Relationships are tough. Most of us have been burned at one time or another with a cheater or someone who broke our heart. That makes it pretty difficult to give the benefit of the doubt to your girl and trust her before asking questions.
It’s that little voice inside your head that’s always wondering if she’s ever going to play you.
Trust is taking your partner’s word; however, these indicators will help give you the confidence to trust without question, and that’s priceless!
How To Trust Your Girlfriend
Pointer One – She’s happy to share all her feelings
When your girlfriend is honest about all her feelings and thoughts, it’s a huge sign you can trust her.
When she opens up her vulnerabilities and shares when she really isn’t even thinking about it, that says a lot. She’s at risk for you to brush her off or to laugh at her.
Keep in mind that, just because she doesn’t tell you her deepest, darkest secrets right away, it does not mean you can’t trust her. Some people take a little more time than others to open up.
Chances are, when she talks to you, it helps her process her emotions. Let her do her thing, but if she is letting you in this way, there’s a good chance she is trustworthy.
Pointer Two – She tells you when she screwed up
Here’s another huge vulnerability when it comes to trust in relationships. When she tells you about her little screw-ups—like putting diesel fuel into her unleaded car—that shows she has no issues being open and honest, no matter how silly she looks.
When she shows you she can take responsibility for the small things, she’s telling you she’s not likely to back away from her major life mess-ups. When people hide things and lie, they’re afraid of letting someone in.
However, if she does lie and offers an apology, it goes a long way in showing you can trust your girlfriend.
Pointer Three – She loves talking to you about her day
When she has nothing to hide from you, she will be tickled pink to talk about her day. If she is giving you all the details, you’ve really got nothing to fret about.
The more details, the better, because this shows you that she has no issues letting you in on as much as you want to know about her day. This, of course, increases the chances she has zippo to hide.
Pointer Four – She loves touching you
Sex isn’t the only way to show that you want to get closer to someone. If your girlfriend is happy to reach out and kiss or caress you whenever the need arises, it’s a good solid indicator that she can be trusted.
If she comes up behind you when you are cooking and gives you a nice hug, it’s another good sign that she is one trustworthy girlfriend. It’s the little things that count!
Pointer Five – You’ve got a shared bank account
It’s common, when a couple gets married, to be told to keep a separate account from your spouse just in case. A clear-cut sign of trust is if your girlfriend is totally willing to put themselves at risk and be completely open and honest about her finances.
When you are hiding money from your partner, you are showing, on a certain level, you expect the worst.
Even if you have separate bank accounts, when she’s open about her money issues, it shows she trust you and depends on you enough to make herself vulnerable. That’s a HUGE step when you are looking for indicators that you can truly trust your girlfriend.
Pointer Six – She has no issues going out of her way to make sure you are okay
When you are feeling a tad insecure, don’t be shy about accepting your partner’s actions of kindness to help put you at ease.
For example, if you feel a little jealous about her new hunky work partner, but she has no issues introducing the two of you, this shows she’s going out of her way to help make you more comfortable and secure.
This shows you that you are important to her, and she has no issues letting people see that.
In any relationship, it’s important to show your partner repeatedly that they come first. When unnecessary insecurity and distrust pop into the picture, it’s pretty tough to recover from that and actually trust each other.
Pointer Seven – She has no issues dropping everything, so she can talk with you
When your girlfriend will stop doing the dishes or finishing her workout just to talk to you, it’s a pretty solid sign you can trust her. A huge indicator of trust is when she is willing to face you with her body and give you her undivided attention, regardless of what’s she’s doing.
If she is closing herself off to you by crossing her arms, turning her head away from you, or pointing her body in another direction, then the trust factor diminishes considerably.
When she gives you her attention and keeps her body language open and positive, she’s showing you that you can trust her.
Pointer Eight – She has no issues with you doing all the talking
When your girlfriend can keep quiet and let you vent when you are having a bad day, it’s a nice indicator that she’s trustworthy. A comfortable silence is a good thing, but so is letting your partner take the stage and blow off some steam when the need arises.
Regardless of who’s talking, don’t let the silence of the other be uncomfortable. If you are unleashing her stresses, and she asks you if there’s anything she can do, that’s even better.
Pointer Nine – Her questions definitely aren’t like interrogation
Quite frequently, people get very suspicious of their partner because they can see themselves creating the problems they accuse their partner of doing. If she trusts you, she will not give you the third degree when you come home a little late at night. She’s not going to accuse you of having an affair when you are putting in overtime. And most definitely, when you go out and have some fun with the boys, she’s not going to accuse you of hitting on other women.
She’s showing you support when she lets you volunteer the information and does not grill you for answers.
When your girlfriend only asks you questions out of genuine curiosity and not suspicion, she’s showing you that she deserves to be trusted.
Pointer Ten – She gives you her phone unlocked while she’s driving
You should never go snooping through your partner’s phone, no matter how tempting it might be. So, when your girlfriend passes her phone to you when she’s driving, that’s a rock-solid signal she can be trusted.
This shows you clearly she has nothing to hide from you. She’s showing you that she is a completely open book, and there’s nothing on her phone that you can’t see if you like.
You do need to beware, though. Sometimes, a girl will do this, assuming you aren’t going to look at anything. The bold and the beautiful is what I call that. Just keep in mind, if she is guarding her phone and seems very evasive with it, there’s a really good chance she can’t be trusted.
Use your gut with this one. If she lets you see her phone without reservation, normally that means she is a girl that can be trusted.
Pointer Eleven – The conversation just flows
When someone is lying, they can’t generally look you straight in the eye. When a person is trustworthy, they can easily be casual and direct. Nothing seems weird or out of place. So, when your girlfriend can talk with you casually, without any reserve, natural and comfortable, it’s another rock-solid indicator you can trust her.
Tips To Get Your Girlfriend To Trust You
When it comes to relationships, there is always more than one angle to tackle. That said, let’s look at inspirational pointers to help ensure your girlfriend trusts you just a little more than yesterday. Trust has to work both ways, you know.
Trust is certainly one of those secret ingredients that help to smooth the bumps along the road that are inevitable in any relationship. When you are looking to build trust, it requires a certain degree of commitment to specific behaviors.
There really isn’t any one thing you can do to make your partner trust you, but there are a few pointers you can pay attention to that will help you build that trust you need to have a healthy and loving relationship.
Pointer One – Begin with you
If you are serious about gaining your girlfriend’s trust, you need to trust yourself first. When you are able to trust yourself to commit to a habit, it’s going to give you the confidence to stick with it and push through the tough times that are bound to arise at some point.
Your girlfriend is also going to see you are trustworthy if you have that faith in yourself.
Pointer Two – You’ve got to trust her
Fact…Trust works both ways in any relationship. If you take action to show your partner you trust her, chances are pretty good she’s going to trust you back, at least until you show her you can’t be trusted.
Try not to be suspicious of her behaviors or make her feel defensive when it comes to trusting. Follow your gut and address any trust issues early if they arise. Just try to make the confrontation as gentle as possible.
Pointer Three – Keep the lines of communication open
The key to a successful relationship is open and clear communication. When you are open and honest with your girl, the easier it will be to gain her trust. She doesn’t want to feel like you are hiding things from her. Take the time to speak with her about what you need and how you feel; create that magical atmosphere that’s free of suspicion and doubt. That’s toxic and will kill what could be an amazing relationship fast.
Pointer Four – Make a point of sharing your life
This is a big factor in swaying your girlfriend to trust you with all of herself. Take your partner to meet your parents, family, co-workers, and friends on a regular basis. Don’t give her the chance to think you are hiding something from her by not letting her into the “big picture” of your life.
Sometimes, this is difficult because, once you get your support unit involved with your personal life, you’ve got more people to answer to if something goes wrong. Try to put that thought to the back of your brain. If you really want to be with this girl and you want her trust, you’ve got to jump in with both feet and make that happen as quickly as you can.
Pointer Five – Never judge her
If you think it’s okay to judge your girlfriend’s actions, you’re dead wrong. Judging her is only going to weaken your connection and build distrust. If you hit her where it hurts with personal judgement, she’s not going to want to tell you anything for fear of another assault, whether you meant it or not.
Work hard to be empathetic towards her needs, listen attentively to what she has to say, and always look to help her with optimistic and supportive solutions.
Pointer Six – Show her you are reliable and dependable
By showing your girlfriend you are truthful and delivering on your word, you are showing her she can trust you. If you tell her you are going to pick her up from work at 6, then do it. If you say you are going to take her to the movies and dinner on Friday night, make sure you do exactly that.
When you continue to show her you are trustworthy and true to your word, you’re giving her no choice but to trust you. This pushes away all her worries and insecurities.
Pointer Seven – Show her you are extremely patient
Gaining trust in a relationship doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time. What you say and do will help you succeed, but you still need to give her time to see and decide for herself that you can be trusted.
You may have to do your time before she really trusts you. At that point, you’ve got to decide whether or not she’s worth the wait.
Pointer Eight – Honesty is always the best policy
Lots of men seem to forget this factor. Even if you think a little white lie is going to make it easier, most of the time, it will come back and bite you hard in the rear. Even if you think she might get a little mad, if you’re heading out for a night on the town with the boys, make sure you tell her. Never lie to her and tell her you’re just working late or helping a friend move.
If you can be honest with her about everything, why shouldn’t she trust you?
Pointer Nine – Deliver the genuine compliments
Compliments go a long way to making a girl feel good and to gaining her trust. Show her how much you appreciate her and make sure it’s for real. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is to tell a girl something nice that just isn’t true. Trust me, she can smell a fib a mile away.
Give her genuine compliments because that goes a long way in helping to gain her full attention and trust.
Pointer Ten – Just be you
This is hard for a lot of men because they want so badly to impress a girl. You’ve got to get that thought out of your brain because acting is tough work. Do you really want to connect with a girl and have to fake your way through the rest of your life because you weren’t showing her the real you?
Never mind the fact she will figure it out sooner or later and peg you as a pathetic liar. At that point, you’ve zero chance of gaining her trust. Be confident in who you are, simply because it’s much easier to trust a guy that’s okay showing the world exactly who he is.
Pointer Eleven – Tell her a secret
Well, it doesn’t really have to be a secret, but you should be able to tell her things that nobody else knows. This helps to establish that trust factor because you are opening yourself up to being vulnerable, and you are trusting her with your secrets. That’s got to make her feel pretty special, don’t you think?
Tell her a few secrets, and she’s surely going to trust you with hers.
Pointer Twelve – Be smart with your decisions
This goes without saying, but it needs to be said anyway. Take your girlfriend out for dinner to a restaurant that she really loves, not the one where you want to go. If you are going to the movies, be open to going to a chic-flick if that’s what she prefers.
When you put yourself in her shoes and make some of the decisions she would make, you are ultimately making her feel special and comfortable, and that leads to full-on trust.
Pointer Thirteen – Be sure you show her that you care about and love her
Whenever you get the opportunity, you should show her that you are thinking about her, that you love and care. Ask her if she wants you to run any errands for her, or better yet, show up at work with lunch for her, even if she’s eating at her desk.
She’s likely taking some time to trust you because she’s figuring out if it’s safe to give you her heart. The only way to break through this insecurity or worry is to show her love and support always. Do this successfully and consistently, and you’re well on your way to gaining her trust.
Pointer Fourteen – Make lots of time for her
The more quality time you spend with a girl, the more she’s going to trust you. When you spend time with her, you are getting to know each other better and that helps her get comfortable to trust you. Make a point of opening up to her and allowing her to see that special side of you.
This pointer is pretty straightforward. The more you can give her your time, the faster the trust will come.
Pointer Fifteen – Show her you can be trusted
It’s so important that you do what you say. Seeing is believing, and you’ve got to show her that you are one of those men that can be trusted. Keep showing her she has nothing to worry about and that you can be trusted, and before you know it, you will reach your goal.
Pointer Sixteen – Thoughtfully sacrifice for her
This is a tough move but can be the icing on the cake when you are looking to have your girlfriend trust you or trust you more. By giving up something for her that you really love, you’re showing her beyond a shadow of a doubt that you love her with all your heart.
This move assures her that she is more valuable than “things” in life. When she feels your selflessness, she’s going to open her mind to accept the fact you aren’t going to hurt her and that you have no issues sacrificing something to make her life better.
When it comes to trusting your girlfriend, it’s not always easy. Use these tips to figure out if the girl you want is the trustworthy kind. Follow your gut and make sure you take action to show her you can be trusted too.
It takes two to tango, and if you want to make it work, you’re going to have to work on proving it to her and looking for clues to determine if you can trust her.