What Should You Do If Your Ex-Girlfriend Wants You Back? This is a tough call because most couples part ways for good reason. To help you with this tough question, we are going to have a look at expert signals your ex wants you back, signs your ex doesn’t ever want you back, and take action steps for how you should proceed.
Relationships are never black and white, they’re grey all over. Which means, you are going to have to pay attention to the clues in front of you so you can figure your puzzle out.
Signs Your Ex Really Wants You Back
Truth be told, dealing with a breakup is hard enough as it is. But getting mixed feelings for your ex just makes it harder.
Talk about ginormous complications!
When you go through a breakup, you really don’t know where you are headed.
*You could wind up friends.
*You might get back together later.
*Maybe you’ll both just avoid each other all together.
Let’s look at a few key telltale signs your ex truly does want you back. Just remember to keep both eyes open please.
Sitting on the fence
If your ex is still thinking about you and wants you back, they aren’t liking to jump back into the dating world anytime soon. In fact, they will likely stay far away from dating anyone at least for a while after you go your separate ways.
They might not admit this and will likely tell friends they just don’t want to “hurt” you. That alone is a signal to you loud and clear, they still have feelings for you. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t care.
Telltale missing signals
Is your ex sharing her sadness with the rest of the world? Does their social media profile scream they are missing you?
If your ex is still playing your favorite song, eating the same foods you used to share together, or showing up at your local hangout, she definitely wants you back.
Those weird text or call moments
One of the key signals of an ex wanting you back is just calling you or trying to connect with you as a “friend,” for no real reason. When your girl wants you back, she will make up every excuse in the book to call you more than a friend would.
It’s kinda sad when you think about it, unless of course you are feeling the same thing. That’s just a whole new can of worms you need to figure out.
Never ice-cold, just warm
If your ex girlfriend still wants you, she will be open and inviting with you even after the breakup. Perhaps you will never remember her being so nice?
You seriously should be able to pick up on this one. Because if a girl is totally done with you and never ever in a zillion years wants to see you again, she’ll either never contact you or she will be totally nasty.
Touchy just a little too long
If you are actually in physical contact with your ex and when you hug her, she holds you just a little too long, that’s a sign she still wants to be with you.
If she touches your arm for that extra second, you need to understand she still has feelings for you.
Think about this for a second. If she didn’t like you, she definitely wouldn’t be anywhere near you and she most certainly wouldn’t be holding the gaze too long or hugging you that extra three seconds.
Talk about feeling overload
When an ex-girlfriend really isn’t ready to move on, she is going to try and talk with you about her feelings. So if she is constantly ringing you and discussing how you both went wrong, or how it’s too bad you didn’t communicate better, she wants you back.
Here come the memories-magical
If your ex talks about your special moments as a couple; like your anniversary or first trip, then she’s definitely still got you on her radar. If she is hanging onto all those memories, then she hasn’t found a way to truly let you go. She just wants to find a way for you to love her again.
That’s up to you of course.
The investigation is in full force
When an ex wants you back, they suddenly seem to know everything about you even though you’ve said fairly little to them.
Newsflash – When an ex wants you back, she is going to take a vested interest in making sure she knows as much about your life as she can. Yes, that’s a little creepy if you aren’t feeling the same thing.
Loose ends trying to be tied
Has your ex given you a call and talked about all the mistakes they made and how it all could have been so different if they just made different choices?
If your ex girl is talking about how she’s changed and making better decisions now. Saying she realizes she made mistakes and wants to fix things, then she wants you back.
She’s totally missing you
The ultimate serious sign a girl wants you back is that she is indicating straight up she misses you inside out. If she’s yammering on about all the stuff she misses with you, then she wants you back.
All good talk
If your ex girlfriend misses you and wants to communicate with you in any way, shape or form, even after the breakup, she still wants you on some level. She’s likely also taking to her friends about you and how much she wants you back.
She’s always there no matter what
If your ex is always available to be there for you not matter what, that’s got to be a clear-cut signal she wants you back.
If she is around to drive you places or pick things up for you, always willing to make your life easier, that’s a pretty safe sign to say she wants you back.
The rage will burst whenever
It’s actually pretty funny to watch but when you aren’t in love anymore, you will notice how your ex reacts to certain things. You see, if someone doesn’t care, they just won’t react.
So if they see, you are flirting with another girl and totally go into a rage, they still want you. If they didn’t want to be with you. they wouldn’t react at all. Think about it.
Coincidences out of the ordinary
If you happen to be running into your ex on occasion, that’s normal. However, if you are running into her more than normal, it’s likely planned and she is still missing you.
This is a strong signal your ex is trying to get back into your life – Period.
She’s wasted calling you
Sure, calling someone when you are drunk as a prank is funny. However, if you are hurting because you lost your love, it’s totally not.
Drinking booze is just liquid courage and that means you are going to spill your guts a little more than you likely should.
Sometimes it’s good to be straight up and the liquor will help you. Other times, it really isn’t so good because it gets way out of context fast.
Bottom line…If your ex is drunk calling or texting you, then she is still into you…just saying.
The stare game
Ask yourself if your ex ever stares at you and just doesn’t stop. Weirdly creepy if you ask me.
Think about this for a minute.
If your ex-girlfriend is staring at you with water in her eyes and sadness, she’s definitely looking for you to pay attention to her.
It’s hard and scary to move on and if your ex is showing you with emotion, it’s too hard for her, that’s your sign she wants you back.
Whether you agree or not is a whole different ballgame.
Signs Your Ex Doesn’t Want You Back
Here are a few pointers telling you straight up your ex does not want you back, according to.
He’s got a brand new number
If your ex just happens to suddenly change her number, then she is seriously over you. This likely means she wants nothing to do with you at all.
Give her a break please, no matter how much it hurts, she it trying to make a new start.
There are couples that try to stay connected after breaking up and there are others that call it total quits. If you feel your ex has totally disappeared from your radar, that’s likely because she is ready to move on and wants nothing to do with you.
If she has drawn her lines and makes it clear there will be no communication between the two of you, then you are done – Period. The sooner you accept this the better for you.
Wants things back with dignity
You could see her and wonder if she really does want you back. When she is unsure, that’s a sign she wants you back. You have to decide to go backwards and try to work things out or to move on to bigger and better.
Flirting is no more
Truth be told, couples that have recently broken up still flirt. Not saying it’s right just saying it’s the truth.
Think of it like you would, it’s still a really weird moment we’ve broken up but we still are intimately connected.
Does that make sense?
If your ex is pulling back from this, that’s in-your-face signal she does not want you back.
Brand new wardrobe
When a gal goes to the extreme of getting a brand new wardrobe, which of course costs oodles of money, then she is totally over you.
Most girls find power in getting sexy in a new outfit when they are done with a man.
Just be wary of this please.
Busts his promise
Obviously when you are vested or connected with a man, you have lots of ties. If a girl actually bails on the things she has promised you after you have broken up, that signals she is totally done.
Doesn’t matter whether it’s intentional or not, if they start drawing the lines you need to move on pronto!
Normally when a couple breaks up, there still are things promised to each other. When a girl tosses those promises to the side and pretends they never existed, she is totally done with you.
Texting decreases dramatically
Texting is obviously the most convenient form of communicating today. If your ex-girl suddenly starts sending you less texts or no texts at all, that’s a pretty clear signal she doesn’t want you anywhere near her.
Crappy or no communication
This is a tough one to gauge but if your ex-girl is speaking with you but is cold in conversation, you need to be open to the conclusion this might be the end of your relationship.
If she is dodging your questions and suddenly being very vague and evasive, you are smart to assume she just wants to move on without you.
She is choosing her buddies over you
This is where actions speak louder than words. If she is constantly picking her friends over you, then you need to consider the fact she is likely done with you.
Sure, this can mean that she is trying desperately to gain friends first, but not likely.
Pulling the never ever home card
When she doesn’t want to be with you, she’s going to make certain she is totally not available.
Seriously, when an ex-girl starts spending time away from home, she is showing you she is doing her own thing. Your best bet is to respect this.
Big move is reality
If your girl makes a straight up move, she is telling you from the bottom of her heart she wants to move forward without you. If she wanted you to join her, she would ask you.
Think about it for a minute?
Pulling the friend card
This one really is so freaking lame.
How in the beep can you be just friends with the gal you never wanted to be without?
That’s crazy thinking!
If she is talking calmly with you and openly wants to stay friends while you both date other people, that’s clearly telling you she does not want you back…sorry.
Zilch in the email department
Chances are your ex-friend used to send you cute love emails, jokes, or just notes that helped to keep you connected when you weren’t side-by-side.
If they’ve stopped or are only trickling, she’s done with you on a romantic level.
Keep in mind, you need to follow your gut because there are always exceptions to the rules. Your ex may find it’s just too hurtful to keep in touch, or she’s decided it’s time to put you in her past.
This is for you to figure out.
Locked out of her social network
Often this is one of the first things a girl will do when there is a breakup. Makes sense because regardless of the circumstances, she’s hurting just like you. Nobody goes into a relationship expecting it to end.
If you were on those popular social media platforms; Facebook, Twitter, etc., and she has “unfriended” you or blocked you, then it’s over in her brain.
And if you blocked her back, you are showing her it truly is finished.
New doors have been opened
If your ex is suddenly jumping into new hobbies and activities far away from you, the message she is delivering to you that she is moving on and she doesn’t need you to do this.
If you are breaking up for real, one of the key steps is to break old habits the two of you shared and make new ones. This helps to pull you past the hurt and show you there really is light at the end of the tunnel.
Just be wary of this.
She’s pulling the “witch” card
Some girls just aren’t very good with breaking up and naturally get witchy-nasty. So if you happen to see her and she turns her head and skips over to the other side of the street, or she says something nasty to you when you are just trying to be civil, she’s done with you.
Newsflash – You don’t need her.
So What Should You Do If Your Ex-Girlfriend Wants You Back?
If you are out in the dating world, there are going to be at least couple of women that want you back.
What you need to figure out is whether or not it’s worth it for you.
Are you doing it for the right reasons?
Are you just bored?
Maybe you just can’t stand the thought of being alone?
You need to seriously consider these questions before you bite the bullet and jump back in.
VIP – If you don’t want your girl back, make sure you nip this one in the butt and make it crystal clear you are done.
Sorry but there is no perfect answer here. You need to reflect and ask yourself these key questions to figure out whether or not you want to give your relationship another chance or if it’s best to move on.
Tough Question One – Do you feel you will just have the same relationship again that will likely end up in another breakup or two?
Life is all about changing and if you haven’t consciously decided to make the effort to change for the better, and if she hasn’t either, how can you expect things to work out? You can’t.
The issues that caused your relationship to fail will not magically go away. You both have to take action and commit to change.
What’s the definition of insane? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Tough Question Two – When you look into your crystal ball can you see the two of you together forever?
Ask yourself if your ex is really “the one?” Don’t trek down the wrong path here of comfort, which is so flipping easy to do. If you are seriously considering being with this girl till death do you part, you better be content with her lifestyle, habits, beliefs and life goals.
If you aren’t then you are best to make sure you lock the door on her for all the right reasons.
Tough Question Three – Can you mentally move past the hurt?
Sometimes it’s a major event in the relationship that causes the breakup. Other times, it’s a pile of little issues that push and pull you until you fall apart.
If you can get past and accept the hurt then you might want to consider taking her back. If the hurt was too much for you, then you need to make sure she stays kicked to the curb.
So What If You Both Want To Get Back Together?
Well, studies show that exes are exes for a reason. Something was broken and it’s tough to go back in and fix it in most cases.
Generally speaking, when people break up and reunite, they are less happy the second or third time around.
Beware, it’s super easy to jump back into the comfortable arms of an ex-girlfriend. Most often, it’s for security and convenience and you wind up breaking up again because nothing got fixed.
Relationships are hard work and if your girlfriends wants you back, you need to do your homework to figure out whether or not it’s the best move for you.
Nobody wants to get hurt, nobody wants to be alone, and nobody wants to be a piece of convenience.
Be true to yourself and your feelings, and you will make the right decision for you.
Best of luck!