It can be a wonderful feeling when you know that someone is into you. That person pays attention to you and makes you feel special. But what happens when you begin to question if he does not like you anymore?
Some guys are not the best at verbally communicating their feelings, so you cannot solely rely on their communication skills to help you figure out whether or not he still likes you. They all, however, show their true feelings through their actions.
Through a guy’s actions, you can analyze and determine if he does not like you anymore. And there are many ways that you can try to figure this out.
There are many reasons why you would question if this guy does not like you anymore. Maybe you feel like he just does not make the same effort as before or it is just a gut feeling that you have. Perhaps your friends think that he is losing interest in you.
Below are signs that he doesn’t like you anymore. While there are many ways to try and figure out whether or not his interest is still there, there is only one foolproof way to know the answer for sure. The only way you can definitely know how he feels is by asking him how he feels about you.
In the meantime, the signs below can help you assess your relationship to see if the signs point to him losing interest or not.
18 Signs He Doesn’t Like You Anymore
He is distracted
How do you know if your guy is acting distracted? If he is always on his phone when you are together, especially during dates, then he is acting distracted.
Is he paying attention to what you say when you talk? Does he talk to you less than he used to and does he take longer than usual to respond to your calls and your messages? These are all signs of distraction and they might mean that he doesn’t like you anymore.
If he cares about you, then he will pay attention to you and he will remember what you are saying to him. And if he cannot remember a lot of the things that you are telling him, then he probably just does not care anymore.
He is not around you
If he used to be around you quite frequently and now he is consistently nowhere to be found, then he might not be into you anymore.
This especially applies if you work together or go to school together or are in any environment where it is hard to avoid seeing each other.
When you run in the same circles and you still do not see him, then he could very well be avoiding you. If you do not have a shared space like work or school, then it is possible that he has gotten busy. At the same time, if he wants to see you, then he will make time to do it.
He does not get jealous
If your guy used to be the jealous type and no longer bats an eye if another guy pays you too much of a compliment or if you hang out with guys, then it could be a potential sign that he is not into you like he used to be.
At the same time, consider whether he has always been the jealous type. If he has never gotten jealous, then you might have nothing to worry about, at last where this sign is concerned. It is also possible that he is not jealous because he is secure about your relationship.
It is common sense that if someone wants to be with you, then they have to put in the time and effort to be with you. And if he is not there and is nowhere to be found lately, then it is possible that you are just not a priority to him anymore.
If you mention to him that you have been hanging out or speaking with a guy friend and he does not even ask questions or bat an eye, then he has possibly lost interest in you.
Guys can be competitive by nature, so if he is not even remotely interested that you are spending time with other guys, than his interest in you has probably waned.
He no longer flirts with you
When thinking about this, you have to consider what he used to do before that he does not do now. Did he used to be more physical with you? Does he no longer hold your hand or kiss you?
Has he stopped paying you compliments on how you look, especially when you try to dress up for him? Or has he ceased to shower you with his affection? These are all signs that he is not flirting with you anymore or is not flirting with you as much.
The lack of intimacy is a big red flag that he is no longer interested in you. It most likely either means that he is too busy being intimate with someone else or that he just does not want to lead you on anymore.
Hugging and touching are some ways to flirt with someone and to show your interest in them. If this guy used to be very intimate with you and has stopped for a while, then there is certainly reason for you to worry.
If he is not flirting with you anymore, then it could be a sign that he doesn’t like you anymore. On the other hand, consider how long this change has been going on for.
Has it been going on for a day or a few days? Or a few weeks? Is he going through something stressful right now that might be distracting him?
If the answer is yes, then you might not be the reason that he is not paying attention to you. This is why it is best to talk to him about what you are thinking and to share your concerns with him.
He treats you just like everyone else
The problem with treating you like everyone else is that he is not treating you like you are special. And if he is even remotely interested in you, then he would be making more of an effort with you.
Whether that means making extra time for you or taking you out, if he likes you, then he should be treating you like a love interest.
Even if he is still nice to you, that is not enough. If he is treating you more like a sister or a best friend, then something is wrong here. He should be treating you like a girlfriend or wife.
If you have romantic feelings for someone, then you will naturally treat them differently. You will treat that person like they are special because they are special to you. That is how we show those important people in our lives that we care about them.
If he is treating you like just another person that he knows, then it could mean that you are not special to him anymore and that he no longer likes you as a romantic interest. Look back and think about the conversations that you have been having lately.
If it sounds like he could just be talking to a sister and there is not even a hint of romance in any of his words, then it is very possible he does not like you that way anymore.
He does not ask you about your life
A guy who likes you as more than a friend will want to know more about you. He will want to know about what interests you and he will want to know what is going on in your life.
When we like someone, especially in a romantic way, it is only natural that we want to know more about them. And usually, if a guy wants to know more about you, then he will ask you questions about your life.
If he expresses no interest in what is going on in your life, then he possibly does not like you anymore. Or he is more interested in a physical relationship rather than an emotionally-attached romantic one.
He talks about other women
Talking about other women can be a huge red flag. Does he talk about the attractiveness of other women lately or seem to admire one of them just a little too much? This could be a sign that he is interested in other women.
If he is talking about other women, then he is consciously or subconsciously disregarding your feelings. It is typically not seen as acceptable to talk about other women when a guy is in a relationship.
And if he is talking about other women in a certain way, then he could be sending out hints that he is no longer interested in you romantically.
He is too friendly with other women
This ties into the previous sign that he doesn’t like you anymore. If he is acting way too friendly with other women, then he clearly does not feel exclusively tied to you.
If your guy is a naturally friendly person, then that is one thing. But if he is paying extra attention to certain women and acts flirty with them, then you have reason to be concerned.
He is hanging out with other women
This is another sign that has to do with other women. If he is spending a good amount of his free time with other women, then he could be sending you signals that he is looking for other romantic interests that are not you.
Usually, when a guy wants to be with you, he will spend less time with other women or he will stop seeing other women altogether, though friends may be an exception.
If you are not the only main lady in his life, then it means that he does not want you to be his number one. And it means that he does not like you as much as he used to. Which means that it is time for you to move on.
You are never the first to learn things about him
Do you feel like you are always the last person to know things about this guy? If big things are happening in his life and he is not telling you about them, then it means that you are not really a part of his life.
If he wanted you to be in his life then he would share more details of his life with you. Hiding these things from you and letting you be the last person to know everything will make you feel like you do not belong in his life.
So if he does not share details about his life with you or if you are the last person to know these things, then he might not like you anymore. Before you jump to conclusions though, have the conversation with him about why he does not feel comfortable being so open with you.
He never initiates with you
In any relationship, both people involved need to make an effort. Part of making an effort includes initiating with the other person.
That can range from initiating a conversation to initiating physical intimacy. It is how we show our interest in another person.
At the same time, there are people who are passive or who are not great at planning things. Keep note of whether he shuts down all of your plans and if he ever suggests alternative date ideas for you.
If he is not even giving any input into how the two of you can spend time together, then he is not interested in you anymore.
Also, take note of how he communicates with you. Does he ever initiate a conversation first or are you always the one who has to push him to talk to you?
This could mean that he never texts or calls you first. It can also mean that is never the one to try to spend time with you. Instead, it is always up to you to plan things with him. If he is taking zero initiative for you, then he is not into you right now.
He cannot seem to commit to making plans with you
When he used to be able to schedule things in for you and now he cannot even pencil you in to make plans, then something wrong is going on. It is likely that he wants to see if something better than your plans come up first.
If he cannot commit to spending time with you, then his interest in you has definitely gone down. You should not be chasing after him to make plans.
He is too busy for you
Any guy who is interested in you, no matter how busy his schedule is, will always make time for you. If he just comes up with one excuse after another about why he cannot talk to you or see you, then he is not committed to being with you.
Of course, it is perfectly normal for someone to have a busy life and responsibilities that need to be taken care of. But if he is so busy that he cannot see you at all, then he is just not interested in trying to make it work with you.
He does not open up to you
If he is not opening up to you, especially if he used to, then it can mean that he does not like you anymore. A guy who likes you should be able to lay his feelings bare.
When a guy likes you, he should be able to let his guard down and at least open up with you to some degree. If he is putting up a wall between the two of you, then he does not want to share his life with you.
While there is a chance that he is afraid to be vulnerable with you, some guys will just shut you out when they do not like you anymore. So have the important conversation with him about what this all means.
He has become inconsiderate of you
When two people really have something good going on, then they become in tune with each other’s needs and feelings.
From knowing what the other person would like to do and being aware of what makes them feel comfortable, being with someone successfully will involve being considerate and making compromises.
If he has begun to do things, no matter how big or small, that do not take your needs and preferences into consideration at all, then it could be a sign that he is no longer into you.
After all, a relationship should be mutually enjoyable and if he has stopped taking you into consideration, then there is a big problem there.
He only talks to you when he needs something
What about a guy that pays attention to you, but only when he needs you to do something for him? That kind of relationship is not a genuine one and if he is doing this with you, then you are being used.
If he is too busy to spend time with you, but will call you when he needs help with something, then he is not interested in you. He is only interested in what you can do for him. And if he did like you before, he could just be exploiting you now.
What about when you are in need of some help? If this guy will not give you a helping hand when you need it, then he really might not like you anymore as a romantic partner.
He avoids being seen with you
If he used to have no problem being out with you and all of a sudden he is not at your side, then something is up. There are a few possible explanations for why he might be behaving this way.
It is possible that he is now interested in someone else and does not want to be seen with you because that would scare off the other person. Or maybe he does not want to be seen with you at all.
If he avoids being seen with you, then you need to drop him. You deserve to find someone who likes you enough that they will not be embarrassed to be at your side when you are out in public.
You have a gut feeling
Sometimes, your gut just knows when something is not right. Maybe he is doing all of the right things but you can tell that his heart might not be in it anymore. Or maybe you can tell that he is not looking at you the same way that he used to.
Since your gut feeling is not solid evidence, you will really want to talk to him so that you can confirm whether or not your suspicions are true.
These are just some of the many signs that can tell you if he does not like you anymore. Look at your relationship now and how it was before so you can note any changes in how he behaves towards you now.
If any of these signs apply to your relationship, then you will want to talk to him about your suspicions. Either he will say that you are mistaken or he will admit that he does not like you the same way that he used to.
After having had this discussion with you, he will either want to part ways with you or he will want to make things work with you. Whatever the conclusion is, it is necessary that you both communicate so you can resolve this matter once and for all.
And if this guy is not even willing to talk about things with you, then he clearly does not care anymore. If this is the case, then you need to stop waiting around for him. Cut your ties, move on, and wait for someone who actually deserves you.