How to turn a girl on? Girls are complex, the understatement of the year. And when it comes to turning a girl on it’s going to take intuition, paying attention and a heck of a lot of practice.
Mens Health has faith there are tips and tricks to speed up her heating up process so it’s more in rhythm with yours.
FACT – Girls need to be warmed up. Guys not so much.
Think of the girl as the crockpot and the guy as the deep fryer.
Some of these tips are going to turn a girl on in a few minutes and others are going to take a little longer. Sorry boys, it’s a trial and error process but when you figure out her hot buttons, you’re golden.
How To Turn A Girl On
Tip One – Sexy Silk Thong
Yes, you can get into deep trouble if you buy a girl lingerie. However, if you buy her a sexy thong and deliver it when you aren’t expecting sex, it’s going to turn her on pronto. Maybe you want to slip it into her briefcase at work and text her to put it on when she has a break?
Talk about super sexy and chances are you’re going to have her all heated up by the time she makes it home.
Newsflash – Please don’t try this on your first date. Not unless you never want to see a second date.
Tip Two – Hug Until You Can’t Hug Anymore
Sure, studies show women love to kiss but hugging ranks close by. What you need to do is hold the hug longer than you need to. This sends the message loud and clear you are savoring the moment and that’s a total turn on.
Better still, if she’s the one that starts the hug, you’re definitely headed in the right direction to turn her on.
Tip Three – Wear Her Name Out
No doubt women love hearing their name. It automatically makes her feel important and respected. Use it when you’re talking to her and better yet write it on your notepad, hand, arm, and anywhere else she might spot it.
Essentially, you’re playing the sweet card, it’ll make her laugh, and most importantly she is going to feel like she matters to you. That’s all the magic you need to turn her on.
Tip Four – The Sexy Whisper
There’s something about the soft whisper that sends shivers down her spin. Anticipation is VIP in a woman’s sex life and whispering into her ear how much you crave her and what you want to do to her, will set her sex drive on fire.
Tip Five – Carry Her Picture
Whether you have her picture as your screen saver or you’ve got an actual old-fashioned photo stashed in your wallet, she’s going to be excited and turned on. Again, you’re making her feel special and that does wonders for you in the bedroom.
Tip Six – Love Notes Work
It doesn’t matter whether or not you’re romantic. You don’t even need to know how to spell. By leaving little love notes around the house, you’re going to appear sweet. And in the dictionary of women, sweet is sexy. Need I say more?
Tip Seven – Put Her Nail Polish On For Her
Grooming is something that makes women feel good about themselves – Sexy. And when you are helping her with her nail polish or lipstick, you’re turning up the heat a notch or two. Shampooing her hair is another wise-owl move if you’re looking to turn your girl on.
Tip Eight – Kiss Her Where She Least Expects It
I’m sure you’ve got the usual spots covered for kissing. If you want to warm your girl up, you’ve got to start exploring, kiss her elbows, back of the knees, neck, shoulders and ankles to start.
These spots are rarely attended to and that’s a bonus for you.
If you want super sensation this is exactly what you need to do.
Tip Nine – How About Testing Out The No-Move Move
This is all about starting your pre-sex foreplay and then instructing her that you aren’t going to move on until she tells you exactly what to do next. This is mentally and physically stimulating. An incredibly persuasive route to get her to open up to you honestly and tell you exactly what turns her on.
You will totally score with this one because the balls in her court.
Tip Ten – You Will Never Ever In A Zillion Years Fail With A Sensual Massage
What you need to do here is make it interesting and you’ve got to keep it interesting.
*How about a warm towel in cold weather?
*Lick seasoned salt off her tummy
*Candle wax does wonders
Your imagination should take over here. Be sure to explore and experiment. Guaranteed you’re going to turn her on…Just saying.
Tip Eleven – Get Crazy Clean
Time to talk about bath sex. Start with the bubbles and bath gel and move forward from there. All I’m going to say is there’s nothing sexier then a sensuous hot bubble bath where your partner lathers you down head to toe and then some.
I’m going to leave that with you…
Tip Twelve – Let Her Tie You Up
When you put her in the control role, she will often let her guard down and open up to you in more ways than you can imagine. Sure she’s focusing on you but she’s also feeling sexy confident and this will show face her desire and what she is willing to do.
Silly but true in my books.
Tip Thirteen – Wrap Her Up
This isn’t about hardcore bondage but you can bridge the gap to turn her on without freaking her out in the bedroom. Try wrapping her up in a blanket but leave most of her body exposed and kiss every inch of her tenderly.
This one’s easy and a sexy turn on.
Tip Fourteen – No Peaking!
FACT – Most women are insecure about their bodies for one reason or another. When you blindfold yourself you encourage your partner to let go of insecurities because they know you can’t actually “see” them.
A little bit of a mind game but it really does work. Try it!
Tip Fifteen – Play The Public Card
Now don’t get yourself into trouble here but you can play into exhibitionism safely. Women like the thought of someone watching or the chance of getting caught in the act. Just make sure you don’t.
Maybe you want to go by the window with some clothes on so it’s easy to duck down if you need to.
The public washroom with the door locked works too.
Tap into your imagination with this one if you want to turn your girl on.
Tip Sixteen – Get Heated With The Washer
What can I say, the washing machine is one very big vibrator. Sit on top of the spin cycle and have her sit on top of you. The vibrations will filtrate through the both of you and that’s going to get things heated up fast.
Tip Seventeen – Take It Away From The Bedroom
The bedroom can get mundane fast. If you want to spice it up, take your sex drive to other areas of the house. Try it in the shower from behind, on the kitchen table and why not in the easy chair?
It doesn’t take much to recharge her drive and turn her on with a little ingenuity.
Tip Eighteen – Find Her Angles
The more time you invest into finding her sweet spots, the faster you’ll be able to get your girl all warmed up. Evidence shows women get stimulated quicker when you work the angles.
Take your time. Make it an adventure.
Tip Nineteen – Seduce With Words Only
Feed her sincere compliments. Tell her you like her soft hair, sexy dress, shoes etc. Also, you can compliment her talents, or anything else you like about her. Everyone likes a compliment now and again if it’s sincere right?
Compliments won’t get her turned on instantly but they will make her feel good about herself and that will get the door open, and after that you can start flirting with her by using words that are sexual.
Use words like “hard” and “wet” in sentences since they could be taken sexually. Plant the seed in her brain so she could start thinking about sex. Just don’t come on too strong, rather make it fun and playful. The more she thinks about sex, the more turned on she’ll get.
Tip Twenty – Send Her Sexy Text Messages
Start sending her sexual text messages during the day to turn her on and make her start thinking about you. Use sexual innuendos when texting her.
These are words or phrases that make her think about sex. Use words like 7 inches, hard, wet, screw, balls, firm, rack, buns etc.
Example of an innuendo:
You: “Are you coming?”
Her: “No but I am breathing fast.”
Using innuendos is a great way to start building a sexual tension but to really turn a girl on, you need more than funny jokes.
When you want to completely turn a girl on through texting, you need to start out by telling her exactly how she makes you feel and what you would like to do with her. This will show her that you are confident and you are not afraid to express your desires. In return, she may even tell you her own sexual desires and fantasies.
If you have just met the girl, don’t start sending her sexual text messages right away. You may creep her out.
Next Up…There’s a flip side to every coin so we’d better look into how to turn a girl off!
What NOT To Do If You Want To Turn A Women On
Yes, it’s important to know how to turn women on but it’s also important to know what turns women off. That way you can make sure you hit the nail on the head every time.
Ask Men studies show there of a few key features you want to steer clear of if you want to master the art of turning women on.
There are a few obvious actions that are going to turn women or anyone off, like burping and farting or perhaps gnawing on your nails. But we’re going to go a little deeper here and uncover a few proven things that will switch a woman’s hot button off pronto.
What Turns Women Off
Item One – Cheapskate
This doesn’t mean you’ve got to shower her with diamonds and exotic vacations. What it does mean is that if you are going to nickel and dime, dine only where you have coupons, and prompt her to order the cheapest item on the menu, you’re going to send her running fast.
Being cheap is NOT a way to impress your date and it’s certainly not going to get her juices flowing. Sure you need to be reasonable because times are tough, but please leave cheap out of the equation.
Item Two – The Porn Star Card
Seriously guys…What you want on your own time most likely isn’t reality. So when you are watching adult videos, you need to understand that’s not reality and you sure as heck better not expect that from your girl.
Sure, there are women out there that might want to pour hot wax all over you and whip you till you’re all cut up and bruised. But I’m pretty sure pain is NOT pleasure for your partner. Normal hot sex is perfect.
Let’s just leave it at that pretty please.
Item Three – Living In Mom’s Basement
We have to draw the line somewhere right?
If you are out of high school and still living in your mom’s basement, you are poll position for turning a girl off.
What does this mean?
That you likely have no money and are too lazy to take the bull by the horns and become financially independent – AKA – You are lazy!
I went with a guy in my younger years that asked his mom before he made any decisions. It was pretty annoying. He was in his late 20s and she still made sure his bills where paid and he got to work on time.
Bottom line – Your mommy shouldn’t be shopping for you after the age of 18…just saying…that’s a total turn off.
Item Four – Basic Manners
If you don’t know your “please” and “thank-you” and you’re not willing to help an old lady with the door, you’re going to turn cold any girl within visual distance of you.
Don’t complain, don’t tip cheap and definitely don’t get crazy with bartenders or your waitress. The message you are sending with that is the girl you are with should run far and fast – Period.
Item Five – Brag-Head
Talking about yourself is a TOTAL turnoff according to relationship specialists from Psychology Today. What this says is it’s all about me-me-me-Yikes.
When you set yourself at the door and engage in neutral conversation or talk about your gal, you’ve got a chance to turn her on.
Talking about yourself will turn her ice cold fast.
Item Six – Artificial Sucks Hind Teat
No doubt there’s not a woman on earth that doesn’t love a sincere compliment. However, if you are dishing them out front left and center, you’re going to turn her off.
Be real. Good or bad doesn’t really matter. When a girl sees you are sincere in what you say, she’s not going to shut her door.
Try and be fake for whatever reason and you’ll get nothing. Stick that in your pipe and smoke it.
Item Seven – Pouring It On Way Too Soon
Sorry to say the times of distance are long gone. Taking it slow these days does not work. However, you also can’t pour it on in overdose mode. Point being, there’s no need to discuss children and house payments on your first date.
In the least, leave that till the second or third date.
You WILL turn her off if you stress her out with too much expectation too soon…just saying.
Item Eight – Nailing Your Ex
Holy dumb move! If you are taking crap about your ex, you are setting the stage for a total turnoff before it happens. Are you a nutcase?
Here’s the cold hard truth whether you like it or not.
When you are talking trash about your ex, that says either you aren’t over her or you are just an un-classy guy. I know that’s really not a word but we are going to make an exception here.
Listen to your grandma. If you don’t have anything nice to say. Shut your mouth because it’s not going to turn your girl on.
Item Nine – Crap-Head Table Manners
Seriously, stop licking the plate! Are you kidding me? This is all about table manners 101 and if you don’t have them, you better learn quick. The fastest route to turn a girl off is to have zippo table manners, bottom line.
The choice is yours dude. Learn a little table manner etiquette or turn your girl off – Eek.
Item Ten – Swear Mouth
So swearing can sometimes be totally sexy, I’m not going to deny. However, according to Women’s Day, if you are throwing the “s” or “f” bomb every other word, you are highly likely to turn a girl off.
Swearing is NOT attractive.
The odd swear word is okay but if you want to divide and multiply with them, you are in deep trouble.
Try to tone it down and you have a chance of turning your girl on.
Key Body Language To Turn A Woman On…
Body language is as good as gold here. Straight up – Body language says oodles about whether you are into a girl or your aren’t. It tells you whether you are interested in them, how much confidence you have in you and how “hot” you seriously are for them.
Here are three straight up ways you are thinking about her in a sexual way:
Moves Your Hands Suggestively
If you pull your hands out of your pockets when you’re talking with her, you are headed in the correct direction.
It’s all about suggestively stroking her or caressing her that will get you the brownie points you need to move forward.
Don’t be afraid To manoeuvre your hands in a suggestive manner.
This isn’t about just placing your hands on her abdomen. It’s all about moving your hands around to push it all to the next level and beyond. Don’t rush through it. Make sure you don’t let your nerves get in the way.
Using Your Eyes – VIP
No doubt, tapping into your eyes is important. Essentially, it shows you’ve got an interest in her. So if you are feeling an intimate desire, she WILL see it in your eyes, according to the experts at Women’s Day.
Myths About How To Turn A Girl On
According to Women’s Health, women are naturally wired for a monogamous relationship. Where men are programmed for casual sex, just think procreation, according to evolution.
Research shows men normally want more sex and women less. However, new studies are suggesting this might not be the total truth. Society has changed, progressed and it’s not like it was hundreds of years ago when it was the woman’s only role to take care of the children and household.
Here are a few myths we need to debunk when it comes to how to turn a girl on:
Myth One – It’s easier for women to be monogamous than men.
We’ve been told guys are wired to spread their seed and women are supposed to settle with a guy that can and will support. Evidence suggests now that staying monogamous might actually be more difficult for women today than men.
Who would have thought?
Myth Two – Emotion is everything for women when it comes to sex.
This is another myth we’ve been taught to believe. Studies show when you take away the social stigma attached to casual intercourse and remove the dangers of it, women were just as likely as men to leave the emotion at the door for pleasure.
Myth Three – Men trigger sex more often than women.
This one might not be as true as one would think. Sexperts report that research with monkeys and rodents show the females are more aggressive than the males when it comes to sex.
What this suggests is that it may be our culture that has created this myth and that intuitively the opposite is true.
Myth Four – It’s only the hormonal flow that fuels her desire.
Again this one isn’t true. Yes, hormones to affect libido or sex drive but there are all sorts of other internal and external factors that play a role. When it comes down to it the chemicals in your brain, the serotonin and dopamine, actually drive desire.
Something to think about.
The more information you have, the better when it comes to solving the puzzle of turning a girl on.
Bottom Line – There’s no right or wrong way. It’s a combination of using what you already know, gathering new information, knowing what not to do and being willing to go through the trial and error process, that’s going to fine tune your turn on skills.
Now it’s time for you to take action and nail her, so to speak.