I know many people who want to stay single now and forever. They have really good reasons for doing so. In fact, there are a ton of benefits of being single. For instance, being single allows you to pursue your own interests without having to consider someone else’s needs, wants, and desires.
But, I want to talk about a couple of reasons that being single sucks.
I’m not trying to persuade you either way. I’m just saying that being single isn’t always a carefree and happy life, and the route you choose depends on you.
Reasons Being Single Sucks
You may think that I’m going to say that dating is one of the reasons that being single sucks…and I probably would if everyone else didn’t say that! Yes, dating can suck. Rejection, spending money, and wasting time on women you don’t end up liking or wanting sucks. But there are other reasons that being single sucks that have nothing to do with dating.
1. Being Single Is Less Healthy
Want a heart attack? Want to be stressed out? Being single will give you those things.
Being single is one of the factors in poor health according to a report done in Harvard Men’s Health Watch. The findings are that marriage leads to better health. Even men who have cardiovascular risk factors already in place will benefit from marriage.
This doesn’t mean you have to get married in order to reap the benefits…marriage simply stands for long-term committed relationships.
[box type=”note”]Note: Unhappy relationships are not included in this stat. In fact, being unhappy in a relationship can cause major health issues. For health benefits, the key is to be in a HAPPY relationship. (Tweet This!)[/box]
2. Being Single Means Fending For Yourself When You Are Not Healthy
Trust me, there is nothing better than having someone at your side when you are sick. This is true in all cases.
I’m talking about when you get a cold or flu that sucks out all of your energy. It is always nice to have a loving person to take care of you during this time.
I am also talking about sickness that goes beyond the common cold. If you even find yourself in the hospital, having a partner could mean the difference between a good nurse or a bad nurse and recovery or no recovery.
I have worked in many hospitals, and I have had many family members stay in hospitals, and I am not afraid to
say that the majority of nurses (about 99%) suck. I have seen it over and over and over again. Nursing is supposed to be about caring for others, but it seems as though today’s nurses care about their bank account and that’s about it.
When you have a partner visiting you often, the nurses take note of that and give you better treatment knowing that they are not just dealing with you, but with your partner as well.
3. Your Work-Life Balance Can Go Out Of Wack
When you are single you either work too much or don’t work enough. When you are in a relationship, you tend to work enough to bring home money and contribute to the relationship, but you also avoid those late night or weekend hours because you would rather spend time with your woman. Therefore, your life finds a nice balance that is essential for happiness and good health in life.
Jim says
Being single is certainly not fun at all, especially when all your friends are settled down.
Bellaisa says
That’s a good point Jim. When your friends start to disappear from the single scene, it can be hard. I’ve been there and done that!
Jim says
Hi Bellaisa, i am still very much alone and single. It is very hard for many of us men to meet a good woman to settle down with, especially after a divorce. Many of us men are certainly not good at being alone, and i will admit that many women are very good at handling it since they’re the much stronger sex when it comes to being alone. i always thought that i was going to have a family. And now that i am almost 60 years old which my age is really against me now, does make it worse since time is really short for us. But i will never give up, and hope for the best.
Bellaisa says
Your choice of words shows how you feel – very much alone. You know, when you said that you always thought you were going to have a family, it reminded me of a book written by Louise Hay called ‘You Can Heal Your Heart‘. It may be something you will want to check out. It talks about how to deal with loss, including the loss of a life that we expected (i.e. happily married with kids). It may be worth the read to help you re-frame your situation. All the best Jim!
Dan says
Yep, being single does suck. But, what if a person just has bad luck with the opposite sex? If being in a happy relationship is good for my health, then how can I be in good health as a single person? Not everyone is going to be in a relationship now matter how hard we try. No what?
Bellaisa says
Stressing out about not being in a relationship is definitely going to take a toll on your health. More so than just being single would. Therefore, try to be single and happy until you find someone to commit to. You can be happy without a woman.
I truly believe that there is someone for everyone who wants someone. Therefore, if you do not want to be single for life, there is someone out there waiting for you.
Jim says
Hi Bellaisa, still single and alone. Years ago it was much easier meeting a good woman, even for me since i was a lot younger. I was married at one time which i mentioned with my last comment, she was the one that cheated. Now it is hard just to get a date since the women today are certainly very high maintenance and they’re looking for men with money, much different than years ago when many women had no choice but to accept a man for who he was when many men and women had to struggle to make ends meat. Many women today are very successful and independent, and will not settle for less since they don’t need a man to survive. That explains why our parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles had very long marriages back then since they accepted one another, and my aunt and uncle are starting their 67th year together. Makes me wish that if only i was born much sooner which i could had avoided this mess today, and most likely would have met the right woman and had a family myself. Thank you very much for your support.
Bellaisa says
Hey Jim. That’s a very good point. Women had to depend on men years ago. Many women settled into the marriage thinking it was what they had to do, and then had kids thinking that was what they had to do. Many men had to do the same. I know many older people who would rather have not been married and had kids, but had to conform simply out of convenience, and because it was what is expected out of them.
I don’t know about meeting Miss perfect in that time though. It’s funny, because I’ve talked to a lot of older people (I used to work in a nursing home), who hated their spouse. They stayed because they had to, but their life was unhappy because of it. I would hate to have so many regrets about living an unhappy life when it is too late to do anything about it.
That’s why I think it’s so important to be happy with or without someone in your life. Why be miserable? It’s just a waste of time. Everyone has a choice to feel good or feel shitty – so why not make the choice to feel good?
Personally, I’m glad to be living in this time. I got to choose who I wanted (and if I wanted anyone at all), plus I got to make the choice not to have kids. I have a feeling that I wouldn’t necessarily be here if my parents had the same choices.