I see so many people (not just men) living a real shitty existence. I know this is a blog for men about attracting women, successfully dating women, and pleasing women, so talking about how shitty we are may not seem like it is related to those topics – but it is.
Shitty: Despicable, unpleasant, miserable, detestable, and all around egotistical.
The shitier you are as a human being, the less likely you are to attract a woman that will make you happy, hold her interest until she commits, and please her from now until you separate.
Shittiness stems from unawareness. When you are not aware of what your actions and reactions do to other people and the world around you, you do shitty things. You become egotistical, and you don’t take into account other people’s feelings, needs, or – well, anything really. You just go about your life doing what pleases you, regardless of how it affects others.
What A Shitty Existence Looks Like
Eventually Your Shitty Existence Will Catch Up To You
Here’s the thing: You may get away with being shitty for a while, but one day it is going to catch up to you, and your happiness is going to be squashed.
- You may end up lonely.
- You may end up dying from something related to your shittiness.
- You may end up going through divorce after divorce and having 20 kids to support.
- You may end up waking up one day regretting the past ten, twenty, or fifty years.
- You may end up contributing to the destruction of the world in your lifetime.
It could be extreme or not-so-extreme, but it will affect your life negatively in some way. And when that happens, you will probably look back and wish you had been less shitty and more compassionate.
How Can You Stop Being Shitty?
It’s time we all open our eyes and start being compassionate. This is the only way to stop living a shitty existence. Bottom line.
I really believe compassion, both self-compassion and compassion for others, is the best way to make our lives happier, as well as the lives of the people around us.
Compassion can get you the attention of a loving, compassionate woman (the type of woman who will support you and, I believe, make you the happiest you can be.)
Compassion can help you treat a woman right (and, consequently cause her to treat you right.)
Self-compassion can help you work through issues in a more positive way and have a happier life, no matter what happens.
Compassion can help you create a world for your kids (if you plan on having them…if you don’t, your nieces, nephews, or friend’s kids) that is safe and secure for a long time to come.
Compassion can help you die with no regrets. You will leave a life behind full of happiness for yourself and everything that came into your contact.
My point? It’s easy to live a shitty existence and it’s harder to be aware of how our actions affect ourselves and others. But, if you don’t want a shitty end, you have to stop being shitty now.