Your girl is the queen of your whole world – make sure she knows it. When you have a good woman, you want to do everything you can to treat her right. You want her to know how special she is to you. You never want your girlfriend to question how you feel about her. But how do you treat a woman like a queen? We’ve got you covered.
Excuses for Why Men Can’t Treat a Woman Like a Queen
When it comes to relationships, some men have no desire to put in any effort. I’ve heard hundreds of excuses over the years. “I don’t have the money to spoil her,” is one of the most common reasons I’ve heard. Sorry fellas, but your income shouldn’t have anything to do with making your girlfriend feel special.
“I’m always busy. I don’t have the time.” Once again, heck no. If your girlfriend is important to you, she should be your top priority. It only takes 10 seconds to send her an “I’m thinking of you” or “I miss you” text. Skip your fourth visit to the gym this week and go hang out with your lady instead.
“I don’t want her thinking I’m whooped.” This excuse makes me want to stomp on a man’s toe. Dude, if you’re still in the mindset that being committed and considerate in your relationship is being whipped, stay single. When you’re committed to someone, you should have no problem doing whatever it takes to make them happy.
How to Treat a Woman Like a Queen
Look, fellas, you may think that women are hard to understand, but we’re not. Most of us want attention, affection, to feel like we’re important. We want to feel as special as your car, your friends, your fantasy football team. Get my drift?
It doesn’t take money and gifts and fancy trips to make your girl happy. The smallest gestures can make the most significant impact. Just showing how well you know her can be enough to make her feel like the luckiest woman in the world. Try these simple steps to make your special lady feel like the Queen she is.
Pamper Her
Before you roll your eyes and quit reading, let me explain. You don’t have to spend every paycheck on her. I’m not saying you have to buy her things at all.
Pamper her with your attention. When she’s had a long day, rub her shoulders and let her talk about what’s on her mind. Put on her favorite show, even if you’re bored to tears. Stock up on her favorite drink so she’ll always have it when she comes over.
When it’s her time of the month, score some major brownie points by supplying her with her favorite chocolate, some take out, and a sappy love flick on Netflix. If you spring for flowers, trust me, she’ll be on cloud nine. Even before you start the heavenly foot rub.
Spoil Her
It’s great to spoil her with attention and affection, but let’s face it. A true gentleman always pays for things. It’s okay if your girl wants to pay for things occasionally, but women want a man who is financially stable enough to support himself. And she’s going to feel loved if you support her too.
I’m not saying to pay her bills. She should be doing that on her own. But if you’re going on a date, you cover the tab. If she insists on paying for something, let her cover the Uber or the parking fee. Take her to get her nails done or put gas in her car.
All women like the idea of having a man who takes care of her. No matter how capable she is of supporting herself, she’ll still want a man that can be a reliable provider. It’s ingrained in the female DNA from thousands of years of mating rituals.
Talk to Each Other
The cornerstone of each relationship is communication. If you can’t talk to each other on the same level, it’s going to be hard to sustain a relationship. You don’t have to be able to quote poetry or have deep conversations about the meaning of life.
But you are required to be honest with her. If she asks you a question, never ignore it or lie. Take her concerns seriously, even if they don’t make sense to you. When a woman has gone through a bad breakup, it can leave behind severe collateral damage.
If you want your woman to feel like a queen, you have to talk to her. And more than that, you have to listen. Nothing makes a woman feel special like a man that actively participates in a conversation to fix a problem.
You’ll be The Perfect King if You’re a Great Listener
It’s no secret that women are more emotional than men. We process things differently. And we tend to talk a situation to death – and then some. It can be incredibly frustrating, but if you want your woman to know she’s important to you, you’ll lend a sympathetic ear when she needs to vent.
Your Queen is a warrior. She doesn’t need you to fight her battles for her. But she does require your support. Be her advisor as she tries to figure out how to handle a situation in her way. If she’s having a problem, try to help her come up with a solution.
Be Chivalrous
Chivalry isn’t as common these days as it once was. Women are content to do things on their own. But that doesn’t mean you should let her. Trust me, guys. No matter how independent your girl is, she’ll love it if you act like a gentleman.
When you treat your lady with respect, you’re telling her how special she is to you. If you value something, you take care of it. So, worship your lady as you do your car. Hold her hand when you’re walking down the street. Open her door when you’re getting into the car or going inside. Always offer to lift anything heavy.
Even the most independent women enjoy being treated like princesses. She loves feeling like she’s the most precious thing in your world. So, bring her flowers and chocolates. Send her sweet texts throughout the day. Send her a link to a song that makes you think of her.
Take Care of Her
If your girl is as important to you as you say she is, take care of her. Do things for her. Fill her car up with gas. If she has to work late, cook dinner and straighten up the house so that when she gets home, she can relax.
Perform her car maintenance, so she doesn’t have to keep up with it. She’s got enough on her plate. If there’s a loose door handle at her house, fix it. Cut her grass. And for the love of God, always remember to take out the trash. There are some things women shouldn’t have to do.
Surprise Her
If you want to make your girlfriend feel like a queen, surprise her. Flowers are a start, but don’t just go for roses. Show how well you know her by surprising her with her favorite kind. Nothing says, “I love you,” like showing how well you know her.
Run her a bubble bath when she’s stressed. Serve her breakfast in bed when she finally has a day off. As you can see, it doesn’t have to cost money. It just has to catch her off guard. There are a million reasons why you love her. Find a million ways to show her every day.
My boyfriend finds new ways to shock me every day, and I love him for it. Even something as simple as him bringing me a cold Pepsi after work or a sweet snack, he thinks I might like makes me feel like the luckiest woman in the world. You’re telling your Queen that she’s on your mind, even when she’s not in your presence. What woman wouldn’t want that?
Cook for Her
Women love it when they see signs of domestication in a man. It gives them a glimpse of their future. When you think about the man you want to spend your life with, you want him to be an equal partner. You both work, you both clean, you both cook.
Not to mention, seeing you cook speaks to our evolutionary need to find a mate that will be able to take care of us. Knowing that you can cook means, we won’t starve if something happens and she can’t provide the meals. It’s archaic, but we can’t help our DNA.
If you want to make your girl feel like a queen, surprise her by cooking her favorite meal. Bonus points if you can get it right without having to ask her or her friends what her favorite thing is.
Know Who She Is
I can’t count the number of times someone has said how well they know their partner, yet they can’t answer the most fundamental questions about them. Favorite color? Middle name? Birthday?
Sure, these answers are relevant. They’re just a few of the necessary details you should know about your partner. But if you want your girlfriend to feel like a real queen, you’re going to need to know everything about her.
Her likes and dislikes. Her dreams. Her fears. Know what she means when she says the word “fine” cause trust me; most of the time, it does not mean “fine.” Learn her facial expressions and her body language. Does her voice get high pitched when she’s lying? Does she squint a lot when she’s upset?
By knowing your girlfriend, you can give her what she needs without her having to tell you. Trust me; she’ll love it.
Notice Everything
It’s a common complaint from women around the globe that “he just doesn’t pay attention to me.” Fellas, one of the worst things you can do is miss noticing something important. If your girl just got her hair done, trust me when I say you’re going to want to notice and compliment her ASAP.
She’s not vain or conceited. She needs confirmation that you do pay attention to her when you’re together. Maybe she changed her wardrobe, or she seems unusually stressed after work.
If you see that she’s acting weird, talk to her and get to the bottom of it. She could be under a lot of pressure at work and doesn’t mention it because she doesn’t think you’ll care. By noticing when something is different with her, you’re showing her that you care enough to keep up with her life.
Always Compliment Her
Women love to get compliments. On any given day, she’s probably got a few handsome foreign princes in her DMs talking about her radiant beauty. If you want her to feel like a real queen, you should be giving her compliments every day, as well.
If you want to impress her, don’t just talk about how pretty she is. Although you should be telling her at least twice a day that she’s beautiful and you’re a lucky SOB for having her.
Focus on other things you love about her, like her compassion for others. Or her desire to make the world a better place. Tell her how much you love her brains, her ambition, her love of life. Look beneath the surface and notice the ways she’s beautiful inside.
It’s great to hear that you’re attractive. But when he values you for what’s inside as much as the outside, you’re lucky. That’s when you feel blessed to have such an amazing man.
Love Her For Her Mind
Once upon a time, if a man was dating a woman who made more money than him, he was considered the weaker one in the relationship. It got to the point where most men would be intimidated by a smart woman. But you shouldn’t be one of them.
Maybe I’m crazy, but I think intelligence is sexy – regardless of gender. A smart woman is a turn-on; the same goes for men. If you want your girl to feel like you do love her, you have to appreciate her brains.
Be impressed by her intelligence. Your girlfriend should never feel insecure about how smart she is. She should never feel like she has to hide her new promotion at work because you’ll get upset or say something rude. If you want your girl to feel like a queen, be impressed by her strengths, her ability to lead, her brain.
Make Her Your Priority
If you want your girl to feel like royalty, you must make her your top priority. You should always be concerned about making sure that she’s okay. She should never need anything when you’re around. Fulfill her needs. Bonus points if you can anticipate them. As my boyfriend says, it’s better to be prepared.
When you’re at the store buying something, stop and ask yourself, will my girl need some too? You’d be surprised how a small gesture like grabbing your girlfriend’s brand of shampoo and conditioner combo can make her feel like a million bucks. If you’re grabbing a drink from the store before y’all head to a friend’s house, grab her one too.
A real king takes care of his Queen in every way. She should come before you, and she should come before your friends. If you’ve got a guy’s night out coming up, talk to her about it beforehand. Including her in your decision making is a great way to make her feel like the Queen that she is.
Never Let Her Be Insecure
A Queen is never inferior to anyone, especially another woman. If you want your girl to know how special she is to you, never make her jealous of other women. Don’t think it’s cute when she overreacts about a girl smiling at you or flirting.
Your girlfriend should feel secure enough about her place in your life that she knows there isn’t a snowball’s chance in Hades that any other woman could compete with her. She should have complete trust in you.
She should know that you consider it a miracle to have a woman as amazing as her, so there’s no way you’d mess it up with another chick. If your girlfriend can find it amusing when she sees a girl trying to make a pass at you, that’s when you know you’ve made her feel like a queen.
Get In Her Head
I would consider myself well versed in the art of dating and failed relationships. When I mess up, I go epic. My last disastrous rendezvous lasted almost eleven years, even though it should have ended a decade prior. But you live and learn.
With all the experience I have, there’s only been one guy that can get inside my head. He can tell what I’m feeling from the looks on my face. And he’s figured out that certain word choices carry a whole lot of weight behind them.
And there are times when he can use things that I’m saying to predict what I’ll say next before I even get a chance to. It’s like he’s genuinely in my head. If you want to sweep your special lady off her feet, and make her feel like the luckiest chick alive, learn how to read her mind.
Everyone Can Be a Psychic if They Try
I know, I know. It’s a well-known fact that women are impossible to understand. But that’s just for lazy guys who don’t want to try. If you pay attention to your girlfriend the way you’re supposed to, you’ll get to know what subtle things mean, like when her mouth twitches to the right, or she wrinkles her nose.
You might be the only one who realizes that “Yep” doesn’t mean confirmation. It means “I’m pissed but do whatever you want.” You may notice that she makes snide, passive-aggressive comments when she’s worried about something but doesn’t want to bring it up.
If you want your girlfriend to know how much you love her, learn how her mind works. Decipher her body language and word choices so that you can impress her by reading her mind. I can promise you that if she knows you understand her, she’ll feel like the luckiest girl alive.
Keep Her Engaged
It doesn’t matter if you just saw each other two hours ago or two days ago, one of the easiest and most important things you can do to make your special lady feel incredible is to send a good morning text every day.
My boyfriend and I live together, and he tells me “bye” every morning before he leaves. And yet, every day, I still get a good morning text a few hours after he’s left. It’s incredible to know that you stay on a person’s mind. Even though he’s going to see me in less than 10 hours, he still wants to talk to me until he gets home.
I’m not saying you have to blow her DMs up all day, every day. You can get by with just a few if you’re not that serious with each other. But a good morning text is an essential message you don’t want to skip if you wish to make your girl feel like she’s royalty.
Aim for Five
Try to send at least five different messages to your girl throughout the day. Start with a good morning text. A few hours into the day, consider a message asking how her day is going. You could use a cute meme or gif to make her smile or laugh.
A third message later in the day just to let her know you’re thinking of her. If you see each other later on, confirm or arrange plans. And an “I’m on my way home” or “I’m going to bed, good night” text, depending on if you’ll be together or apart.
The Perfect Queen Deserves the Perfect King
As you can see, there are plenty of ways you can make your woman feel like a precious jewel that you want to protect and worship for the rest of your life. More than anything, don’t forget to tell her how much you love her. Every day. As often as it comes to mind – within reason.
But if you want to make a relationship work, you can’t just focus on how you’re treating her. You need to make sure she’s treating you right as well. Don’t bend over backward for a girl who is stringing you along. Make sure she’s stable before you take the plunge.
If you’re not sure whether she’s the right one, ask yourself this. Does she inspire you to be a better person? Have you changed for the better because you want to be worthy of her? Has she improved your life? If your answers are yes, congrats, my friend. You might have found your Queen.
