It’s not easy trying to figure out if a girl that you are head over heels for is truly interested in you or not.
Is she playing hard to get?
Or does she really not give a damn about you?
Let’s start with a few pointers that indicate a girl is interested in you to figure this loaded question out.
Top Notch Indicators A Girl Wants To Get To Know You Better
Indicator #1 – She enjoys talking with you
If a girl is excited or eager to talk with you, that’s a pretty clear-cut signal she wants to get to know you better. You should be able to tell from the look in her eye whether or not she’s genuine.
Indicator #2 – She shy’s away from your gaze
This is a little more difficult to pinpoint but if a girl looks bashful when you catch her eye, she’s probably into you.
Indicator #3 – Laughing
If a woman laughs at whatever you say, she really does want to get to know you better. If she’s giggling that’s awesome, belly laughing is amazing.
Indicator #4 – Licking lips says wonders
Okay…she might have dry lips but chances are if she’s licking her lips, she is not licking them because they are dry. This could be a signal to you that she would love to get to know you better…just saying.
Indicator #5 – She makes sure you know that she notices you
Usually, when a girl goes to the trouble to make certain that she notices you, she’s communicating to you that she wants to get to know you much better. Not always but most of the time this will ring true.
Indicator #6 – Flirting with other chicks doesn’t sit well with her
I don’t think anyone likes the person they have eyes for flirting with anyone else. Understand, there are different ways a girl might handle this. She might just not bother with you and slink away.
Or she might tell you straight up she doesn’t like you talking with other girls.
Either way, this is a smack in the face that she likes you.
Indicator #7 – She turns on the ginormous smile
This one is a biggie. If a girl is giving you her genuine smile, you know, that “cute” one? Then she is shouting out to you that she is drawn to you and wants to get to know you better.
If you skip past this one, you don’t deserve her, just saying.
Indicator #8 – She decides to reach out and touch you
If a girl decides to reach over and touch you, she is totally into you. Whether she just brushes your shirt or puts her hand on your shoulder, you have hit the jackpot.
Indicator #9 – It’s bear hug time
If the girl you are interested in wraps you in a full fledged bear hug, well you are the winner for sure. What this is saying is she’s just trying to get close to you and that’s magical if you ask me.
Indicator #10 – She’s twirling her hair
If a girl is twirling her hair, that’s saying wonders. It means she’s unconsciously showing you she likes you. It’s a girl thing so just accept it.
Indicator #11 – She turns pink around you
If a girl is getting bashful around you, feeling a little self-conscious and maybe embarrassed, then she’s totally into you. Why else would she react like that?
Indicator #12 – She is trying to get you to notice her body
Is she sitting in a way that indicates she is trying to get you to notice her? Is she confident in her skin and showing you that? If she is, this is an in your face indication that she totally wants your undivided attention.
Indicator #13 – She always seems to be bumping into you
Sure, there are just coincidental times when you might run into a girl but on the flip side, there are obvious times she wants to “bump” into you. Take this as a signal loud and clear that she would like to get to know you better.
Indicator #14 – She will tell you straight up when you are looking hot
If this girl notices when you’ve put a little extra effort into looking good, then you are just about to score. This means she is paying attention to you and wants you to know she likes what she sees – Period.
Indicator #15 – She isn’t stiff around you, she’s relaxed
If a girl is stiff around you, she is either nervous or really doesn’t want to be anywhere near you. If her arms are crossed that means she either has a beef to pick with you or she isn’t interested in you at all.
Be smart here and pay attention.
Indicator #16 – She is always indicating that she is footloose and fancy-free
If a cute girl is telling you that she is single and asking what your status is, that’s a totally clear-cut sign she would like to get to know you better.
If you pass by this, you really don’t want a relationship in any shape or form.
Indicator #17 – She has no problem dropping a call with her BF to chat with you
If this is the case, you have won the jackpot. This is an excellent sign you are getting the pole position in her life and you are best to be open and honest and make the best of it.
Indicator #18 – She’s an open book with you
If a girl is willing to spill her guts to you, heart and soul, that’s a pretty straight up signal she wants to at least get to know you better. When a girl trusts you enough to tell you her problems, you are holding the cards.
Just make sure you are sincere with your intentions, open and honest and you will be smiling when all is said and done.
Indicator #19 – She loves hanging out with you
If this girl you have your eye on, is quick and excited to accept any invitation to spend time together, then she likes you too. If she goes so far as to suggest plans, it’s a done deal!
Indicator #20 – Her phone gets muted when she’s with you
We live in an electronic world where our gadgets seem to rule. Even when we hang out with people, all eyes are on the cells. Not healthy for sure but it is reality.
If she puts her phone away when she’s with you, then you’re on the right track. Talk about a huge sacrifice!
Indicator #21 – She follows your social media accounts
I’m not talking “stalker” follows but rather just giving you enough likes or comments to let you know she’s there. If she is selectively active on your accounts on a regular basis, that’s an excellent indicator she is interested in you.
Indicator #22 – She subtly mentions doing things with you in the future
Maybe there’s a great concert coming up, a community event, or a hot new movie. If she is talking about the things she would like to do in the future and making you feel included or at least not left out in the cold, that’s a great signal.
Why would she be suggesting things in the future if she wasn’t hoping it would be with you?
Indicator #23 – The regular texts are in action
Texting is the norm today. It’s how we communicate with the people we want to converse with. If this girl is texting you on a routine basis, that’s a good sign she likes you.
If she is initiating these texts even better. And if she is texting you at night before she goes to bed and first thing in the morning, you’ve got it made.
Indicator #24 – Her interests seem to be unfolding from your interests
When a girl likes a guy, she puts an effort to figure out what he likes and then try and follow suit. This just means she might try things she normally wouldn’t do because she knows you enjoy it.
Maybe she is listening to the type of music you like or staying after school to watch basketball because she knows you like it. Pay attention and it shouldn’t be hard to figure out whether or not the girl you like is taking action to like what you like, to a degree of course.
Indicator #25 – Her social circle is giving you clues that she is interested in you
When a girl is telling her girlfriends that she likes you, there’s no doubt they are going to make sure you know this. But only if they approve of you, so be careful.
When you suddenly have her friends coming up to talk with you or join you at lunch to see what you are up to, chances are the girl you are showing an interest in, is feeling the same thing.
Indicator #26 – She is subtly reaching out to talk to you
When a girl hangs out after everyone has left or conveniently waits till you get out of the locker room, even if it’s going to make her late for class, that’s a pretty clear sign she likes you back.
Pay attention to the body language, change in habits and the subtle stuff and you should be able to put the puzzle together as to whether or not a girl likes you.
Proven Pointers To Tell If A Girl Is Playing Hard To Get
There are all sorts of different reasons as to why a gal might be playing hard to get.
Maybe she’s testing your level of commitment?
She might not believe you really want to date her?
The list goes on.
Sometimes a girl will make excuses every time you want to get together. Or suddenly she takes an ultra long time to get back to you.
Not fair but true.
Here are a couple take action pointers to figure out whether or not this girl is gun shy or truly playing the cat and mouse hard to get game.
You decide to go for it and ask her out and she flat out replies no
This will do one of two things. It will send you running with your tail between your legs far and fast. Or it will encourage you to step up your game and pursue her a little more aggressively, according to Wikihow experts.
Perhaps one day she says she is free and the next she is busy. She may also deny you but tell you there’s this really good movie she’s been dying to see. Finally, she might not actually commit to you taking her out but leave you hanging by telling you maybe one day.
Newsflash – No matter how head over heels you are into this girl, if she flat out rejects you that’s your alarm bell to walk away.
On the flip side, perhaps you just need to learn to give her some space and back off with the persistent asking out deal. When you come across as desperate, you are guaranteed to be turning her off.
Give her a dingle and count the minutes until she replies
No doubt if she isn’t replying to your e-mails, texts or calls fairly quickly, she’s playing hard to get. Even when she does finally get around to answering your call, she will likely have an excuses, like she was crazy busy or just missed your call.
What she is saying is she doesn’t need you and most certainly she doesn’t depend on you to live her life.
This is sometimes a good thing and other times no so much.
*You should recognize whether or not her lack of response is orchestrated or not. If she is taking days to respond to your texts and makes up retarded excuses, then she is obviously just not interested. So you should stop wasting your time on her.
*Again, there are two sides to every coin. Some girls seem to think they should delay their response time in order to drum up more interest. Crazy but so very true.
You are going to have to connect the dots on this one.
Be ultra careful if she pulls out the competition card
To me, this one is a little lame but girls do it none-the-less. If a girl decides to play hard to get, she wants to make sure you know she is in high demand. Whether this is true or not, is a whole different ballgame.
She wants you to know, she has options.
*Perhaps she will bring along a drop dead gorgeous guy to a party, she knows you will be at.
*She might start talking about all the guys that try to pick her up on a daily basis.
*But if she tells you about the men she is seeing when she is with you, then of course she doesn’t want to hook up with you.
Pay attention to the physical act of flirting
If a girl is flirting with you and playing hard to get, she is definitely still interested in you. You should be able to pick up the signs loud and clear.
Pay attention to her body and what it tells you. Here are a few simple suggestions that she is indeed trying to flirt with you.
*She can’t seem to keep her hands off you. Perhaps, she will rest her head on your shoulder or brush your arm with hers. Doesn’t really matter. If she is reaching out to touch you in any shape or manner, she is flirting with you and that’s a fabulous sign.
*She wants you to notice her body. Perhaps she keeps crossing her legs of biting her lip. These are subtle but obvious signals she wants you to pay attention to her body.
*She’s flashing you her pearly whites. This is where she might give you the shy look and flash you a quick smile.
*You get the bear hugs. If this girl likes to hug and she’s hugging you left, right and center, then it’s safe to say she is flirting with you and wants your undivided attention.
Make sure you focus on “how” she is talking to you
If a girl is interesting in you, she will show you first with the way she is addressing you. This means you need to learn how to read between the lines pronto. She might just be saying hi. But it’s the way she is saying it that matters.
Translation – Listen to her voice and pay attention to her body.
*She might laugh at your really bad jokes. Maybe you have only one or two jokes you pull out time and again. Regardless, she is going to laugh at them just because she wants to signal to you she is interested.
Think about it for a second. If she wasn’t interested, why would she give you the time of day?
*The compliments just seem to keep on coming. If a girl is complimenting you, that means she likes you. She is trying to flirt with you because if she didn’t like you, she either wouldn’t pay attention at all or she would straight up insult you.
End of story.
Observe how she acts around you and the other way around
A girl just might act totally different when she’s with you. She could get extremely quiet and nervous or crazy flirty, a “weird” change in behavior often means she has some sort of feelings for you.
Otherwise, why would she even bother?
*When you a see a girl with her friends, you can normally see her usual behavior and mannerisms. When she sees you, she might suddenly get quiet and shy, or just be very happy to see you.
*Take a minute to see how her friends act around you. If, for instance, they are giggling and whispering, she’s likely got you priority one with their conversations. That’s a sweet deal for you.
*Be wary because a change in behavior does not guarantee she is stuck on you. Perhaps she is seriously not interested or just playing the hard to get card.
Take action to play hard to get also
If you are still not certain whether or not she is genuinely interested in you or just playing the hard to get card, you need to throw the ball back in her court.
When you know she is playing hard to get, this is a great move to lay your cards on the table.
*Flirt with her a little but make sure you keep things fun and inviting, keep her guessing.
*Be elusive and mysterious. Let her know you are curious about her but make sure you still keep your distance.
*Understand that even though some girls may be playing hard to get, they might not like it in return. If you really want her, you better play by her rules, just saying.
Step back and make sure you give her space
Bottom line is you need to let her figure out whether or not she is into you. If you force it on her or pressure her too much, you will be the loser.
*When she says no, it really means no.
*Please don’t stalk her friends and social media to capture her attention.
*Don’t keep asking her out or even asking for her attention, if she’s not openly willing to give it to you.
When a girl is playing hard to get, it’s truly hard to figure out whether or not she really does like you or she’s just playing around.
Use these tips, tricks and proven strategies to help you bridge the gap and figure out once and for all whether or not this girl is worth your time.
Newsflash – Relationships are a two way street. If she’s not showing you she wants to be with you, no matter how much you like her, you need to walk away.