When you are trying to figure out whether or not someone loves you, it definitely isn’t easy. Here are a few tactical expert pointers that will tell you whether or not he loves you.
Signs He Doesn’t Love You
Thought Catalog studies show a man doesn’t love you if she isn’t showing any interest in the smaller details in your life. If he doesn’t want to hear about how crazy your cat has been acting or about how embarrassed you were at work because you forgot a meeting, then you better think about whether he loves you or not.
He just doesn’t seem to “want” to connect or make things better with you.
It seems like he’s picking fights over the silliest things and for no valid reason. This will take a toll on the quality of your relationship as a whole.
They start buying things they like but know you don’t. That’s just an inconsiderate move no matter how you look at it. It shows they really don’t care what you think and that’s not love.
If a guy starts trying to change you into what he wants and not what you want to be, he really don’t love you.
Think about it for a minute. You deserve to be with a man that loves you for you, just as you are, not how he want you to be. That just doesn’t work.
He always seems to be talking about what’s down the road and not about what’s going on in the now. If your man is talking more about the future and nothing else, you’ve got reason to be concerned.
The now is just as important as the future in any relationship.
There is no routine or consistency to his contact with you. For instance, for a little while he might text you every morning and night religiously and suddenly nothing. Or maybe he just stops trying to call or text you at all.
Pay attention because if a guy loves you, he will make sure you know it.
He keeps you hidden from his parents. If your guy does his best to make sure you don’t get to meet or even get to know his parents better, that’s a signal he just doesn’t love you.
You see, if he loved you and was proud you are his girlfriend he should want his family to know about you and meet you.
Don’t kid yourself here please.
So you’ve asked him if he loves you and he clearly tells you he isn’t sure. If those are the words uttered from your partners mouth, you need to take that as an in-your-face signal that he does not love you the way you deserve to be loved.
If he did, he would be afraid of losing you and make sure you knew that he loves you on many different levels. He would not leave you guessing.
It’s natural that you both have some common interests or you likely wouldn’t have gotten together in the first place. However, if you haven’t got clear future goals set together or in the least you’re talking about them, then he doesn’t see you in his future.
Sorry to break it to you but better now before you waste anymore time.
He has no interest in meeting you in the middle on any future goals or wants. If his mind is shut to negotiate then he doesn’t want you to be the love of his life.
If he ever tells you he is curious to see what’s still out there before making a solid commitment, you need to kick his butt to the curb fast. You don’t deserve second or third place. Obviously, you have different expectations, wants and needs, and it’s time for you to keep your chin up and move on.
Don’t think about it, just do it.
This guy you are into shows you or worse yet tells you he doesn’t trust you. Yikes…this is a tough one. If your guy starts accusing you of things based on lack of trust, he’s just trying to take the focus off his lack of love for you and place the guilt-blame he is likely feeling on you.
This is one of the oldest tricks in the books and you need to be wary of it.
If he doesn’t trust you, he shouldn’t be with you no matter what. So if he makes you feel this way then your best decision is to say good-bye.
He doesn’t want to listen when you want to discuss the things in life that matter to you. That’s just nasty in my books.
If someone loves you, they should want to know and learn about what matters to you and be there for you when you need it – End of story.
Every time you want to chat with him about relationship issues, it winds up in a ginormous fight. This is another decoy move to try and place the guilt on you. Don’t let him get away with it.
FACT – relationships are hard work and if you aren’t willing to sit down and discuss issues on a routine basis, without major knock-out fights, then the issue is much bigger than normal conflict.
A guy that just wants to fight with you, doesn’t not love you – Period.
He puts very little if any effort into making certain your lives interconnect. If your guy doesn’t do his best to do his own thing and steer clear of making plans with you when it’s definitely doable, that’s a sign he doesn’t love you.
What you need to do is give your head a shake and take positive action to end this silliness.
Couples that are in love want to be together and grow together.
They seem to be brain-dead when it comes to remembering the little things; like your favorite color, your birthday and your anniversary.
Don’t you think someone that loves you would make sure they remembered the little things to make you smile? Even if they are bad with dates and numbers, they should go to the trouble of programming into their phone as a reminder.
Excuses get you nowhere fast.
A man that loves you will remember oodles of details because he wants you to feel special.
They are quick to blast you in public just to hurt your feelings, even the harsh joke tactic. A man that loves you should not purposely belittle you anytime, particularly in public. Sure, there may be a few times where he doesn’t recognize a certain topic you’re sensitive about.
However, if he knows how you feel and think and does it anyway, you need to be done with him because he does not love you for the right reasons.
Fighting fair has gone out the window and now it’s dirty all the way. This one is super-sad. When couples fight dirty, it’s not healthy and is only going to lead to lots and lots of heartache. If this guy is hitting you where it hurts and fighting dirty, he’s showing you he does not love you.
Sorry but it’s true.
They tell you or somehow suggest you need to dress better or lose weight because you are too fat. These are two very sensitive issues to most women and if a guy is trying to change you at all, he’s not for you.
VIP – You should be proud of who you are and love yourself as you are. Sure, there are always going to be things we want to work on but you shouldn’t feel pressured by the man the you think loves you to make changes.
He should be supporting and loving you as you are.
Think about this one long and hard and take action.
It’s all about his pleasure in the bedroom. Sex is a two-way street and if a man is head over heels for you, he is going to want to pleasure you first, and shouldn’t mind coming in second.
If you feel it’s all one-sided in the bedroom, you better consider the fact you might be getting used because this man couldn’t possibly love you.
This guy chooses to go out with other people more than you. He either wants to be with you or he doesn’t. And if he is picking his friends over you all the time, that’s got to tell you something.
A man that loves a woman, wants to spend time with her, no excuses.
You seem to get under his skin easily. If someone loves you, they aren’t going to be annoyed by you, normally anyway. So if your man seems to get ticked with you at the drop of the hat, you need to ask yourself if you really believe he loves you or not.
Be smart here please.
When they screw up or make a mistake, they don’t apologize with sincerely to you. This one is the worst. You shouldn’t be with a guy that doesn’t have the human ability to tell you he’s sorry when he mucks up. You deserve that.
So if your boyfriend can’t apologize to you, then you need to seriously look at the possibility he just doesn’t love you.
They just don’t give you the little signs of affection showing you that they love you. This is the handholding, kissing your cheek, you know what I’m getting at. If a guy doesn’t give you those little signs of affection without you asking, he doesn’t love you.
You seem to be their friend instead of their lover. I’m not going to tell you this is all bad but if you feel the focus in on the “pal” stuff, you need to consider the fact he just might not love you; sad but true.
Conversations are like pulling teeth. It’s all about want and attitude here. If a man loves you, he is going to do whatever it takes to ensure you feel comfortable and yes, you are naturally going to have those weird moments of awkward silence, but they should be few and far in between.
Their eyes aren’t dancing when they look at you. If you pay attention, you will see that people really do smile with their eyes when they are really feeling it.
Maybe the eyes really are the key to the soul?
Take a good long look into their eyes and you should be able to figure out whether or not they really do love you.
They are cheating on you.
If a man cheats on you and tells you he loves you, he is full of crap. Cheating has never been and will never be in the equation of love.
You know what you need to do if this is the case.
They don’t mind dishing your family and friends. If a man loves you, he isn’t going to try and knowingly hurt you by talking bad about your friends and family, whether it’s true or not.
When a guy simply goes off on your family, he does not love you, because your family, whether you like it or not, is a part of you.
They have no trouble making fun of things you care about.
Maybe you like to knit or enjoy bird watching. It really doesn’t matter what it is because if a guy loves you, he isn’t going to go out of his way to make you feel bad because of this.
When a guy makes fun of the things near and dear to your heart, he just doesn’t want to be with you.
Sure it might hurt but you deserve better.
The wall goes up when it comes to commitment. If this guy you have your heart set on, shuts the door on any sort of commitment with you, then he just isn’t ready to love you.
It’s up to you to figure out whether or not this is a sign to run the other way or give it a little more time.
Let’s take a peak at signals he really does love you.
Clear-Cut Signals He Is In Love With You
Here are invaluable information that shows you he is in love with you.
No doubt love is a really tricky thing. A man can be in love with you and never say it, and he can say he loves you but not really mean it.
It really doesn’t get much more confusing than that!
What this does is force us to keep our guard up just in case the love isn’t real. In other words, we go into protective mode just because.
All this does is clutter your mind with doubt and that might ultimately block the man out of your life that you really want forever, the one that wants you too.
Let’s take a look at a few fairly sure signals a guy really does love you.
There is a certain way a guy will look at you if he loves you. It’s really hard to describe but you will know it when you see it. Actually, let me rephrase that, you will “feel” it because it’s more than just a look.
It’s not just lust and desire because it goes deeper than that.
Pay attention to this and when you see it, you better believe it.
2-He’s A Giver
A man that is focused on giving to you when he can is a keeper. Think about it like you might a parent and child. The parents are the givers and the kids are typically the takers. This is because of the love the parent’s have for their children.
Well, the same goes in a relationship. When a man loves a woman, it’s not about counting pennies. He wants to give with no strings attached because he wants to do whatever he can to make her smile.
If he loves you, it really is all about giving.
3-You Feel Like A Priority In His Life
This doesn’t mean you are the only person in his life that matters, but it does mean he makes a point of showing you that you are a priority, high on his list.
No doubt, we are all busy and have commitments. But when a guy loves a woman, he makes sure you are very important in his life. He finds the time for you and that means everything.
4-He’s Ready To Dive Headfirst Into Your Life
When a man is ready to jump both feet into your life, he is showing you he’s completely into you. He will make an effort to get to know your friends and family and all the things you love. He’s looking to feel connected too.
This man is interested in all your hobbies and interests and just keeps wanting to learn more and more.
A man that loves you will want the special people in his life to love you the way he loves you and he obviously sees the future with you. Ultimately, he should unveil this to you if he truly loves you.
5-He Can See Right Through You
What this means is the special guy in your life can see things that most others don’t. He pays attention to the little things and understands your emotions, hot buttons, and your sensitivities.
It’s not about him just loving you, because he loves the things that surround you too.
When a man loves you, he looks to see what you want and does whatever he can to make it happen. This includes paying attention to all the things that make you smile inside-out. If he didn’t love you, he would never ever in a zillion years go through the trouble.
6-Your Happiness Might Be More Important Than His Own
I mean this in a good way. Whey you truly love someone, you put their best interests first. You do whatever you can happily to make them happy. If a man loves you for real, he will steer clear of doing things that make you upset or sad.
He will always make a valiant effort to learn what makes you happy and do his best to make all of your wishes come true.
7-When You Aren’t Together, He Lets You Know He Is Sad
Most men fall in love with a girl’s absence, not her presence. What this means is that a man just wants to be with you and when he isn’t, he is seriously missing you. He wants the physical connection that obviously isn’t there when you aren’t there with him
8-You Are Always In The Loop
If a man is making sure you are up to date on knowing where he is and what he is doing, then he totally loves you. If he says he is sorry because he missed your text or call, that’s magical. When he shows you he is considerate about how you feel and a little worried when you don’t know what’s going on, this man is a keeper.
I wish it were easier to figure out whether a man loves you or not. It just isn’t. What you need to understand are the clear-cut signals a man doesn’t love you.
Bottom line…You deserve to be loved for who you are in the now, as you are. If the man in front of you isn’t showing you that he is head over heels in love with you, for you, then you need to cut him loose and move on to bigger and better.