You just started dating, but an occasion where a gift is required is coming up quickly. Should you buy a gift for your new girlfriend? And, if so, what kind of gift should it be to make it the perfect gift?
The answer to the first question is YES! If you don’t give her a gift, you could end up hurting her feelings. A gift shows you care, and it will mean the world to your new girlfriend.
But, I understand that you don’t want to send the wrong message with your gift, so you need to make sure your gift says, “I like you and I’m happy we are together,” not, “I freaking love you and I want to marry you and have babies,” or “I don’t really care about you at all.”
Steps To Find The Perfect Gift For Your New Girlfriend
First and foremost, remember that price has nothing to do with a gift for a new girlfriend. You can spend a little or a lot, but in the end it really is the thought that counts. She wants to know that you care enough to put some thought into a gift, not that you can spend your money on something (which any guy can do without much thought.)
1. Listen To Her
You don’t know her that well yet, but if you listen to her, she will tell you everything you need to know about what she wants, needs, or desires. For example, she may talk about something that she has been wanting for a long time, but can’t bring herself to buy.
She may also talk about her favorite restaurant a lot (think gift card or date night), or her favorite perfume that she hasn’t been able to get lately, or even her favorite flowers that she never buys or receives. If you listen, she will mention not just one, but many things that she wants.
2. Think Of Things She Doesn’t Know She Needs
Often, the perfect gift will be something that benefits her life that she didn’t even know she needed. You can find this type of gift by listening to what she complains about.
For example, if she complains about how her computer bag is hard to carry, a new computer bag that is easy to carry may be a perfect gift. Or if her alarm clock is annoying her and making her grumpy in the morning because it is so loud, a new, soothing alarm clock that allows her to wake up with the loud beeping of regular alarm clocks.
The point is to think of something that will make her life easier or better. When you give her the perfect gift, she will be amazed that you listened to her so well and found something to make her life better.
3. What Does She Like About You?
If you have some gift ideas in mind now, but don’t have the cash to get them, this step will be for you. Write down all the things she says she likes about you. Does she like you to sing to her, rub her feet, give her hugs, or do that certain thing in the bedroom? Put all of the things she likes about you into a…dun, dun, DUN – coupon book.
A coupon book may sound cheesy, but it is the perfect gift for someone in a new relationship. New relationships are full of intimate and fun moments, and the receiver will use the coupon book instead of letting it sit beside their bed.
4. Think About Your Relationship
The last thing you should do is think about your relationship and some milestones in it. Even if it is a new relationship, there will still be a first kiss, first conversation, first date, and many other firsts. Use those moments to give her something meaningful.
For instance, buy her something from the first place you met or put together an photo album of ‘firsts’ for her. Take her out for the night to the restaurant you first ate at and recreate the night with her. Do something that means something to you and her and she will view it as the perfect gift.
Follow Your Instinct For The Perfect Gift
Now you should have a few ideas for a perfect gift. The only problem now will be choosing the best gift!
Don’t get stuck between ideas; instead, follow your instinct and pick the gift that you think she would like the most. Your gut will know which gift is right.
Whatever you choose, by following the above steps you will have made a choice that will benefit her life or mean something to her, and any gift that comes from that is the perfect gift for any woman.