Do you compare yourself to other people? Do you look at other men, co-workers, or friends and focus on what you think they have that you don’t? If you do, this is a very important concept to understand for your future success with women and life in general.
Comparing Yourself Kills Your Confidence
When you talk about why you can’t get women or get into a really healthy relationship with women, do you talk about your personal and real issues, or do you just compare yourself to other men?
For instance, do you talk about how good looking other men are and that’s why they can get women? Do you put yourself down by comparing your looks to them and coming to the conclusion that you must be ugly or unattractive?
When you compare yourself to another man, you are sentencing your confidence to death. Why? It’s a 4-step process.
- When you compare, you find faults in yourself.
- When you find faults in yourself, you talk down to yourself.
- When you talk down to yourself, you start to believe what you are saying.
- When you believe what you are saying, you act the way you view yourself.
In short, when you think other men can get women because they are handsome, and in turn end up calling yourself NOT handsome, you start to believe that as a fact. Then you act like it. You dress down, you convince others that you are not handsome, your body language shrivels up like someone who has no confidence, and other people start to see you as you believe yourself to be.
It’s Not Just About Getting Women
Comparing yourself damages more than just your ability to get women.
You may compare yourself to your co-worker, friend, neighbor, or even girlfriend in the long run. Comparing yourself to anyone will affect your confidence and hinder your success in life.
The more you compare yourself to other people, the more you create and think about faults. When you start to think about how you are not enough, you start to feel as though you are not living up to some sort of expectations – and that causes you to act as though you are not enough.
Comparing yourself to others can affect your whole life negatively.
How To Not Compare Yourself To Anyone
The Bottom Line
It is human nature to look at other people and see their good and bad qualities. If you do see something in someone else that you admire and want, don’t focus on the fact that you are lacking; instead, work on getting that trait, skill or admirable quality into your life if you can.
And if you can’t, don’t focus on lack; instead, focus on what you do have in your life. Focus on your strengths. There is a lot that you have to offer women and everyone around you.
When you stop comparing yourself to others, and start focusing on building a better you, your confidence will increase and other people (as well as yourself) will see you as the awesome and unique person that you are.
