It can be a wonderful feeling when you know that someone is into you. That person pays attention to you and makes you feel special. But what happens when you begin to question if he does not like you anymore?
Some guys are not the best at verbally communicating their feelings, so you cannot solely rely on their communication skills to help you figure out whether or not he still likes you. They all, however, show their true feelings through their actions.
Through a guy’s actions, you can analyze and determine if he does not like you anymore. And there are many ways that you can try to figure this out.
There are many reasons why you would question if this guy does not like you anymore. Maybe you feel like he just does not make the same effort as before or it is just a gut feeling that you have. Perhaps your friends think that he is losing interest in you.
Below are signs that he doesn’t like you anymore. While there are many ways to try and figure out whether or not his interest is still there, there is only one foolproof way to know the answer for sure. The only way you can definitely know how he feels is by asking him how he feels about you.
In the meantime, the signs below can help you assess your relationship to see if the signs point to him losing interest or not.
18 Signs He Doesn’t Like You Anymore
He is distracted
How do you know if your guy is acting distracted? If he is always on his phone when you are together, especially during dates, then he is acting distracted.
Is he paying attention to what you say when you talk? Does he talk to you less than he used to and does he take longer than usual to respond to your calls and your messages? These are all signs of distraction and they might mean that he doesn’t like you anymore.
If he cares about you, then he will pay attention to you and he will remember what you are saying to him. And if he cannot remember a lot of the things that you are telling him, then he probably just does not care anymore.
He is not around you
If he used to be around you quite frequently and now he is consistently nowhere to be found, then he might not be into you anymore.
This especially applies if you work together or go to school together or are in any environment where it is hard to avoid seeing each other.
When you run in the same circles and you still do not see him, then he could very well be avoiding you. If you do not have a shared space like work or school, then it is possible that he has gotten busy. At the same time, if he wants to see you, then he will make time to do it.
He does not get jealous
If your guy used to be the jealous type and no longer bats an eye if another guy pays you too much of a compliment or if you hang out with guys, then it could be a potential sign that he is not into you like he used to be.
At the same time, consider whether he has always been the jealous type. If he has never gotten jealous, then you might have nothing to worry about, at last where this sign is concerned. It is also possible that he is not jealous because he is secure about your relationship.
It is common sense that if someone wants to be with you, then they have to put in the time and effort to be with you. And if he is not there and is nowhere to be found lately, then it is possible that you are just not a priority to him anymore.
If you mention to him that you have been hanging out or speaking with a guy friend and he does not even ask questions or bat an eye, then he has possibly lost interest in you.
Guys can be competitive by nature, so if he is not even remotely interested that you are spending time with other guys, than his interest in you has probably waned.
He no longer flirts with you
When thinking about this, you have to consider what he used to do before that he does not do now. Did he used to be more physical with you? Does he no longer hold your hand or kiss you?
Has he stopped paying you compliments on how you look, especially when you try to dress up for him? Or has he ceased to shower you with his affection? These are all signs that he is not flirting with you anymore or is not flirting with you as much.
The lack of intimacy is a big red flag that he is no longer interested in you. It most likely either means that he is too busy being intimate with someone else or that he just does not want to lead you on anymore.
Hugging and touching are some ways to flirt with someone and to show your interest in them. If this guy used to be very intimate with you and has stopped for a while, then there is certainly reason for you to worry.
If he is not flirting with you anymore, then it could be a sign that he doesn’t like you anymore. On the other hand, consider how long this change has been going on for.
Has it been going on for a day or a few days? Or a few weeks? Is he going through something stressful right now that might be distracting him?
If the answer is yes, then you might not be the reason that he is not paying attention to you. This is why it is best to talk to him about what you are thinking and to share your concerns with him.
He treats you just like everyone else
The problem with treating you like everyone else is that he is not treating you like you are special. And if he is even remotely interested in you, then he would be making more of an effort with you.
Whether that means making extra time for you or taking you out, if he likes you, then he should be treating you like a love interest.
Even if he is still nice to you, that is not enough. If he is treating you more like a sister or a best friend, then something is wrong here. He should be treating you like a girlfriend or wife.
If you have romantic feelings for someone, then you will naturally treat them differently. You will treat that person like they are special because they are special to you. That is how we show those important people in our lives that we care about them.
If he is treating you like just another person that he knows, then it could mean that you are not special to him anymore and that he no longer likes you as a romantic interest. Look back and think about the conversations that you have been having lately.
If it sounds like he could just be talking to a sister and there is not even a hint of romance in any of his words, then it is very possible he does not like you that way anymore.
He does not ask you about your life
A guy who likes you as more than a friend will want to know more about you. He will want to know about what interests you and he will want to know what is going on in your life.
When we like someone, especially in a romantic way, it is only natural that we want to know more about them. And usually, if a guy wants to know more about you, then he will ask you questions about your life.
If he expresses no interest in what is going on in your life, then he possibly does not like you anymore. Or he is more interested in a physical relationship rather than an emotionally-attached romantic one.
He talks about other women
Talking about other women can be a huge red flag. Does he talk about the attractiveness of other women lately or seem to admire one of them just a little too much? This could be a sign that he is interested in other women.
If he is talking about other women, then he is consciously or subconsciously disregarding your feelings. It is typically not seen as acceptable to talk about other women when a guy is in a relationship.
And if he is talking about other women in a certain way, then he could be sending out hints that he is no longer interested in you romantically.
He is too friendly with other women
This ties into the previous sign that he doesn’t like you anymore. If he is acting way too friendly with other women, then he clearly does not feel exclusively tied to you.
If your guy is a naturally friendly person, then that is one thing. But if he is paying extra attention to certain women and acts flirty with them, then you have reason to be concerned.
He is hanging out with other women
This is another sign that has to do with other women. If he is spending a good amount of his free time with other women, then he could be sending you signals that he is looking for other romantic interests that are not you.
Usually, when a guy wants to be with you, he will spend less time with other women or he will stop seeing other women altogether, though friends may be an exception.
If you are not the only main lady in his life, then it means that he does not want you to be his number one. And it means that he does not like you as much as he used to. Which means that it is time for you to move on.
You are never the first to learn things about him
Do you feel like you are always the last person to know things about this guy? If big things are happening in his life and he is not telling you about them, then it means that you are not really a part of his life.
If he wanted you to be in his life then he would share more details of his life with you. Hiding these things from you and letting you be the last person to know everything will make you feel like you do not belong in his life.
So if he does not share details about his life with you or if you are the last person to know these things, then he might not like you anymore. Before you jump to conclusions though, have the conversation with him about why he does not feel comfortable being so open with you.
He never initiates with you
In any relationship, both people involved need to make an effort. Part of making an effort includes initiating with the other person.
That can range from initiating a conversation to initiating physical intimacy. It is how we show our interest in another person.
At the same time, there are people who are passive or who are not great at planning things. Keep note of whether he shuts down all of your plans and if he ever suggests alternative date ideas for you.
If he is not even giving any input into how the two of you can spend time together, then he is not interested in you anymore.
Also, take note of how he communicates with you. Does he ever initiate a conversation first or are you always the one who has to push him to talk to you?
This could mean that he never texts or calls you first. It can also mean that is never the one to try to spend time with you. Instead, it is always up to you to plan things with him. If he is taking zero initiative for you, then he is not into you right now.
He cannot seem to commit to making plans with you
When he used to be able to schedule things in for you and now he cannot even pencil you in to make plans, then something wrong is going on. It is likely that he wants to see if something better than your plans come up first.
If he cannot commit to spending time with you, then his interest in you has definitely gone down. You should not be chasing after him to make plans.
He is too busy for you
Any guy who is interested in you, no matter how busy his schedule is, will always make time for you. If he just comes up with one excuse after another about why he cannot talk to you or see you, then he is not committed to being with you.
Of course, it is perfectly normal for someone to have a busy life and responsibilities that need to be taken care of. But if he is so busy that he cannot see you at all, then he is just not interested in trying to make it work with you.
He does not open up to you
If he is not opening up to you, especially if he used to, then it can mean that he does not like you anymore. A guy who likes you should be able to lay his feelings bare.
When a guy likes you, he should be able to let his guard down and at least open up with you to some degree. If he is putting up a wall between the two of you, then he does not want to share his life with you.
While there is a chance that he is afraid to be vulnerable with you, some guys will just shut you out when they do not like you anymore. So have the important conversation with him about what this all means.
He has become inconsiderate of you
When two people really have something good going on, then they become in tune with each other’s needs and feelings.
From knowing what the other person would like to do and being aware of what makes them feel comfortable, being with someone successfully will involve being considerate and making compromises.
If he has begun to do things, no matter how big or small, that do not take your needs and preferences into consideration at all, then it could be a sign that he is no longer into you.
After all, a relationship should be mutually enjoyable and if he has stopped taking you into consideration, then there is a big problem there.
He only talks to you when he needs something
What about a guy that pays attention to you, but only when he needs you to do something for him? That kind of relationship is not a genuine one and if he is doing this with you, then you are being used.
If he is too busy to spend time with you, but will call you when he needs help with something, then he is not interested in you. He is only interested in what you can do for him. And if he did like you before, he could just be exploiting you now.
What about when you are in need of some help? If this guy will not give you a helping hand when you need it, then he really might not like you anymore as a romantic partner.
He avoids being seen with you
If he used to have no problem being out with you and all of a sudden he is not at your side, then something is up. There are a few possible explanations for why he might be behaving this way.
It is possible that he is now interested in someone else and does not want to be seen with you because that would scare off the other person. Or maybe he does not want to be seen with you at all.
If he avoids being seen with you, then you need to drop him. You deserve to find someone who likes you enough that they will not be embarrassed to be at your side when you are out in public.
You have a gut feeling
Sometimes, your gut just knows when something is not right. Maybe he is doing all of the right things but you can tell that his heart might not be in it anymore. Or maybe you can tell that he is not looking at you the same way that he used to.
Since your gut feeling is not solid evidence, you will really want to talk to him so that you can confirm whether or not your suspicions are true.
Conclusion
These are just some of the many signs that can tell you if he does not like you anymore. Look at your relationship now and how it was before so you can note any changes in how he behaves towards you now.
If any of these signs apply to your relationship, then you will want to talk to him about your suspicions. Either he will say that you are mistaken or he will admit that he does not like you the same way that he used to.
After having had this discussion with you, he will either want to part ways with you or he will want to make things work with you. Whatever the conclusion is, it is necessary that you both communicate so you can resolve this matter once and for all.
And if this guy is not even willing to talk about things with you, then he clearly does not care anymore. If this is the case, then you need to stop waiting around for him. Cut your ties, move on, and wait for someone who actually deserves you.
Anoymous says
Hi kate. I was in a relationship with my childhood friend for 3 years and a year ago we broke because I was suffering through depression and i was treating her very badly. I was all finr after few months of it and i am very nice guy since then. We do talk often and she really admires how i have changed. She had 2 boyfriends during that time and both time she realised she never loved them. She said me that we can be together again after she breaks up with her second boyfriend. She was very sad that she never loved any of the boyfriends she had after me. Can you tell me what i should do? Should I accept her instantly or i should make her value me? How do i make her value me in the relationship like she thinks she can never lose me in a relationship and stuff. I dont know what i can do to make her value me that she can lose me anytime. What should i do please help. It will be greatly appreciated.
Sophie says
If she could willingly do leave her boyfriend for you. You should acknowledge that and don’t take her for granted. Show her how she means a lot you and she will do thesame.
Aiyana says
Tell her how you feel she will understand and hopefully if shes wright for you she will except.
Noora says
Hi .. I just gotten into a relationship with a guy I’ve known for awhile and I traveled to his home town to see him with my bestfriend.. he was doing all the right things but lately I’ve noticed that he talks to my best friend alot jokes with her more and what makes me even more sad is when he sees her alone he runs and talks to her and so on … its like im there but im not there. I don’t know what to do I think my friend feels that he’s kind of flirting with her she didn’t say anything but she is trying to avoid him because she doesnt want to be alone with him.
Kate says
Unfortunately, seems like he has lost interest in you.
Ezekiel says
The above signs of rejection when man is no longer interested in woman are also applicable to men when a woman is no longer interested in her man. Unfortunately, heart is treacherous, who can know it?
Anoynmous says
Kate pls am tired of relationship stuff,d guy I have dated for 3yrs nw has totally changed I have try to call him several occasions to ask him y his behaving strang but his nt giving me a tangible reason. So my question is pls how do I avoid him: “is it by nt picking his calls or insult him if he calls”
Kate says
Tell him to leave you alone if this is what you want. If he still bothers you, you can just ignore his calls. You can also try to block him on your phone.
abigail argenti says
how does that help when you really like him?
Anonymous says
kate my boyfriend and i are from the same town but he’s 2 hours away taking college classes we hardly talk as much as we used to it’s making me sad and a while back he said he would delete all the girls on his snapchat if i deleted all the boys on mine but he still hasn’t deleted the girls and i’m not seeing as much and the first thing we do when we see eachother is have s..x what do i do??
AmaBanana says
Hello Kate, I need your help!
I’ve been seeing this guy for some time now and recently he told me that if I’m not having s..x with him then he can’t keep on seeing me, he then turned it all around and said that he likes me a lot….. also I was hanging out with him and his phone was bluetoothed to his car, a girl called Catiyln with a heart in his contacts name popped up and when I confronted him he told me it was no one but she can’t be a no one if she has a heart next to her name. I need you help on these two matters. Help!!thanks x
Kate says
Seems like this guy doesn’t really care about you. He has only one thing in mind and also another girl on the side.
Samantha Miller says
My fiancé is starting to comment about little things about my body and things I do. He never did this before! He also talks about one of he ex’s sometimes. I don’t know what to do
Zara says
Did you end up marrying him? If not, then it just wasn’t meant to be. I know that this was from two years ago, but I’m just interested to see how things worked out. Did you confront him? Or did he come out and apologise himself? Or maybe you got somebody’s help?
Arushi says
Hii Kate , hope you are doing good , so I am with a guy from last three years , initially it was all good and as time passed I have got attach to him and with this he started pointing out my negatives and as more time passed he started fighting on very little things which I never understood but now he just said that he is getting rigid in his life and he said he will never ever initiate text or calls .. it has to be me always . Now what should I do ??, How can ask him politely if he want me to stay away from his life .
Idk says
I’ve been dating this boy for 2 months and things have changed he ignores me half the time he seats not that close anymore, he used to hold my hand and joke with me now he just too serious with everything, although when I’m sad he does beg me and ask what’s wrong. I guess I just have to talk to him and see if he still wants to be with me if not I guess it’s over as much as i would hate for it to be I just don’t want him to be unhappy.
cece says
Well you guys just started dating.. 2 months isnt a long time. If your sad and he cares than he still cares about your emotions and is considerate of you. But if he acts serious all the time hes either annoyed by you, or something is going on with him personally. So just talk to him first before calling your relationship quits
Carrie Noworolnik says
I was seeing a guy for 3 weeks. The first couple of weeks were fabulous! We couldn’t get enough of each other. We were both smitten. I would get texts all day with cute Bitmojis and Emojis. We saw each other 8 times over those 3 weeks. He told me week 1 how he was falling for me. He told me personal financial information because he said he sensed this thing we had was headed somewhere serious. We made plans for the summer and meeting each other’s kids. Then the third week he asked me to come to his place and I would stay the night (he lived about 35 min away) because we would have wine and get to know each other. I sensed in his eyes when we talked that he was indeed falling for me. Then we hooked up but that wasn’t our first time. Everything seemed great. He even woke up and made me coffee in the morning before waking me. I left around 10am. Later that evening though he was a bit different. He said he was tired and hung over. Then the next few days his texts were shorter. Not as well thought out. No silly sexual references. When we would speak on the phone it was fine but again, the texts were different. We met for coffee that Tue and I felt in my gut that something was different. He talked and complained about work. There was no making out in the car like we did other times we met at lunch. We spoke later that evening and again, he seemed fine and we made a date for the following Saturday. Then Wed I got a “Good Morning” Bitmoji but then we didn’t text during the day. I knew he had a big meeting with his boss so I told him I wouldn’t bug him until later. Later on that afternoon he didn’t reach out to me. I texted him to tell him I was taking my daughter to the Dr and not to call. All of his texts were short. Nothing flirty. No Emojis. He was different and I knew something was up. I texted to ask how his day was and he just said “ok.” He asked him if he was alright because he seemed off. He just said he was eating dinner and then asked if I was ok. It was odd. When I got home I called and got his VM. I texted that I sensed something was up. He called me right back and his voice was very shaky. He just said he had a bad day at work and needed to hang with his son. But I knew there was more to it. He said I didn’t do anything wrong he just had a bad day. I said ok. Later that night he texted and sounded very irritated and reiterated that he had a bad day and just needed time with his son. I felt scolded. I just knew there was more to it. Sure enough the next morning I got a text that said what his boss said and that his focus wasn’t on work but then he went on to say that I was amazing and I didn’t do anything wrong and our time together has been great but too time consuming. Then he turned it around on me and said I was pushing the gas pedal down too hard and he wasn’t sure what he wanted and this started out to be fun but he got a sense it was headed somewhere more serious (remember week 1 he said he was falling for me and he said it was headed somewhere serious not me.) He then said I had him on a pedestal and he didn’t feel he deserved it and had we been further into the relationship he wouldn’t be so scared of it but being it’s so new his guard is now up. None of what he said made sense. I didn’t get it. I responded and reminded him that he was just as guilty of moving fast as I was and I must have done something wrong for him to be saying this. I also told him I agreed it was moving fast but I was following his lead. He never replied. I never heard from him again! This was a month ago. I was devastated! He got me to open up my heart when I’m normally very guarded at first. I normally take my time in getting to know someone but we clicked immediately and I felt with every fiber of my being that this was special. Now I am dumbfounded! I saw his dating profile on Bumble last Sun. I was inconsolable because if dating me was too consuming with work, why would he be looking for something new? I don’t know how I will get over this! There were no red flags at all. It wasn’t until those days after I spent the night which was his idea. I am guessing me spending the night was too real for him and he got freaked out or after seeing the real me he just changed his feelings and didn’t know how to tell me. Those texts that Wed and Thu was not the same person I was texting with before Sunday. I don’t get it!
Kate says
Sorry, you had to go through this! And there was a red flag. The red flag was him telling you after a week that he was falling for you and he thinks this would be headed somewhere serious. This was way too fast, he was just smooth-talking you. Try to forget about him and try not to move too fast with the next guy.
Joy says
Hey Kate I broke up with my boyfriend because he is too busy to answer my calls and he says he loves me and he can’t prove it, he can’t chat with me even I feel so sad after it I feel he doesn’t value me, he doesn’t make me feel special and we have spoken about it most time and sometimes he just shut me up, I don’t know if I am too emotional and over reacting or he’s the problem. Pls advice me
Florr says
My schoolmate used to like me but couldn’t tell me. After 3 yrs of school, he called and our friendship started again as normal friends. So it was my birthday and He took me out and he asked me about life after school and then my relationship life Buh i told him i don’t want to talk about it. Buh he said he wants to talk about it and then later, he said it’s fine if i don’t want to talk about it. Two weeks after our outing, he said he’ll like to meet me again and i said OK but we couldn’t go on that date so he said another time. But for the past three days now we spoke, he didn’t call or texted me again. Does it mean he doesn’t want to be friends anymore? Or should I go ahead and call or text him? Yes i know he’s the busy type Tho. Buh don’t get why he’s not calling or texting me. He liked me and i like him. It’s just that he hasn’t proposed so we are not going out. Please advice .Hope to hear from you soon. Thanks
grace says
I have been seeing a guy for sometimes but whenever I text he respond but it’s like he ignored sometimes so I ask maybe we can talk but he ask wat about n see we will be travel but I told him maybe after he come we will but didn’t said then I asked do u still love me he didn’t say anything then I told him no need coz seems your not interested n he told me talk to you soon
Shadarielle says
Hey Kate well it’s kinda long so I’m just going to be honest I met I a boy I was going with when I was staying with my mom and he ended up talking and some on then eventually we started dating or whatever I then moved out of my moms house and moved in with my ex boyfriend which his name is Patrick, I stayed with him and his friends but then somebody bad happened and everybody had to get out that apartment and then me and him was both homeless together we were together six months and we went through everything together I was there for him and he was there for me even though we didn’t have money he did his best, we always arguing and fighting and then he would always threaten to take me back to my moms house and I got so tired and fed up with everything and I told him to take me Home and he did. But after I couple of days I missed him and then I asked my mom could she bring me back and she did but I didn’t go to his house I went to somebody house I knew that said I could stay we were in the same town but he didn’t know I care back , so I decided that I was just going to be single and stuff so that same night I came back i was at a store and I met a man which name is Adrian and I found out he was liking me when I was going with my ex boyfriend Patrick, and Adrian gave me his number and stuff so the next day I decided to walk to the store then I was just thinking about going back to my ex boyfriend Patrick to see maybe we could work it out, but then I was walking and Adrian seen me and picked me up in his car and I was happy he was nice he mad money and everything that’s when we stared talking and Adrian moved me in the same day that we met, and I met his two sons and everything and everything was good but my ex boyfriend found out and it was just a big mess he was so mad and I felt so bad but I just wanted to be happy and get things that I never had before and Adrian could do that for me not my ex but then my ex then moved on from being mad but everytime me and my boyfriend now Adrian get in a fight I would run back to my ex boyfriend and then when my ex boyfriend gets mad and want to fight and everything I would run back to Adrian I was so suck between the two of them I didn’t know which one to choose but know my ex really don’t want nothing to do with me and I really still love him and I don’t know what to do , because my boyfriend now which is Adrian we always fight and say mean stuff to each other and he always kick me out his house but I don’t have no where to go because my mom and my whole family doesn’t want to do nothing for me I been on my own so I’m basically homeless and people would always say since I’m young my boyfriend Adrian which is 41 years old is just trying to use me which I’m 19 years old and I got so mad that I cheated on him twice but the thing is the two boys I cheated on him I didn’t have s*x with them but he took me back each time and I’m great full for that he haven’t cheated on me at least not that I know of , and certain things during sex that he use to do he doesn’t do that anymore but I still do what he ask me to do during s*x then he say things like he doesn’t care what boys I talk to and he can go find him another girl and like he doesn’t want me to touch him and it’s like I don’t know what to do he’s always mean to me and I can’t take it I’m trying but I can’t and it’s like now I see my ex boyfriend Doing his thing I miss him and I fell bad that he doesn’t want to take me back after all we been through please help me understand what I should do 😔
Natalie says
Please help me! I had recently moved in with my boyfriend during college and I just feel like everything isn’t as great as it was. We have been dating for over a year and I get the feeling he likes someone else at this point. He hasn’t been as open, he feels the need to hide all of his conversations on social media, I hate to be someone to assume things! We don’t talk as much as we used to, I feel like he’s super annoyed with life and taking it out on me verbally. He works an evening shift and usually won’t get off until later in the night- I am usually asleep at this point, and he won’t tell me what’s going on some evenings so I will wake up and he won’t be home. I had recently gotten on his computer and found out that he had intentions to hang out with a female friend pas 12AM before Halloween. I have no idea why he wouldn’t tell me this, and I just overall wished we could talk and hang out more without it having to become my idea. :/
S. Grover says
Hello!!! i’m in a relationship since 2 months with a guy….. in the starting he was very caring,loving and always wanted to meet me….then a problem arise to him i helped him a lot. i took him out of that problem…… we gone thru some fights but we are still together…. i still love him…like truly but it doesnt seems like that he loves me… i feel like he’s just there when he needs my help….. i have raised this matter with him but he says that he love me….i think he is saying because he just needs my help….what should i do now???