There are many possible reasons why a guy might use a woman. He might use her for intimacy and not want to actually commit to her. Or maybe he is just after your money and he likes that you are generous. Maybe he just wants you to boost his ego but he won’t put in the time to actually get to know you. These are just a few reasons why a guy might use someone.
That being said, this does not mean that every guy out there is a user. But at the same time, it is good to know what the signs are so you can avoid further heartbreak in the future. Below are common signs a guy could be using you.
Sometimes it can be hard to see the signs. If that is the case for you, then think first about the way you feel in the relationship? Do you often feel bad about yourself? Do you feel like you do not do enough or do you always feel guilty for wanting something more? Is something making you uneasy about your relationship?
While it is not always the case, these feelings can sometimes indicate that you are being used in your relationship. Next you will read about actions that will show whether or not this guy is using you. This will help you to really figure out what is going on in your relationship.
Signs A Guy Is Using You
You have not been introduced to his family and friends
When you are in a healthy relationship, then it is normal to know your boyfriend’s family members and friends. Whoever else is in his life, you should know them too. This especially applies to the people who are very important to him.
If he has a close relationship with his parents for instance, but has yet to introduce you and you have been together for a while, then alarm bells should be going off for you.
Not introducing you to other people can mean a number of potential things. It could mean that he is embarrassed to introduce you or it could mean that he is not committed enough to the relationship. People often introduce their significant others to friends and family when they are getting more serious.
Another possibility is that these people have not yet been told about you. And if that is the case, then you will have to ask why. Yet another possibility is that your guy already has someone else that the family and friends already know. These are just a few reasons why he might not introduce you to the important people in his life.
Whatever his reason is, you deserve to be treated with respect, honesty, and dignity. If this red flag applies to you, then you will need to have an honest conversation with him about the issue and where the two of you will go from there.
He is selfish in bed
In any physical relationship, there should be a balance. Do you feel like you are always giving in to his needs but he never consider what you need?
If he is selfish in bed, then that should be telling you to take a step back. When he is not considering your needs, including those physical needs, then you are seeing a sign that you are not in a mature relationship.
Before you jump to any drastic conclusions, try to help him first. You can do this by dropping clues or by just bluntly telling him what it is that you need. If he is not even willing to try, but expects you to do everything that he wants, then he is absolutely using you to satisfy his own selfish needs.
He will not talk about committing to the relationship
The idea of commitment can be intimidating but it is a very important conversation to have with your guy if you have not already discussed it.
Try to bring up the discussion of being in a committed relationship. If it is something that he avoids having to talk about, then consider what he is getting out of your arrangement.
Does he get affection, attention, and favors from you? If this is true but he will not talk seriously about your relationship, then he might be using you for his own gain.
Ask yourself this question: do you find yourself unsure about the status of your relationship? Here is another way to put it: has he neglected to define your relationship? If you answered yes to either question, then you will want to do some more digging.
Never assume that you are in an exclusive, committed relationship just because he is nice and affectionate towards you. Make sure that he is also able to express his feelings and intentions with you in words.
Just because he holds your hands or buys you flowers, it does not mean that the two of you are mutually exclusive. Have the talk with him instead of making assumptions.
Remember that no matter how uncomfortable it is, you are better off in the long run knowing where you stand with him.
He relies on you financially
Are you always pulling out your wallet when you are with your guy? Understand that sometimes the guy in the relationship might not be doing as well financially and won’t be able to pay. That is understandable.
However, if he relies on you to pay for every single thing and has the expectation that you will always foot the bill for him, then he is using you. This is especially true if he does not work or if he does work but never offers to help out financially for things that are for the two of you.
Does he live with you? If he lives at your place and never makes an effort to pitch in, then he might be using you to have a place to stay.
He always needs a favor from you
Relationships are all about give and take. It is perfectly normal for you to do things for your significant other. But does he ever return the favor? If you find that you are always the one doing things for him and he never lifts a finger to help you, then you are being used by him.
We all want to do nice, thoughtful things for the people we deeply care about. What are some favors you might do for a significant other? You might wash his clothes and cook for him, bring him the remote control, and so on.
These are normal things. But what if it seems to be out of control? Is he constantly asking you for things to the point where it seems like he refuses to do anything for himself? Is he demanding and too reliant on you?
Does he never step up to the plate for you? These could be signs that he is using you. If you feel like his servant instead of his lover who is his equal, then something is wrong.
He disappears on you
Some guys have busy schedules and sometimes things will pop up at the last minute. But does he disappear on you constantly? Is he always cancelling or rescheduling the plans you make with him?
If so, then it shows that he might not value the time you spend together. Constantly cancelling plans is rude and might indicate that you are not a priority to him.
Another example of him disappearing on you is if he takes a long time to respond to your calls and text messages. Does he always have some sort of excuse ready for why he is always so unavailable to talk to you?
Whether he cancels last minute on you a lot or takes hours or sometimes even days to respond to your text messages, if he disappears on you frequently, then you are looking at a red flag. This could be a sign that he is using you and might only spend time with you when there is nothing better to do.
He never compromises
Is it always his way or the highway? If everything has to be the way he wants it, then that can be a sign he is using you. Maybe you let him dictate everything but the one time you ask if you can do something your way, he says no and gets upset. That is a sign of him being controlling as well.
If he is always the one deciding what the two of you will do, then you could be in a controlling relationship. Does he always try to tell you what to eat, what to wear, and who to hang out with?
Does he never consult what you want to do as a partner and an equal in your relationship? If this is the case then he is probably using you.
Does not talk about his personal life
If you do not know him that well, then that is a sign of trouble, especially if you tell him all about yourself. What do you know about him? Do you feel like you know enough about himself and his life?
Or does he keep the finer details of his life a secret? Maybe he won’t talk about his family or where he is from or what he does for a living. Can it mean that he is hiding something from you? It is possible, but the only way to really know for sure is by asking him.
While some people have valid reasons for not talking much about themselves, sometimes it can also mean that they are trying to hide something from you. And in a relationship, no one should be keeping secrets.
If he is hiding things from you then it could mean that he is using you. Why else would he keep you in the dark about who he is?
He does not show affection
Affection is a way that we demonstrate our love for those who are important to us. When someone hugs or kisses us, it lets us know that we are special to them. So what happens when he won’t show you affection?
If he is not affectionate towards you, then it might just be part of his personality. Or it can mean that he does not see this as a serious relationship. Maybe he is only using you for what you are giving him, whether it is status, sex, or something else entirely.
Your friends do not like him
Sometimes your friends pick up on things way before you do. Whether they are great observers or just love you deeply, your friends might have the ability to see a user from a mile away.
Other times, your friends might be overprotective of you or they might not yet be used to a new guy in your life. Either way, it is worth it for you to take their concerns into account. They might be seeing something that you have been blind to.
His friends and family warn you about him
Besides you, who should know your guy the best? His friends and family members, of course. While you might share a special bond with him, he will have lots of history with his friends and family.
This means they could know him better than you do. Or they might see things that you have not seen. So if they warn you about him, their warnings might be worth taking a serious look at.
He has a bad reputation
Have you ever heard bad stories and rumors about him? Sometime rumors are just things that have been exaggerated or made up, but sometime there is truth to it.
What are examples of behavior that indicates a bad reputation? Things like being disrespectful to women and always getting into fight with people are some examples of things that could give a guy a bad reputation. It is up to you to find out what the actual truth is.
Ultimately, if he has a bad reputation, it is up to you to look into it. Just remember the saying, “where there is smoke, there is fire.” While you should not believe everything that you hear, you should at least look into whether or not those rumors could hold any truth to them.
If there are no signs that this reputation is real, then forget what you heard and move on and be happy with your guy. But if signs are pointing to this bad reputation being real, then you need to protect yourself and your heart.
Here are some examples of a bad reputation. If he is a con artist, cannot hold down a job, always fights with people, or has a history of cheating on his women, then these are all examples of a bad reputation. Other examples include being known to lie a lot, having a criminal history, and being abusive to his romantic partners.
He only talks to you during certain times of the day or certain days of the week
If your guy only talks to you during certain times of the day, then you might want to think about why that is. Usually when this happens, the guy will only contact you at night and that is because he wants to get intimate.
Does he only see you on weekends? Or maybe he only sees you during the work week. That can be a sign he is keeping a secret and can mean anything from not wanting to introduce you to his family to him wanting to meet other girls when you are not around.
Avoiding you during certain times can mean he has a secret life that does not include you at all. He could be embarrassed to have you around family, friends, or co-workers, or maybe he already has another girl and you are just the mistress.
Whatever it is, ask him and find out why he only talks to you during certain times. If his explanation does not seem to hold water, then he might be lying to you.
He only talks to you when he wants something from you
With anyone in your life, it is normal to give to others. But it should be a balance of give and take between the two parties involved.
If your guy only talks to you when he needs something, then he is most certainly using you. He should not only want you around because of what you can do for him.
Maybe he only pays attention to you when he wants intimacy, wants you to do laundry, or needs you to whip him up some food. Or maybe you control the finances and he is always asking you for money, but does not give you any attention when he does not need money from you.
Whatever it is, if you are doing all of the giving and he is doing all the taking, then you need to get out of that relationship. If he does not seem to care about you as a person besides what you have to offer, then you are not in a healthy relationship
He is seeing other women
One of the biggest signs that a guy is using you is if he is seeing other women. Unless this is something that you both talked about and agreed to, then something unbalanced is going on in your relationship.
But how do you know he is with other women or that he is looking for other girlfriends? There are a few hints that can help you figure this out.
Is he always checking his phone? Does he try to hide things from you? Maybe he always runs late when meeting you or maybe he constantly makes up excuses to leave early when he is with you.
Has he accidentally called you a different name before? Have you caught him in a lie, or in several lies? Does he have a hard time keeping facts straight?
Maybe you have noticed women’s things in his car or home that do not belong to you. Is he very secretive or vague about his schedule? These are all possible signs that he could be seeing someone else.
At the same time, you will not know for sure until you have solid proof. So get your proof or sit down with him and have an honest conversation so that you can try to see if you are being used in this relationship.
If he is in fact seeing other women and this is not something that you previously talked about and agreed on together, then you need to end the relationship and move on so that you can find someone who will appreciate you enough. You do not deserve someone who is not fully invested in you.
Conclusion
There are many ways to figure out if your guy is using you. While you might have to dig to figure this out, you will find that most of these signs are right there in plain sight. It is only when you take off the rose colored glasses that you will see this, if he is in fact using you and is taking advantage of the relationship for his own selfish needs.
If he is using you, do not be afraid to talk to him about it. If you are invested in keeping the relationship going, you can try to figure out ways to get past this, as long as he is willing to do his part. But if he is not interested in making the effort to make things better, do not feel badly about breaking it off.
Remember that you deserve someone who treats you like an equal, someone who does not use you and who thinks only about himself. You deserve to love someone and care about someone and you deserve to be loved and cared for in turn.
Fezeka says
Feeling sad and ashamed the guy I slept with doesn’t care about me anymore never call me or text me I feel ashamed I hate myself
KayDee says
Don’t hate yourself. It’s him that has the problem. Some of us are so loving and kind that selfish people take us for granted, and often take advantage of us.
You are a precious gem!! Stop letting those who can’t afford you to have easy access to you!! Protect & Value yourself…
Shinny says
Same here. Been taking what I have to offer, regular sex, everything yet tells me that he doesnt see himself settling down with me but he loves me. I have been used all along.
Swarangi Naik says
Same incident was happened with me also. I loved and cared him truely. Im feeling very sad. He hurt me a lot 😢😢
Mathilda says
My boyfriend rejected me and his son for 3yrs now and just call yesterday to tell me he is coming back
Evadney says
Hi I am currently going thru the same situation. I was dating a guy for 3 months, everything seemed great until I lent him some money, now I haven’t heard from him in a month. I feel so stupid and ashamed. I can hardly sleep and function, I’m so sad all the time
Cheve says
I had a new friend, made me believe he was in love with me and I actually gave consent to s*x, though we barely knew each other. And since then he disappeared on me and suddenly texts me when he’s in need financially and really don’t answer him anymore.
Michelle says
Pray and move on from him. He does not value you.
timmy says
yeah its true, some guys value you when they first meet you but after you give everything they are not…. and i hate it the most when he said it’s just a game…
Sherry says
I’m sad because this relates to the remains I’m in. I’ve invested money effort time etc. It’s been seven months we’re together and he never asked me out once. He never purchased any gifts for me or anything as a matter. Why did I chose him? I feel like a loser now.
PATRICIA MARTINEZ says
I’m trying to move on from that same kind of situation; any tips? Hurts so bad.
Sharon says
I’m in the same situation. Every time we talk, He’s always need money for his bills. I’ve tried so hard to ignore all these warning signs that he’s using me. But I have to stop because because he’s done NOTHING for me at all but please me in the bed. We’ve known each other years ago and he wasn’t nothing like this but he’s now starting to be annoying to me asking me for money constantly. I’m not willing to give him no more money. So I’m gonna see how he’s gonna act now I’m not interested in letting him money getting from ME.
tara t says
I too did the same thing..I even moved to his state and in with him..Ive loaned him nearly8,000.oo not to mention the 5,000.oo it costed to move to his state..to only be used for sex, all of the house choirs and cooking..he’s only taken me out to dinner but no night life..i guess in fear of running into someone he knows..I feel like a FOOL AND MY HEART IS Broken..and now i have to put the broken pieces of my life back together he makes no mention of paying my money back and even proposed to me with a fake ring..TALK ABOUT ME BEing desperate..and I never want another relationship with a man again..maybe I will try a woman..or maybe I wont try any of them..just really upset with myself bc I only wanted to be Loved..not to mention Im in my sixties..in other words this Sh*t doesnt stop no matter how old you are..
Cheve says
You don’t have to dear. He’s just a jerk. Sorry to say. I was once in that situation, trust me when I say I don’t even think about him anymore. Take your mind off him. He’s not worth it baby girl.
LJ says
So my good friends husband is a royal POS conman. He is just using her to financially back his business and he’s got her in deep financial mess. He has cheated with 2 ow blamed everyone else. Drinks and spends like no tmr. and then plays dumb about it. He called her a menopausal shrew behind her back while he was on the phone with one of his gal pals, two of my other good friends heard his conversation. He got caught running up credit cards without my friends knowledge. He thinks he’s so swift. He’s late to every holiday function or party because he gets off on everyone gawking at him. So ridiculous!
Mystery says
I bet he is a leo…although all leos aren’t this way but many are, ridiculous.
Hope Parker says
I read the about article n now I see that my guy is not using me. I must be just having new relationship jitters. He’s not been shy about introducing me to his family n friends he’s not been selfish (when I asked to be held he sat right down beside me and held me in his arms, when I asked for sex we had sex😁), when I brought up being his wife he liked the idea, I had his change for him and when I decided to keep the dollars (3) instead of the coins he didn’t say anything. Later I asked him if it was alright n he said yes n suggested that I use it for gas. 💖 He often touches me around the house. Touches my ear, my shoulder, my knee.
I don’t have any friends but not bc of him. I didn’t have any friends B4 we meet. Nobody has warned me about him. They can’t he’s already done some self improvement in his life B4 we meet. I have no worries that he’ll back slide. If he was going to he would have B4 we meet. He doesn’t hang out with that crowd anymore. He comes home every day after work. We compromised he cooks and I clean for now. He’s open about himself and his life. Thank you for helping me clarify what’s going on. I was just scared of being used. Now I see that I’m not being used n things are moving steadily. When I met him I knew that he was a good man and I didn’t think that he’d become mine. He proved me wrong 😀 I’ve had nothing but bad relationships until now. For yrs I’ve been in n out of one bad relationship after another until I met him. I feel like that idk what it’s like to be in a good relationship. Now I’m learning 😁 in my 40’s no less. Lol better late than never. 😁 I didn’t know that being in a good relationship was so hard. Maybe it’s just hard bc of so many bad relationships. I’m trying hard not to let them define this great relationship with such a great man. He’s a 10 a real hotty n he chose me a 1.
💖💖💖 Yes he made the first move after knowing each other for about 3-3 1/2 weeks. Time that he took getting to know me ever day. He has invested a lot in this relationship. I was stupid to ever doubt him and his intentions.
angel says
I envy you… I am used and abused by the man I love most. So sad. Everything I had was just a pure imagination that he loves me too. Thanks for this article, made me realized that I really need to move on.
j says
i am so sad. having been seeing a guy for nearly 2 years and stupidly falling pregnant for him. after reading this article i can now see that he has been using me the whole time. feel like a complete ass because i truly and dearly care for him. i always get used by men i love/care for.. i have completely given up on trying to find true love. seems as though noone loves me. like im incapable of being loved… so sad. i treat him well. he uses me for s*x. sees me when he wants. has s*x in his own selfish way. i see that i need to seperate from him otherwise he will continue using me. i tell him my feelings and he basically runs away. yet i act so stupid and continue allowing him to use me in the hope that one day he will truly see me for who i am and love me.. this article has helped me see sense that was already staring and looking me plainly… but i am always blinded and get hurt
thank you
Vani says
Help me I feel sad I am confused sex is great but I just feel he is using me because he doesnt work and I am losing my mind when he is not around me we cant afford to live together we live with our parents and see each only when we can and I feel sometimes he is cheating but he says he never will
Sarah says
I have a husband, I gave birth 3 weeks ago, my husband always ask me for money, saying darling am broke, I really need money,
I send him and after every 2 weeks, he tells me am broke, I need money.
I really don’t know if he is using me.
I tell him look for a job honey, and he tells me that. I knew that you will never support me.
I really don’t know if this marriage will last long. I hope he changes and become hardworking
And sometimes he asks me how many sim cards do u have, I think you have 2 sim cards and use that sim card for chatting with your ex.
And how many contacts do u have in your phone. Who chats with you. He has my Facebook password, he reads my messages, and tells me who is so and so.
But he is overseas and I am working for him to be here with me.
I don’t know if it is long distance relationship which has made him like this, or if he is using me.
I am not sure if this marriage will last long. He even tells me, I need to join school by next year, I want to start a business. And I am not doing anything good to stable myself financially.
Its always about him, I need this, I want to do this, and that. And what’s me to send money for all of those things that he needs and wants.
Candid says
I just meet this guy like a month now, he invited me to visit him and I went to visit him without him giving me transport fare. I came and meet him with his brother, he told me that his brother stays in his house because he was having accommodation problems. He also introduced me to his Friend. After visiting him I left to my Base and he didn’t give me transport fare again to ho back.I paid my transport fare to and fro. After a week this guy was disturbing me that he needs money for his accommodation, he initially told me that he will be moving to another apartment and suddenly he said again that the landlady has been disturbing him for the money. I asked him when will his money be due and he said December. I voluntary said I will see what I can do before December, even if it was a token I can support him with. Because the way and manner he has been disturbing me about his rent. After the next day this same guy started disturbing me that I should give him the money I promised him. Just like that. I realise that he wants to use me and I have already call off the relationship.
Sarah says
Your story sounds so much like mine. I visited him a week ago and he promised to pay back my transport money of which he still hasn’t fulfilled his promise. Now he is asking me to pay for his DSTV license. I’m beginning to wonder if he is for real.
Helena says
Girl you need to run while you have money in the bank. I know it hurts to be used as I have been in this same situation before. I promise you, leave him now and do not give him any money or any way to steal your money by fraud. These men are parasites who trick us with pretty words but they lie like dogs, you will meet a good man who will care for who you are and not just what is inside your purse!
Karen says
After reading this article has shed some light on my relationship with my chap. His ex-wife & grown see more of him than I do when he gets home, he works off shore. He’s very attentive, makes all the decisions, where we go out & makes excuses for not introducing me to his parents. I have met 2 of his 3 children, they don’t visit him much when I spend time in his home, but do once I have left. This leaves me wondering where I stand. We have been dating for 7 months.
Sandra says
well this guy nd I have been dating for 8 months now, we are students… lyk students who rely on their parents, he has introduced me to his mom nd friends. he asks me for money to add up with the one he has but has bought stuffs for me once with his money nd he always talks about our future together. pls is he using me?
Alison says
I too invested 8 years of my life and serious money on this guy and he called it off the other week because I wouldn’t give him anymore money. He supposedly has a new girlfriend already. I know I deserved better….but I’m still heartbroken. He never bought me anything either, Sherry. But all I ever asked of him was to respect me and love me and he couldn’t even do those two things. But I totally understand where you’re coming from. I thought he truly loved me and I know I loved him and still do. But it wasn’t me he wanted all those years and I fell for it the whole time. : (
Just heartbroken by his actions and treatment of me.
PATRICIA MARTINEZ says
Same here, any advice? A re you ok?
Erica says
Ive dated this guy for 5 years and keeps putting the wedding off and tells me if if its not quick enough and he only lerts me borrow the car for money purposes.i almost feel used when i never thought before
Alice says
Have been dating a guy for 5month.. First two months he was staying with me feeding him… Sometimes he ll drop money for soup and he is always controlling me and demand… He never gives me money for myself or contribute to my life.. Even if I want to get something for myself he ll tell me not to get it… I’m a student and he is also a student.. My friend has been telling me to leave him but it’s not easy..
Funniest thing if he ask me for money and I didn’t give him.. He ll get mad at me and ll not chat with me for days.. My pocket money for a month is now been spent a day or one week. And I ll never know if he has money cause he is always singing the same song.. No money.. Help me out
Tami says
I dated a guy like this. He says he lovess me yet never calls always text; have never introduced me to anyone and always asking for money, even thought I was going to fall for buying a car we could share for dates and trips. He didn’t divulge where he live, lies about everything and pretends to love me. He is selfish and way too needy.. . Good riddend
Okodugha emmanuella says
I was with my boyfriend for a year plus and I got really attached …we broke up now and I can’t get over him and he claims he can’t let go of me too..we keep seeing each other and still have s*x on some occasions but I feel really jealous when I see other girls with him or when I go through his gallery and see photos of girls he goes out with.what should I do?
Lu says
I hope you know you need to run for your life. I have been through this twice. Initially you will think you are only being paranoid but trust me, the moment your relationship costs you your peace of kind and constantly gives you cause to worry, you need to leave.
maryd says
please I just meet this guy ,but he said he love me but never pay my transport fare ,did he love me,
jessica says
i was with this guy for 6 months we finally ended it the other day. he would never call or text to check on me . he would ignore all my phone calls and text. but as soon as he needs something from he can call and text me all day. he was just using. but one thing I know for sure the well always runs dry
Kid says
I meet this guy on POF dating site been seeing for under 90 days now first date he pay for it didn’t have our second date until it was his bday I treated him out to eat and purchase him a gift I talk to him during the day and at night he have cook for him I pick up little things for his place that he ask me to purchase and I dont ask to be reimburse when we have our disagreement we expect me to buy him things because I made him feel a certain way and yes we have be intimate with one another… how do I communicate or see if he will have my back like I have his
Dovalion says
Ok, here is what you do.
1. This does involve being dishonest so it may feel wrong but a liar is a liar & wont tell you yes I lie.
2. You tell him that you had a financial emergency… for example; you say I need to ask you for some money. He say why?
You tell him: my (relatives name) truly needed my help and now I am in need of your help.
3. He will automatically show his true colors as he will either have your back or he won’t.
4. You now have your answer.
I hope that helps.
Lateefat Azeez says
Have been with my boyfriend for 6months now and he only talk to me when he want something from me,I only talk to his dad on phone once and he promise to marry me but am scared cos he lied alot and cheat,he discover I knw his phone password and he went to go get another phone and kept it in his car he use that phone to talk to different ladies,plsss I need help and I love him.
Marge says
I became an ATM to my so called boyfriend. The more I did for him(financially) the more he wanted. Everything I did was never enough. It was all about him and his problems. It was as though I had to put my life and interests aside to cater to his needs. I actually believed that was how it was supposed be. Finally I could not handle living like that anymore. I was so angry and frustrated. I still care about him but I could not continue to give him money. I was going broke, and he didn’t care. The thought of getting involved with someone else is depressing. I guess it’s not meant for me to have a man in my life. I have always gotten taken advantage of and lied to.
Shylah says
I have been dating this guy for almost 6 years now,i have never been introduced to his parents,he doesnt have a job,so i pay rent because we started living together i buy everything,so clearly he using me
Roshni says
If he’s really into me will he ask to kiss him on lips after few day starting the relationship?
Teressa Hampton says
I’m heartbroken 💔 my baby daddy aka dude ask me for money sick of it he don’t give me money no support nomore he treat me like shit now I never look out for his ass nomore no support nomore I getting out my relationship fast
Dee says
Dated this guy 5 years and he played me with different women while I blindly loved him, he left me for no reason but he’s now back asking for one last chance…what should I do?
Ann says
My guy moved into my house I which costs me $3000 with all utilities-he told me he shouldn’t have to contribute because I would be paying this without him there. He has his own successful business and spends a lot on cigs and drink. He will buy food but that’s it. When he bought me a $900 sound bar for the tv For Xmas I lost it. Told him to leave – all I had on my list was a hat. The sound bar was for him and this was the last straw. I am struggling and he goes out and buys a brand new drum set. He was doing all the cooking and some fix up work here however the materials he had be buy put me in debt. Am I crazy?
susie says
me and my boyfriend I started dating, and after one week he hasn’t text or call me for a day or two, then when he did he ask me for money said that he really wants to buy something. so he said let go to work but then out of nowhere he said to me I’m going home to watch the house.
Joy J says
I have been with my guy for 5 years, he has a 10 year old boy, I help him with everything. Do all the cooking and most of the cleaning. No talk about the future. I feel I am being used for his son. Before his son came to live with him, 3 years ago he was seeing at least one other women maybe more. We have been living together for 3 years now… what to do? Feeling used.