then he always touches his hair fidgets, copy my gestures and movements and he always play fights with his bestie when I’m around like he says STOP to his friend today was crazy I talked to him asking if he wanted a candy (We have never ever talked before) he said no with a smile on his face THEN he told his friend and they both looked at me. Also When I’m (NOT Looking) he stares at me for like 4 seconds it’s happende about a dozen times now
Elle says
There’s this guy I like but his behavior is very confusing. He seems nice over text, but whenever I see him in person he’s really awkward and it feels like he’s avoiding me. He’s normally a friendly and confident guy but he’s been acting very different towards me and I don’t know why. My friends and I have caught him staring a couple of times, then he looked away quickly. I just wish I knew if he was actually interested or not.
Sienna says
I think this guy on my bus likes me and i kinda like him too… I have noticed a few of these signs, especially the staring, but im still not sure…. What if he thinks im annoying? This is a new school and we have never really said anything to each other besides “excuse me” i am just really anxious to know if i have a chance…
Euphrosyne says
Hi! UMM..
So! I initiated the first talk over text- because I saw that he had liked the same post I had. I didn’t like him then but wanted to know more about him as a friend, I guess. That was three weeks ago. I never had a proper relationship before in my life but had liked quite a few people, never succeeded once. There was a senior who tried to court me three weeks ago and that never happened in my school before.
[Additional info: I’m a new student transferring from China to England, I’m the stereotypical Asian really. I apparently have an American-like accent.]
When we started to talk that night, we found out that we had a lot of similar interests and hobbies. We somehow also shared weird habits.
He’s a really shy guy, never talked to girls, and according to my friends over here, he had never liked any girls/ pursued any of them. He’s really quiet most of the time and only spoke to me a few times throughout the whole term.
So, after a week or two of texting constantly, I learnt a lot about him. He opened up to me about his childhood, and his past, and everything. But I never once inquired him about the topic of girls.
We kept texting in paragraphs until late at night, but we hardly talk in person because we hang around different places.
We have had our moments, like the time when we were alone in the music room and I played a piece for him. He really liked it and actually smiled, which he rarely does, at me. After that, we had a long talk. The day after that I showed him one of my self-composed pieces, he liked that and smiled constantly as he was listening. We would have these awkward “zing” moments, and embarrassed smiles. We were both awkward so we would run away from the scene when our friends or onlookers teased.
Then I couldn’t take it anymore when I realised I started liking him. Once I confirmed my best friend’s suspicion, her boyfriend found out, who was his best friend. Yesterday, when I wasn’t present, he finally broke and said “…yeah I do like her..” to his friends. Or so have I heard.
Bc I couldn’t take it, I finally went up to him today and confessed. He said he likes me, but after about 10 minutes of awkward silence and his noticeable frustration, head-scratching, hand gestures and inability to speak properly, he finally said that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I reacted positively and as sunshiney about it as I could and told him how I felt about the situation. I didn’t want a boyfriend and just wanted to clear things up. Honestly, I just wanted to know if he liked me back bc I don’t know if I should keep liking him.
What should I do? Should I be happy and just keep being friends with him for now and keep liking him or should I move on?
Kate says
I would not move on just yet. You can be his friend for a while and see if things change. It seems like he likes you, he just might be scared because it all came out now and he doesn’t know how to act.
Kelly says
Two years ago I texted a guy I had a crush on for a year and told him I liked him and he responded with, “ok?”. And I hadn’t talked to him since but freshman year of high school we had a class together and he would stare at me. Over time I noticed he would stand close to me and fidget around. My friends say I should just talk to him because I still kinda like him and want to give him a chance. But I am insecure and don’t know how to talk to him again. He’s really nice but he’s kinda an introvert, he doesn’t talk to people unless they talk to him first. He looks at me and fidgets so I don’t know if he wants to talk to me or not. One day we were waiting outside our teachers classroom waiting for him and he approached standing three feet behind me. His friend walked up to him and started being rough with him I guess playing around. And he didn’t say anything to his friend. I looked back and saw him looking at me through his parental vision. I quickly turned back. And I saw in the window reflection he was fidgeting around. I should also mention, at pep rally’s he sits close to me. But now it’s sophmore year and I pass him in the hall and I’ll see him look at me from afar and when we’re close he looks at the wall or down at the ground. I don’t know why he does this stuff can you help?
bean says
Hi! There’s this boy I like, but idk if he likes me. We have been friends since 8th grade and talked like everyday on social media after school, we didn’t talk much in real life tho cus I was shy, no matter if I had a crush or just was friends, I’m very shy. I didn’t have a crush back then but I think my crush developed without me knowing through a whole year. But yeah we talked a lot but then after the Christmas holiday in 9th grade we kinda stopped. And when we stopped talking, it was so empty and tHAT’s when I realized I had a crush, god save me. But yeah, I now suspect that he might have liked me for some time. He used to say hi to me in the corridors but when I didn’t hear and didn’t answer he would later text me like “Why didn’t you say hi back :(:(:(:(“, super cute yes, and he wanted to talk to me and to be with me but as I said, I’m SHY! He complimented my looks, and I guess he looked at me when we walked past each other then cus we don’t go in the same class. Once we were talking about some random stuff and I was like, “I used to always have my hair in a pony tail but now I never do” and I had my hair in a pony tail ONCE in the new school I started in, in 8th grade so yeah we have just been in the same school for almost 2 1/2 years now, but anyways he had noticed this ONE time and was like “why? You should have it like that more often, you look pretty in it”. He observed me a lot and noticed when my friends weren’t around and would be like “you could hang with me all day long now YAYAYAY!” Well we didn’t but yeah, he really wanted to be with me ahahahah. okay but now I’m 10th grade, he always looks me in the eyes when we walk past each other, I’ve caught him looking at me when I was not and wherever we are we got eye contact.
He also texted me asking for a test our class had done before his class but I mean he has way better friends than me in our class, or I mean he’s closer to other people in my class than we are to each other, so could it just be a n excuse to talk to me orrrr?? I don’t know, I’m so confused :(:(( he’s a real cutie and I’m crushing so hard
Shark bait who ahh says
Hello! There’s this guy that I have been seeing for awhile, we have had sex many times he’s told me he likes me an has talked to his firends an mother about me. He’s even changed the lock on my door because my ex took my appartment key, hes the same way he is to me when he’s around his firends. We told each other when we was tipsy that we both didn’t think it was going to last an be a quick f*ck. He told me since he’s young he doesn’t know what love is but all he knows that he cares for me. He always makes sure I’m doing okay. I really want to be with him but he makes it hard when he bearly answers my texts or calls. I’m so in love with him but I wish I would know rather he wants to be f*ck buddies or something real.. He’s told me before that he’s looking for something real but its hard to believe when I text first an I show more emotions then ever an he says a couple messages that feel like forever for him to text back. I know people get busy but I just want to know if he wants to legit be with me or just trying to be a good firend/f*ck buddy. We say we love one another an we miss one another but he never asked me out? Like is that a legit way to say go out with me?
Nisha says
I went to another office for some work for a few weeks and met this guy there. At first few weeks i didnt really paid attention to him..since last week i noticed him staring at me a few times and when I look back at him ,we exchange smiles…i just realised that I have felt that someone was staring at me previously as well…i am also interested in him now but no sure how to approach him as we have never talked before..so do you think he is interested in me?
LB says
I have liked this one guy who works at my climbing gym for about a year now. Yeah, I know, it’s a long time to not have made a move or something, but I’m super quiet and shy, especially around him. I’m not sure if he likes me or not. He is more on the quiet side, but is pretty talkative with his friends there. Whenever I go climbing and he is working, he always smiles and says hey before asking me how I’m doing. I’ve also caught him watching me climb more than once. I really want to build up my courage and start a conversation, but I can’t find the nerve. Any advice?
Goldie says
So there is this guy I like, he is two years ahead of me in school. We are on the same team (its COED). Some of the sign match up with what he is doing but not all of them. Like when i look at him he glances at me but he is never looking at me first. He never goes out of his way for me, he never tries to put himself in my line of vision, but he always tries to show off, i’m just getting so many mixed signals. Please help. I’m actually obsessed and I really just want him to notice me. I’ve smiled at him, talked to him and he isn’t doing anything. I understand that I should move on but I have a special feeling about him, sort of like he is the one. And every time I see him I get butterflies and turn REALLY nervous. Please help.
STUCKinAK says
listen,girl if he dont notice you and your beauty booo but i know how you feel its the same /w mi blue [nickname] except i am sooo shy i turn red when i talk to a 10yr.old…IM 15!!!!so girl keep a smile[a little make-up never hurts]and wait good things WILL come,LOVE will come and God has a plan for you
★peace★out★
Diana says
so there’s this guy that’s been staring at me for about two years now. when i first started noticing this I talked to him but he seemed distant. he always follows me around places and goes to the places i’m in and his friends always tease him when i’m around. everyone I know thinks there’s something up since it’s very obvious but i’m not sure. what do I do?
Tristan says
Don’t be aggresive, lol. I makes him think you don’t like him.
Tristan says
So, I’m about maximum shyness and I though you should know that I completely avoid conversations with my “crush”. I do smile at her, and I definitely look at her without her looking. If she asks me a question I will answer it simply and emotionless. No one knows who I like, though except maybe for a small part of her. I’m super subtle, and I won’t go out of my way to confront her. Anyone who ever liked me was too confused because I rarely was in the mood to “open up”. If you have any questions I will respond.
im1♂ says
WHAT!!!!!! you DON’T go out of the way for her??!! dude,take it from me★DO IT★she’ll catch on and it will make her feel special
veronica says
I’m a freshman and I like this kid hes one year older than me and he’s really shy but when we talk he smiles at me and when he sits behind me he puts his feet on the back of my chair so I don’t know if he likes me or not and I really like him and I don’t know what to do??
Natalia says
I really likes this boy. He does a lot of things that just make me wonder if he’s into me or not.
1. He always stares at me
2. When I look at him his always staring at me
3. We made eye contact for about 4 to 5 minutes
4. He was trying to make eye contact with me and he told his friend me and him did
5. He said I was his best friend to a friend
6. He fights over my other friend of who was my best friend
7. He says my name A lot
8. When he doesn’t talk to me he never forgets to say “Hi Natalia” when I walk by
9. He never smiles at me and it just makes me wonder why
10. He copies my gestures
11. His caring
12. When I got in the same group as him he told me to sit by him, but then It got really awkward
13. My teacher told him to help me and my other two friends but my friends were mean to him so he didn’t help me or them but when my friends left he told me if I needed help but I said no. Then he asked again and I said it’s fine and he didn’t insist then
14. He sometimes walks with me to class
15. He presented me to some of his friends
16. He repeated my name over and over with another friend because he said my name. His obsessed with my name.
I need to know if he does or if I’m just a friend to him because I feel like I’m not enough for him. He’s smart, kind, shy, sporty, friendly, talkative when he’s with his friends, but when I’m around his just so quite. One time when I walk by he was talking with his friends but when I passed by it got quite. It only had happened twice because I bearly see him in my first period. In the hallways, his also quite well kid of.
just lil ol' me says
Ok girl from what i gatherd he likes you but is kind of shy to saying he does, But WHAT U think you are not good enough for him GIRL YOU are good enough for Chris Hemsworth,Zac Efron AND Austin Zajur that’s how good you are. you are good enough for ANY guy out there.I read a thing and it said ” girls are like apples but only the good ones are on top and the gross ones are on the bottom of the tree and most guys don’t wanna climb to the top and get the good one’s BUT God has a plan for you and some day a boy won’t wanna settle for the gross ons on the bottom and will climb all the way to the top and pick the perfect apple and that apple will be you” so dont rush and smile on GOD has a plan ★PEACE★OUT★
Audrey says
theres a guy and we lock eyes all the time, he looks me up and down, i catch him staring at me, but one time i went over by my friends and he was sitting by them and as soon as i came over he tensed up, looked really uncomfortable and got on his phone. But then we hung out with a group of people and he was really talkative and seemed to loosen up to me more. He also likes all my social media posts, and is friends with me on snapchat but wont add some other people that we both mutually know. Is any of this a sign? I also just have a gut feeling he likes me, but im too scared to say anything.
STUCKinAK says
Hi,I’ve liked this boy for about a 1yr.1/2 and only at the beginning of the year he has started getting really nervous around me, I’ve noticed lots of the signs and another thing he started to do is put himself in situations closer to me but then suddenly gets really nervous and turns red when i look at him. i think helikes me but am not shur. he is really nice,and auctually a lot like me but he is soo shy,but we make eye contact and both of us turn red,he also started going to the same classes as me in our church and is always looking[very discretely]at me and…well…just looking i want to talk to him but me myself am very shy.but the problem is he is soo shy that he dosent’ even talk around his friends and can barly smile,btw he has a beautiful smile,but when i i asked one of his friends why doesn’t he smile they said he said he has a very ugly smile…HEELLPP!!!
Setayesh says
Hi…
I guess i really need a hint for this since i never had a serious feeling for a guy…
So I go skating almost every night and the place has a big square that skaters play in that area
I got feelings for one of those skaters that i think his shy because he barely talk to anyone when every skater got its own company there…
But i can feel he looks at me when im wearing my skates but avoids my look when i look at him…
And when im sitting somewhere hidden i see him going backwards and looking around like his looking for someone…
I really dont know if this hope that he might like me is for nothing or this signals(i dont know even if they are signals) might actually mean sth
Juliet joy says
This is really good