When it comes to getting women, a huge portion of whether you succeed or not depends on who you see in the mirror. Do you see someone cool or do you see someone geeky? Do you see someone with confidence or someone who always strikes out?
I just read an article about Stephen Merchant, who says that he is too geeky to attract women. [source] Seriously?
This is the writer behind the office! The guy who helped make a hit show. He has written, produced and directed shows. He has even acted in shows such as “Tooth Fairy” and “Hall Pass”.
My point is that you can earn a million dollars; you can become famous; you can make millions of people laugh, but if you look in the mirror and see a loser or a geek who is not capable of attracting women, then you will NOT be able to attract women. It’s just that simple.
You Are Creating The Man That You Are
Here’s the thing, you are always telling yourself one thing or another. You may tell yourself that you are fat one day and then tell yourself that you don’t look that bad the next day.
The problem is that when you tell yourself something too much (I suck with women or I am too geeky to get women) then those affirmations becomes a belief.
Once you start to believe something, your actions follow through with your beliefs.
For example, if you believe you suck with women, then when you approach women you are probably going to do something that sucks. Call it law of attraction or call it ‘I knew it was going to work out that way!’ Whatever you call it, know this: until you change the way you talk to yourself and, therefore, your beliefs, you are not going to be able to attract and get women the way that you want to.
Look In The Mirror And Say Something Different
The only way to change your beliefs is to change your thoughts, and the only way to change your thoughts is to talk to yourself differently.
You don’t need to tell yourself that you are Channing Tatum, because you are not him. Don’t compare yourself to other guys or try to be someone you are not. Instead, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a man with a lot to give a woman. You have skills, abilities, and awesome traits that make you a catch, and you should be confident when you approach a woman.
The more you tell yourself that YOU are great, the more you will believe it. Trust me, I know! I’ve done it. I was a regular teenager with low self-esteem, and after high school, I quickly changed the way I talked about myself and started to view myself as a catch for men. And guess what, a lot of men thought that I was a catch too!
That’s the beautiful part. When you think you are a catch, other people will too. They will read your body language, listen to your words, and decide that you are a man that they want to get to know better.
So, go look in the mirror and be honest with yourself about who you see, and then start changing the way you talk to yourself to boost your confidence and make you feel good about yourself.
