I was driving the other day and I had a fit of road rage. It happens. But, as I was talking myself through it, I realized that the things I was saying to myself to calm down would be good advice for all you guys out there who are in a relationship, or all you guys who plan to be in a relationship at some point. So, what can you learn from those all-important road rage lessons?
Other People Have Their Own Way Of Doing Things
When I have road rage, it is usually because other people are not doing what I want them to. Come to think of it, everyone I have ever been with that has had road rage is mad because other people are not doing what they want them to do.
- Drive faster!
- Drive slower!
- Learn how to read a sign!
- Get out of the slow lane!
- Use you signal lights!
Granted, these can all be important to good driving, but at the same time you don’t have control over their driving skill or decisions while driving…no matter how much you scream and yell. All you are doing is making yourself suffer.
When you give up trying to change other people on the road, you relax and things instantly feel better with them.
The issue comes from judging someone else as doing something wrong. When you judge something to be negative, you instantly have negative feelings. When you let go of that judgement, and just allow them to be themselves as you take care of yourself, you release the anger and the tension subsides.
Relationship Lesson: This is a great lesson for any relationship. When you stop wanting your partner to drive a certain way or act a certain way or – in general, be someone who they are not, then you can stop being angry and release the anger and tension. Your relationship will instantly improve when you do this and things will go a lot smoother. This doesn’t mean that you have to let them be stupid, but it does mean that you don’t have to get mad about something, and cause stress on yourself, about something that is completely out of your control.
You Could Do Serious Damage To Innocent Bystanders
The need to do bad things (‘ride’ a bad drivers bumper) is high when you are experiencing road rage. You swear and curse and try to teach them a lesson. The problem is that by being angry at the driver, and in a fit of road rage, you can do serious damage to innocent people who are in the car with that driver or around you driving.
One recent instance involved a man who threw a bunch of cups and trash in a woman’s car, and in the process he hit her baby’s head with a water bottle that was p