Millions of guys are single right now. Okay, I don’t know the exact number – nobody could, but some statistics say that singles now outnumber people in marriages, averaging in at 124.6 million single Americans. source
I do know that many guys are sick of being single, but not really ready to get into a relationship yet because they are scared of being miserable. I see guys complaining about this every day on forums and social media.
William Haynes from YouTube explains what it is like perfectly in his video.
In the video he talks about why he is not ready for a relationship, which really boils down to not wanting to get into a relationship and fight all the time. He says he’s never been in love, but from the outside it seems that all couples do is fight.
Some Couples Do Fight A Lot!
He’s not far off for some couples. Many couples do fight a lot, and if they are fighting in public then there is a good chance that they fight even more behind closed doors.
My husband and I had friends who fought constantly while they were dating and while they were married. (They are divorced now!) Their fighting ranged from bickering all the way to physically wrestling. It was ridiculous, and I could see how a single guy would not want to get into a relationship when that is what he sees.
I often wonder how many people are really in a happy relationship. Is it split down the middle at 5 out of 10, or is it much, much less? Looking around, it seems to be less.
But You Don’t Have To Be In That Kind Of Relationship
I want to tell you that if you are like William, and you fear that being in a relationship will result in constantly arguing, then you need to know that it isn’t all bad. Laughter, comfort, satisfaction, and happiness are the main traits of a relationship that is healthy, and you can find a relationship like that.
Yes, there will be disagreements, because you are two different people that are not always going to agree. But, if you find a woman who is down-to-earth, doesn’t play games, and loves you for who you are, then the disagreements will be few and far between.
Laughter, comfort, satisfaction, and happiness are the main traits of a relationship that is healthy.
Too many single guys let the wrong woman in their life simply because they are sick of being single. They let a whiner, complainer, user, abuser, or game player into their life because they think that is the best they can do, or because they just don’t want to sleep alone anymore.
Don’t let that be you! The truth is that there are smart and funny women out there who want to get into a healthy and happy relationship with you, and waiting for the right woman will save you a lot of heartache in the months and years ahead.
Sick Of Being Single But Don’t Want A Crappy Relationship? Avoid This Type Of Woman
If you find a woman and she doesn’t believe that relationships take work, dump her. Run. Don’t look back.
A relationship is always moving – just like life. It is getting better or getting worse, but it is not staying the same because you and your circumstances are not staying the same.
That means that along the way, sometimes changes need to be made, compromises need to be found, and work needs to be done in order to maintain a level of happiness as you both change and grow through life.
Not understanding this is why so many people end up in crappy relationships. They start off really happy, then something changes for one or both of them, and all of a sudden the relationship dynamics are not the same anymore. But instead of adapting to this new relationship – conflict sets in.
A woman who understands that things change in life, and that your relationship may need to adapt in order avoid fighting constantly, is a woman who is worth keeping. So, make sure that you take a woman into your life who has these traits:
- Good communicator
- Honest
- Compassionate
- Non-judgmental
- Willingness to compromise
Find that woman, and you can stop being sick of being single but scared to get into a relationship at the same time.
There is no guarantee that you will live happily ever after, but there is a pretty damn good chance!
